Help me pls. I feel distant from my bf.

He's aquarius soon, pisces moon and pisces venus.
He's on vacaton with his mom for 4 days already. Well, he texted me everyday. Sometimes, sending me pictures and sharing location to me.
We texted back and forth, BUT most of the times I was the one who tried to keep the conversation going.
I know he's on vacation so I tried to understand that he might not have time to text me back.
However, he has time checking, making comments, like on Facebook.
He sometimes ignored my texts and online on Facebook for hours instead. Right now, he only replies me with a short texts like shame, ok.
I want to keep the conversation going but I stop myself bc I'm scared that it might annoying him.

My last text was asking him if he got to the hotel safely on Monday. He didn't reply me but on Facebook for hours. Then on Tuesday at night, he sent me picture of him. That's all.

Idk what to do. Do I think too much that he doesn't wanna talk to me? Should I still keep the conversation going with him?
I don't text him first at all. I only wait for him to text me.

Aqua men are tricky, I would say.. give him space and don't message him at all until he contacts you. I always felt like "should I, shouldn't I" when I was with an aqua guy. If you want to keep him dont annoy him.. just let him get on with it.

Thank you very much!! I'm just scared that he might think I don't care about him if I don't text him back.
I don't like to play game of course. I feel scare that I might lost him. I'm scared that he might he bored. ARRRR So many things going on in my mind right now.

Posted by ccaqua
Aqua men are tricky, I would say.. give him space and don't message him at all until he contacts you. I always felt like "should I, shouldn't I" when I was with an aqua guy. If you want to keep him dont annoy him.. just let him get on with it.

Just try and relax... think about YOU! And do things that you enjoy to take him off your mind. It's hard, try not to worry, wait till he gets back and take it from there!

You are on the run when on vacation. There are so many new things to see. You don't want to be glued to your phone.

Give him space and let him have a good time. You're sounding very insecure. You need to be okay with 20-30 minutes of texting a day. Otherwise, it's tedious and drains the fun out of it.

So, you change your perception. The focus should be "Yay! He's gotten in touch with me every day. He's out on vacation and took the time to think about me, ain't that sweet!"

Instead of whining about what he isn't doing, recognize what he IS doing. You'll be much happier and he'll feel much more appreciated. You'll appear much less needy and he'll feel much less nagged or pressured.

Posted by ccaqua
Aqua men are tricky, I would say.. give him space and don't message him at all until he contacts you. I always felt like "should I, shouldn't I" when I was with an aqua guy. If you want to keep him dont annoy him.. just let him get on with it.

And you're much happier letting him contact first, instead of worrying about why he hasn't responded.

Posted by 1thgirls
Thank you very much!! I'm just scared that he might think I don't care about him if I don't text him back.
I don't like to play game of course. I feel scare that I might lost him. I'm scared that he might he bored. ARRRR So many things going on in my mind right now.

Posted by ccaqua
Aqua men are tricky, I would say.. give him space and don't message him at all until he contacts you. I always felt like "should I, shouldn't I" when I was with an aqua guy. If you want to keep him dont annoy him.. just let him get on with it.

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She didn't say anything about not texting him back. She said let him make first contact.

Posted by 1thgirls

I feel scare that I might lost him. I'm scared that he might he bored. ARRRR So many things going on in my mind right now.

Think about it this way to help you change your perspective.

Your FEAR is going to dictate your actions. Fear leads to neediness. Neediness will turn him off.

As far as you afraid (there's that ugly word again) of him getting bored... Constant contact is boring and annoying. You have to have time to miss someone. You have to have interesting things to talk about. So some time in between contact is not necessarily a bad thing. It keeps things fresh and interesting.

Just some

Just some thoughts to consider.

I agree with the ladies; give him space let him initiate contact! I made my mistake by not doing these things and became a control freak emo obsessed nagging virgo!! And he was outta there! So like one of the posters said don't expect so much and wehn he does just text u once a day, be thankful and appreciate what he IS doing don't focus on what he's NOT doing- that's what I did and look where it got me, without an Aquarius lol... GL 🙂

Thank you very much girls!! I really appreciate you guys times and comments.

I'm an aqua sun with Pisces moon if I don't message back asap its because I'm busy with my surroundings or I'm enjoying my me time. Let him have his peace, if you care about him you will desire for him to be happy even if he doesn't share it. Being on our phones all the time is a waste of time.

He sent a pic of his despite being cross with you?? Doesn't that sound contradictory in itself?? I am confused really.

If you need more reassurance, I don't know what more to say.

This thread

and your "My aqua refers me as "friend".. dating for 5 mo" thread

and your "Aqua bf didn't text me back AT ALL...." thread

and your "This aqua's texting behavior is SO annoying!!!" thread

and your "need help asap pls. I'm about to text my date!" thread


...makes me suggest that you relax and take a breather from that phone of yours and stop obsessing. Deep breaths...a lot of them. He's on vacation, please let him enjoy it.

Oh, you're the girl who wrote the "Should I back off from this aqua man alitle bit?" thread too.

In that thread I gave you this advice, which I'm gonna give you again:

"I would also recommend you to read this entire thread once more. Don't just skim it. Really read it and consider what's there."

Just replace the "this entire thread" with "all your threads". Try to see the pattern in your own behaviour. You are messing with your own head. Obsessing.

I haven't read any of your other threads but why do you think you've lost your guy just because he's slow to text on vacation? In a relationship you should feel confident with or without your mate being in your presence. If you are this anxious about everything in your relationship you will push him away. Us aquas do NOT like feeling smothered always having to reassure someone.
Chill and focus on you and your stuff.

I think any sign, not just aqua, will be annoyed by something like this. To expect full attention from someone who's on vacation with family, is a bit needy and selfish in my opinion.

I've been in that state of mind in my early days, but had to talk myself out of it, I don't need for 'x' to happen to be happy, I can provide my own happiness, anything that comes extra is a bonus!