How to end things properly with an Aqua guy?

Many of you know or have read my situation with my Aqua guy. I love this man very much, but he has a lot of emotional stress that he needs to figure out. He is at a very delicate stage of his life right now.

He asked to be alone for the next two days in which I totally support and feel is the best for him. He appreciated my support for his space. However, considering the advice from others, I am really leaning towards just walking away from him all together for my sake.

As mentioned before, I love and care so much for this man. But its been a roller coaster due to his flighty, heart- led (not logically led) decisions.

How can I walk away from an Aqua man who is at a delicate stage in his life, without causing anymore pain in his life? I would like to be friends with him though... and hopes that he would miss me as I know I would with him.

Thank you,

Milani

Being honest is probably the best choice in this matter. Despite his sensitivity, the truth could toughen him up.

Always be honest about your intentions, because about his intentions I am not exactly burning my hand for it. He may do anything in these two days. He maybe wants to be sure you will not contact him, so he can see her without creating more havoc, as the "good morning" text. An honest man will confront his ex about his freedom, forbid her to touch his phone and his social media accounts, he will add you back on FB and so on. Something is fishy. Stay away. I am no longer sure about how delicate this stage is, but he definitely enjoys being chased by two women.

As for the friendship, do not do it because it will confuse you even more and you will get stuck in false expectations, since you have feelings for him.

Thank you both

I texted my Aqua guy... I reiterated that I respect his decision to be alone, but asked him to call me. I would rather tell him over the phone that I'm moving on than through text.

I plan to tell him how I honestly feel about him - which I totally adore and care for him. But also state that I need to move on with my life. Its going to be incredibly hard for me to do because I love this man. But I know it will be the best thing for me.

I'm torn though... I just dont want to make a horrible mistake on letting him go when he could be telling the truth about him not being with his ex anymore.

I have to warn you that you have seen only his sweet side until now. You have not seen the full of him. Remember that he got into hot arguments with his ex, he told you he got kicked out of his place because of this, but who on earth would get rid of such a good roommate and for such a small argument? Really... he may be hot tempered as well, and sometimes they are, or only inflating things to get your attention, which is again a red flag. He blocked you, he did not defend you in front of his ex, his ex told you things about you that supposedly were found out from himself.. are you sure he is not playing double? I would keep my guard HIGH up and tell him to come to me only after clearing up everything and by himself, because I deserve better than just a warm pillow to lay his head on when he feels overwhelmed by his own mess!

And as a PS, I sent you a private message.

Thank you Compy, I did not receive your message yet...

Posted by MilaniKisses
I'm torn though... I just dont want to make a horrible mistake on letting him go when he could be telling the truth about him not being with his ex anymore.

How can I walk away from an Aqua man who is at a delicate stage in his life, without causing anymore pain in his life? I would like to be friends with him though... and hopes that he would miss me as I know I would with him.

You need to walk away from this asap. The problem is that the Virgo in you is trying to calculate and understand a problem is bigger than yourself. You want to help and or fix this situation. The drama of it all has you hooked and you can't see how toxic this all is.

Also let's be real, you're not looking for his friendship. This is not how friends act or how quality friendships are formed. You don't help a friend in the hopes that they value or miss you more in the future.

Let's recap:

1) This guy requests that you stop talking to other guys

2) Lies about his feelings for his ex

3) Goes back to his ex and lies to you about it

4) Dumps you for his ex

5) Comes back to you when things don't work out with his ex. Who is more than likely carrying his child

6) (Based on your other post) He admitted to still having feelings for his ex...the one who is still around.

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/is-an-aqua-done-with-someone-when-they-initiate-the-ending-of-two--8272668/?checkpg=1

On the way back to his current place, he asked me if I would move in with him one day since the roommate takes renter couples. It was nice to hear as he sees himself with me... I told him that we need to get pass this situation with his ex and that we would have to be committed before even considering that.

Another thing he said to me was "everything with you works out great and goals are met... I'm really doubting the success of getting back with me ex."

Seems pretty obvious to me that he's going to put you in a position to use you both emotionally and financially.

Thank you Chuck... I'm seriously thinking about it. It made me depressed again, and I just can't emotionally handle of this... I don't want to give up, but his actions are making me sad and upset a lot. The bad is starting to out weigh the good...

Hey Milani

Chuckem and others can probably give you better advice than I can as I can only speak from recent experiences. To be honest I have found people on DXP of great help and they also have given me some really sound advice.

The one thing I can say from experience is that Aquas are very unpredictable people. I found myself on DXP when I was looking for answers to the way my Aqua broke up with me.

Sure I made some mistakes too, but in the grand scheme of things I don't think my mistakes were as big as my ex's.

Anyways moving back onto you, I think the best thing for you to do is to break up with him on YOUR terms and WHAT makes you happy in this situation and what is RIGHT for you.

Each Aqua although have some similar characteristics is different. They are unconventional to people who seems to do things the regular way, ie enter and exit relationships or try to make sense of the break up.

I have spent the last 7 months of my life trying to rationalise things and make sense of them. I have found that in the end it doesn't matter. If YOU want to walk away from your aqua then do it on your terms. Protect yourself. They are very good at being manipulative and under that sweet exterior lies a maze that only Rubics can figure out lol.

I understand how hard it is, my Aqua broke me and I am a very strong and confident person. But the good thing about being broken is that you can rebuild yourself to be a stronger person.

You need to decide if you want to close the door forever or keep it open in the future. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you have a good think about it stick to what you decide to do.

Good Luck

Posted by MrR78
Hey Milani

Chuckem and others can probably give you better advice than I can as I can only speak from recent experiences. To be honest I have found people on DXP of great help and they also have given me some really sound advice.

The one thing I can say from experience is that Aquas are very unpredictable people. I found myself on DXP when I was looking for answers to the way my Aqua broke up with me.

Sure I made some mistakes too, but in the grand scheme of things I don't think my mistakes were as big as my ex's.

Anyways moving back onto you, I think the best thing for you to do is to break up with him on YOUR terms and WHAT makes you happy in this situation and what is RIGHT for you.

Each Aqua although have some similar characteristics is different. They are unconventional to people who seems to do things the regular way, ie enter and exit relationships or try to make sense of the break up.

I have spent the last 7 months of my life trying to rationalise things and make sense of them. I have found that in the end it doesn't matter. If YOU want to walk away from your aqua then do it on your terms. Protect yourself. They are very good at being manipulative and under that sweet exterior lies a maze that only Rubics can figure out lol.

I understand how hard it is, my Aqua broke me and I am a very strong and confident person. But the good thing about being broken is that you can rebuild yourself to be a stronger person.

You need to decide if you want to close the door forever or keep it open in the future. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you have a good think about it stick to what you decide to do.

Good Luck

Thank you MrR78. Yesterday I was depressed and sad over the situation.... This morning I woke up with a sense of clarity and a gut feeling of what I know I need to do. Simply, I've decided to move on with my life. I dont want to wait around for when he 'needs space' or disappears. Its too much emotional stress for me.

*UPDATE*

I tried calling him... He seriously went rouge and changed his phone number. For myself, I need closure, so I logged onto a different FB account and messaged him through there. I told him to take care of himself and that I am moving on... It hurts, but I feel relieved.

Good for you. Now stay strong