How to handle non-typical Aquarius energy

So I have a few women friends who are Aquarius and I even dated a badly emotional Aquarius a couple years ago. (We are now pseudo friends). Recently I found myself chatting with an Aquarius and we went out last week. Great...however he was nothing like I anticipated him to be. Meaning, he seems aggressive and even made the first move regarding asking me out again and tried to kiss me...I think...I say think because he leaned in but then kissed my cheek when I thought for sure he would aim for the lips...anyway, its been a few days since Ive heard from him (when we had been communicating consistently prior) so now Im a little stumped or where to put intention. Im not "too concerned" because I know that he is currently out of town.

My second odd Aquarius energy is with a coworker/friend/frenemy thats somewhat disconcerting, especially because he is a gay man. A few months ago we got REALLY close. Hanging out and talking every day. I loved hanging out with him because he was so spontaneous and new! Then...I started hanging out with another coworker and sh*t hit the fan. He got upset because he felt I liked her more than he. He is now oddly obsessed with me, does little things to try to annoy me and constantly comes up to me asking if I "remember when we were friends"... he will take something of mine just so I have an excuse to see him, just ODD things. There was no reason for this, Ive told him that I can have more than one friend...so I was confused why he's so upset... Its elementary (we are both in our mid twenties basically) to me and VERY confusing because neither of the written above scenarios are familiar Aquarius terrain for me....

Anyway, any advice or comment is appreciated.

To add - I was all ready for the first aquarius to be aloof/distant because that's just what seems to happy until they flutter back but he came on so strong and now seems to be settling down. We do have plans for this week coming but the silence is kinda throwing me off.

Surprisingly there's nothing stereotypical about Aquas... oh wait... not so surprising I suppose.

You probably haven't met and aqua with a Venus in aries a sexual aqua is the best aqua 😛