Help with Aqua woman argument

Aquas, I need some quick pointers

Long story short, met an aqua, we liked each other, she was pretty full on. I made a mistake and told her my ex would always be in my life. She back off and retreated. Told me nothing would ever happen between us only friendship and that she'd minimize contact.

She still contacts me every single day and night. Calls, texts etc. Texts goodmorning and goodnight everyday.

We had this sort of love triangle between my friend, herself and me. They kissed behind my back after Aqua told me we could only

Aquas, I need some quick pointers

Long story short, met an aqua, we liked each other, she was pretty full on. I made a mistake and told her my ex would always be in my life. She back off and retreated. Told me nothing would ever happen between us only friendship and that she'd minimize contact.

She still contacts me every single day and night. Calls, texts etc. Texts goodmorning and goodnight everyday.

We had this sort of love triangle between my friend, herself and me. They kissed behind my back 3 times after Aqua told me we could only be friends. Aqua made it clear to me she had no feelings at all for my friend.

I found out last night of them two kissing as my friend came clean to me. I was drunk and hurt so text the Aqua ranting on and swearing about how she could do that to me etc. She became defensive. Had told me not to trust me friend that she was a snake and I am finally realising. Said why am I tripping when she had told me we were nothing. I kept ranting on and she said she wanted nothing to do with me or my friend but specially my friend and called her a few names. Anyway this morning I wake up to realise she has blocked me off all social media.

I like this girl and we agreed to only be friends and that's honestly all I want from her. She is an Aqua with a Taurus moon and Cap venus. I will give her space and make no contact but.. is it completely over from her end? In terms of our friendship? I want to text to apologise about the way I reacted as I should have discussed it with her when sober and in a civilized manner.. but I am not apologising for how it made me feel in terms of betrayal and hurt.

How do I proceed and how long until I should make contact?

Guys... lol some advice would be helpful?

I'm curious why you don't read back your old thread. It's the same story and lots of people gave their advice, so you might as well just reread that right

Posted by SMC
I'm curious why you don't read back your old thread. It's the same story and lots of people gave their advice, so you might as well just reread that right

This^.

Because developments have occured since then and it's difficult to understand her. She said she doesn't have feelings for me anymore but seeks me out 24/7, asks me for advice and opinion on things, offers to drive me around and take me home when I'm out without her. Got upset at me over a video that was sent to her of another girl kissing me one drunken night and is quite touchy feely with me..

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Because developments have occured since then and it's difficult to understand her. She said she doesn't have feelings for me anymore but seeks me out 24/7, asks me for advice and opinion on things, offers to drive me around and take me home when I'm out without her. Got upset at me over a video that was sent to her of another girl kissing me one drunken night and is quite touchy feely with me..

You both are saying to each other that all you want is friendship but are acting jealous over each other. Friends don't care who your kissing.

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Aquas, I need some quick pointers

Long story short, met an aqua, we liked each other, she was pretty full on. I made a mistake and told her my ex would always be in my life. She back off and retreated. Told me nothing would ever happen between us only friendship and that she'd minimize contact.

She still contacts me every single day and night. Calls, texts etc. Texts goodmorning and goodnight everyday.

We had this sort of love triangle between my friend, herself and me. They kissed behind my back 3 times after Aqua told me we could only be friends. Aqua made it clear to me she had no feelings at all for my friend.

I found out last night of them two kissing as my friend came clean to me. I was drunk and hurt so text the Aqua ranting on and swearing about how she could do that to me etc. She became defensive. Had told me not to trust me friend that she was a snake and I am finally realising. Said why am I tripping when she had told me we were nothing. I kept ranting on and she said she wanted nothing to do with me or my friend but specially my friend and called her a few names. Anyway this morning I wake up to realise she has blocked me off all social media.

I like this girl and we agreed to only be friends and that's honestly all I want from her. She is an Aqua with a Taurus moon and Cap venus. I will give her space and make no contact but.. is it completely over from her end? In terms of our friendship? I want to text to apologise about the way I reacted as I should have discussed it with her when sober and in a civilized manner.. but I am not apologising for how it made me feel in terms of betrayal and hurt.

How do I proceed and how long until I should make contact?

Posted by nats
Wow this is extremely on point. Im a Gem sun, Libra moon and I can be very territorial with partners. What is mine is MINE. I do tend to get jealous and upset if my partner is showing someone else too much attention or being flirty. It really makes me rage on the inside. I'll try my hardest to act like I'm OK and unbothered but sometimes I can't hide my facial reactions.

I definitely try my best at the start of something to hide my possesivenes and jealousy because I know how bad I can get and once I am comfortable I react to those feelings and it doesn't end well. If I have romantic feelings for you I am super territorial. I hate to feel jealous.. it really is a shitty feeling.

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Read the above then try to tell us you only want a friendship with her. You obviously want more.

1. Are you a guy or girl? Just asking because I've been curious... not that it's relevant to the story.

2. It's evident you not only want more than friendship, but you have some serious feelings for this Aqua. I think she truly had feelings for you too, but you messed up royally by a) making it clear your ex isn't going anywhere and Aqua doesn't want to compete b) saying things that hurt her in a heated argument

In her mind you're unstable and inconsistent. She also may think you're crazy because you're saying you two are friends, but going off on her for kissing your other friend "behind your back" ( which by the way isn't behind your back because she's not dating you).... that alone is a clear indicator that in your head you have you and this Aquarius in a whole relationship that she wasn't aware she was in.

I would say give it some time...BUT if she blocked you from everything she's PISSED and if you wait too long you're done. She blocked you in a effort to move on. It depends on how much you want her (as a friend). You'll have a lot of making up to do.... and I mean A LOT and if she doesn't accept you after some amazing making up... I'm sorry to tell you but you're done.

Oh and what is your friends sign? What's your placements as well?

Now when I think about it properly I realise I kind of had no right to blow up at her. It should have been my friend well ex friend I should have blown up at and not her considering we were just friends but I guess because she knew how I felt about her I just felt she crossed me in a way and to do it with MY friend out of all people.

How much time? And do I call, text, try to see her in person? Also if she doesn't answer my calls or texts I'm not sure how I can make it up to her?

All 3 of us are girls. We're gay.

My placements

Gem Sun

Libra Moon

Gem Merc

Cancer Venus & Mars

My friend's

Aries Sun

Aqua Moon

Aries Merc

Aqua Venus and Mars

Aqua girl's

Aqua Sun

Taurus Moon

Aqua Merc

Capricorn Venus

Leo Mars

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Posted by SMC
I'm curious why you don't read back your old thread. It's the same story and lots of people gave their advice, so you might as well just reread that right

This^.

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Agreed

Air and air.. no one is grounding the other... what a roller coaster.... and you are jealous ! Even if u r you can't be or let it shown !!! Keep it inside as u r trying to develop a friendship.. Sorry but I think she's trying to move on and ur friends placement looks good. That Aqua moon of ur friend will understand the Aqua sun much better than you do...and ur friend has a lot of Aqua too venus n mars... seems like, you may have to be prepared for the worst... n you may need to move on man

I'm Aqua with Cap Venus too and if nothing else... relationship aside, I'd at least expect an apology from my "friend".I'd be hurt if you didn't at least apologize. But it's true, once I'm done I'm done. That's why I said try once and if she doesn't accapt if move on. I'd do it in person with a lot of sincerity. If it's not as sincere as possible, then she will be a an ice queen towards you. I mean it's up to you, but I'm just saying what I'd expect and want. Also, I kind of think your charts look more compatible than your friends with her. But your Taurus Moon and Camcer Venus may make you too emotional and possessive for her. However. Cap &Can Venus are a good match.

The Aqua has a Taurus moon and I have the Cancer Venus. But our venus signs match.

I sent her a lengthy text before apologising for how I reacted and a few other things and made it clear I understand we're only just going to be friends and explained how the situation made me feel hurt but I didn't want to lose her friendship and also that I understand she's single and has no loyalty toward me. Also explained that I should have not gone off over message and instead spoke to her calmly and rationally and not when I was drunk and on my emotions.

I don't expect her to respond. I also told her id give her her space but I didn't want to lose her friendship.

In person will be hard because I don't want to rock up to her house or work unannounced. I don't think she'd be too happy with that surprise. Or should I??

Ok you did your part. If she doesn't respond.... then you know where you stand. BUT I didn't intend for you to show up to her house or job unannounced when I said apologize in person. I was thinking more of a call and ask to meet kind of thing. But since you did your apology through text already; there's no need to meet and apologize again. No, never pop up on an Aquarius... she'd be super annoyed.

I'm an aqua sister Taurus moon Venus cap. She sounds like she's forever annoyed of you and the Aries. I can't imagine trying to date an Aries and Gemini and having to deal with that triangle, I too would remove myself from the situation and drop you guys. I've had to drop just friends before over weird love triangles with Aries, no thank you.

Aqua sun*

She might try to befriend you in like 6 months or longer depending on how angry she is. It also depends on if you guys had a good friendship in the first place but I wouldn't count on it. It also sounds like she feels betrayed because she was doing all this stuff for you (putting in effort, giving you rides and stuff) and that would push me away even more than an acquaintance.

I know it sounds ridiculous and maybe crazy but I'm not letting this go.. I know I had no right to blow up at her since her and I only had a friendship.

I'll give it another week and try to make contact.

Thanks for everyone's input!

I am speaking from personal experience. The best thing to is to let it go... Completely. Its very hard to do, but its something you are going to need to do.

My ex is an Aquarius with a cancer moon and she completely shut down when we broke up and eventually blocked me off everything.

I did the whole reach out thing and got no response what so ever. I finally let it go when I sent and email explaining my side and also apologised. That was mid march, its now May and I still haven't got a response. So at that point I had done everything I could which I thought was right.

If you listen to the Aquas on here, the best thing to do is to give her some space after you have apologised. If you do anything more you will push her away further and the only person who will suffer for it is you.

Go out and live your life do you think and keep YOU happy. If she comes back then you deal with in the headspace you are at, in that point in time. Hope this helps

Yeah well I called her today to see if she had blocked my number and it still rang like normal so she obviously has only just blocked me on social media but I'm done.

I'm not going to bother anymore. She pulled one over me and while yes she and I had no relationship, the fact that she chased my friend and made my friend believe something would happen between them says a lot on her end after all the crap she was saying to me.

She just wanted to play games and play us both so there's really no point in me wasting my time or trying different avenues of reaching out to her.

You f'd up when you said your ex will always be in your life. As an Aquarius with a taurus rising and cap venus I am secretly extremely possessive and obsessive of people I am with a d dont want ANY inkling that I might be betrayed by my partner by someone else especially someone from your past.

My ex Cap found out the hard way that once I friendzone you I will ALWAYS be cordial but I will never touch you with a ten foot pole again and if you bring up our past minimalize it. I know petty but it is a defense mechanism.

Yeah the ex part we got past and while we had feelings we agreed to just remain friends. She made it clear more than once NOTHING would happen between us and I knew why. However, she'd still flirt crazy and in a way put herself on me but when I would make an advance, she'd be like excuse me? Lol but it was OK for her?! Anyway...

The issue here is that when we agreed to remain friends she started to tune my Aries best friend with the excuse that she knew speaking to her in that way would make me hate her and push her away and she was trying to help me get over my feelings for her so that we could simply be friends only as she knew how hard it was to be friends and have feels.

Aries fell for her crap, made an advance on her behind my back and they kissed like 3 times! Aqua made it clear to me (I had an inkling something had happened between them) that she didn't have any feels for aries nor wanted anything with her and said to me "I'll make it clear to her. Just watch me. I stuffed up by tuning her, I feel bad that she actually fell for it and now i've caused all this".

Aries came clean to me about the kissing, I was drunk and mad and lost it at Aqua over texts. She got angry and defensive and told me to fuck off, she wanted nothing to do with me or Aries but specially Aries and basically called Aries every name under the sun and told me to stop contacting her.

That was it and now we're here.. at my post as to whether she'd ever come back but thanks to my Gem sun and Libra moon, I keep going back and forth with the thought that I want her in my life regardless of all this mess but then I'm also like fuck her, we had a friendship and she crossed a line by kissing my "best" friend (Aries) who I have now cut off. Like who does that?!?!?!?!

I just feel like Aqua played us both. Many times I asked the Aqua if everything she had told me about her feels etc for me was bullcrap and she seemed offended and upset that Id actually be asking her that and was like why would I make that up and waste my time speaking to you etc like what do I get out of doing something like that etc. After we agreed to be just friends she said she would distance herself a bit and keep contact minimal (she would always contact me 24/7). I agreed. That lasted like 1 day and she started searching me out again, calling and texting 24/7. Good morning and goodnight messages, asking to see me in subtle ways. Telling me where she would be without me asking and when Id ask why she'd do that she would say because she wanted me to know what her plans were and where she'd be... all in all I just feel played and used and made to look like a fool. I caught feelings for the Aqua and still have them!!!