Come forth the Aquarian behavioural interprepter!

Ok, I've done a bit of reading on this board and there is definitely a pattern to the aquarian behaviour, and I got a cracker of a story about a man who fits the profile. Ok, first things first, I'm a gemini sun libra moon and he is an aquarian sun and gemini moon. Airy fairy or what!!!!! We got not chance of getting our stories straight with eachother.

We met about 5 months ago through a mutual friend, had this crazy weekend with couple of friends - no naughty stuff just good laughs. I called him a week or so later and since then we have been catching up once a week or so (he lives about an hours drive away). I definitely pursued him in the first instance, sexually. We've gotten to know eachother really well and have an initmate relationship when we are together. We get on like best mates, totally straight up and down with eachother. Typical gemini me, likes the boy but would never put it right out there to him, but my actions definitely would display attraction, eventhough my words sometimes contradict. When we first met we kinda both did the 'not going to be a relationship' thing. We talk about everything, including all of his rendevous with other women, none of which he seems to bother with for too long. Very fickle, like implies he is looking for the one but nobody fits the bill. I think he is great and we have never argued about a single thing. Anyway there is this other woman at the moment - he said he been spending a little time with her, she wants relationship, he not sure, she a bit weird, but goodlooking. He said he tends to go for women who have children already - he only 30 and already has two to two different girls!!! I have none, unmarried, no baggage etc. He always takes my calls, rings me every few days, compliments me with things such as attractive, good in bed, give him the best h% #d.!!! He is very attractive and has no problem picking up women. I think he finds me attractive physically. But the main focus he seems to push is our friendship and that we will be 'friends for ever'. He is going through a bit of a downer period, work slow for him, confused about his single dad with two kids situation, what am I doing with my life type stuff. So my question is, why then if we are such great mates, attracted to eachother bla bla bla, is there no basis for a relationship on his part. Mind you I have never said I wanted one in so many words but I just feel like he doesn't even consider me as girlfriend material. He

Cut me off mid way through - yes, contd:

My life pretty on track career wise, professional, big money, flash car, etc. Are aquarians 'scared' of successful women? Would he think he has nothing to offer me? He dropped a few comments like 'wish i was like you,', 'nothing to offer you' He has no money, house etc. To him I probably have it all. But could this be a problem? And what about these other women? He tells me eveything about them and I am sure they don't know he is seeing me. Who is he lying to? Who is he trying to protect here? Them, it seems to me. Anyway, I kinda wanted a bit of insight as to what to do from here. When he talks about the others - I play it so cool, and say its fine etc. But its not and I wanta know if perhaps I mean more to him? I seem to outlast the others at least!!!!
Should I just keep on the way I am, give him his space, freedom, other girls etc?

Insight please - i think I'm in love for the first time in my life!!!!!!

No don't pick me apart - I won't handle it!! Unfiltered? Yes, there's always more. Woman of many words. Lets pick him apart!!!

Yes, well there's that too I suppose. I guess I am one all over the shop lady when it comes to men, always have been. Been I few I have really liked though and never happened. He just doesn't give me anyhting not to like about him (except the obvious) and that is unusual for me. Maybe I do want a relationship but I love the relationship we have now too

And maybe I am a bit about the chase, but never lasts this long!!!

I feel like i have approached the subject with him - but I kinda third person it a bit, protective mechanisms. But maybe I risk losing my friend if he goes funny cause I kinda laid it out and..........nothing!!!

Should I just set it straight with him where i stand, which is pretty much I want him as a friend above all else, other things don't all matter to me if I got my mate as my partner and significant changer of my life!! His aquarian nature won;t handle it!! I make the effort though, I travel to see him ( he does live on the beach and its better than the city on weekends!) but I show him actions like he matters, i think. Aquarians are so blazay, can't freak em out, fence em in, put em on the spot, show em too much love. And they NEVER quite set the record straight. Very hard to figure exactly where you stand sometimes. H ehas pretty much said he sees me as a friend, long term one, he sleeps with me and he confuses the hell out of me!

I am definitely different around him, I;m not the big career girl too, I just studied young and am doing pretty ok you know, but my life style is no wall street girl ( I never been to wall st - or the states!! ) But I like nice things and I like being able to look after myself and know that I work hard to get them. I don't hardly talk about work at all with him. I know he is not scared as such of that, but there's always this stereotype men are the providers floating around. I not too concerned by it at all though - and my bedroom skilss are way different to those of my accountant activities!!!

And i am defintely a person who shares what I have with someone though. Get this though, my brother runs a substantial construction business, and he is in the same field. I run all the books for brothers business also, brother looking to step away a bit. If we ended up as an item - or even possibly if not, he could be the one making money, he'd earn it though - my brother sick and I need help with tradesmen side - very coincidental!!!

Maybe your rat race girls are different to ours. Im a queensland girl, work for myself, pround of that and if man has problem with my securities within my self then he isnt the man for me. Life teaaches us all to ultimately rely on ourselves my friend. No silver spoon daddy for me.

OK lets just hook right in and savage me. Please don't, I got a fair bit going on in my life too you know, my focus on work is cause that's all I got, but I want something else you know, Im changing heaps. Ive always been pretty well single, rough trot with an agro one - scared me a bit. Put walls up, but inside its not really me

Why the focus on the career stuff - its nothing to do with that, maybe you think about it more than you let on. Shouldn't be an issue should it - its not for me.

I don;t have a family - exactly my point - that's why I work for petes sake!! Nobody to cook for you know - i bloody love cooking!!

I already have one

Who says we want to be felt sorry for? Im only bloody 28 you know, I've enjoyed my life, I definitely would have probably been one of those lodging a for divorce if I settled down earlier, the world doesn't view marriage like they should, they do it too young, they lose their independence and start over 10 years later. I din;t do that, and I havent destroyed any men in the progress. And I havent got kids, so i can work whereever I want

And for the record, Im Aussie and my cooking is good - come round for a bbq mate!! and a beer

Sorry Vanessa - im kinda directing to Primegen. But I was originally talking about a boy, and gotten off track to all sorts of domestic issues!!!

But cooking to me anyway is a talent.. now everyone can cook.. whether or not they think they can.. it is a gift to know what seasonings and herbs blend well and puttin gall that together...

right.. but the true art form of cooking doesn't come naturally.. i mean anyone can read a recipe... but to apply your senses and adjust and be creative and successful in it is another story. :-p

One of my favorite things to do is go out to eat, then come home and re-create what i had or someone else had.. its a challenge.. i love it!

Yeah, prime it suprises me how many woman dont' cook.. my jaw drops.. i would say i'm more of an 'old fashioned' kinda girl when it comes to the home.. and like maybe 2 woman i know in my life do the cooking.. it's the craziest thing. i'm extreme though.. i'm get territorial in my kitchen. LOL i am very unease with someone else cooking in it, i don't even like someone to do the dishs. i have a certain mindset on how clean they should be, and they have to go in their place..lol it's not good. hmm i babbled.. sorry.. bad gem....lol

I'm not bragging but I consider myself to be a great cook. There's not much too it and anyone can do it so long as they have working taste buds. All novices need are a few basic recipes for say, an omelette, stew, pasta bake, stir fry, and then they can veer off in their own directions after that.

"I'm not bragging but I consider myself to be a great cook. There's not much too it and anyone can do it so long as they have working taste buds. All novices need are a few basic recipes for say, an omelette, stew, pasta bake, stir fry, and then they can veer off in their own directions after that."

I strongly dissagree with that.. i have a girl friend.. and bless her heart how she tries to cook and follow a recipe and boy she just can't get it. She is NOT an idiot.. she just doesn't get the whole putting tastes together.. when she follows a recipe she does ok. but i swear let her try something on her own. UGH it's horrible.

hahahah yeah.. when we do family functions.. why whole family is like that.. it's the funniest thing ever.. we watch each other and talk shit.. kinda scary..but we are all great cooks.. and we compete.. my dad wins most of the time because he is just an unreal chef... but we try...

Man you should see our kitchen for Thanksgiving.. hahahahahaa it is just too much for words.. not to mention i can't remember when a turkey was laid out on our table with it's clothes (Skin) on .. hahahaha we are nuts..

Yeah, i baked my first cake at 6.... and it was over from there. i was always in the kitchen watching my parents cook.. isn't it a great feelin' cookin for ya man, and they like it.. i love that.. but i spoil my man.. when i have one.. i don't keep on long cuz they don't desrve it.. LMAO let me stop.

hahaha i don't know.. i think there is something to that..cuz when i'm "in love" and really diggin a guy.. i really take time and effort in my cooking for him.. bring his plate and all that good stuff.. all about pleasing and satisfying.. but if i'm not or i'm mad or something.. i'll throw a burger on his plate and give him a glass of kool--aid and tell him come get it. LMAO

Ya liked that GL—? don't go copying me.. and umm yeah that doesn't go over very well..FYI but it gets their attention...lol

hahahaha that's cruelty.. but a good one.. It's nice to be able to hit em' in their stomach with out punchin' em' in their stomach.. LMAO ugh there's my violent side again.

Aren't they such damn cry babies—? UGH they irriate me. Especially when THEY get sick.... I coddle them for a minute. but then i lose all paitence... lol