Best way to handle conflict

I’m friends with an aqua, but I’ve grown super tired of his disrespect. He ghosted me in the past, but I’m just tired of his immaturity. How should I respond when he reaches out? I want to take the high road and I don’t want to hurt him. Just want to show him I’m unwilling to put up with his disrespect. What should I do?

Ghosting is a good enough reason to stop talking to someone for good.

Posted by black773

Ghosting is a good enough reason to stop talking to someone for good.

This

It’s cowardly, rude and weak

Posted by dillweed

hmm some people take aqua “ghosting” the wrong way. i bet he doesnt even see it as ghosting.

i notice aqua placements can dip in & out, doing their own thing. only to come back like nothing’s happened & pick right back up again.

unless he’s doing something suuuuper disrespectful, i think it might just be that you prefer a more consistent friendship connection.

when he gets back in touch, just ask “where the hell did you go??”. idk keep it playful & see how he responds. the last thing an aqua wants is someone else’s expectations of how they should/not be.

I’m worried that this is what I’m dealing with. We were in the middle of a conversation, I asked him a question and he disappeared. I’ve dealt with it before and just let him pick up where we left off, but I’m so done with it now. It makes me feel like garbage. I would like to address it like adults, but I think he’d just come back with some nonsense about being busy or whatever. I need him to know he ruined our friendship with this bs. I’m easy going, but I’m nobody’s doormat.

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I’m friends with an aqua, but I’ve grown super tired of his disrespect. He ghosted me in the past, but I’m just tired of his immaturity. How should I respond when he reaches out? I want to take the high road and I don’t want to hurt him. Just want to show him I’m unwilling to put up with his disrespect. What should I do?

Ghosting if it is ghosting...is quite frankly, emotional abuse if it happens chronically as it completely eviscerates emotional safety long term

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If someone is not accountable to their behavior so they "ghost" which is basically a form of stonewalling the best play is to get out if its a chronic issue that you have tried to address before.

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We’re definitely not romantically interested—just friends. I’m sad to just get out, but it looks like that is my only option. If he says he’s “busy“ after ignoring me for a month, I’m going to go off on him and that won’t do anyone any good. Men. Lol

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I’m friends with an aqua, but I’ve grown super tired of his disrespect. He ghosted me in the past, but I’m just tired of his immaturity. How should I respond when he reaches out? I want to take the high road and I don’t want to hurt him. Just want to show him I’m unwilling to put up with his disrespect. What should I do?

Ghosting if it is ghosting...is quite frankly, emotional abuse if it happens chronically as it completely eviscerates emotional safety long term

For your reference:



If someone is not accountable to their behavior so they "ghost" which is basically a form of stonewalling the best play is to get out if its a chronic issue that you have tried to address before.

We’re definitely not romantically interested—just friends. I’m sad to just get out, but it looks like that is my only option. If he says he’s “busy“ after ignoring me for a month, I’m going to go off on him and that won’t do anyone any good. Men. Lol

May I ask some follow up, so that I can get a better understanding of your situation?

You mentioned disrespect. What behaviors aside from Ghosting you specifically are referring to?

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Of course. Thanks for your help! The ghosting is what really bothers me. He doesn’t initiate with anyone so I know that particular behavior is not personal, though rude. He just expects me to answer him at all times and doesn’t hold himself to the same standard. When I asked him about how we should deal with a conflict we are both wrapped up in regarding a few friends of ours, he just ignored me. We were discussing it and then bam, no response. Eventually he will want me to do something to help him with the friend situation and I just feel crappy about it now. Maybe I’m too emotional about it, but it just doesn’t feel right. Like if I don’t stand up for myself, he will continue to hurt me and think I’m weak.

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I’m friends with an aqua, but I’ve grown super tired of his disrespect. He ghosted me in the past, but I’m just tired of his immaturity. How should I respond when he reaches out? I want to take the high road and I don’t want to hurt him. Just want to show him I’m unwilling to put up with his disrespect. What should I do?

Ghosting if it is ghosting...is quite frankly, emotional abuse if it happens chronically as it completely eviscerates emotional safety long term

For your reference:



If someone is not accountable to their behavior so they "ghost" which is basically a form of stonewalling the best play is to get out if its a chronic issue that you have tried to address before.

We’re definitely not romantically interested—just friends. I’m sad to just get out, but it looks like that is my only option. If he says he’s “busy“ after ignoring me for a month, I’m going to go off on him and that won’t do anyone any good. Men. Lol

dang, im not a man but i def have not communicated with friends for a month. even my really close friends. i just texted then hung out with a close friend, i only see every 2 months. she has pointed out that i disappear then come back & stated she never has a problem with it. she actually said that the fact i come back shows her i care. but all my friends have gemini placements & seem to understand.

its not that i stop thinking about my friends. in reality, i think about them often but i prefer my alone time a little too much. if i come back & pick up where i left off, it is an indicator that you mean a lot to me. i can def see how it can be taken as rude, or “ghosting”. however, i dont see it as such.

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That makes a lot of sense. I do like more consistency that’s for sure. I want to set some boundaries so I don’t feel this way and also so he knows how his behavior is affecting me. He is going to text me later in the month regarding an issue our mutual friends are going through. Should I say something like, I’m not a fan of how you dropped off from our last conversation so maybe it’s best to split up the drama and handle it separately? I don’t want to bother you with this if you are not interested in working together to fix it. Or is that too dramatic? I don’t want to be extra, I just want him to know I’m not cool with being ignored. I want a game plan moving forward so I know where he’s at. I don’t know how to ask him for that since we are just friends.

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I’m friends with an aqua, but I’ve grown super tired of his disrespect. He ghosted me in the past, but I’m just tired of his immaturity. How should I respond when he reaches out? I want to take the high road and I don’t want to hurt him. Just want to show him I’m unwilling to put up with his disrespect. What should I do?

Ghosting if it is ghosting...is quite frankly, emotional abuse if it happens chronically as it completely eviscerates emotional safety long term

For your reference:



If someone is not accountable to their behavior so they "ghost" which is basically a form of stonewalling the best play is to get out if its a chronic issue that you have tried to address before.

We’re definitely not romantically interested—just friends. I’m sad to just get out, but it looks like that is my only option. If he says he’s “busy“ after ignoring me for a month, I’m going to go off on him and that won’t do anyone any good. Men. Lol

May I ask some follow up, so that I can get a better understanding of your situation?

You mentioned disrespect. What behaviors aside from Ghosting you specifically are referring to?

Of course. Thanks for your help! The ghosting is what really bothers me. He doesn’t initiate with anyone so I know that particular behavior is not personal, though rude. He just expects me to answer him at all times and doesn’t hold himself to the same standard. When I asked him about how we should deal with a conflict we are both wrapped up in regarding a few friends of ours, he just ignored me. We were discussing it and then bam, no response. Eventually he will want me to do something to help him with the friend situation and I just feel crappy about it now. Maybe I’m too emotional about it, but it just doesn’t feel right. Like if I don’t stand up for myself, he will continue to hurt me and think I’m weak.

No you're not being too emotional...not from what I can see. Your discomfort and anger is rational.

His behavior sounds like he is very selfish...for reasons, i'm sure, valid reasons even but the fact is the relationship seems to only serve him from what you have said.

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That’s how it’s feeling. I’ve felt this way before with aqua friends. Maybe the whole libra/aqua thing is overblown or something else in our charts is super conflicting. Thanks for your input and help! I feel better now just being heard🙂

Idk your sun but you have a cancer moon and eeeek. Just let the poor aqua be. Go get yourself a Scorpio or another cancer sun or moon friend

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I’m friends with an aqua, but I’ve grown super tired of his disrespect. He ghosted me in the past, but I’m just tired of his immaturity. How should I respond when he reaches out? I want to take the high road and I don’t want to hurt him. Just want to show him I’m unwilling to put up with his disrespect. What should I do?

Ghosting if it is ghosting...is quite frankly, emotional abuse if it happens chronically as it completely eviscerates emotional safety long term

For your reference:



If someone is not accountable to their behavior so they "ghost" which is basically a form of stonewalling the best play is to get out if its a chronic issue that you have tried to address before.

We’re definitely not romantically interested—just friends. I’m sad to just get out, but it looks like that is my only option. If he says he’s “busy“ after ignoring me for a month, I’m going to go off on him and that won’t do anyone any good. Men. Lol

May I ask some follow up, so that I can get a better understanding of your situation?

You mentioned disrespect. What behaviors aside from Ghosting you specifically are referring to?

Of course. Thanks for your help! The ghosting is what really bothers me. He doesn’t initiate with anyone so I know that particular behavior is not personal, though rude. He just expects me to answer him at all times and doesn’t hold himself to the same standard. When I asked him about how we should deal with a conflict we are both wrapped up in regarding a few friends of ours, he just ignored me. We were discussing it and then bam, no response. Eventually he will want me to do something to help him with the friend situation and I just feel crappy about it now. Maybe I’m too emotional about it, but it just doesn’t feel right. Like if I don’t stand up for myself, he will continue to hurt me and think I’m weak.

oh um hm

i dont think my advice is valid in this situation.

do you have any air in your chart?

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Sun, Mercury and Lilith in Libra

N. Node in Aqua

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Posted by Rocki33

I’m friends with an aqua, but I’ve grown super tired of his disrespect. He ghosted me in the past, but I’m just tired of his immaturity. How should I respond when he reaches out? I want to take the high road and I don’t want to hurt him. Just want to show him I’m unwilling to put up with his disrespect. What should I do?

Act disinterested, make him wait, give him the cold shoulder, stop prioritizing him and finally refuse him, say you have other plans, more interesting

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I feel like that’s petty. I’m loyal and dependable. Just because he’s rude, doesn’t mean I have to be. I’d rather throw emotions at him and watch him suffer 😈 lol

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Posted by Rocki33

I’m friends with an aqua, but I’ve grown super tired of his disrespect. He ghosted me in the past, but I’m just tired of his immaturity. How should I respond when he reaches out? I want to take the high road and I don’t want to hurt him. Just want to show him I’m unwilling to put up with his disrespect. What should I do?

Act disinterested, make him wait, give him the cold shoulder, stop prioritizing him and finally refuse him, say you have other plans, more interesting

I feel like that’s petty. I’m loyal and dependable. Just because he’s rude, doesn’t mean I have to be. I’d rather throw emotions at him and watch him suffer 😈 lol

yikes

^ and thats why aquas disrespect you and take you for granted

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He always picked up on and enjoyed my sarcasm. Of course I was kidding and don’t want to make him uncomfortable. I just don’t know how to have a serious convo with someone who finds any emotion overwhelming. That’s why I posted here. His wife is a cap so maybe I’ll ask her what the heck she does when he acts like this.

I think you’re being too sensitive honestly. He’s your friend. Accept him for who he is. And if he doesn’t respond to you right away, don’t respond to him right away

Posted by SassyKiwi

Idk your sun but you have a cancer moon and eeeek. Just let the poor aqua be. Go get yourself a Scorpio or another cancer sun or moon friend

I know cancer moons can be be difficult, but its temporary and passing. Unless they're actively trying to get on your shit list, it is more forgivable. Trust me, I'm dealing with aqua aqua bff stuff and it is no fun. I think she has Cancer placements too but her stubbornness is a real PITA and she doesnt meet me halfway. agreed on the ghosting thing. I'm the sign of loyalty but aquas can be unreasonable in their way.

Yep. Cancer moon and Scorpio mars take a backseat since they’re both annoying placements and I work on suppressing their negative points, but ouch. I didn’t ghost anyone and yet I’m the problem because I’m angry he did it to me? Well, crap. My partner has an aqua moon and thinks I should talk to him bluntly about it. I think I’m just going to see where the next conversation goes and keep my distance. Can’t we just call all aquas headcases so I feel better? 😉

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Yep. Cancer moon and Scorpio mars take a backseat since they’re both annoying placements and I work on suppressing their negative points, but ouch. I didn’t ghost anyone and yet I’m the problem because I’m angry he did it to me? Well, crap. My partner has an aqua moon and thinks I should talk to him bluntly about it. I think I’m just going to see where the next conversation goes and keep my distance. Can’t we just call all aquas headcases so I feel better? 😉

i wondered if you had scorpio placements. you want to punish him, emotionally. you want to make him squirm because he brought out your emotions. now you want to bring his wife into this. tbh, it sounds like you just want drama. either talk to him & nip this in the bud OR give him space. smothering him isnt going to do anything.

and libra isnt the sign of loyalty so idk where you got that info from 😂

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Definitely made the mistake of being sarcastic on here. My first post says I don’t want to hurt him. I was obviously kidding about purposefully making him uncomfortable. And I brought up his cap wife because she knows how to handle his awkwardness better than anyone. The aqua is socially stunted. I just wanted to know how to show my aqua friend that I don’t appreciate his silence when we’re in the middle of a convo. Yes I have emotionally charged placements, but having emotions isn’t some evil scheme to hurt aquas 😂 It’s not that deep. Guy is being rude and I don’t want to let it slide anymore. He’s down to two friends in his life and is about to lose another. Just wanted advice on whether or not talking about it with him would he be beneficial.

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I’m friends with an aqua, but I’ve grown super tired of his disrespect. He ghosted me in the past, but I’m just tired of his immaturity. How should I respond when he reaches out? I want to take the high road and I don’t want to hurt him. Just want to show him I’m unwilling to put up with his disrespect. What should I do?

Just tell him? Explain how it makes you feel. The biggest problem in the world is not communicating with eachother on how situations and people make you feel. Its not that difficult, talk to him when he reaches out and explain!

With passion! Throw your old dishes against the wall! Tear up their shirt! Or yours, for that matter...

Rage, cry, curse, threat, bite, insult, laugh!

..........or it's just the past 30 min of Mexican music on BBC Radio six that makes me feel that way 🙂

If I wrote to him right now he would definitely respond and act like everything is fine. We’ve been in this place before. I never cared much because it’s just who he is, but I’m sick of it. I don’t want to come across too emotionally, but I want to be taken seriously. I dont think he would be happy to know i feel this way. He’s passive aggressive though so I just want to tread lightly. I don’t want to freak him out and I certainly don’t want him to feel cornered. How does an aqua take a roundabout approach? I want to give him the option to be accommodated in whatever way works for him and I’m not looking for an apology.

Posted by ann1547

I am of the opinion that it is necessary very carefully to immediately select your circle of loved ones. I test people using the Volikov's test. You enter the date and time of birth and get a complete, free analysis of his character. All cockroaches will also be opened, and you already decide for yourself whether this is your person or not.

Do you have a site you recommend? I only found ones where you have to answer a bunch of questions.

I’m an Aqua sun and moon. You have to be direct with me. I can pick up on subtle cues but I rather not because I hate guessing and don’t want to be wrong. You have to spell it out clearly or be a clear communicator if you’re going to date double air sign individual.

I'm not an Aqua, my son is an Aqua Moon but he's not like this. But, I've been in a friend relationship for a long long time - like 35 years. I overlooked a lot, all the time. It finally came to a head and I stopped overlooking things and confronted her nicely. She surely didn't like that. She got nasty and viscous and tried to turn everything back onto me but I wasn't having it. We no longer speak and I'm healthier. Now I have to wonder why I took it all those years.

Basically, the relationship is over. However you end it doesn't matter. He isn't going to change. That's who he is. He can't be what you would like him to be and so you must move on and be healthier for it.