How to win an aqua guy back...

as you all know, my aqua guy of 2 years broke up with me. i am a very strong person, but i cannot seem to get over him and all i want is to have him back in my life...any suggestions—

aquaaqi...

this is the 3rd time he broke up with me, as gl said. so it is sometimes hard to take him seriously, and in this case there was no real closure or any real explanation so it makes it 100 times harder. he already half ass broke with me once (the first time)after an arguement, the second time he needed a break and wanted space, and this time he called me up and cancelled dinner plans with me to tell me he's not feeling it anymore.

gl and prime...

i know that i need to move on and i have been going out with friends, focusing on my career, doing things for me, etc. and some days i feel really strong and other days i break down.

sometimes, i can't help but feel that in some way, i caused this break up. about a month before he broke up with me, we got into a little arguement and i told him that i was putting all of my effort, energy, love into the relationship and he was giving nothing back and i was getting tired of it. he didn't say anything back or argue it at all, which is not like him. instead, he left the room and went and sat down in another room and did not say a word. i knew, at that moment, that he was thinking about what i said and realizing that he couldn't give me anymore...

he told me 3 weeks later that he had been really thinking a lot about what i had said and it really bothered him. i believe that it bothered him so much b/c it was the truth and there was nothing he could do about it... i think he felt that he could not invest any more of himself into the relationship and he knew i was unhappy. but now that i am apart from him, i feel even more unhappy.

gl...did you read what i wrote above— he did have feelings for me, and i believe he still does. he never believed that i truly loved him or appreciated him for who he is...and like prime said, what i said to him was not right... i don't think that either him or i are at fault. there were things he said/did that were not right and vice versa. but i am pretty sure that what i talked about above is what sent him running.

prime... trust me, i have done quite some reflecting about the situation in the last month. i realize that what i said probably really hurt him considering he treated me like a princess for the majority of our relationship. even up until the last days together, he would still open my car door, pump my gas for me, go out of his way to make sure I was happy, etc. i really messed up, and now i am realizing it.

so prime, is there any hope for me to be with him again or is it too late? would you ever take someone back that you still had lingering feelings for if she said what i had said? or would you be too concerned that there is trouble for the future?

wow prime...that's pretty harsh. what do you mean by change my tone—

put a call block on my number...that is not right. it's not like i am stalking him or anything...and it's not like i am a bad person to the point that he would never want to talk to me again.

and yes, it was a low blow but i was just expressing my feelings. he really wasn't putting much effort into the relationship in the last 2 months. i was just speaking my mind.

"That's exactly what I'm talking about! What in that is suppose to motivate him to change, to be what you want? Why does he have to change to fit what you want?"

I will never change for anybody, so don't try to change or dictate me....I'm not adaptable in some circumtances.....I'm just willing to be myself, do what i want to do as long as i think it doesn't harm anybody

i'm dating with sag/cap cusp girl, who is very open minded, she accept me for who and what i am, thats a few what i like from her, like she is a religious, i'm not, she never push or ask me to go to her church

she like to have her lunch in restaurant A, but i prefer restaurant B, everytime she asked me to eat at restaurtand A, i told her "Restaurant B or no lunch or go there yourself", but she never complain....men should have some power, hehe

in return, i also give her freedom to do what she want to do, i never push her to go with my term

moonchild - im in the same boat as you. i screwed up with my aqua guy and im trying to figure out how to get him back. (not that you screwed up by expressing yourself, bc u did the right thing!) but anyway - ive thought about it and i dont think theyre really the forgiving type, and even if they want to forgive they wont bc they are too stubborn. i think the best you can do is give him space and dont contact him for a while. i know its going to be hard but i feel that may be ur best bet. ive gone months without talking to my aqua man and he'd randomly pop back into my life somehow.just wait til then. and maybe in the meantime u'll meet someone more worth ur time.

hey mr nice, haha i'm a scorp/sag cusp, but i see myself as more of a sag. how come you ask?