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@Spooky926
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Posted by aquagirllovesuWell, I've been asking for and listening to his advice for for four years (and acting on it in most instances), and this is the first time in that long that I've disagreed with him--VERY politely and respectfully, by the way (the Libra in me). I just don't like that he presumes everyone wants to hear his wisdom every time they ask for the slightest little thing (in this case, it was just a Facebook post, lol). He doesn't understand the difference between a request for support and for advice/suggestions. I don't like how defensive he got when I dared to differ in opinion. I heard him out completely and explained WHY I disagreed with him. He did NOT care to rationally discuss or collaborate to reach a middle point; he just threw a fit like my 5 year-old would do, lol.
He will get over it quickly, but probably thinks your not very open to hearing others opinions and suggestions. If it were me, I would never give you a suggestion again even if I thought it would really help. Hopefully he is not as petty as me. :-)
Posted by Spooky926I understand what you mean, I think you did a good thing. He will be a little sore about it, but I don't think he will run away because of this.Posted by aquagirllovesuWell, I've been asking for and listening to his advice for for four years (and acting on it in most instances), and this is the first time in that long that I've disagreed with him--VERY politely and respectfully, by the way (the Libra in me). I just don't like that he presumes everyone wants to hear his wisdom every time they ask for the slightest little thing (in this case, it was just a Facebook post, lol). He doesn't understand the difference between a request for support and for advice/suggestions. I don't like how defensive he got when I dared to differ in opinion. I heard him out completely and explained WHY I disagreed with him. He did NOT care to rationally discuss or collaborate to reach a middle point; he just threw a fit like my 5 year-old would do, lol.
He will get over it quickly, but probably thinks your not very open to hearing others opinions and suggestions. If it were me, I would never give you a suggestion again even if I thought it would really help. Hopefully he is not as petty as me. :-)click to expand


Posted by justagirlFor the record, we're not romantically involved anymore (although I'm not exactly sure he realizes that part is dead for me). I didn't go to him; he called me yesterday and we were just catching up. I recently launched a non-profit and just asked him to share the info about it on his Facebook page (he has 11,000+ followers). I knew he'd do it, but all I wanted was a simple reply, not a tutorial. He has been supporting my work for four years, so this was completely in line with our friendship history. The very reason I was comfortable putting him in his place is because I'm no longer afraid of losing him as a romantic partner, and I'm confident enough in our friendship that I don't think he'll bail on my permanently by me pointing out some of his behavior that I don't appreciate it. So no, this is not me going to him for comfort or emotional support; just a little professional help 🙂.
my question and NO you do not need to answer, its more for you to think about..
why do you keep going to him? He isnt giving you the support/comfort you are seeking and yet you are still seeking it from him.



Posted by sultrykittynot when they are the ones that ended it. You think he is going to chase her now?
This is the funny thing...he'll probably get really into you now, and do all the things you wanted him to do when you were dating and trying to bend over backwards for him.
Aquas don't like pushovers. They WANT pushback, even if every sign they give is tge opposite.

Posted by Spooky926YOU posted that you ARE going to him for suport so i am super confussed by you replying to me that you didn't. 😕 Also how is him giving his opinion unsolicitied if you went to him..
I got into an argument with my Aqua "friend" this morning...and I have to admit, it was pretty delicious to see him throw a fit for being put in his place. This is the second day in a row I either told him some good news or asked for support in a very specific way, and he went ON and ON giving me lengthy unsolicited advice that I really had no interest in or need for . I told him all I wanted was for him to check out a webpage and share the content if he felt comfortable with it. Then he got VERY snippy when I gently told him I respectfully disagreed with the (unwanted) advice he gave me. Told me not to waste his precious time by telling him he was wrong after I asked him for advice. I firmly reminded him I never asked for advice in the first place. Then he got sarcastic and threw a fit. I pulled a Libra and complemented him lavishly on his knowledge and experience; but I also said he didn't have to put it on display any time someone mentioned anything related to his background. I also reminded him other people sometimes know as much as him, if not more so. I ended by telling him he would have saved a LOT of time if he had just said, "Sure! I'll check out your site and share the info when I get a chance." Two texts. That's it. Sigh.
So anyway, I've read that Aquas generally get over these things pretty quickly. However, this is the first argument we've had of this nature, and I've never put him in his place like this before (which I have a feeling he's not used to AT ALL). What reaction should I expect down the road?


Posted by justagirlBut he didn't end it. She just decided that she can't deal with him on a romantic level.Posted by sultrykittynot when they are the ones that ended it. You think he is going to chase her now?
This is the funny thing...he'll probably get really into you now, and do all the things you wanted him to do when you were dating and trying to bend over backwards for him.
Aquas don't like pushovers. They WANT pushback, even if every sign they give is tge opposite.
i get it i am not an Aqua dude, but for me when it's over and someone acts out with fits of anger (sorry but that is what she is doing, perhaps rightly so) it just makes me step back even more.
If you OP truly value this 4 year friendship, take a break from all of it, collect yourself and decide if you can truly be a friend without placing expectations on him to be more than what he is wanting to be.click to expand



Posted by sultrykittyMaybe, lol 🙂. He's been into me this whole time, technically speaking. He's just into himself more. If he does try to chase me again, it's actually going to be a big turn-off for me. Once the Libra switch flips, it's done.
This is the funny thing...he'll probably get really into you now, and do all the things you wanted him to do when you were dating and trying to bend over backwards for him.
Aquas don't like pushovers. They WANT pushback, even if every sign they give is tge opposite.


Posted by WaterBearererIt definitely wasn't "for no reason." This man is an intellectual show-off who actually gets off on making people believe he knows more than he actually does. He gives advice without being asked for it for the simple reason of letting others know how smart he is. He thinks his way is best and throws fits if someone disagrees with him or refuses his advice, no matter how politely. He's not used to being intellectually matched, and I simply reminded him that his way is NOT what's always best for other people, and he shouldn't push his knowledge/experience/"wisdom" on other people if they don't want it or specifically ask for it. His arrogance and ego were all over the place, and yes...he needed someone to bring him down a few notches.
"how do aquas deal with being put in their place" yo u are antagonizing this dudes soul for no reason loll
and how did u put him in his place by saying there are people smarter than him lol couldnt wait to hit him with that dose of reality huh?
whats w all this hate from libras on here yall act like were not perfect for each other or something !?




Posted by Librawoman77I have no illusions that he will act any different in the future. And to be honest, I've been holding in frustrations with his arrogance for a long time; being so averse to confrontation, I was extremely nervous about saying anything at all. The way it played out, he finished his "tutorial," so to speak. I told him I very much appreciated his knowledge and advice, but I respectfully disagreed with him. That was ALL I said. Then he got pissed, saying that I wasted his precious time by asking him for advice then telling him he was wrong (VERY defensive). I politely told him I actually didn't ask for advice in the first place; I only asked him if he would mind looking at a website and posting about it. Then he went on VERY sarcastically to explain why he was so much more knowledgable than me about these things (rattling off dollar figures and bragging about accomplishments, etc.). That annoyed me; it's not a competition but I have more experience than him and he knows it. I agree that your suggestion for approaching my problem with him is a lot more gentle. Unfortunately, I had just reached my breaking point. I tried to do my Libra best of explaining my perception of his behavior very rationally and unemotionally, but I know he did NOT like it--especially when I pointed out that I never asked him for advice. He assumed I wanted it, and I know Aquas don't like to be shown evidence they misstepped. I wonder if he's like that with other people, and how they react to his shows of "see how smart I am?" Maybe they appreciate it...I don't know.
But instead you gave him unsolicited opinions about his personality without asking his permission. You did to him what he does to you - but you are hell bent on believing your words changed or penetrated a fixed Aquarius mind, and I am sorry to report that unless you made your point in 6 words or less with respect, and humor you did nothing but made an ass of yourself in our eyes. And he will remain FIXED in his ways.


Posted by justagirlthat's alot of threads....
my point was you have made 4 threads in less than 48 hours about this guy , it's more important to you than you are trying to make it out. You don't need to put anyone in "their place" it's obvious what was between you guys played out. I understand you are hurt, but you will DEYSTOY the friendship with all this, is that your goal?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/how-do-aquarius-men-show-they-care-5903524/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/how-far-will-aquarius-man-take-a-lie-5902108/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/i-got-major-aqua-insight-yesterday-and-it-wasn-t-pretty-5906815/
and this one we are in.

Posted by Spooky926he will get over it for sure but how he feels about you will change drastically!!! it doesn't seem like he is behaving the way you expected him after putting him in his place... as you call it... this seems to annoy you.
I got into an argument with my Aqua "friend" this morning...and I have to admit, it was pretty delicious to see him throw a fit for being put in his place. This is the second day in a row I either told him some good news or asked for support in a very specific way, and he went ON and ON giving me lengthy unsolicited advice that I really had no interest in or need for. I told him all I wanted was for him to check out a webpage and share the content if he felt comfortable with it. Then he got VERY snippy when I gently told him I respectfully disagreed with the (unwanted) advice he gave me. Told me not to waste his precious time by telling him he was wrong after I asked him for advice. I firmly reminded him I never asked for advice in the first place. Then he got sarcastic and threw a fit. I pulled a Libra and complemented him lavishly on his knowledge and experience; but I also said he didn't have to put it on display any time someone mentioned anything related to his background. I also reminded him other people sometimes know as much as him, if not more so. I ended by telling him he would have saved a LOT of time if he had just said, "Sure! I'll check out your site and share the info when I get a chance." Two texts. That's it. Sigh.
So anyway, I've read that Aquas generally get over these things pretty quickly. However, this is the first argument we've had of this nature, and I've never put him in his place like this before (which I have a feeling he's not used to AT ALL). What reaction should I expect down the road?

Posted by aquapiscescuspthere are more...Posted by justagirlthat's alot of threads....
my point was you have made 4 threads in less than 48 hours about this guy , it's more important to you than you are trying to make it out. You don't need to put anyone in "their place" it's obvious what was between you guys played out. I understand you are hurt, but you will DEYSTOY the friendship with all this, is that your goal?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/how-do-aquarius-men-show-they-care-5903524/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/how-far-will-aquarius-man-take-a-lie-5902108/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/i-got-major-aqua-insight-yesterday-and-it-wasn-t-pretty-5906815/
and this one we are in.click to expand

Posted by justagirlI guess it's her way of not caring... ;/Posted by aquapiscescuspthere are more...Posted by justagirlthat's alot of threads....
my point was you have made 4 threads in less than 48 hours about this guy , it's more important to you than you are trying to make it out. You don't need to put anyone in "their place" it's obvious what was between you guys played out. I understand you are hurt, but you will DEYSTOY the friendship with all this, is that your goal?
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/how-do-aquarius-men-show-they-care-5903524/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/how-far-will-aquarius-man-take-a-lie-5902108/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/i-got-major-aqua-insight-yesterday-and-it-wasn-t-pretty-5906815/
and this one we are in.
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Posted by frostey91
Ok you're 41 so this is diffreent I'm 24 so this wouldn't even be an issue. I mean I would be the type to tell him off in like 6 words. Sag Mercury blunt baby blunt.


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So anyway, I've read that Aquas generally get over these things pretty quickly. However, this is the first argument we've had of this nature, and I've never put him in his place like this before (which I have a feeling he's not used to AT ALL). What reaction should I expect down the road?