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How should I address my feelings to this aqua guy...
As one of the many Leos who has dated (and been confused by an Aqua), you have to understand that as our opposite sign Aquas have a different perspective concerning time than we do. To us 3 weeks is a loooong time, not so much for them.
One of the main characteristics that throws people off is an Aqua's disappearing act. While they may disappear for many reasons, if I had to guess your Aqua is figuring out his feelings for you. Aquas will also disappear if they have NO interest in you or are upset with you. Since he reached back out to you about the concert, I'd guess that there is some interest on his part (and that he's not angry at you).
Aquariuses also spend a lot of time in their heads than their hearts. So he may not readily understand that 3 weeks of silence hurts you. You may just need to let him know, "Hey just a heads up, it makes me feel odd when you stop talking to me out of nowhere. Do me a favor and be mindful of that. Getting back to me in a more reasonable amount of time would make me feel better." Sometimes Aquas need to be calmly informed when their actions are unconventional or hurtful to those around them. Don't get upset, just tell him straight.
THAT all being said, if this Aqua doesn't seem to change his tune and be more mindful of your feelings just let him know, "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know." Then let him go.
Be honest with him and then back off to give him the freedom to CHOOSE you. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. There are far too many stories of Aquas confronting their own feelings when faced with loss. This may be the spark that gets him moving. It's possible that he starts chasing when you wind up with someone else too. You never know with Aquas, so expect the unexpected.
Then again, it's also possible that he lets you leave to pursue other interests. Be sure to plan for this outcome as well. Aquas are not generally possessive until they find that ONE person they can invest all of their love. They believe in being free and giving people their freedom too. As a result it is very likely he'll give you the freedom to roam, not understanding that you need him to be more possessive of you. In which case you may find that another guy can provide you with the warmth you require.
My advice is to be direct with him and to stop playing the friend card, since it doesn't sound like that's truly what you want. You seem to want more than his friendship at this point. Also sounds like you're in this weird limbo at the moment and you're unsure how to proceed. Leo to Leo my advice is to always go for the person who is most enthusiastic to be with you. You may find that he is emotionally unable to provide you with the attention you need to feel comfortable. Don't take it personally, just move on with your life.
One of the main characteristics that throws people off is an Aqua's disappearing act. While they may disappear for many reasons, if I had to guess your Aqua is figuring out his feelings for you. Aquas will also disappear if they have NO interest in you or are upset with you. Since he reached back out to you about the concert, I'd guess that there is some interest on his part (and that he's not angry at you).
Aquariuses also spend a lot of time in their heads than their hearts. So he may not readily understand that 3 weeks of silence hurts you. You may just need to let him know, "Hey just a heads up, it makes me feel odd when you stop talking to me out of nowhere. Do me a favor and be mindful of that. Getting back to me in a more reasonable amount of time would make me feel better." Sometimes Aquas need to be calmly informed when their actions are unconventional or hurtful to those around them. Don't get upset, just tell him straight.
THAT all being said, if this Aqua doesn't seem to change his tune and be more mindful of your feelings just let him know, "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know." Then let him go.
Be honest with him and then back off to give him the freedom to CHOOSE you. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. There are far too many stories of Aquas confronting their own feelings when faced with loss. This may be the spark that gets him moving. It's possible that he starts chasing when you wind up with someone else too. You never know with Aquas, so expect the unexpected.
Then again, it's also possible that he lets you leave to pursue other interests. Be sure to plan for this outcome as well. Aquas are not generally possessive until they find that ONE person they can invest all of their love. They believe in being free and giving people their freedom too. As a result it is very likely he'll give you the freedom to roam, not understanding that you need him to be more possessive of you. In which case you may find that another guy can provide you with the warmth you require.
My advice is to be direct with him and to stop playing the friend card, since it doesn't sound like that's truly what you want. You seem to want more than his friendship at this point. Also sounds like you're in this weird limbo at the moment and you're unsure how to proceed. Leo to Leo my advice is to always go for the person who is most enthusiastic to be with you. You may find that he is emotionally unable to provide you with the attention you need to feel comfortable. Don't take it personally, just move on with your life.
Posted by Chuckcem
As one of the many Leos who has dated (and been confused by an Aqua), you have to understand that as our opposite sign Aquas have a different perspective concerning time than we do. To us 3 weeks is a loooong time, not so much for them.
One of the main characteristics that throws people off is an Aqua's disappearing act. While they may disappear for many reasons, if I had to guess your Aqua is figuring out his feelings for you. Aquas will also disappear if they have NO interest in you or are upset with you. Since he reached back out to you about the concert, I'd guess that there is some interest on his part (and that he's not angry at you).
Aquariuses also spend a lot of time in their heads than their hearts. So he may not readily understand that 3 weeks of silence hurts you. You may just need to let him know, "Hey just a heads up, it makes me feel odd when you stop talking to me out of nowhere. Do me a favor and be mindful of that. Getting back to me in a more reasonable amount of time would make me feel better." Sometimes Aquas need to be calmly informed when their actions are unconventional or hurtful to those around them. Don't get upset, just tell him straight.
THAT all being said, if this Aqua doesn't seem to change his tune and be more mindful of your feelings just let him know, "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know." Then let him go.
Be honest with him and then back off to give him the freedom to CHOOSE you. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. There are far too many stories of Aquas confronting their own feelings when faced with loss. This may be the spark that gets him moving. It's possible that he starts chasing when you wind up with someone else too. You never know with Aquas, so expect the unexpected.
Then again, it's also possible that he lets you leave to pursue other interests. Be sure to plan for this outcome as well. Aquas are not generally possessive until they find that ONE person they can invest all of their love. They believe in being free and giving people their freedom too. As a result it is very likely he'll give you the freedom to roam, not understanding that you need him to be more possessive of you. In which case you may find that another guy can provide you with the warmth you require.
My advice is to be direct with him and to stop playing the friend card, since it doesn't sound like that's truly what you want. You seem to want more than his friendship at this point. Also sounds like you're in this weird limbo at the moment and you're unsure how to proceed. Leo to Leo my advice is to always go for the person who is most enthusiastic to be with you. You may find that he is emotionally unable to provide you with the attention you need to feel comfortable. Don't take it personally, just move on with your life.
Hats
Off
To
You .
You just explained my
Aqua to a tea ..
!!! Have you finally
Settled with one yet?
Posted by saweetz1988Hahah nooo, I just stopped talking to one actually. Two of my best friends are Aquas too.Posted by Chuckcem
As one of the many Leos who has dated (and been confused by an Aqua), you have to understand that as our opposite sign Aquas have a different perspective concerning time than we do. To us 3 weeks is a loooong time, not so much for them.
One of the main characteristics that throws people off is an Aqua's disappearing act. While they may disappear for many reasons, if I had to guess your Aqua is figuring out his feelings for you. Aquas will also disappear if they have NO interest in you or are upset with you. Since he reached back out to you about the concert, I'd guess that there is some interest on his part (and that he's not angry at you).
Aquariuses also spend a lot of time in their heads than their hearts. So he may not readily understand that 3 weeks of silence hurts you. You may just need to let him know, "Hey just a heads up, it makes me feel odd when you stop talking to me out of nowhere. Do me a favor and be mindful of that. Getting back to me in a more reasonable amount of time would make me feel better." Sometimes Aquas need to be calmly informed when their actions are unconventional or hurtful to those around them. Don't get upset, just tell him straight.
THAT all being said, if this Aqua doesn't seem to change his tune and be more mindful of your feelings just let him know, "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know." Then let him go.
Be honest with him and then back off to give him the freedom to CHOOSE you. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. There are far too many stories of Aquas confronting their own feelings when faced with loss. This may be the spark that gets him moving. It's possible that he starts chasing when you wind up with someone else too. You never know with Aquas, so expect the unexpected.
Then again, it's also possible that he lets you leave to pursue other interests. Be sure to plan for this outcome as well. Aquas are not generally possessive until they find that ONE person they can invest all of their love. They believe in being free and giving people their freedom too. As a result it is very likely he'll give you the freedom to roam, not understanding that you need him to be more possessive of you. In which case you may find that another guy can provide you with the warmth you require.
My advice is to be direct with him and to stop playing the friend card, since it doesn't sound like that's truly what you want. You seem to want more than his friendship at this point. Also sounds like you're in this weird limbo at the moment and you're unsure how to proceed. Leo to Leo my advice is to always go for the person who is most enthusiastic to be with you. You may find that he is emotionally unable to provide you with the attention you need to feel comfortable. Don't take it personally, just move on with your life.
Hats
Off
To
You .
You just explained my
Aqua to a tea ..
!!! Have you finally
Settled with one yet?
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I read your post earlier, and the responses. Couldn't have done much better than those. 🙂
Let him do his thing (and do yours) but be excited when he wants to spend time with you.
I found that I really had to internalize the phrase, "is this the hill you really want to die on?" If the answer is no (It usually is), then I do my best to let it go.
If yes, then stand firm and get what you need.
That approach has seemed to work out pretty well.
Let him do his thing (and do yours) but be excited when he wants to spend time with you.
I found that I really had to internalize the phrase, "is this the hill you really want to die on?" If the answer is no (It usually is), then I do my best to let it go.
If yes, then stand firm and get what you need.
That approach has seemed to work out pretty well.
Posted by sultrykitty
I read your post earlier, and the responses. Couldn't have done much better than those. 🙂
Let him do his thing (and do yours) but be excited when he wants to spend time with you.
I found that I really had to internalize the phrase, "is this the hill you really want to die on?" If the answer is no (It usually is), then I do my best to let it go.
If yes, then stand firm and get what you need.
That approach has seemed to work out pretty well.
I admire you for all those years you stood strong.... i crossed the first hill and I'm ready to jump off the cliff hahaha..... ...
Posted by Chuckcem
As one of the many Leos who has dated (and been confused by an Aqua), you have to understand that as our opposite sign Aquas have a different perspective concerning time than we do. To us 3 weeks is a loooong time, not so much for them.
One of the main characteristics that throws people off is an Aqua's disappearing act. While they may disappear for many reasons, if I had to guess your Aqua is figuring out his feelings for you. Aquas will also disappear if they have NO interest in you or are upset with you. Since he reached back out to you about the concert, I'd guess that there is some interest on his part (and that he's not angry at you).
Aquariuses also spend a lot of time in their heads than their hearts. So he may not readily understand that 3 weeks of silence hurts you. You may just need to let him know, "Hey just a heads up, it makes me feel odd when you stop talking to me out of nowhere. Do me a favor and be mindful of that. Getting back to me in a more reasonable amount of time would make me feel better." Sometimes Aquas need to be calmly informed when their actions are unconventional or hurtful to those around them. Don't get upset, just tell him straight.
THAT all being said, if this Aqua doesn't seem to change his tune and be more mindful of your feelings just let him know, "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know." Then let him go.
Be honest with him and then back off to give him the freedom to CHOOSE you. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. There are far too many stories of Aquas confronting their own feelings when faced with loss. This may be the spark that gets him moving. It's possible that he starts chasing when you wind up with someone else too. You never know with Aquas, so expect the unexpected.
Then again, it's also possible that he lets you leave to pursue other interests. Be sure to plan for this outcome as well. Aquas are not generally possessive until they find that ONE person they can invest all of their love. They believe in being free and giving people their freedom too. As a result it is very likely he'll give you the freedom to roam, not understanding that you need him to be more possessive of you. In which case you may find that another guy can provide you with the warmth you require.
My advice is to be direct with him and to stop playing the friend card, since it doesn't sound like that's truly what you want. You seem to want more than his friendship at this point. Also sounds like you're in this weird limbo at the moment and you're unsure how to proceed. Leo to Leo my advice is to always go for the person who is most enthusiastic to be with you. You may find that he is emotionally unable to provide you with the attention you need to feel comfortable. Don't take it personally, just move on with your life.
Thank you for your such detailed response!! I really appreciate your answer (as many others have stated as well in the following responses).
I basically did my best to say to him your suggested comment: "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know."
And...
I didn't tell him ... in person...
I got really nervous and called him after the concert. He was on the public transportation system. He stated that he appreciated that I brought up the topic and he would like to have the conversation in a more private place where he felt more comfortable talking about it. He said he would reach out to me sometime this weekend to talk about it.
This was definitely not the response I was thinking would happen...and now I just continue on with my day(s). This is so weird!! I don't know what this behavior means. I just feel like if he doesn't like me, and he should say it as is instead of prolonging a heartbreak...
Now I am just sad.
We'll be here for your update (at least I will).
My Aqua does this kind of thing too, and 9 times out of 10 it's never as bad as I imagined, or has nothing to do with what I thought it would.
Try not to pre-analyze because it will mess with your head. Don't even think about it until you guys get together.
My Aqua does this kind of thing too, and 9 times out of 10 it's never as bad as I imagined, or has nothing to do with what I thought it would.
Try not to pre-analyze because it will mess with your head. Don't even think about it until you guys get together.
Posted by xo_leoOh this isn't bad. I have no clue what he'll say, but everything looks generally positive. Aquas need need NEED to sort through their feelings. Sometimes they need the thought of you leaving (or for you to actually move on) for those feelings to snap in place. It can be different with each Aqua. Sometimes it's just an honest conversation about your true feelings that gets things moving. Don't worry so much about the silence or downtime right now. You spoken your truth, now let him mull it over.Posted by Chuckcem
As one of the many Leos who has dated (and been confused by an Aqua), you have to understand that as our opposite sign Aquas have a different perspective concerning time than we do. To us 3 weeks is a loooong time, not so much for them.
One of the main characteristics that throws people off is an Aqua's disappearing act. While they may disappear for many reasons, if I had to guess your Aqua is figuring out his feelings for you. Aquas will also disappear if they have NO interest in you or are upset with you. Since he reached back out to you about the concert, I'd guess that there is some interest on his part (and that he's not angry at you).
Aquariuses also spend a lot of time in their heads than their hearts. So he may not readily understand that 3 weeks of silence hurts you. You may just need to let him know, "Hey just a heads up, it makes me feel odd when you stop talking to me out of nowhere. Do me a favor and be mindful of that. Getting back to me in a more reasonable amount of time would make me feel better." Sometimes Aquas need to be calmly informed when their actions are unconventional or hurtful to those around them. Don't get upset, just tell him straight.
THAT all being said, if this Aqua doesn't seem to change his tune and be more mindful of your feelings just let him know, "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know." Then let him go.
Be honest with him and then back off to give him the freedom to CHOOSE you. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. There are far too many stories of Aquas confronting their own feelings when faced with loss. This may be the spark that gets him moving. It's possible that he starts chasing when you wind up with someone else too. You never know with Aquas, so expect the unexpected.
Then again, it's also possible that he lets you leave to pursue other interests. Be sure to plan for this outcome as well. Aquas are not generally possessive until they find that ONE person they can invest all of their love. They believe in being free and giving people their freedom too. As a result it is very likely he'll give you the freedom to roam, not understanding that you need him to be more possessive of you. In which case you may find that another guy can provide you with the warmth you require.
My advice is to be direct with him and to stop playing the friend card, since it doesn't sound like that's truly what you want. You seem to want more than his friendship at this point. Also sounds like you're in this weird limbo at the moment and you're unsure how to proceed. Leo to Leo my advice is to always go for the person who is most enthusiastic to be with you. You may find that he is emotionally unable to provide you with the attention you need to feel comfortable. Don't take it personally, just move on with your life.
Thank you for your such detailed response!! I really appreciate your answer (as many others have stated as well in the following responses).
I basically did my best to say to him your suggested comment: "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know."
And...
I didn't tell him ... in person...
I got really nervous and called him after the concert. He was on the public transportation system. He stated that he appreciated that I brought up the topic and he would like to have the conversation in a more private place where he felt more comfortable talking about it. He said he would reach out to me sometime this weekend to talk about it.
This was definitely not the response I was thinking would happen...and now I just continue on with my day(s). This is so weird!! I don't know what this behavior means. I just feel like if he doesn't like me, and he should say it as is instead of prolonging a heartbreak...
Now I am just sad.
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Aquas can be VERY private with their emotions, so it makes sense that he'd want to talk when he wasn't out in public. This is normal. Aquas can be awkward with emotions. Just give him the time he needs. He'll be in touch with you, don't worry. In the meantime, go about your own life and act as if you'll never hear from him again (I don't mean to start dating other men right away), but mentally adjust to the thought that you may need to move on to other options.
Well the weekend has pretty much passed and nothing.
I understand if he needs to sort out his feelings, but I find it extremely inconsiderate when I shared my feelings and had no response.
I'm done. I can't respect anyone who doesn't considers people's feelings. (Maybe he does, but thinking about it doesn't do anything).
I wouldn't mind getting rejected, but it would have been nice to know. So now I don't care.
The friendship or whatever it was, is done in my book.
Thank you all for supporting me in thinking through this process, but I deserve someone who considers my feelings (and more) just as much as I am considering this guy's feelings who isn't giving much.
*peace*
I understand if he needs to sort out his feelings, but I find it extremely inconsiderate when I shared my feelings and had no response.
I'm done. I can't respect anyone who doesn't considers people's feelings. (Maybe he does, but thinking about it doesn't do anything).
I wouldn't mind getting rejected, but it would have been nice to know. So now I don't care.
The friendship or whatever it was, is done in my book.
Thank you all for supporting me in thinking through this process, but I deserve someone who considers my feelings (and more) just as much as I am considering this guy's feelings who isn't giving much.
*peace*
Posted by -Flo-Hahah, indeed I am and thank you for the Selena Gomez kiss.Posted by ChuckcemSo... are you single?Posted by xo_leoOh this isn't bad. I have no clue what he'll say, but everything looks generally positive. Aquas need need NEED to sort through their feelings. Sometimes they need the thought of you leaving (or for you to actually move on) for those feelings to snap in place. It can be different with each Aqua. Sometimes it's just an honest conversation about your true feelings that gets things moving. Don't worry so much about the silence or downtime right now. You spoken your truth, now let him mull it over.Posted by Chuckcem
As one of the many Leos who has dated (and been confused by an Aqua), you have to understand that as our opposite sign Aquas have a different perspective concerning time than we do. To us 3 weeks is a loooong time, not so much for them.
One of the main characteristics that throws people off is an Aqua's disappearing act. While they may disappear for many reasons, if I had to guess your Aqua is figuring out his feelings for you. Aquas will also disappear if they have NO interest in you or are upset with you. Since he reached back out to you about the concert, I'd guess that there is some interest on his part (and that he's not angry at you).
Aquariuses also spend a lot of time in their heads than their hearts. So he may not readily understand that 3 weeks of silence hurts you. You may just need to let him know, "Hey just a heads up, it makes me feel odd when you stop talking to me out of nowhere. Do me a favor and be mindful of that. Getting back to me in a more reasonable amount of time would make me feel better." Sometimes Aquas need to be calmly informed when their actions are unconventional or hurtful to those around them. Don't get upset, just tell him straight.
THAT all being said, if this Aqua doesn't seem to change his tune and be more mindful of your feelings just let him know, "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know." Then let him go.
Be honest with him and then back off to give him the freedom to CHOOSE you. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. There are far too many stories of Aquas confronting their own feelings when faced with loss. This may be the spark that gets him moving. It's possible that he starts chasing when you wind up with someone else too. You never know with Aquas, so expect the unexpected.
Then again, it's also possible that he lets you leave to pursue other interests. Be sure to plan for this outcome as well. Aquas are not generally possessive until they find that ONE person they can invest all of their love. They believe in being free and giving people their freedom too. As a result it is very likely he'll give you the freedom to roam, not understanding that you need him to be more possessive of you. In which case you may find that another guy can provide you with the warmth you require.
My advice is to be direct with him and to stop playing the friend card, since it doesn't sound like that's truly what you want. You seem to want more than his friendship at this point. Also sounds like you're in this weird limbo at the moment and you're unsure how to proceed. Leo to Leo my advice is to always go for the person who is most enthusiastic to be with you. You may find that he is emotionally unable to provide you with the attention you need to feel comfortable. Don't take it personally, just move on with your life.
Thank you for your such detailed response!! I really appreciate your answer (as many others have stated as well in the following responses).
I basically did my best to say to him your suggested comment: "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know."
And...
I didn't tell him ... in person...
I got really nervous and called him after the concert. He was on the public transportation system. He stated that he appreciated that I brought up the topic and he would like to have the conversation in a more private place where he felt more comfortable talking about it. He said he would reach out to me sometime this weekend to talk about it.
This was definitely not the response I was thinking would happen...and now I just continue on with my day(s). This is so weird!! I don't know what this behavior means. I just feel like if he doesn't like me, and he should say it as is instead of prolonging a heartbreak...
Now I am just sad.
Aquas can be VERY private with their emotions, so it makes sense that he'd want to talk when he wasn't out in public. This is normal. Aquas can be awkward with emotions. Just give him the time he needs. He'll be in touch with you, don't worry. In the meantime, go about your own life and act as if you'll never hear from him again (I don't mean to start dating other men right away), but mentally adjust to the thought that you may need to move on to other options.
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Posted by -Flo-It's funny, I have slowly noticed that I'm surrounded by Aries enerfy. I wouldn't be surprised if I wound up with an Aries Moon woman.Posted by Chuckcem??Posted by -Flo-Hahah, indeed I am and thank you for the Selena Gomez kiss.Posted by ChuckcemSo... are you single?Posted by xo_leoOh this isn't bad. I have no clue what he'll say, but everything looks generally positive. Aquas need need NEED to sort through their feelings. Sometimes they need the thought of you leaving (or for you to actually move on) for those feelings to snap in place. It can be different with each Aqua. Sometimes it's just an honest conversation about your true feelings that gets things moving. Don't worry so much about the silence or downtime right now. You spoken your truth, now let him mull it over.Posted by Chuckcem
As one of the many Leos who has dated (and been confused by an Aqua), you have to understand that as our opposite sign Aquas have a different perspective concerning time than we do. To us 3 weeks is a loooong time, not so much for them.
One of the main characteristics that throws people off is an Aqua's disappearing act. While they may disappear for many reasons, if I had to guess your Aqua is figuring out his feelings for you. Aquas will also disappear if they have NO interest in you or are upset with you. Since he reached back out to you about the concert, I'd guess that there is some interest on his part (and that he's not angry at you).
Aquariuses also spend a lot of time in their heads than their hearts. So he may not readily understand that 3 weeks of silence hurts you. You may just need to let him know, "Hey just a heads up, it makes me feel odd when you stop talking to me out of nowhere. Do me a favor and be mindful of that. Getting back to me in a more reasonable amount of time would make me feel better." Sometimes Aquas need to be calmly informed when their actions are unconventional or hurtful to those around them. Don't get upset, just tell him straight.
THAT all being said, if this Aqua doesn't seem to change his tune and be more mindful of your feelings just let him know, "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know." Then let him go.
Be honest with him and then back off to give him the freedom to CHOOSE you. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. There are far too many stories of Aquas confronting their own feelings when faced with loss. This may be the spark that gets him moving. It's possible that he starts chasing when you wind up with someone else too. You never know with Aquas, so expect the unexpected.
Then again, it's also possible that he lets you leave to pursue other interests. Be sure to plan for this outcome as well. Aquas are not generally possessive until they find that ONE person they can invest all of their love. They believe in being free and giving people their freedom too. As a result it is very likely he'll give you the freedom to roam, not understanding that you need him to be more possessive of you. In which case you may find that another guy can provide you with the warmth you require.
My advice is to be direct with him and to stop playing the friend card, since it doesn't sound like that's truly what you want. You seem to want more than his friendship at this point. Also sounds like you're in this weird limbo at the moment and you're unsure how to proceed. Leo to Leo my advice is to always go for the person who is most enthusiastic to be with you. You may find that he is emotionally unable to provide you with the attention you need to feel comfortable. Don't take it personally, just move on with your life.
Thank you for your such detailed response!! I really appreciate your answer (as many others have stated as well in the following responses).
I basically did my best to say to him your suggested comment: "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know."
And...
I didn't tell him ... in person...
I got really nervous and called him after the concert. He was on the public transportation system. He stated that he appreciated that I brought up the topic and he would like to have the conversation in a more private place where he felt more comfortable talking about it. He said he would reach out to me sometime this weekend to talk about it.
This was definitely not the response I was thinking would happen...and now I just continue on with my day(s). This is so weird!! I don't know what this behavior means. I just feel like if he doesn't like me, and he should say it as is instead of prolonging a heartbreak...
Now I am just sad.
Aquas can be VERY private with their emotions, so it makes sense that he'd want to talk when he wasn't out in public. This is normal. Aquas can be awkward with emotions. Just give him the time he needs. He'll be in touch with you, don't worry. In the meantime, go about your own life and act as if you'll never hear from him again (I don't mean to start dating other men right away), but mentally adjust to the thought that you may need to move on to other options.
My Aries moon is lovin this!!click to expand
Posted by -Flo-Hahaha, fire is easy for us Leo folk. So you're rockin an fire moon, what are the other placements?Posted by ChuckcemWell you know what they say.. opposites attract. Handling this fire isn't easy for most men ?Posted by -Flo-It's funny, I have slowly noticed that I'm surrounded by Aries enerfy. I wouldn't be surprised if I wound up with an Aries Moon woman.Posted by Chuckcem??Posted by -Flo-Hahah, indeed I am and thank you for the Selena Gomez kiss.Posted by ChuckcemSo... are you single?Posted by xo_leoOh this isn't bad. I have no clue what he'll say, but everything looks generally positive. Aquas need need NEED to sort through their feelings. Sometimes they need the thought of you leaving (or for you to actually move on) for those feelings to snap in place. It can be different with each Aqua. Sometimes it's just an honest conversation about your true feelings that gets things moving. Don't worry so much about the silence or downtime right now. You spoken your truth, now let him mull it over.Posted by Chuckcem
As one of the many Leos who has dated (and been confused by an Aqua), you have to understand that as our opposite sign Aquas have a different perspective concerning time than we do. To us 3 weeks is a loooong time, not so much for them.
One of the main characteristics that throws people off is an Aqua's disappearing act. While they may disappear for many reasons, if I had to guess your Aqua is figuring out his feelings for you. Aquas will also disappear if they have NO interest in you or are upset with you. Since he reached back out to you about the concert, I'd guess that there is some interest on his part (and that he's not angry at you).
Aquariuses also spend a lot of time in their heads than their hearts. So he may not readily understand that 3 weeks of silence hurts you. You may just need to let him know, "Hey just a heads up, it makes me feel odd when you stop talking to me out of nowhere. Do me a favor and be mindful of that. Getting back to me in a more reasonable amount of time would make me feel better." Sometimes Aquas need to be calmly informed when their actions are unconventional or hurtful to those around them. Don't get upset, just tell him straight.
THAT all being said, if this Aqua doesn't seem to change his tune and be more mindful of your feelings just let him know, "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know." Then let him go.
Be honest with him and then back off to give him the freedom to CHOOSE you. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. There are far too many stories of Aquas confronting their own feelings when faced with loss. This may be the spark that gets him moving. It's possible that he starts chasing when you wind up with someone else too. You never know with Aquas, so expect the unexpected.
Then again, it's also possible that he lets you leave to pursue other interests. Be sure to plan for this outcome as well. Aquas are not generally possessive until they find that ONE person they can invest all of their love. They believe in being free and giving people their freedom too. As a result it is very likely he'll give you the freedom to roam, not understanding that you need him to be more possessive of you. In which case you may find that another guy can provide you with the warmth you require.
My advice is to be direct with him and to stop playing the friend card, since it doesn't sound like that's truly what you want. You seem to want more than his friendship at this point. Also sounds like you're in this weird limbo at the moment and you're unsure how to proceed. Leo to Leo my advice is to always go for the person who is most enthusiastic to be with you. You may find that he is emotionally unable to provide you with the attention you need to feel comfortable. Don't take it personally, just move on with your life.
Thank you for your such detailed response!! I really appreciate your answer (as many others have stated as well in the following responses).
I basically did my best to say to him your suggested comment: "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know."
And...
I didn't tell him ... in person...
I got really nervous and called him after the concert. He was on the public transportation system. He stated that he appreciated that I brought up the topic and he would like to have the conversation in a more private place where he felt more comfortable talking about it. He said he would reach out to me sometime this weekend to talk about it.
This was definitely not the response I was thinking would happen...and now I just continue on with my day(s). This is so weird!! I don't know what this behavior means. I just feel like if he doesn't like me, and he should say it as is instead of prolonging a heartbreak...
Now I am just sad.
Aquas can be VERY private with their emotions, so it makes sense that he'd want to talk when he wasn't out in public. This is normal. Aquas can be awkward with emotions. Just give him the time he needs. He'll be in touch with you, don't worry. In the meantime, go about your own life and act as if you'll never hear from him again (I don't mean to start dating other men right away), but mentally adjust to the thought that you may need to move on to other options.
My Aries moon is lovin this!!click to expand
Posted by -Flo-Interesting, so you're go with the flow, but possibly a little impulsive and a bit scattered with what you want, would that be a decent guess? Your Aqua and Pisces makes me think you aren't looking to be pinned down, but you are still looking for that special companionship nonetheless. The Gemini Mars and Arie Moon makes me think that you can be pretty chatty with some nervous energy thrown in, so you prefer to stay active.Posted by ChuckcemAqua sunPosted by -Flo-Hahaha, fire is easy for us Leo folk. So you're rockin an fire moon, what are the other placements?Posted by ChuckcemWell you know what they say.. opposites attract. Handling this fire isn't easy for most men ?Posted by -Flo-It's funny, I have slowly noticed that I'm surrounded by Aries enerfy. I wouldn't be surprised if I wound up with an Aries Moon woman.Posted by Chuckcem??Posted by -Flo-Hahah, indeed I am and thank you for the Selena Gomez kiss.Posted by ChuckcemSo... are you single?Posted by xo_leoOh this isn't bad. I have no clue what he'll say, but everything looks generally positive. Aquas need need NEED to sort through their feelings. Sometimes they need the thought of you leaving (or for you to actually move on) for those feelings to snap in place. It can be different with each Aqua. Sometimes it's just an honest conversation about your true feelings that gets things moving. Don't worry so much about the silence or downtime right now. You spoken your truth, now let him mull it over.Posted by Chuckcem
As one of the many Leos who has dated (and been confused by an Aqua), you have to understand that as our opposite sign Aquas have a different perspective concerning time than we do. To us 3 weeks is a loooong time, not so much for them.
One of the main characteristics that throws people off is an Aqua's disappearing act. While they may disappear for many reasons, if I had to guess your Aqua is figuring out his feelings for you. Aquas will also disappear if they have NO interest in you or are upset with you. Since he reached back out to you about the concert, I'd guess that there is some interest on his part (and that he's not angry at you).
Aquariuses also spend a lot of time in their heads than their hearts. So he may not readily understand that 3 weeks of silence hurts you. You may just need to let him know, "Hey just a heads up, it makes me feel odd when you stop talking to me out of nowhere. Do me a favor and be mindful of that. Getting back to me in a more reasonable amount of time would make me feel better." Sometimes Aquas need to be calmly informed when their actions are unconventional or hurtful to those around them. Don't get upset, just tell him straight.
THAT all being said, if this Aqua doesn't seem to change his tune and be more mindful of your feelings just let him know, "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know." Then let him go.
Be honest with him and then back off to give him the freedom to CHOOSE you. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. There are far too many stories of Aquas confronting their own feelings when faced with loss. This may be the spark that gets him moving. It's possible that he starts chasing when you wind up with someone else too. You never know with Aquas, so expect the unexpected.
Then again, it's also possible that he lets you leave to pursue other interests. Be sure to plan for this outcome as well. Aquas are not generally possessive until they find that ONE person they can invest all of their love. They believe in being free and giving people their freedom too. As a result it is very likely he'll give you the freedom to roam, not understanding that you need him to be more possessive of you. In which case you may find that another guy can provide you with the warmth you require.
My advice is to be direct with him and to stop playing the friend card, since it doesn't sound like that's truly what you want. You seem to want more than his friendship at this point. Also sounds like you're in this weird limbo at the moment and you're unsure how to proceed. Leo to Leo my advice is to always go for the person who is most enthusiastic to be with you. You may find that he is emotionally unable to provide you with the attention you need to feel comfortable. Don't take it personally, just move on with your life.
Thank you for your such detailed response!! I really appreciate your answer (as many others have stated as well in the following responses).
I basically did my best to say to him your suggested comment: "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know."
And...
I didn't tell him ... in person...
I got really nervous and called him after the concert. He was on the public transportation system. He stated that he appreciated that I brought up the topic and he would like to have the conversation in a more private place where he felt more comfortable talking about it. He said he would reach out to me sometime this weekend to talk about it.
This was definitely not the response I was thinking would happen...and now I just continue on with my day(s). This is so weird!! I don't know what this behavior means. I just feel like if he doesn't like me, and he should say it as is instead of prolonging a heartbreak...
Now I am just sad.
Aquas can be VERY private with their emotions, so it makes sense that he'd want to talk when he wasn't out in public. This is normal. Aquas can be awkward with emotions. Just give him the time he needs. He'll be in touch with you, don't worry. In the meantime, go about your own life and act as if you'll never hear from him again (I don't mean to start dating other men right away), but mentally adjust to the thought that you may need to move on to other options.
My Aries moon is lovin this!!
Aqua merc
Gemini Mars
Pisces Venus
Gemini rising
click to expand
Posted by -Flo-😉 I should start a DXP dating game of something on here.
@chuckcem
You're the aqua pussy whisperer
Posted by -Flo-Nice, that was just a guess too!Posted by ChuckcemAmazing.. yes to all the bold 🙂Posted by -Flo-Interesting, so you're go with the flow, but possibly a little impulsive and a bit scattered with what you want, would that be a decent guess? Your Aqua and Pisces makes me think you aren't looking to be pinned down, but you are still looking for that special companionship nonetheless. The Gemini Mars and Arie Moon makes me think that you can be pretty chatty with some nervous energy thrown in, so you prefer to stay activePosted by ChuckcemAqua sunPosted by -Flo-Hahaha, fire is easy for us Leo folk. So you're rockin an fire moon, what are the other placements?Posted by ChuckcemWell you know what they say.. opposites attract. Handling this fire isn't easy for most men ?Posted by -Flo-It's funny, I have slowly noticed that I'm surrounded by Aries enerfy. I wouldn't be surprised if I wound up with an Aries Moon woman.Posted by Chuckcem??Posted by -Flo-Hahah, indeed I am and thank you for the Selena Gomez kiss.Posted by ChuckcemSo... are you single?Posted by xo_leoOh this isn't bad. I have no clue what he'll say, but everything looks generally positive. Aquas need need NEED to sort through their feelings. Sometimes they need the thought of you leaving (or for you to actually move on) for those feelings to snap in place. It can be different with each Aqua. Sometimes it's just an honest conversation about your true feelings that gets things moving. Don't worry so much about the silence or downtime right now. You spoken your truth, now let him mull it over.Posted by Chuckcem
As one of the many Leos who has dated (and been confused by an Aqua), you have to understand that as our opposite sign Aquas have a different perspective concerning time than we do. To us 3 weeks is a loooong time, not so much for them.
One of the main characteristics that throws people off is an Aqua's disappearing act. While they may disappear for many reasons, if I had to guess your Aqua is figuring out his feelings for you. Aquas will also disappear if they have NO interest in you or are upset with you. Since he reached back out to you about the concert, I'd guess that there is some interest on his part (and that he's not angry at you).
Aquariuses also spend a lot of time in their heads than their hearts. So he may not readily understand that 3 weeks of silence hurts you. You may just need to let him know, "Hey just a heads up, it makes me feel odd when you stop talking to me out of nowhere. Do me a favor and be mindful of that. Getting back to me in a more reasonable amount of time would make me feel better." Sometimes Aquas need to be calmly informed when their actions are unconventional or hurtful to those around them. Don't get upset, just tell him straight.
THAT all being said, if this Aqua doesn't seem to change his tune and be more mindful of your feelings just let him know, "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know." Then let him go.
Be honest with him and then back off to give him the freedom to CHOOSE you. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. There are far too many stories of Aquas confronting their own feelings when faced with loss. This may be the spark that gets him moving. It's possible that he starts chasing when you wind up with someone else too. You never know with Aquas, so expect the unexpected.
Then again, it's also possible that he lets you leave to pursue other interests. Be sure to plan for this outcome as well. Aquas are not generally possessive until they find that ONE person they can invest all of their love. They believe in being free and giving people their freedom too. As a result it is very likely he'll give you the freedom to roam, not understanding that you need him to be more possessive of you. In which case you may find that another guy can provide you with the warmth you require.
My advice is to be direct with him and to stop playing the friend card, since it doesn't sound like that's truly what you want. You seem to want more than his friendship at this point. Also sounds like you're in this weird limbo at the moment and you're unsure how to proceed. Leo to Leo my advice is to always go for the person who is most enthusiastic to be with you. You may find that he is emotionally unable to provide you with the attention you need to feel comfortable. Don't take it personally, just move on with your life.
Thank you for your such detailed response!! I really appreciate your answer (as many others have stated as well in the following responses).
I basically did my best to say to him your suggested comment: "Hey I enjoy our time together and I also have feelings for you. It doesn't appear that you feel the same way though, so I'm going to start looking for someone who can reciprocate my feelings. If you want something more with me, let me know."
And...
I didn't tell him ... in person...
I got really nervous and called him after the concert. He was on the public transportation system. He stated that he appreciated that I brought up the topic and he would like to have the conversation in a more private place where he felt more comfortable talking about it. He said he would reach out to me sometime this weekend to talk about it.
This was definitely not the response I was thinking would happen...and now I just continue on with my day(s). This is so weird!! I don't know what this behavior means. I just feel like if he doesn't like me, and he should say it as is instead of prolonging a heartbreak...
Now I am just sad.
Aquas can be VERY private with their emotions, so it makes sense that he'd want to talk when he wasn't out in public. This is normal. Aquas can be awkward with emotions. Just give him the time he needs. He'll be in touch with you, don't worry. In the meantime, go about your own life and act as if you'll never hear from him again (I don't mean to start dating other men right away), but mentally adjust to the thought that you may need to move on to other options.
My Aries moon is lovin this!!
Aqua merc
Gemini Mars
Pisces Venus
Gemini rising
My Gemini mars is in 12th and all my placements are in water/earth houses. So it may seem that I'm a little wild flowy outside but I really crave stability and comfort with passion. Once I set my mind on something I go after it and ride it through. I only talk to those I like but I'm more to myself if anything.click to expand
Posted by xo_leoJust breathe. It's good to start mentally moving on, but don't be surprised if/when he comes back ready to talk. Again Aquas run on their own time, even breaking their OWN schedules. I completely understand that you're annoyed by his behavior. He may even be sorting out his own personal issues at the moment. Do your own thing, but don't be worked up when he finally does contact you. Just be calm, cordial, and let him know what's on your mind.
Well the weekend has pretty much passed and nothing.
I understand if he needs to sort out his feelings, but I find it extremely inconsiderate when I shared my feelings and had no response.
I'm done. I can't respect anyone who doesn't considers people's feelings. (Maybe he does, but thinking about it doesn't do anything).
I wouldn't mind getting rejected, but it would have been nice to know. So now I don't care.
The friendship or whatever it was, is done in my book.
Thank you all for supporting me in thinking through this process, but I deserve someone who considers my feelings (and more) just as much as I am considering this guy's feelings who isn't giving much.
*peace*
You can be called an Aquarius's friend (and then possibly lover) only when he no longer ghosts you, no matter what the reason may be, and the communication is natural, flowy and consistent. This is very difficult to achieve, reason for which they are also very difficult to be paired with, especially in terms of romance.
Aquarius is not for everyone and almost nobody has the patience to work on gaining the trust and winning the heart of this beautiful creature. The best thing to do is to realize if you have the energy and the will to work on it or if you want someone that is more close to your expectations in terms of emotional compatibility. And 99% is the latter, which is advisable.
Aquarius is not for everyone and almost nobody has the patience to work on gaining the trust and winning the heart of this beautiful creature. The best thing to do is to realize if you have the energy and the will to work on it or if you want someone that is more close to your expectations in terms of emotional compatibility. And 99% is the latter, which is advisable.
As an aqua the questions would drive me nuts my mums a Taurus and she asks me stuff like what I'm doing that day etc and it frustrates the hell out of me most of the time I don't know what I'm doing in the next 5 mins let alone the next day
Then there's the where's this going question please don't ask this you need to relax and go with the flow I have a feeling if you do this he will make a move on you that night!
Personally all the questions would drive me nuts and put me off if I'm going to choose a partner or I'm getting with someone new I don't like rigid structure instead of asking him what he's doing for the rest of the day just say do you fancy coffee? If he says no I'm busy try another day or leave the ball in his court!
Good luck
Then there's the where's this going question please don't ask this you need to relax and go with the flow I have a feeling if you do this he will make a move on you that night!
Personally all the questions would drive me nuts and put me off if I'm going to choose a partner or I'm getting with someone new I don't like rigid structure instead of asking him what he's doing for the rest of the day just say do you fancy coffee? If he says no I'm busy try another day or leave the ball in his court!
Good luck
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