Blocking Aquarius guy

Posted by GeminiCusp

If anyone read my other post 5 months ago it’s the same dude. Basically kept in touch with it strangely being him to initiate contact and would be full on flirting for days and then nothing. Felt like I was dancing to his tune a bit and also like I was kind of there for his entertainment and to provide pictures/videos of myself and he would send me pics/vids of himself. Seemed to be all flirt and no action this time round so after another weekend of it and saying we’d meet up with no solid plan I just thought fuck this and blocked him, on everything, my phone and all social media that we were connected on.

Question is would he even be bothered, like deep down to himself even if he wasn’t going to act on it, would it bother him?

Would it bother you if he wasn't bothered?

Good for you for NOT allowing this dude to waste your valuable time! 😏

Due to the length of time we’ve known each other (14 years) plus the fact I was slightly besotted with him and he knew, I think me blocking him would be a shock. I’d be happy with him thinking shit, I shouldn’t have led her on and should have shut down the flirtiness and just spoke as a friend. As far as I’m aware friends don’t ask to cum over your boobs or say sexual things. I’d be happy with him feeling a little guilt to balance out this icky feeling I have (think it’s the realisation that he was just using me for wank fodder).

Posted by GeminiCusp

Due to the length of time we’ve known each other (14 years) plus the fact I was slightly besotted with him and he knew, I think me blocking him would be a shock. I’d be happy with him thinking shit, I shouldn’t have led her on and should have shut down the flirtiness and just spoke as a friend. As far as I’m aware friends don’t ask to cum over your boobs or say sexual things. I’d be happy with him feeling a little guilt to balance out this icky feeling I have (think it’s the realisation that he was just using me for wank fodder).

You really need to work on those issues with rejection.

Isn’t blocking him a step in the right direction? Realising that I’m worth more than some tit pics to keep someone busy or a quick shag. Like although he wasn’t nasty, he didn’t make me feel like he cared about me as a person hence the reason for me blocking.

Posted by GeminiCusp

Isn’t blocking him a step in the right direction? Realising that I’m worth more than some tit pics to keep someone busy or a quick shag. Like although he wasn’t nasty, he didn’t make me feel like he cared about me as a person hence the reason for me blocking.

Blocking him because you want to forget about him is..

Blocking him because you're looking for a reaction, is not.. and will likely end up with you unblocking him to see if there will be any communication again.

Nothing good will come from us speaking again. No explanation can explain away the fact that he would speak to me for entertainment and all on his terms. I want someone that wants my soul as well as my sexual body parts, he’s not that guy. It just would make me sleep a little easier to have an idea how an aqua guy like him would react to being blocked by someone they never thought would shut them down.

Posted by GeminiCusp

Nothing good will come from us speaking again. No explanation can explain away the fact that he would speak to me for entertainment and all on his terms. I want someone that wants my soul as well as my sexual body parts, he’s not that guy. It just would make me sleep a little easier to have an idea how an aqua guy like him would react to being blocked by someone they never thought would shut them down.

Now, after what you've been through, I understand that your ego would need a boost.

But, just my opinion, it would be an even bigger (and healthy) boost if you don't even bother thinking about him, let alone wonder about his reaction.

Reverse psychology doesn’t work on everyone

Just wondering if any other Aquas could share how they feel when they’ve been blocked. That’s all I’m looking for from this post.

It shouldn’t matter how he feels and after blocking him you really should just not care and move on. From

What you described he basically just flirt texted you for several months and nothing more. I think he would have had to been more involved with you to actually care.

Posted by ClassyAquarius

Posted by GeminiCusp

Just wondering if any other Aquas could share how they feel when they’ve been blocked. That’s all I’m looking for from this post.

If I'm to be honest I wouldn't care.

If you block me without giving reason why and discuss it like a mature person, more to that after 14 years of contact then I would assume you are immature and I shouldn't waist my time

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There was something that warranted the block. Haven’t I made it clear by now how much of a pushover I was and always willing to jump whenever he contacted me and give him what he asked, be that pictures or filthy chat.

The block came from knowing that on FB messenger you can press a feature called ignore, it doesn’t remove you as friends, it just puts the messages in a spam folder and doesn’t give you a notification when that person sends a message and doesn’t mark as delivered until the recipient responds. He did that with my last message, it was showing as sent for 2 days and the only reasons it would be like that are 1) the person has no internet signal, 2) the person has deactivated their FB or messenger account, 3) they’ve used the ignore button.

Now I know 1&2 weren’t options as he was online on other social media and his account very much still active.

To think that someone regards you as junk mail basically is quite a kick in the teeth.

I did send a message before the block just saying I think you’re very confusing because you ask for pictures and say you want to do things with me whereas I wouldn’t talk about things like that with someone if I didn’t want to do the things being discussed, but that’s not irrelevant, what’s bothered me is knowing you’ve actively chosen to ignore me and think of me as just junk mail.

I sent that on WhatsApp so he saw it then I blocked.

I don’t think I was hysterical, or rude. I was just saying what he’s done and I didn’t appreciate that.

I think when your self esteem is low like mine you tolerate way more than you should. Blocking him is a huge deal to me, it’s like wow you’ve really made me feel like shit. Even if it stops him being like this with another woman it would be an achievement. I’d just like to think that he would’ve at least reflected on his actions for a moment and temporarily felt bad for it. I know I allowed myself to do the things he was asking for but I personally would steer clear of someone if I knew they liked me (and I wasn’t genuinely interested in them). I wouldn’t ask for a picture of someone’s boobs and then respond saying they would look so much better covered in my cum, and I wouldn’t tell someone I wanted to have sex with them again if it wasn’t my intention to do it.

Posted by GeminiCusp1. I think when your self esteem is low like mine you tolerate way more than you should. Blocking him is a huge deal to me, it’s like wow you’ve really made me feel like shit. Even if it stops him being like this with another woman it would be an achievement.

2.I’d just like to think that he would’ve at least reflected on his actions for a moment and temporarily felt bad for it.

I know I allowed myself to do the things he was asking for but I personally would steer clear of someone if I knew they liked me (and I wasn’t genuinely interested in them). I wouldn’t ask for a picture of someone’s boobs and then respond saying they would look so much better covered in my cum, and I wouldn’t tell someone I wanted to have sex with them again if it wasn’t my intention to do it.

1. That's why I said what I said in my earlier post - probably ego was the wrong word to use, I apologise - but it would do your self-esteem a world of good, give it a boost even, if you could just stop overthinking your action and keep moving on.

2.Whether or not it would make him stop and reflect, you will never know. And you have to accept that. Based on my past experience with Aqua men (and some of the women even), probably not. You still have to accept it. Toss him out with the rest of the garbage not worth thinking about.

Posted by Timon

Ah after reading your first topic I remember you now. Tbh I think you're the one creating the drama because things don't go the way you want it to. It's ok if you want more and not accept just the sending videos and pics but then you should have been clear with him from the start and not put yourself in that situation. From his point of view you were flirting and having fun and then suddenly you get pissed and block him. How is that his fault? Seems kinda immature tbh. And from your reaction in your initial post when he had to spend time with his child I would think that you're the one being a bit unfair. Sorry but I don't think this is his fault. He might not be what you're looking for emotionally but then it's up to you to put your own boundaries not him.

I was diagnosed with PTSD and was put on strong meds in a bid to correct the chemical imbalance in my brain. I wasn’t myself when we were dating and he was very aware of that. I didn’t finish the meds as they were making me feel more unstable and as it stands I’ve been okay. All that stuff about me over reacting to him cancelling plans was put to bed and forgiven. That was 5 months ago when I last slept with him. I think it’s very unfair to say the fault is entirely with me. He knows I like him and have feelings for him, I feel like he’s taken advantage of that. Being sexual with someone (you’re not interested in) who you know has real feelings for you isn’t very nice.

I know this is pathetic but I’ve checked the last few days since I blocked him to see if he had blocked me back but he hadn’t even though he’d read the message. Seen him a few hours ago when we drove passed each other, just checked and he’s now blocked me on WhatsApp.

Did seeing me remind him to block me or something, you’d think if he was to do it he’d have done it when I sent the message and originally blocked him which was 5 days ago.

The PTSD thing was due to a separate issue I’d been dealing with for 3 years prior, as I was going through it friends and family all said when this is done you’re gonna have a break down, that was due to the fact I’d had to keep my shit totally together and be strong. When that finished with the result in my favour it was a lot of coming to terms with all that happened and just trying to process it all. I believe time has done that although it’s left me distrustful.

Probably was stupid to block him but at least I didn’t kick off this time or say anything insulting or aggressive. Was more me saying, I’m giving up now.

Yeah you’re totally right about being pissed that I’ve been used and also struggle with setting my boundaries.