COUPLES - what do you do on an average day?

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little_sparrow
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Hi TG

I think a relationship is just an extension of your regular life. Once you get to the point of being a couple, you just share everyday things. You go grocery/furniture/clothing shopping, you make dinner together, you have friends over or go over to friend's houses together, you have parties, you listen to music and sing along, you go for day trips outside the city, you drink wine, you go to restaurants, concerts. I would drag him to art shows once in awhile. He would drag me to political fundraisers. Yadda, yadda.

It is really about who you are and sharing it with your partner. Although me and my ex were both very social and went out about 3 or more times a week, my favorite times were always those quiet moments you can't really define. Like watching him iron his shirt for work and me making us tea on a rainy Sunday afternoon ... or him running me a bath and making fresh squeezed orange juice because I had a cold.

We create memories by just being in the moment. It doesn't really matter what you do together. It just happens.

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It is natural TG. 🙂

When you are with the right person, there is none of this "why hasn't he called me for five days. Is it normal for a man to withdraw for a week?" stuff. They may not call every day but you feel secure enough not to care. Know what I mean?

You can't become each other. You have to remain separate. If you start giving up yourself and your own life, that is why people become insecure. They need the other person to feel okay because they have lost their boundary of their self. Not a healthy thing to do ... and often it is so subtle, it is hard to realize that is what is going on.

Sometimes people give up their own life to be in a partnership. That only leads to chaos and trouble. It takes two whole people to have a relationship, not two halves.

🙂