I'm a Leo woman on the casp with Cancer! I'vr been dating my Aqua for three months. He has been good to me, always make an effort to ensure I'm happy, in turn I give him his space... he recently took me away and introduced me to his long time friend and always updates me on his movements. We spent an evening/ half a day together on Saturday. We went to the museum and came back had a nap,I woke up hungry and asked if he wanted anything his response and I quote ' I'm off for dinner with my friends!' I was taken aback! But didn't say anything, instead I packed my stuff and went home, on the way I sent him a voice note stating he should have told me earlier, I would have gone home & done other things! I basically said we need to have a talk and I will call him the following day. I called him the next day and without prompt as per usual he told me who he met, where they went et al.... I proceeded in letting him in a calm collected way that he hurt me buy arranging to meet with his friends while he was spending time with me - he didn't seem to get the logic and I flipped??told him he was highly intelligent, yet he was dancing around the issue...cut a long story short we ended the conversation peacefully laughing and joking. However.... he didn't contact me at all until I contacted him on Tuesday to ask for advice on my business. He didn't ask how I was which he normally does but answered my question. I've not heard from him since.... I'm worried I've pushed him away as he usually messages me everyday or every other day... what shall I do, has he left me?
First of all, that was such a cookiemonster move to ditch you for dinner without any warning. That's some serious social ineptness.
Second of all, he's doing his Aqua ghosting where he probably feels bad but doesn't want to address his wrongdoing when he should. Like just own up to it jfc. Is he like 16 for crying out loud.
Do not chase him, let him realize and come talking to you or else you're just allowing his poor behavior to slide. Can't ever tell if an Aqua is plotting an escape, probably is, if so don't you think you deserve better...
Thanks Sassykiwi! I did think that was a tell tell sign that he has moved on! But he is always forthright. I would have expected him to just say 'I want out!' As he knows I can take anything as I'm tough as nails!
* Apolohies for the grammatical errors in the previous post.
If you guys are not official yet, he's doing a lot by telling you where he goes and who he's with.
Have you met his other friends? the ones he hang out with?
I don't think you should have flipped out on him like that, again if you are not officially dating.
I've been seeing a Cap for 4 months (Im aquarius) and he tells me where he goes with his friends, I have met some of his friends too, mentor, roommate, cousin..
He has let me down a few times too, just this past Sunday we were supposed to meet to go to his friends party and he went by himself and then said that he thinks I shouldn't go. I didnt flip out on him, I just said Ok it's fine. Hours later (Drunk) came to my place (I didn't open the door) texted me he was sorry and called and left me a message saying he missed me that night and that he was sorry. I answered back 2 hrs later like if nothing happened, he kept saying he wanted me there and stuff. I have never told him my moves, he knows my friends but I won't tell him where I'm at or who I'm with until he makes something official. I'm not with anyone else, but he should make an effort and trust me if he wants to be with me.
So as of right now I like him A LOT!!! but I don't take him seriously until he shows me.
I would say for you to make your plans on your own as well, if you are going to spend time with him tell him you have something to do after. or tell him to let you know until what time he's free so you don't waste your time on him.
I don't think he has ghosted you, he's probably busy or something. If he's always the one making the plans then invite him over for dinner or to watch movies, something that says that you also want to spend time with him.