Aquarius - Disappeared

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Helz80 on Wednesday, June 21, 2017 and has 15 replies.

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@Helz80
9 Years

Hi

I've spent the last few days looking at the Aquarus disappearing pages so I know that its normal for them to do it. Here is my situation..

8 weeks ago I started chatting to him on a dating website - he initiated

We had an amazing emotional connection and talked for hours a day. We met up for a date after a couple of weeks and I didn't fancy him. I asked him first what he thought about me and he said I was 'hot', definitley what he was looking. I told him the spark wasnt there for me and we could be friends, but that I liked him. After a few more messages, he told me that he knew what he wanted i.e. me and that it hurt him to imagine me with another man and that he could do nothing to change my mind. He then blocked me before I could reply. I managed to get him a message apologising and we started talking again. Intense messages, with him saying I would have a good life with him, that he loved the whole package of me. Hed said I'd managed to get under his skin which takes some doing. We met again and I began to have feelings for him which he knew. After another week, we tried sleeping together but he couldnt do it. He was mortified. I think he was worried about satisfying me. We continued seeing each other once a week. We had a row because his texts seemed to drop considerably. I then said 'f**k it' I cant do this and he told me not to contact him again. After me sending him 3 heartfelt messages, he eventually contacted me after 4 days and we talked about the row. We seemed to move on, though he seemed a tiny bit distant. I saw him twice more the next week. The last message he sent me was 3 weeks ago which just said 'night night x'. I've messaged him 4 times, the last one a week ago asking him to tell me if its over and if it was to do with the sex problem that it really shouldnt be an issue as it would happen in time. No responses.

I'm absolutely gutted to say the least. I'm a Leo and I can be feisty which he said he loved. But I'm slipping into a mild depression over this guy because I don't understand what went so badly wrong or whether he will come back. He seemed to be completely smitten with me.

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@Helz80
9 Years

PS I also said at the end of the last message that if he didnt reply then I'd take that as it being over

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@compy
9 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Helz80
PS I also said at the end of the last message that if he didnt reply then I'd take that as it being over

Here is the problem. You gave him no chance to consider anything and assumed by yourself "it's over" if he didn't reply (presumably, immediately). You gave him an ultimatum. So, you may have killed any remaining intentions of his to move forward.

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@Helz80
9 Years

Ok but in my defence, 3 weeks come on!! The first 3 messages were very light hearted asking how he was. No essays. The last one was more in depth because I hadn't heard anything for 2 weeks! He could have been dead for all I knew. And it was a nice message. We left on a positive note too with him saying night. How could I have known 3 weeks of silence would follow.

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@saggurl88
13 Years25,000+ Posts

Posted by compy
Posted by Helz80
PS I also said at the end of the last message that if he didnt reply then I'd take that as it being over

Here is the problem. You gave him no chance to consider anything and assumed by yourself "it's over" if he didn't reply (presumably, immediately). You gave him an ultimatum. So, you may have killed any remaining intentions of his to move forward.

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I love ultimatums lol I'd take the latter just to spite you- It leaves me no options other than choosing myself over you.

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@compy
9 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by saggurl88
Posted by compy
Posted by Helz80
PS I also said at the end of the last message that if he didnt reply then I'd take that as it being over

Here is the problem. You gave him no chance to consider anything and assumed by yourself "it's over" if he didn't reply (presumably, immediately). You gave him an ultimatum. So, you may have killed any remaining intentions of his to move forward.

I love ultimatums lol I'd take the latter just to spite you- It leaves me no options other than choosing myself over you.

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You are not an Aquarius.

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@saggurl88
13 Years25,000+ Posts

Posted by compy
Posted by saggurl88
Posted by compy
Posted by Helz80
PS I also said at the end of the last message that if he didnt reply then I'd take that as it being over

Here is the problem. You gave him no chance to consider anything and assumed by yourself "it's over" if he didn't reply (presumably, immediately). You gave him an ultimatum. So, you may have killed any remaining intentions of his to move forward.

I love ultimatums lol I'd take the latter just to spite you- It leaves me no options other than choosing myself over you.

You are not an Aquarius.

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You are correct lol- But I still love ultimatums :p

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@AerialView
9 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by Koniuchaa
Posted by AerialView
Posted by Koniuchaa
Posted by AerialView
Posted by Koniuchaa
If they are truly in to you, they will not disappear. My brother is an Aquarius and never disappeared from his girlfriend.

lol that's odd

Well he also has Venus in Capricorn, so more serious when it comes to love

if hes a aqua with cap influences, they don't disappeared. they just slow.

Yes. Aqua with Leo moon and Scorpio Mars ?

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is he a stubborn lol

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@saweetz1988
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by AerialView
Posted by Koniuchaa
Posted by AerialView
Posted by Koniuchaa
Posted by AerialView
Posted by Koniuchaa
If they are truly in to you, they will not disappear. My brother is an Aquarius and never disappeared from his girlfriend.

lol that's odd

Well he also has Venus in Capricorn, so more serious when it comes to love

if hes a aqua with cap influences, they don't disappeared. they just slow.

Yes. Aqua with Leo moon and Scorpio Mars ?

is he a stubborn lol

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Sounds like hard work!!! Leo moon drive me mad..

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@saweetz1988
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by saggurl88
Posted by compy
Posted by saggurl88
Posted by compy
Posted by Helz80
PS I also said at the end of the last message that if he didnt reply then I'd take that as it being over

Here is the problem. You gave him no chance to consider anything and assumed by yourself "it's over" if he didn't reply (presumably, immediately). You gave him an ultimatum. So, you may have killed any remaining intentions of his to move forward.

I love ultimatums lol I'd take the latter just to spite you- It leaves me no options other than choosing myself over you.

You are not an Aquarius.

You are correct lol- But I still love ultimatums :p

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Being an Aqua I used to do this ultimatums thing a little bit in a more nice way. It doesn't work for Aqua hahaha. He actually sat me down n said how it won't work with him . His mother tried it. Sister tried it. Never worked. I did it in a more nicer way though.. so since then I don't do that thing. If there is a problem or I'm mad I go silence or message him directly of my needs n why I'm upset.. so he called me a few time to touch things up. ( if they know they r at faults) if they care they will make it up to u if they know they upset u... if that don't care they just dissapear lol... ><