Don't take it as

offense. I just know too many naive Aquarius. I know two that get treated like dirt and I know two guy Aquarius' who I treat like absolute crap and they still proceed to cling all over me. My two Aquarian friends are very easy and get taken advantage of and it's like they are so gassed. It seem like they know something is up but don't want to say it because they are very needy. I don't know if being naive is a characteristic but I find a lot of them to lack strength. I see a lot of them get walked over. Does anyone know any Aquarian like this?

I know that they tend to cling to people who treat them badly or as they see it "Give them a challenge". However they dog people who are good to them. I know they walk over people but I would LOVE to see one get walked over!!!

Well it is easy to walk over these two aquarians I know, they are very easy to manipulate. I tried to stay away, so they won't get hurt, but hey... they keep coming back so... I did all the evil things I could have, but they still think i freakin want them...*shrugs shoulders*

Aquarians are "naive" in the sense that they do like to see the best in people and can forgive almost immediately and unconditionally no matter what one does.
They believe what people tell them (even if they don't always tell the truth themselves!!!) - although if you are lying, I can sense it - it's almost a psychic gift.
They have a you take me or leave me attitude..........but never in a thousand years though could I call any aquarian I know clingy!!!!(except my mother that is, who dotes on moi, her only child!!!):-)
As an aquarian, I will immeidatly run for the hills if I get the slightest whiff of cling-on-ish in a person and I am constantly told I am too detached, clinical and unemotional..............funnily enough though I had a scorpio best pal in my teenage years and beyond who I somehow did let walk all over me - what she said went, wherever she wanted to go, I'd go (gosh thinking back I was like a lap-dog!!! ...........it took me about 10 years to finally challenge her - when I did she fell apart at the seams, couldn't take it or accept criticism of any sort - she's never spoken to me since but nearly collapsed into a puddle when we met last year in the supermarket unexpectedly - I was so in control that day and she knew she wasn't - the tables had turned and the tide had.....as it always does!!!!!

Lack strength.......can't concur........if I really want something I will move heaven on earth to get it.....or get anyone!!:-)................I know and have known very low days where maybe I could be accused of lacking strength....but I'm only regrouping, re-charging....I know I always bounce back - bigger and better than ever:-)

And if I find out that someone has done me a real bad wrong, I will fcuk them left right and centre:-) - directly or later on when they least expect it - I'll get my revenge and then of course I will forgive:-)!!!

Anyway, just thought I'd make this "Stick up for Aquarians" day😉 - all the bad press we are getting on board lately - anyone would think we are "bad to the bone"!!!! - well, maybe we just are!!!...who knows😉!!!!!

Ciao my pals.
:-)

alana x

^^ great piece. It's not like i'm bashing aquarians, my best friend is an aquarian, so dont take it that way

I understand perfectly BeautifulScorpion.......no worries:-)!!!.......glad you've a best aquarian pal:-)!!!!

A x

i think, people who see aquarians as naive, cold hearted or unscrupulous never have been close to one. i mean emotionally and mentally close. i'd say aquarians are extremely fair, generous and intelligent. they just don?t advertise it everywhere!!! and yes, if they "really want something they will move heaven on earth to get it.....or get anyone!!:-)". although they continuously choose the hardest way to get what they want, never even see the easier option(s), LOL, hehehehe.... hahahahaha..... my experience!

but yeah, alana, i'm with you on that one! how was your holydays anyway?

Hello to my lizard pal........(see how us aquarians think that the whole world is their friend and pal):-) - hey but you certainly are Mister.

And yes, you are probably right about choosing the hard option......my plans hardly ever go according to MY plans!! - there's always some complication, some spanner in the works, some drama......before the tropy is gripped!!!:-)

I had a nice holiday thanks - I actually didn't venture much out of Dublin - only once to attend a relative's wedding........I flitted here and there most of the time meeting pals for lunch - (wine lunches:-)!!! - last time we talked I think I told you I had just been dumped by Mr. Virgo.......well that wasn't the case.....a misunderstanding! shall we say on my part!! so all is well enough on that front. I had some nice light entertainment when while having lunch one of the days in a posh place! this well-groomed, Latino looking man (with long hair, which by now everyone knows is my donwfall!!) walked in and sat staring at me for a while....I began to get embarrassed and a bit flummoxed.....he clicked his fingers and said to come join him.....Now, no-one clicks their fingers at alana!!!! I clicked mine back and said - you want to talk, you got to come over.......he shook his head no, I shook mine no...this went on for some time.....I was all shooked out!!!I ignored him for a while and he did come over and sat down....let's say he was a real smooth operator...came from Greece, (was speaking to me from his heart! that very moment) - the usual sweet-talk...somehow I knew he isn't quite telling the truth - he's separated etc. I did find him intriguing and dishy though so I asked him his birthday - guess what - a Mr. Aquarius!!!!:-) we exchanged nos. and he asked me out last week but I declined.....however, I am going to get to the bottom of him in the future......that is before he gets to the bottom of me......

Ciao for now pal.

A x

"And yes, you are probably right about choosing the hard option......my plans hardly ever go according to MY plans!! - there's always some complication, some spanner in the works, some drama......before the tropy is gripped!!!:-)"


this is so my mom!!!!!



"I had some nice light entertainment when while having lunch one of the days in a posh place! this well-groomed, Latino looking man (with long hair, which by now everyone knows is my donwfall!!) walked in and sat staring at me for a while....I began to get embarrassed and a bit flummoxed.....he clicked his fingers and said to come join him.....Now, no-one clicks their fingers at alana!!!! I clicked mine back and said - you want to talk, you got to come over.......he shook his head no, I shook mine no...this went on for some time.....I was all shooked out!!!I ignored him for a while and he did come over and sat down....let's say he was a real smooth operator...came from Greece, (was speaking to me from his heart! that very moment) - the usual sweet-talk...somehow I knew he isn't quite telling the truth - he's separated etc. I did find him intriguing and dishy though so I asked him his birthday - guess what - a Mr. Aquarius!!!!:-) we exchanged nos. and he asked me out last week but I declined.....however, I am going to get to the bottom of him in the future......that is before he gets to the bottom of me......"

you want me to believe this story—— ...aha! or was it a movie you saw?

glad you're back, keep me posted! 🙂

My life is one long movie-reel Llz Scorp!!! - believe me for that:-)

Am off again for another two weeks hols but will keep you posted on my return:-)

P.S. Hope "the toy" and the toy's mom! continue to thrive....if you get my drift.

A x

I don't think the intent of the previous boards was to knock the Aqua strength or character but I think there is much confusion as to why they hurt the ones they seem to love the most and the fact they seem to run away from the broken pieces they left behind.

Yes, I see this Aqua acquaintance of mine treat his friends like gold and I would never doubt he'd be there in a second if any were to call for his help. That's a very commendable trait I always noticed being a Taurus.

However, I feel that once you've crossed that line with them at one point (beyond a platonic friendship love), they treat you very differently. I'm confused because I thought these were the people who could change the dynamics of a relationship with the flick of a switch due to their detached manner and not seem feel a thing.

Example; He would ask me out to the movies or shopping when we were "together." When he asked that we stop being physical, he said "everything will be the same. We just don't have a physical relationship anymore." OK. I thought well it hurts not to be close but at least we'll continue to do stuff together. Do you think he's asked me to do anything with him since that change in our relationship back to "friends?" Nope! Don't say something and not act on it.

I just get very confused with the chaotic behavior. He started dating someone else knowing that I always liked him. For a couple of months, he ignored me. Recently, I ran into him on the street dressed all cute and running to dinner. Wouldn't you know, the next day, he contacted me asking about the evening, the restaurant I went to etc. Please, it was so evident he was sniffing around looking to see if I was on a date. Why do you care? You didn't care about what I was doing for the couple of months?

You like me, you don't like me, now you don't like the fact I may be dating someone else......Humpf.

Sorry guys...I am sure there are wonderful Aquas out there. Maybe this guy is just one of the bad apples...:-)

Well said HippyH....well said indeed.
If you were my golden labrador and I your owner, I'd be giving you a big fat juicy bone right now:-)
But as I'm not, I guess you'll just have to consider yourself well patted on the head:-) - wuff wuff:-)!!

A x

Whatever..I think they sniff around to see if the door is slightly cracked for them to get back in if they choose to try.
So if sniffing around for info is a gage that they may care about someone and want to be in their life, How long will it take and what does it take for them to finally say what they feel or want?
I still think its the age old..I don't want you, but I don't anyone else to want or have you either!

Thank you KocoaHauntis!

That is exactly what I thought. It's so obvious he's sniffing around to see what I was doing that night and if I was out with someone. He knows the energy and time vested in our friendship. This action was not to remind himself.

I didn't give him the satisfaction of knowing anything. I only mentioned that the place I went to is a great place for a date and he should take his g/f. After I said that, he thanked me for the tip and stopped IMing me. I felt he needed to be reminded that he chose her and that the window of opportunity with me was gone.

Not sure how long it will take them to communicate what they feel based on this. I actually think this is quite funny as it just goes to show you that you will always start wanting something again when you start realizing that it is no longer yours.

Maybe it's not so much of a major Aqua trait rather than a general human trait...

Oh he will be back!! It may take a while but just when you think its all over I promise he will show back up!!
Have you heard of the Kid and the old toy theory— A child may have an old toy he has not played with for a long time. He doesn't even think about the toy until another child picks it up to play with it. Then all of a sudden..THATS MY TOY!!!!! GET OFF OF IT!!!
Same concept applies. I'm sure to ask an aqua if they act this way they will deny it because this their norm. Its nothing strange or wrong about to them. Now to the poor folks on the outside looking in...WOW!!! I'm not saying to hate aquas or that they are bad people. I just wouldn't advise any Taurus to get involved with one beyond friendship.

Bitter,bitter,bitter.Loves sucks don't it Kocoa and taurus?Beautifulscorpion was probably in a boredom mood again when she posted this,shes like that sometimes,did you see the one about geminis boobs?But anyhoo,what can we say aquarians love us scorpios with all our crap that goes with us,but im just not mean to them.Stopped reading your posts a long time ago,but you still shouldn't off all aquarians because of these jerks.My taurus sister was the more flighty in her aquarian relationship,of course took alot of hell but that was more his not wanting to let go and a really intense fight when she cheated that in your face love hit her.Find the right ones and you'll be happy.

I don't off them all off as Jerks. I just know from experience I do not want to be involved with them anymore. I actually have one in my life now that I forgot was an aqua. He displays the same behaviors. I just keep him at a distance. And looking back over my romantic life..every aqua I have been involved with has been the same and always broke my heart. I just never connected the dots before. I'm just so happy I found this board so I can have somewhere to vent and find people who relate to me!!

Its funny to see that Aquas go gaga over scorpios the way cancers go crazy over taurus'!

On the topic of scorpios now.The people who view us as evil,cruel,hotheads will be shocked by our nice,loving,compassionate side IF they were to ever take the time to get to know us.Others don't think we're that intelligent,open,lighthearted because we don't advertise everything=mysterious sometimes even,thats where aquarians come in.Thier optmistic to give us a chance to prove at least popularity wrong to themselves.Also works both ways for everytime an aquarius gets us out of a mood,we give them something in return maybe even a mood chat too and a unmatched loyalty.Even if beautiful scorpion is serious,shes still being considerate of thier feelings by not wanting to hurt them worse through being mean.

I quite agree KocoaHauntis! I do appreciate that you completely understand and relate to everything I've posted.

So I have to look foward to or prepare myself for this fool to come back to me sometime soon? Greeeeaaat. It's funny though. Only after I ran into him and he's now thinking I'm dating, he is all over me. I think it is alot like the kid and the old toy theory. Lately he's been contacting me like almost everyday. And previous to him running into me, all conversations were centered around him. Now, he's completely focused on me. It's weird because the more distant or cool I've become (combined with running into him on the street), the more attentive and communicative he's been. When I was super sweet and made the effort to contact him, he was very distant and unresponsive. I don't like being uncaring to make someone be interested in me but it seems like this is how it is with him.

That's funny Tiamat. My brother is a scorpio and he wears his heart on his sleeve which has hurt him many a times. I actually have to tell to be more mysterious and not give his life story to people right away.

Aquarians are not easy to get to know, we tend to hold alot of our feelings and hurts inside. On the outside we look tough.
So many times I have been acused of being 'mad' when in fact I am 'sad' there IS a difference.
Take time to 'really' get to know us, and you will see,we are loving, understanding, and considerate people.

Aquarius Female with scorpio rising, living happily with Taurus/Gemini male.

Aquarians are not easy to get to know, we tend to hold alot of our feelings and hurts inside. On the outside we look tough.
So many times I have been acused of being 'mad' when in fact I am 'sad' there IS a difference.
Take time to 'really' get to know us, and you will see,we are loving, understanding, and considerate people.

Aquarius Female with scorpio rising, living happily with Taurus/Gemini male.

I don't know if thats just the scorpio sun or sag rising when people think im mad/upset/etc when im sometimes not even feeling anything at the moment or when I am mad/upset/etc. they never see it coming until it's to late.Sags are supposed to be really blunt and huffy supposedly.Dunno,the sags in my experiance are huffy but it's usually not real honesty as they would like to think it is.But either way aquarians do always tend to have more than what they show,I think people mistake thier goofy,uplifted funtime spirits or the opposite aloft personality as to theres not much there kinda a superficial judgement usually.People forget the book cover judgement saying TOO often.

Interesting insight. What I am confused about is once you let your guard down and trust someone with your feelings and hidden emotions, what causes you to close up again...even if this person did nothing to make you trust them less? I'm just curious. To me, once you open yourself up to a person and they've always been reliable and supportive back to you, why go back into your shell?

I always thought Aquas were future thinkers. The past is the past...must move forward type people... Us Tauruses love to dwell on the past and aren't so easy to change especially with something we have no control over and especially if this is regarding relationships.

So are you saying that if you happen to let go of someone great in your life and say you then realize you don't have them anymore -like maybe they are dating someone else- and even if you are dating someone new, this situation of not having them can help you realize how much you care for them to begin with?

Thanks for that FineAquarius

I was just curious. I was probably the best person to this Aqua and he stopped being with me and started seeing someone else. Only after he got wind of me possibly dating someone else did he starting changing his tune a bit towards me...very slightly but it was obvious. I was just wondering if he was feeling bad and possibly missed me and what he had with me now that he thinks I'm "gone." Not sure of his rising but I know he has Scorpio Moon

Thanks for that. Not that I expect him to come back. I think he has way too much pride. People either come back if they're just looking for bootie or if they truly realized how badly they screwed up and put all pride and ego on the line to explain their mistake etc. I just don't think he would do that but it is nice to hear that his behavior points to the fact that he may miss wme and what we used to have.

When you say you're hitting your head on the wall.....because of what? Confusion for the feelings resurfacing? Anger in letting him go?

I don't know how naive we Aquarians are. I think that we are not so much naive as we are selectively oblivious to being manipulated. (Which is a form of manipulation itself.)

The Aquarian brain is devoted to ideals. And if they see anyone with more than 50 percent of the characteristics that they have decided are ideal, the water bearer will just assume that the rest of it can be developed under the care, love and tutelas of... *royal trumpet music* The Aquarian.

So from time to time, when they're not in their own head, the Aquarian brain idealizes (or idolizes) some poor mortal that we believe is the Ideal.

Aquarians are simultaneously detached at all times during this idolization process and ready to abandon the mortal if they show signs of failing to live up to the Ideal.

The mere mortal has no idea all of this is going on. For all they know they have introduced them to fire and passion and rescued the Aquarian from being in their head too much and that they alone are truly ideal for the Aquarian.

In addition, to our other awesome traits, besides our humility, Aquarians are always thinking about the greatest good for the greatest number. And of course the path to achieving the greatest good for the most people is not to tick off the Aquarian.

So we will seemingly indulge any behavior, because we believe it's for the greater good not to judge anyone just as we don't want to be judged. But when we sense that we're being walked on that's a major breach of of the Aquarian ethic because you've ticked off the bringer of water to humanity and that is unacceptable.

So you can manipulate us to a point. But the milk of our human kindness has an expiration date. It's just not clearly printed.

Are you saying that Aquas find a person who seems to embody all ideal traits that they seem to view as the the Ideal at that point in time and when they slowly realize that this person has faults and these faults over time peel away the wholeness of this Ideal thing, they then discard and move on to find a new Idol/Ideal?

But what if the poor soul you chose to idolize has not manipulated you in any way?

Would you ever not get too close to someone because they are too perfect? Is intimidation ever a factor? From what I read about Aqua males (and experienced), they in particular like control. Would any bit of intimidation be too unsettling for them to stay in a relationship?

Sorry, if I go on...and this is in no negative tone..but Aquas are really unique and baffling. I just am interested in understanding the bahavior and thought process...especially with regards to relationships..

Thanks so much for all of your help and insight. LOL....I did have a lot of questions.....

They are soooo hypocritical! I thought I was going nuts. He would say one thing and then completely go ahead and do the opposite without realizing it at first.

Fair play Alana! I, a fellow aquarian, back you up there. Everybody has good and bad in them, and since aquarians are supposed to be a bit different, then so too is our naughtiness!

I may let stuff go once in a while because I don't give a shit about the person or what he does, to make it worth my while to lose it. I would really only get pissed off at someone who I cared about, but if I don't care about the person, then I may let them get away with something. It is not worth my energy. That being said, I am no whimp!