Met an aqua male about 3 months ago. Our conversations are good although they are via text and I usually initiate I get that aquas are good at communicating so I don't read to much into it but I do like talking to him. He's hard to read and I'm old fashion so I asked him to hang out a few times bc I like to get to know ppl in real life. He's turned me down politely each time. He said he would let me know but I think he was just being polite. A few times he's mentioned he's hanging with a friend. Which I'm assuming it's a female. I'm not sure if he mentioned it bc he is hunting he's interested in someone else. I prefer ppl just to shoot it to me straight. I'm putting no pressure on him, he said no I said ok. And I continuing being me. I'm interested in getting to know him as a friend, he seems like my kinda weird but it shouldn't be this hard to be someone's friend, right? Am I being impatient or is this just how it goes with aquas. Not sure what my next move should be..Move on or let it play out.
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Posted by Original_Copy37
any help would be greatly appreciated
Met an aqua male about 3 months ago. Our conversations are good although they are via text and I usually initiate I get that aquas are good at communicating so I don't read to much into it but I do like talking to him. He's hard to read and I'm old fashion so I asked him to hang out a few times bc I like to get to know ppl in real life. He's turned me down politely each time. He said he would let me know but I think he was just being polite. A few times he's mentioned he's hanging with a friend. Which I'm assuming it's a female. I'm not sure if he mentioned it bc he is hinting he's interested in someone else. I prefer ppl just to shoot it to me straight. I'm putting no pressure on him, he said no I said ok. And I continuing being me. I'm interested in getting to know him as a friend, he seems like my kinda weird but it shouldn't be this hard to be someone's friend, right? Am I being impatient or is this just how it goes with aquas. Not sure what my next move should be..Move on or let it play out.

What sign are you? What do you expect out of him? Does he know?
Thanks for responding 🙂
I'm a mature independent cancer moon child. Leo rising and moon in Pisces, march to the beat of my own drum type. I have Pluto in my third house if that helps identify why I'm asking...I always have to dig deep. Venus in Gemini and Mars in virgo! I have more fire, air, and earth in my chart then water. But I'm a cancer!
I have zero expectations..I was more blindsided, didn't see him coming. Does he know, no! Like I said I think it's easier to get to know someone in person which is why I asked him to hang.
I'm a mature independent cancer moon child. Leo rising and moon in Pisces, march to the beat of my own drum type. I have Pluto in my third house if that helps identify why I'm asking...I always have to dig deep. Venus in Gemini and Mars in virgo! I have more fire, air, and earth in my chart then water. But I'm a cancer!
I have zero expectations..I was more blindsided, didn't see him coming. Does he know, no! Like I said I think it's easier to get to know someone in person which is why I asked him to hang.

I believe you like him. Who initiated the contact? Aquas are friendly indeed and very difficult to deal with if you try to get something more out of them if they don't feel to go further. You should probably be very clear about it. But if he friendzoned you, it will stay like this for a while, no matter what you do.
Hmm! Very interesting. Then maybe I should wait till after this Venus retrograde, clearly my Emotions are alittle to outward.
Thank you for your advice 🙂 it was helpful.
Thank you for your advice 🙂 it was helpful.

I am also mature, as my Aqua man, in age, but he is still evolving, let's say. I am an air sign too. Truth works the best, but it depends on how it is laid out on the table. Anyway, do not fake it. Say it out, even if he corners you afterwards. At least you know what's next. But if he still avoids you for a date, he is doing it for a reason.
I prefer the truth! Shoot it to me straight at least I know where I stand. I might not like it lol but I can move on. I'm 7 years older and already been through lots of life's trials and tribulations so I know what I want and I'm not afraid to go after it
I dated a Gemini for a year and he was not evolved, well it was off and on for a year. Being a leo rising and having sagattitus on my fifth house I tend to attract fire and fire signs are more direct. My first time attracting air signs.
I dated a Gemini for a year and he was not evolved, well it was off and on for a year. Being a leo rising and having sagattitus on my fifth house I tend to attract fire and fire signs are more direct. My first time attracting air signs.

Ask him honestly and state what you want! Before triggering any "coffee" date! Be sincere! And if he goes on for it, he won't change his mind! Mine didn't!
Posted by compyHis response "it's not that I'm not interested. I'm kinda not interested in being with anyone if that makes sense".
Ask him honestly and state what you want! Before triggering any "coffee" date! Be sincere! And if he goes on for it, he won't change his mind! Mine didn't!
I'm not sure if it does make sense. So I'm going to let him be. Other fish in the sea 🙂
However I'm going miss our intellectual conversations.
agree with@compy. says what u want and he will give u the answer. that was what I did to my mature aqua after he said he fell in love with me and I didn't answer him instead I asked him what he wants from me and I told him what I want. after that we are agree and we are in a commited relationship after 6 months we get along. be honest and say how you feel. @Original_Copy37
Posted by Antero@Antero thank you for your advice. I told him I want to get to know him. However if he's not interested he needs to say so.... Paraphrasing but for the most part that's what I said.
agree with@compy. says what u want and he will give u the answer. that was what I did to my mature aqua after he said he fell in love with me and I didn't answer him instead I asked him what he wants from me and I told him what I want. after that we are agree and we are in a commited relationship after 6 months we get along. be honest and say how you feel. @Original_Copy37
His response was "it's not that I'm not interested. I'm kinda not interested in being with anyone if that makes sense" I wanted a yes or no bc that would be clearer. But not everything in life is black and white. So I'm just going to move on.
@Original_Copy37 so basicallly he's saying that he is interested in you but just doesn't want a relationship with you. That's what I'm thinking he's saying. Ohhhh those Aqua guys are something else!
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Hahahahhahahaha! Im pretty straight forward if I wanted to have sex with him. I would have asked him straight up to have sex.Posted by Original_Copy37Jeez! U are not interested in getting to know him as a friend.
Met an aqua male about 3 months ago. Our conversations are good although they are via text and I usually initiate I get that aquas are good at communicating so I don't read to much into it but I do like talking to him. He's hard to read and I'm old fashion so I asked him to hang out a few times bc I like to get to know ppl in real life. He's turned me down politely each time. He said he would let me know but I think he was just being polite. A few times he's mentioned he's hanging with a friend. Which I'm assuming it's a female. I'm not sure if he mentioned it bc he is hunting he's interested in someone else. I prefer ppl just to shoot it to me straight. I'm putting no pressure on him, he said no I said ok. And I continuing being me. I'm interested in getting to know him as a friend, he seems like my kinda weird but it shouldn't be this hard to be someone's friend, right? Am I being impatient or is this just how it goes with aquas. Not sure what my next move should be..Move on or let it play out.
U seem to think that using "friendship" as a decoy is your way to get him to got out with you... He is NOT interest in you even on a friendly level. Stop chasing men. He does NOT see you in the manner you would like. If you keep chasing him he will eventually give up and use you to have sex with... Nothing more...
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Posted by Original_Copy37And regardless how I feel towards him. I was just asking for advice. Just like if someone asked me about the inner workings of a cancer female. I apologize if my inquiry offended you in anyway to cause you to respond in such snarky manner.Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Hahahahhahahaha! Im pretty straight forward if I wanted to have sex with him. I would have asked him straight up to have sex.Posted by Original_Copy37Jeez! U are not interested in getting to know him as a friend.
Met an aqua male about 3 months ago. Our conversations are good although they are via text and I usually initiate I get that aquas are good at communicating so I don't read to much into it but I do like talking to him. He's hard to read and I'm old fashion so I asked him to hang out a few times bc I like to get to know ppl in real life. He's turned me down politely each time. He said he would let me know but I think he was just being polite. A few times he's mentioned he's hanging with a friend. Which I'm assuming it's a female. I'm not sure if he mentioned it bc he is hunting he's interested in someone else. I prefer ppl just to shoot it to me straight. I'm putting no pressure on him, he said no I said ok. And I continuing being me. I'm interested in getting to know him as a friend, he seems like my kinda weird but it shouldn't be this hard to be someone's friend, right? Am I being impatient or is this just how it goes with aquas. Not sure what my next move should be..Move on or let it play out.
U seem to think that using "friendship" as a decoy is your way to get him to got out with you... He is NOT interest in you even on a friendly level. Stop chasing men. He does NOT see you in the manner you would like. If you keep chasing him he will eventually give up and use you to have sex with... Nothing more...
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