How to end friendship with Aqua guy?

A lot happened with this Aqua guy I know. At one point we were really close and talked about everything, but now he's changed. We barely talk, and when we do, it's about what HE wants to talk about. Sometimes he calls and we'll just be on the phone..not talking. I've tried to end it so many times, but he still calls, and gets mad/ yells. Last night I left a brief text saying I'm 'over the friendship', he's continued to call, and I feel really bad. Do most Aquas do this? He's a good guy, but he has hurt my feelings a few times, and I just feel like the friendship has run it's course. Any experiences or suggestions?

If you told him, why do you keep taking his calls? Just don't answer.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
If you told him, why do you keep taking his calls? Just don't answer.

I've answered in the past, but this time I've stopped.

Posted by mgmtlove

Posted by aquapiscescusp
If you told him, why do you keep taking his calls? Just don't answer.

I've answered in the past, but this time I've stopped.

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Yeah, that might do the trick??_ until you feel better about your friendship.

No time for people who hurt you.

I have known aquas who don't understand basic human common sense regarding human ettiquitte and emotions. He probably just don't get.

The other thing is Aquas like everyone and will socialize with everyone and more often than not its based on what they want. That's not to say they don't care or are self righteous or arrogant, but that's just how they are.

If you can't handle a friend like that, its not a bad thing. Its just you are better suited for different kind of freindship.

If necessary, have a face to face direct conversation with him about it or you can do what other people suggested and just stop answering.

Posted by IAmMystified
I have known aquas who don't understand basic human common sense regarding human ettiquitte and emotions. He probably just don't get.

The other thing is Aquas like everyone and will socialize with everyone and more often than not its based on what they want. That's not to say they don't care or are self righteous or arrogant, but that's just how they are.

If you can't handle a friend like that, its not a bad thing. Its just you are better suited for different kind of freindship.

If necessary, have a face to face direct conversation with him about it or you can do what other people suggested and just stop answering.

Yeah, he's like that. I've asked for "time apart" because it was exhausting talking to him every single day ( for many reasons), and he would call the next day, or just wait a few hours. I remember one time he said " I'll be here whether to want me to or not" which is basically making me feel forced to be his friend..

"How to end friendship with Aqua guy?"

I think this should work for anyone...

Tell him you are not his friend and please not to contact you anymore.
Tell yourself not to contact him anymore.
Delete him from your life (phone number, facebook... everything).
Don't contact him nor let him contact you.
If you are forced to deal with him in real life, make it clear that you are not his friend.
If he doesn't stop pestering you, consider filing a restraining order against him.
Fin.

@mgmlove that's how they are. When I'm mad at my aqua friend, he'll give me space for like a few hours or a day, then the next day he'll act like me being mad never happened and talk to me again, and I'd get mad at him telling him..."Don't act like yesterday didn't happen." THen he'll give me space again for like a day again, then act normal again.

They go with the flow so even if he knows you don't want to be his friend, he's your friend in his eyes anyway. Even if he doesn't talk to you for a year, the next time you see him, he'd act like you never spent time apart.

LOL. Guess your only solution is to block his number.

Both of you need to take responsibility. You teach people how to treat you. If you allow someone to continuously mistreat you, some of that blame is on YOU. The person who allows mistreatment is just as guilty as the person who actually mistreats you.

When you tell someone that you're done & yet you show them that you're really not done, you are enabling & condoning their behavior, which is why the same pattern and cycle often continues.

You keep answering his calls. You respond to him. So the question isn't "Why would he keep calling?" The real question is, "Why wouldn't he?"

If a person tells me that I've wronged them in some way & then talks of cutting me off, I apologize & accept the fate b/c people have a right to feel how they feel. BUT, when they come back or respond to my advances to mend things, I have every reason to believe that they have let it go & perhaps were just mad in the moment or that what I did/said wasn't technically deal breaking. And if I feel like I even have a small opening of mending things, of course I'll come back on a lighter note.

Why would I call you back & say, "Hey, I hope you're still mad at me!" lol No I'm going to feed off your willingness to talk & try to mend things, soften the blow or break the ice. It comes off as trying to act like it never happened, but with me personally, I'm not going to continue begging someone or focusing on what went wrong. If you keep responding, I'm going to begin to assume that there's a chance to mend things, so in that case, why would I come back with guns in hand?!

Had your friend kept calling to talk negatively or constantly bring up the past, you'd be complaining about that too. So it's a lose/lose.

If you're done, be done. Don't blame the other person b/c YOU are not done. If your friend's advances are annoying & if the friendship has run it's course, COOL, but do your part & stop responding!

Tell him you're in love with him and want to get married and have lots and lots of babies with him!!!







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@FebAqua Although I still don't understand Aquas in most ways, I do understand like someone said his pattern of unpredictability.

- I do know now that him being quiet isn't becuase he's pissed he's "self focused" or focused on 1 thing. He's said times before that unless he takes care of something right then. He'll forget to do it. I am still trying to learn not to take it personally.

- When he has his buddy time and wants me to join in, sometimes I'll decline becuase I've learned with the independence they seek, too much of a good thing gets taken for granted sometimes. So to keep things fresh I'll not always accept every invite and that's okay. He's the type to take things for granted subconsciously when things become too predictable to him.

- I do know that he loves intelligent conversations with women moreso than goofy conversation (not to say he won't ever have that kinda situation) but more often than not that's with his male friends.