Does man likes surprises?

I am dating this Aquarius man. His friends told me that he hates surprises, but I once surprised him with a gift like two months ago. He was very happy that day because of my gift and talked to me nonstop that very day. Because we are long distance couples, I can hardly see if he is happy, if I surprise him again. My Aqua man is a workaholic, attentive to details, and busy with family and friends. I don't want to surprise him if he is busy, but I want to pay a surprise visit. I am a Capri woman with Saggita Venus and Libra Moon.

Give me your perspective if you ever receive a surprise from the person you love. Any signs. A surprise like a surprise visit.

Not all of them.

I know a capricorn that says it is pretty cringey

Not a good idea to surprise visit....he may not want you to?

Only one way to find out....

Jk...don't

Thank you all! I do want to surprise him, but I'll just talk to him about it. He wants to visit me and me not to visit him 🙃

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Not all of them.

I know a capricorn that says it is pretty cringey

Honestly, as a Capricorn, it is cringey. It's too sappy for me to handle :p

Posted by lilokia

Thank you all! I do want to surprise him, but I'll just talk to him about it. He wants to visit me and me not to visit him 🙃

Why doesn't he want you to visit him, have you done that before?

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Posted by lilokia

Thank you all! I do want to surprise him, but I'll just talk to him about it. He wants to visit me and me not to visit him 🙃

Why doesn't he want you to visit him, have you done that before?

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He wants to be the one that visits me... Idk. I think it's a man thing to be more dominant than woman.

I agree with most. Don't do it. Lol

You gotta give him a heads up so he can get the side chick out before you knock on the door. Its the courteous thing to do.

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Posted by lilokia

Thank you all! I do want to surprise him, but I'll just talk to him about it. He wants to visit me and me not to visit him 🙃

Why doesn't he want you to visit him, have you done that before?

He wants to be the one that visits me... Idk. I think it's a man thing to be more dominant than woman.

Or he has something to hide...which is one reason you don't want to show up unannounced into something awkward.

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I didn't want to say that, but it's the first thing that came to mind. I was hoping the Op would take this into consideration?

LDR's can be really dodgy....

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Posted by lilokia

Thank you all! I do want to surprise him, but I'll just talk to him about it. He wants to visit me and me not to visit him 🙃

Why doesn't he want you to visit him, have you done that before?

He wants to be the one that visits me... Idk. I think it's a man thing to be more dominant than woman.

Or he has something to hide...which is one reason you don't want to show up unannounced into something awkward.

I didn't want to say that, but it's the first thing that came to mind. I was hoping the Op would take this into consideration?

It could be totally innocent. Maybe he's embarrassed of his place or something. This site has made me suspicious of everyone. lol

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Yes of course but always best to be prepared

The Ldr thing can create illusion around a person.....

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Posted by lilokia

Thank you all! I do want to surprise him, but I'll just talk to him about it. He wants to visit me and me not to visit him 🙃

An aqua, the freedom lovers, who doesn't want you to visit him and you do it anyway? I'm pretty sure he won't like it.

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Hm... I didn't say I did it anyways. I was planning it, as a typical capri would... I'm sorry if it sounded like I visited him anyways but I didnt

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Posted by lilokia

Thank you all! I do want to surprise him, but I'll just talk to him about it. He wants to visit me and me not to visit him 🙃

Why doesn't he want you to visit him, have you done that before?

He wants to be the one that visits me... Idk. I think it's a man thing to be more dominant than woman.

Or he has something to hide...which is one reason you don't want to show up unannounced into something awkward.

I didn't want to say that, but it's the first thing that came to mind. I was hoping the Op would take this into consideration?

It could be totally innocent. Maybe he's embarrassed of his place or something. This site has made me suspicious of everyone. lol

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It is actually just an innocent reason. I'm not sure why many people would suggest that he is having an affair... Not all men in ldr are cheaters. He is just a type that likes to be the dominant one and free of choices... I just wanted to surprise him to make him feel happier and love, but I dont want the visit to be illogical if he does not want me there because he has plans or some sort.

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Posted by lilokia

Thank you all! I do want to surprise him, but I'll just talk to him about it. He wants to visit me and me not to visit him 🙃

An aqua, the freedom lovers, who doesn't want you to visit him and you do it anyway? I'm pretty sure he won't like it.

Hm... I didn't say I did it anyways. I was planning it, as a typical capri would... I'm sorry if it sounded like I visited him anyways but I didnt

I didn't think you did. I meant it like he won't like it if you visit him anyway (despite) him telling you not to.

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I did talk to him about it and he said he is planning to move down to where I am, so that explains why he doesn't want me to visit him if he's cleaning his place.

He hasn't confirmed it yet, and I didnt ask

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Posted by lilokia

Thank you all! I do want to surprise him, but I'll just talk to him about it. He wants to visit me and me not to visit him 🙃

Why doesn't he want you to visit him, have you done that before?

He wants to be the one that visits me... Idk. I think it's a man thing to be more dominant than woman.

Or he has something to hide...which is one reason you don't want to show up unannounced into something awkward.

I didn't want to say that, but it's the first thing that came to mind. I was hoping the Op would take this into consideration?

It could be totally innocent. Maybe he's embarrassed of his place or something. This site has made me suspicious of everyone. lol

It is actually just an innocent reason. I'm not sure why many people would suggest that he is having an affair... Not all men in ldr are cheaters. He is just a type that likes to be the dominant one and free of choices... I just wanted to surprise him to make him feel happier and love, but I dont want the visit to be illogical if he does not want me there because he has plans or some sort.

If someone doesn't want you to visit them, there's a reason, and while the reason can be innocent, as I've pointed out, in the situations we hear about here, it's usually another woman or lack of interest. Is there a reason you wanted to visit him by surprise? Have you been suspicious? Have you had a hard time getting him to visit? I don't see how future plans to move impact his current ability to receive visitors, but whatever. How long have you been dating? How far apart do you live? Do you know about his friends and family? There's not enough info for us to guess about his reasons.

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I'm sorry that you had that thought. He did try to visit me once but the storm in his area was heavily damaging, so he planned to stay. I want to surprise him because he has been feeling depressed lately about his family and work... Like me, we both like to ignore the toxicity relationships... He lives in Canada and I have been living in California.

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Posted by lilokia

Thank you all! I do want to surprise him, but I'll just talk to him about it. He wants to visit me and me not to visit him 🙃

Why doesn't he want you to visit him, have you done that before?

He wants to be the one that visits me... Idk. I think it's a man thing to be more dominant than woman.

Or he has something to hide...which is one reason you don't want to show up unannounced into something awkward.

I didn't want to say that, but it's the first thing that came to mind. I was hoping the Op would take this into consideration?

It could be totally innocent. Maybe he's embarrassed of his place or something. This site has made me suspicious of everyone. lol

It is actually just an innocent reason. I'm not sure why many people would suggest that he is having an affair... Not all men in ldr are cheaters. He is just a type that likes to be the dominant one and free of choices... I just wanted to surprise him to make him feel happier and love, but I dont want the visit to be illogical if he does not want me there because he has plans or some sort.

If someone doesn't want you to visit them, there's a reason, and while the reason can be innocent, as I've pointed out, in the situations we hear about here, it's usually another woman or lack of interest. Is there a reason you wanted to visit him by surprise? Have you been suspicious? Have you had a hard time getting him to visit? I don't see how future plans to move impact his current ability to receive visitors, but whatever. How long have you been dating? How far apart do you live? Do you know about his friends and family? There's not enough info for us to guess about his reasons.

I'm sorry that you had that thought. He did try to visit me once but the storm in his area was heavily damaging, so he planned to stay. I want to surprise him because he has been feeling depressed lately about his family and work... Like me, we both like to ignore the toxicity relationships... He lives in Canada and I have been living in California.

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When’s the last time he went to visit you?