Do You Attract Clingy Partners?

How do you deal with a partner who doesn't respect your need for space at times? Please include your moon sign as well.

Sorry, there may be a misunderstanding here. A partner is a serious business. He goes through endless filters. If he fills in, he stays. If not, he is gone. You are talking about exceptions to your own filters. And more than this, to people that penetrated your defensive walls and you let them in. There is no solution but to be, once and for all honest about your needs. They are there because you care for them and, hopefully, they care for you, too. Speak up. Create your distance, if needed. It's natural. Do not hide it. It builds up, like a cancer, and blows up when least expected.

Posted by EveryOunce
How do you deal with a partner who doesn't respect your need for space at times? Please include your moon sign as well.

How much space? Is it like a weekend away or something?

Are you trying to leave for the day and they want to go with you?

I never know how much space you Aquas are talking about.

My moon is Cancer.

I'll let you know as soon as you answer my questions. ? Its a secret.

I am asking because I have a friend who thought that after marriage his wife would ease up on her clingy ways but she hasn't. He is a bit passive aggressive (Aquarius Sun/Pisces Moon) and either blows up when smothered or vent it to others. Just wanting to see if other Aquarians attract the needy type.

We do attract needy partners because we use our charm and magnetism to bring people to us, it's a part of being a fixed sign, we are patient and wait for things to come to us..

The thing about us that makes partners needy is our detatchedness, it takes ages for us to process loads of information and that's when we go up in the clouds and become distant and this can become infuriating to people and in turn it becomes infuriating for us when we don't have sufficient time to process or if we feel like we need to rush.

So when people become more clingy it has the opposite effect on us, we are air signs and we need to breathe, drowning us is toxic and turns us into earth dwellers

Posted by Aznnation
Well i block them on my phone untill i am free to socialise lol.Aries moon

IMAo that's so mean lol

Posted by EveryOunce
I am asking because I have a friend who thought that after marriage his wife would ease up on her clingy ways but she hasn't. He is a bit passive aggressive (Aquarius Sun/Pisces Moon) and either blows up when smothered or vent it to others. Just wanting to see if other Aquarians attract the needy type.

I understand him. Dating Pisces moon Aqua sun myself but it takes me and my Aqua moon ability to work him out all on my own of what his true needs are as he never told me bluntly like I need space.. he's very sensitive and very nice so I think he doesn't wanna hurt the person by being upfront about it. He dissapeared into his dreamland normally after work, and on Sunday.. which I call it sometimes dissapearing Sundays or Sunday fuck off day haha. We laugh about it as he would go off on all social media and got me worry but now I know him deeply so I don't take it personally anymore... I think he needs a partner who understnsss him or try to understand without him needing to explain to her his needs... obviously his wife has no idea and taking it personally so I would suggest he explains to her how much space he needs.. and that it's nothing personal. what's her sun and moon sign!?

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Posted by EveryOunce
I am asking because I have a friend who thought that after marriage his wife would ease up on her clingy ways but she hasn't. He is a bit passive aggressive (Aquarius Sun/Pisces Moon) and either blows up when smothered or vent it to others. Just wanting to see if other Aquarians attract the needy type.

I understand him. Dating Pisces moon Aqua sun myself but it takes me and my Aqua moon ability to work him out all on my own of what his true needs are as he never told me bluntly like I need space.. he's very sensitive and very nice so I think he doesn't wanna hurt the person by being upfront about it. He dissapeared into his dreamland normally after work, and on Sunday.. which I call it sometimes dissapearing Sundays or Sunday fuck off day haha. We laugh about it as he would go off on all social media and got me worry but now I know him deeply so I don't take it personally anymore... I think he needs a partner who understnsss him or try to understand without him needing to explain to her his needs... obviously his wife has no idea and taking it personally so I would suggest he explains to her how much space he needs.. and that it's nothing personal. what's her sun and moon sign!?

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Wow you described him perfectly. Known him forever and yes he hates to hurt peoples feelings. She is a Libra not sure of her moon but they are both Dragons in Chinese astrology.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
We do attract needy partners because we use our charm and magnetism to bring people to us, it's a part of being a fixed sign, we are patient and wait for things to come to us..

The thing about us that makes partners needy is our detatchedness, it takes ages for us to process loads of information and that's when we go up in the clouds and become distant and this can become infuriating to people and in turn it becomes infuriating for us when we don't have sufficient time to process or if we feel like we need to rush.

So when people become more clingy it has the opposite effect on us, we are air signs and we need to breathe, drowning us is toxic and turns us into earth dwellers

So true. I have hurt many of partners in the past due to my detached ways. Aqua/Sag moon. I am so emotionally detached to the point it hurts their feelings then they cut me off cold turkey only to rerurn which doesnt work with me (very loyal). I just detach further because at first it had nothing to do with them.

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Posted by EveryOunce
I am asking because I have a friend who thought that after marriage his wife would ease up on her clingy ways but she hasn't. He is a bit passive aggressive (Aquarius Sun/Pisces Moon) and either blows up when smothered or vent it to others. Just wanting to see if other Aquarians attract the needy type.

I understand him. Dating Pisces moon Aqua sun myself but it takes me and my Aqua moon ability to work him out all on my own of what his true needs are as he never told me bluntly like I need space.. he's very sensitive and very nice so I think he doesn't wanna hurt the person by being upfront about it. He dissapeared into his dreamland normally after work, and on Sunday.. which I call it sometimes dissapearing Sundays or Sunday fuck off day haha. We laugh about it as he would go off on all social media and got me worry but now I know him deeply so I don't take it personally anymore... I think he needs a partner who understnsss him or try to understand without him needing to explain to her his needs... obviously his wife has no idea and taking it personally so I would suggest he explains to her how much space he needs.. and that it's nothing personal. what's her sun and moon sign!?

Wow you described him perfectly. Known him forever and yes he hates to hurt peoples feelings. She is a Libra not sure of her moon but they are both Dragons in Chinese astrology.

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After 7 months of me digging deep into his personality mentally and hours and hours of over analysing. Sometimes those skills come in handy hehehe.. we also try to work out his personality together at times . I observed and ask him tons of questions hehe.... thank you... libra... I thought they r good at giving spaces? Perhaps she has a clingy moon? I am a dragon and he is a dragon too lol.... as I said, he needs to express it to her.... 🙂 ... mine just go into a total dream land at times even when we r togheee he's fully focused on me but if the TV is on .. oh mine, the fish just dissapeared into the screen lol I laughed it off a lot never seen anyone like it... hehe so now when he says he's watching series the night before it make sense ... he will just dissapear... >< and he will never tell me while he's dissapearing what he's doing, it's always the next day he will tell me.. lol

Wait no. He's a rat and I am a dragon. Lol .'sorry little sleep.... two dragons can butt head so 😢

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Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
We do attract needy partners because we use our charm and magnetism to bring people to us, it's a part of being a fixed sign, we are patient and wait for things to come to us..

The thing about us that makes partners needy is our detatchedness, it takes ages for us to process loads of information and that's when we go up in the clouds and become distant and this can become infuriating to people and in turn it becomes infuriating for us when we don't have sufficient time to process or if we feel like we need to rush.

So when people become more clingy it has the opposite effect on us, we are air signs and we need to breathe, drowning us is toxic and turns us into earth dwellers

So true. I have hurt many of partners in the past due to my detached ways. Aqua/Sag moon. I am so emotionally detached to the point it hurts their feelings then they cut me off cold turkey only to rerurn which doesnt work with me (very loyal). I just detach further because at first it had nothing to do with them.

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I tried to do the detach as well approach having moon in Aqua but I always have to switch myself back to showing him consistency andtons of understanding. I don't know if it's the Aqua or Pisces in him that need a partner who can truly UNDERSTAND them ..?

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Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
We do attract needy partners because we use our charm and magnetism to bring people to us, it's a part of being a fixed sign, we are patient and wait for things to come to us..

The thing about us that makes partners needy is our detatchedness, it takes ages for us to process loads of information and that's when we go up in the clouds and become distant and this can become infuriating to people and in turn it becomes infuriating for us when we don't have sufficient time to process or if we feel like we need to rush.

So when people become more clingy it has the opposite effect on us, we are air signs and we need to breathe, drowning us is toxic and turns us into earth dwellers

So true. I have hurt many of partners in the past due to my detached ways. Aqua/Sag moon. I am so emotionally detached to the point it hurts their feelings then they cut me off cold turkey only to rerurn which doesnt work with me (very loyal). I just detach further because at first it had nothing to do with them.

I tried to do the detach as well approach having moon in Aqua but I always have to switch myself back to showing him consistency andtons of understanding. I don't know if it's the Aqua or Pisces in him that need a partner who can truly UNDERSTAND them ..?

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She is a sweet person from what I know of her but very insecure and damaged (his words) from previous relationships so he spends a lot of time reassuring her. Before he said I do I couldn't believe he said hopefully her clingy ways would subside. I think he compromises a lot to make her happy. As a friend I am afraid he will either start to resent her or become a yes man who loses everyone but her.

Had a Pisces friend who lost everyone he was friends with (including myself) and said he was lonely because her needy ways turned everyone away. I hope they figure out a balance at some point.

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Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
We do attract needy partners because we use our charm and magnetism to bring people to us, it's a part of being a fixed sign, we are patient and wait for things to come to us..

The thing about us that makes partners needy is our detatchedness, it takes ages for us to process loads of information and that's when we go up in the clouds and become distant and this can become infuriating to people and in turn it becomes infuriating for us when we don't have sufficient time to process or if we feel like we need to rush.

So when people become more clingy it has the opposite effect on us, we are air signs and we need to breathe, drowning us is toxic and turns us into earth dwellers

So true. I have hurt many of partners in the past due to my detached ways. Aqua/Sag moon. I am so emotionally detached to the point it hurts their feelings then they cut me off cold turkey only to rerurn which doesnt work with me (very loyal). I just detach further because at first it had nothing to do with them.

I tried to do the detach as well approach having moon in Aqua but I always have to switch myself back to showing him consistency andtons of understanding. I don't know if it's the Aqua or Pisces in him that need a partner who can truly UNDERSTAND them ..?

She is a sweet person from what I know of her but very insecure and damaged (his words) from previous relationships so he spends a lot of time reassuring her. Before he said I do I couldn't believe he said hopefully her clingy ways would subside. I think he compromises a lot to make her happy. As a friend I am afraid he will either start to resent her or become a yes man who loses everyone but her.

Had a Pisces friend who lost everyone he was friends with (including myself) and said he was lonely because her needy ways turned everyone away. I hope they figure out a balance at some point.

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That sounds awful 😢 I hope she changes soon too because there's nothing worth than a lonely marriage... life is too full of life ... his Pisces moon seems to like rescuring her....😢.....

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Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
We do attract needy partners because we use our charm and magnetism to bring people to us, it's a part of being a fixed sign, we are patient and wait for things to come to us..

The thing about us that makes partners needy is our detatchedness, it takes ages for us to process loads of information and that's when we go up in the clouds and become distant and this can become infuriating to people and in turn it becomes infuriating for us when we don't have sufficient time to process or if we feel like we need to rush.

So when people become more clingy it has the opposite effect on us, we are air signs and we need to breathe, drowning us is toxic and turns us into earth dwellers

So true. I have hurt many of partners in the past due to my detached ways. Aqua/Sag moon. I am so emotionally detached to the point it hurts their feelings then they cut me off cold turkey only to rerurn which doesnt work with me (very loyal). I just detach further because at first it had nothing to do with them.

I tried to do the detach as well approach having moon in Aqua but I always have to switch myself back to showing him consistency andtons of understanding. I don't know if it's the Aqua or Pisces in him that need a partner who can truly UNDERSTAND them ..?

She is a sweet person from what I know of her but very insecure and damaged (his words) from previous relationships so he spends a lot of time reassuring her. Before he said I do I couldn't believe he said hopefully her clingy ways would subside. I think he compromises a lot to make her happy. As a friend I am afraid he will either start to resent her or become a yes man who loses everyone but her.

Had a Pisces friend who lost everyone he was friends with (including myself) and said he was lonely because her needy ways turned everyone away. I hope they figure out a balance at some point.

That sounds awful 😢 I hope she changes soon too because there's nothing worth than a lonely marriage... life is too full of life ... his Pisces moon seems to like rescuring her....😢.....

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Very true. He is a person that likes to rescue people.