Water bearers and Virgins

I have read through a lot of the posts, and i just clutch on my chest,
because it all sounds all too familiar...
I am in immensly in love with an Aquarius, by all means, the typical Aquarius, but he also has a very gentle loving side that is beautiful...
I want to move on from him, I do, and there are times, I get completely jaded, and dont care, but then theres part of me that feels like he screams for me to stay without saying much.

I have been friends with him for 2 years via internet. I didnt really know he liked me for the longest time because well he didnt seem like it. I always felt a cosmic "PULL" towards him, our composite chart even hints at possibly being soulmates. Sometimes I believe I must of hurt him severly in a past life, and this is my punishment.

He says he isnt playing games, but he is.
He says he doesnt know what he wants, but wants me to stay.

The moment I show interest, is the moment, he acts distant,
the minute I am distant, he comes back like a puppy.

I feel like "he is it" for me, "he is", but it feels at times we'll never achieve the kind of situation I know we both yearn for.

He wrote me an extraordinary email in April, and I couldnt get over it, it dripped with passion, regret, and subtle love, 2 years he never hinted at the fact, and out of nowhere, BOOM, i am blown away....

After that email I expected more, I expected US to head towards something fullfilling, but he just acted more distant, and aloof....

We still talked on the phone, (me calling him once a week), and he always seemed so happy to talk to me,

I finally got sick and tired of the BS, I wanted him to buy a damn ticket to visit me, he said "okay"
a week later, you can only imagine what happened, he didnt buy a ticket. I was so pissed, but far from surprised, I knew he wasnt going to come through,

He hasnt had a relationship in 4 years I believe, and he says, " I feel like youre the only one with the balls to put up with my bullshit, and still have the withdrawl to give a shit about me, I want you"

That line right there makes me feel like at times, I dont want to give up on him...
We had a big blow out on the phone, 4 hours of bullshit, I left the converstation more confused when I entered it, "I dont know " I dont know, he hated being confronted, and he just seemed sad,...

I cried. It sucked etc etc...

a week or so later we speak again, and all is alright because at this point I figure maybe im being unreasonable at what i am expecting, plus I adore him so much and the thought of losing his friendships leaves a deep void in my heart,

then 2 weeks later,

were on the phone,
i am being very affectionate, saying i missed him,
and blah blah
I said "say something mushy"
and he semi whispered "i love you"

holy sh/t, i was so floored by this, i didnt know what to say, i said what? at that moment i wanted so much for him to say it again, because i felt it, but i always thought he didnt, i never thought he'd ever mutter those words TO ME, because i always felt so alone with these deep emotions...

he got nervous real quick, and said "i was kidding" i said who kids about that?...and he sounded so serious when he said it, very affectionate, semi whisper, my heart....blah..

i call him in 2 days to say it, because i was advised by a good aquarius friend of mine, he was scared, and i thought fuck the bullshit, i will tell him,
but he acted stubborn and uncomfortable with the convo, i didnt directly say I LOVE YOU, but i did say youre not alone with your thoughts and i said do you know what i mean? and he says i think so...blah blah i dont want to get off the phone, he says i have to go, he sounds so distant, complete asshole, i feel like a fool,

i dont call him or email him for a month and a half...

finally called him because i

Lostinaqua,

This sounds soooooooo familiar. How can someone play such games when you feel in your heart that this is the real person for you. Even when they act that way. But, games keep coming. I truly felt like my aquarius was like my soulmate. The last time I talked to him in early May he couldn't wait to see me in 3 weeks. I was going to fly out to see him. He talked about a house he wanted us to move into in the country-the way we both grew up. He wanted me to see it first. I never heard from him again, no returned emails. Nothing. That is the last time I talked to my "soulmate."
You must be a strong person to be with these creatures, because I would of killed myself if it weren't for my close friends. I am much better now, actaully pretty happy. I will never let him back into my life. Though I wanted that so bad. I felt it was so real. 😢

It sounds like you guys have that amazing connection too. I wish you peace of mind & wisdom.

He doesn't know exactly what he wants yet.Depends on whether you want to do the push and pull until he's completely ready which can take what seems like forever and if you can handle or deal with it.Trust me virgos are faster to feel completely in love and sure of a relationship long before an aquarius male will.

However I can't tell you more details then that besides a couple that I dated I never got that involved with one.Most of how I know that much is through my dad,brother,uncle and a few friends confiding in me with relationship problems so I got to hear how they feel instead of the other persons guessing.It's 5000 different things going through his head right now.

Welcome to the lost in aqua party !! Ignore him and dont expect anything from him. Get on with your life. He will come, let them finish analyzing.

i agree with lost in love.... aquarians need time.. and i bet he knows u love him but these guyz r afraid of committment...they need time to really analyze and when they know the person is the "one" they'll never let them go....( thats wat my aqua guy friends say)

thats the reason why he doesnt want u to just leave coz deep inside he feels u might be the one for him....

As an Aquarian guy, with nothing to lose, I agree with the last e-mailer. If you tell him about your plans on going on in life with no consideration whatsoever for him he will become EXTREMELY agitated and upset, maybe not immediately, but very, very soon. . . . He will be pricked in the ass to think about things that Aquarians don't like to think about. TRUST ME, as an Aquarian male, I have NEVER, EVER met a Libra woman that I didn't think was the solution to all my problems, the GREATEST FREAKING WOMAN IN THE WHOLE WORLD. So you are actually way ahead already . . . .

stiller, i am not a libra but thanks anyways?? man you really are a aqua...flightyyyyyyyyyyyy

another thing, I confessed my love for him, told him not to respond, and with my blabbing on and on, about how i dont know where we're going...and he said "we'll see"....i got a good feeling from the convo...but then again who knows, at this point, ive dealt my cards, and hoping he will get out of his shell, and wake up, because i am sick of it...im finally starting to detach myself, i think once you pour your emotions out, its easier to move on when the other person doesnt respond....this has to be what everyone calls unconditional love...loving the person no matter what? never felt this before...sigh

I hope this shows up correctly. My Virgo woman just dumped me today for completely inadequate and utterly senseless reasons. Don't people understand that Aquarians have all types of friends and that they don't necessarily think of their female friends in a sexual manner (it's usually just the opposite). Why are Virgo women (a) so utterly unmoveable (I am sure that my sweetie will never, ever talk to me again), and (b) so completely emotionally obtuse? I swear that I will have to focus on Libra and Aries women exclusively, even though I know I will be missing so much. . . .

Re: your situation. If you take an utterly unyielding position, even on some stupid subsidiary issue, you will lose him forever. Fixed signs have to compromise every once in a while. . . .