wherearewenow
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Is this an aquarius thing or something darker?
The more I read about Aquas the more I realize meeting my Aqua was a mistake and further supports my decision not to reach out to her.
You guys can't expect people to be "on" in every circumstance. She was in her own home and wanted to be comfortable in her own damn space. Why would she need to entertain a roommate cause he wanted some attention. It's her house, does she need to go hide in her room to get quiet time?
People can be happy or sad or in different. It's called moods for a reason. Everyone has boundaries and needs to respect people choice for privacy. When she wants to entertain, she does. This is the reason why I can't keep female friends either. I don't reach out, and I don't care about losing people. I'm selfish and if I tell you I'm not the type to reach out, then by all means feel free to reach out to me.
I don't have many friends at all cause I don't keep in contact well but that doesn't mean I'm a psycho path just cause I don't want to smile in your face all the damn time.
This is not an "Aqua" trait, it's a human personality trait and if you can't accept the person for who she is, then she really doesn't need you in her life to begin with.
People can be happy or sad or in different. It's called moods for a reason. Everyone has boundaries and needs to respect people choice for privacy. When she wants to entertain, she does. This is the reason why I can't keep female friends either. I don't reach out, and I don't care about losing people. I'm selfish and if I tell you I'm not the type to reach out, then by all means feel free to reach out to me.
I don't have many friends at all cause I don't keep in contact well but that doesn't mean I'm a psycho path just cause I don't want to smile in your face all the damn time.
This is not an "Aqua" trait, it's a human personality trait and if you can't accept the person for who she is, then she really doesn't need you in her life to begin with.
Posted by saggurl88I definitely hear the selfish type. You've made many assumptions, jumped to the extremes, and ignored so much of what I wrote. Perfectly normal not to want to talk all the time. Not normal to not talk much at all to your new roommate in the course of a full week. Nobody said anything about needing you to smile all the time. That's just where you brought it.
You guys can't expect people to be "on" in every circumstance. She was in her own home and wanted to be comfortable in her own damn space. Why would she need to entertain a roommate cause he wanted some attention. It's her house, does she need to go hide in her room to get quiet time?
People can be happy or sad or in different. It's called moods for a reason. Everyone has boundaries and needs to respect people choice for privacy. When she wants to entertain, she does. This is the reason why I can't keep female friends either. I don't reach out, and I don't care about losing people. I'm selfish and if I tell you I'm not the type to reach out, then by all means feel free to reach out to me.
I don't have many friends at all cause I don't keep in contact well but that doesn't mean I'm a psycho path just cause I don't want to smile in your face all the damn time.
This is not an "Aqua" trait, it's a human personality trait and if you can't accept the person for who she is, then she really doesn't need you in her life to begin with.
Posted by wherearewenowWhy is it not normal to not talk to some one you moved in as a roommate? They aren't besties? Why does she need to talk to them. They are renting a space in her house and they are paying for that space. When she has something to say I'm sure she will say it but not everyone is that sociable. She outlined the house rules, what was the person expecting? It seems like they got the wrong idea of how it was gonna be once they moved in and had ulterior motives. Otherwise why would you care how a roommate is treating you, or rather not treating you?Posted by saggurl88I definitely hear the selfish type. You've made many assumptions, jumped to the extremes, and ignored so much of what I wrote. Perfectly normal not to want to talk all the time. Not normal to not talk much at all to your new roommate in the course of a full week. Nobody said anything about needing you to smile all the time. That's just where you brought it.
You guys can't expect people to be "on" in every circumstance. She was in her own home and wanted to be comfortable in her own damn space. Why would she need to entertain a roommate cause he wanted some attention. It's her house, does she need to go hide in her room to get quiet time?
People can be happy or sad or in different. It's called moods for a reason. Everyone has boundaries and needs to respect people choice for privacy. When she wants to entertain, she does. This is the reason why I can't keep female friends either. I don't reach out, and I don't care about losing people. I'm selfish and if I tell you I'm not the type to reach out, then by all means feel free to reach out to me.
I don't have many friends at all cause I don't keep in contact well but that doesn't mean I'm a psycho path just cause I don't want to smile in your face all the damn time.
This is not an "Aqua" trait, it's a human personality trait and if you can't accept the person for who she is, then she really doesn't need you in her life to begin with.
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I jumped to extremes but you called her a sociopath? lol
Just throw him in the bin
Posted by saggurl88Honestly, how does your mind work? Do you just read ten things, focus on one, ignore the other nine, and then rant about it? Do you need someone to be your bestie to merely say hi, hello, how was your day? Did you ignore the fact that we've been hanging out for more months and perfectly friendly in groups? She's referred to him as a friend, and calls him one.
Why is it not normal to not talk to some one you moved in as a roommate? They aren't besties? Why does she need to talk to them. They are renting a space in her house and they are paying for that space. When she has something to say I'm sure she will say it but not everyone is that sociable. She outlined the house rules, what was the person expecting? It seems like they got the wrong idea of how it was gonna be once they moved in and had ulterior motives. Otherwise why would you care how a roommate is treating you, or rather not treating you?
I jumped to extremes but you called her a sociopath? lol
Did you ignore the fact that even when she was living with her bestie, she acted the same way? Oh wait... yes you did ignore all that because your reading comprehension is terrible, yet you are very opinionated and seem to enjoy speaking down to people.
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Posted by wherearewenowHey you asked for an opinion and I gave it, don't like it? Not really my problem. That's what an opinion is for. When an Aqua jumps in here and tells you that you're right for calling her a sociopath cause she doesn't want to deal with people all the time, then I will tell you that you can shove my opinion up my ass but until then. šPosted by saggurl88Honestly, how does your mind work? Do you just read ten things, focus on one, ignore the other nine, and then rant about it? Do you need someone to be your bestie to merely say hi, hello, how was your day? Did you ignore the fact that we've been hanging out for more months and perfectly friendly in groups? She's referred to him as a friend, and calls him one.
Why is it not normal to not talk to some one you moved in as a roommate? They aren't besties? Why does she need to talk to them. They are renting a space in her house and they are paying for that space. When she has something to say I'm sure she will say it but not everyone is that sociable. She outlined the house rules, what was the person expecting? It seems like they got the wrong idea of how it was gonna be once they moved in and had ulterior motives. Otherwise why would you care how a roommate is treating you, or rather not treating you?
I jumped to extremes but you called her a sociopath? lol
Did you ignore the fact that even when she was living with her bestie, she acted the same way? Oh wait... yes you did ignore all that because your reading comprehension is terrible, yet you are very opinionated and seem to enjoy speaking down to people.
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You guys can't expect people to be "on" in every circumstance. She was in her own home and wanted to be comfortable in her own damn space. Why would she need to entertain a roommate cause he wanted some attention. It's her house, does she need to go hide in her room to get quiet time?
People can be happy or sad or in different. It's called moods for a reason. Everyone has boundaries and needs to respect people choice for privacy. When she wants to entertain, she does. This is the reason why I can't keep female friends either. I don't reach out, and I don't care about losing people. I'm selfish and if I tell you I'm not the type to reach out, then by all means feel free to reach out to me.
I don't have many friends at all cause I don't keep in contact well but that doesn't mean I'm a psycho path just cause I don't want to smile in your face all the damn time.
This is not an "Aqua" trait, it's a human personality trait and if you can't accept the person for who she is, then she really doesn't need you in her life to begin with.
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by saggurl88This is why you're my boo ā„
You guys can't expect people to be "on" in every circumstance. She was in her own home and wanted to be comfortable in her own damn space. Why would she need to entertain a roommate cause he wanted some attention. It's her house, does she need to go hide in her room to get quiet time?
People can be happy or sad or in different. It's called moods for a reason. Everyone has boundaries and needs to respect people choice for privacy. When she wants to entertain, she does. This is the reason why I can't keep female friends either. I don't reach out, and I don't care about losing people. I'm selfish and if I tell you I'm not the type to reach out, then by all means feel free to reach out to me.
I don't have many friends at all cause I don't keep in contact well but that doesn't mean I'm a psycho path just cause I don't want to smile in your face all the damn time.
This is not an "Aqua" trait, it's a human personality trait and if you can't accept the person for who she is, then she really doesn't need you in her life to begin with.click to expand
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by saggurl88This is why you're my boo ā„
You guys can't expect people to be "on" in every circumstance. She was in her own home and wanted to be comfortable in her own damn space. Why would she need to entertain a roommate cause he wanted some attention. It's her house, does she need to go hide in her room to get quiet time?
People can be happy or sad or in different. It's called moods for a reason. Everyone has boundaries and needs to respect people choice for privacy. When she wants to entertain, she does. This is the reason why I can't keep female friends either. I don't reach out, and I don't care about losing people. I'm selfish and if I tell you I'm not the type to reach out, then by all means feel free to reach out to me.
I don't have many friends at all cause I don't keep in contact well but that doesn't mean I'm a psycho path just cause I don't want to smile in your face all the damn time.
This is not an "Aqua" trait, it's a human personality trait and if you can't accept the person for who she is, then she really doesn't need you in her life to begin with.click to expand
Right.... she said what I was thinking. I truly donāt see the issue. I get like this at times. There was a Gem girl that I once got really close to, needless to say she wanted to start hooking up with me but Iām not into girls. She got mad and talked about me behind my back. She didnāt think the people she told would tell me, and I didnāt tell her they did. I began to act differently with her. Iād speak, but i wasnāt going to stick around and talk because she showed me that she couldnāt be trusted. Later she text me saying Im fake and acting different. Does that make the Aqua weird or the other person weird for not trying to understand why sheās behaving that way... because itās for a reason. I think people get too butthurt if someone decides you two no longer vibe and find excuses and make up shit to say about you. But instead of trying to diagnose the Aqua diagnose why itās such an issue for you? If you donāt like her actions just move on. Sounds like she did.
MY question is why do you need to create a thread about it, and what are you to her?
Posted by bittercupcakePosted by Wineaux15What I highlighted rang the most true. If we were cool and I become distant with you, cold or aloof. Itās for a reason. Iāve had this happen a few times with a Cancer sun/Sag moon. I would grow distant with her because I was tired of her BS and drama. Sheās purposely try to provoke me to get a reaction out of me or talk shit because I wouldnāt react emotionally to situations where sheās have no control over her emotions.
Right.... she said what I was thinking. I truly donāt see the issue. I get like this at times. There was a Gem girl that I once got really close to, needless to say she wanted to start hooking up with me but Iām not into girls. She got mad and talked about me behind my back. She didnāt think the people she told would tell me, and I didnāt tell her they did. I began to act differently with her. Iād speak, but i wasnāt going to stick around and talk because she showed me that she couldnāt be trusted. Later she text me saying Im fake and acting different. Does that make the Aqua weird or the other person weird for not trying to understand why sheās behaving that way... because itās for a reason. I think people get too butthurt if someone decides you two no longer vibe and find excuses and make up shit to say about you. But instead of trying to diagnose the Aqua diagnose why itās such an issue for you? If you donāt like her actions just move on. Sounds like she did.
And as you said, they donāt take it well. They make it into a bigger thing and talk shit about you etc. I just keep quiet because Iāve moved passed it. But a lot of people donāt understand that and assume youāre a mute or donāt have a case. A smart Aqua always store information to be used in a ājust in caseā scenario and will sit back and watch you hang yourself.click to expand
Exactly! Like how OP made a thread about it and itās obvious theyāve discussed it with friends... seriously Iām sure Aqua knows theyāre talking ish about her behind her back. But sheās a sociopathš¤·š½āāļø.
Posted by saweetz1988I'm someone who's friends with two people who seem to have a weird dynamic going on. I'm also someone who's interested in the aquarius but relegated to just being friends. All this just makes me wonder what's going on with her since I'd like to get to know her better.
MY question is why do you need to create a thread about it, and what are you to her?
She's fine with me in that whenever we meet up, the conversation usually flows and she's happy and laughing. But now a good friend is telling me he sees two completely opposite people when they're alone. When I met her five months ago she had just lost her closest, best, friend. Now 5 months later, her last remaining close, best friend, who has known her for years, has confirmed what my friend said. That she's lost most of her friends because she pings pongs back and forth between someone who is very charming and friendly, to someone who acts like you aren't even there. That it can drive you crazy as you blame yourself for the drastic shift in personalities. He himself never had a major fight with her, but they haven't talked in a month just because she's shifted to a very icy person around him.
I think weāre very particular with people. Also, itās the need for space issue. For me, if I donāt like you itās pretty obvious and I never try to fake it for the sake of being nice. Most people canāt take the brutal honesty. But thatās me. IDGAF! If I really want to get to know someone though, you wonāt find someone more witty, lovable and as funny as us. š
Aquarians are a very sociable sign, my dad had many friends when I was a little girl he would always bring me around them and I would love it they always had fun dinner dates and coffee meet ups, not forgetting going to the park to all play the guitar. But at home he was very quiet, just in his space and would write poems use his laptop and just watch movies and relax.
Aquarians are very sociable people but you have to realise sheās in her own space? And often they want to be by themselves.
Aquarians are very sociable people but you have to realise sheās in her own space? And often they want to be by themselves.
Posted by aqualady0118I do find her absolutely mesmerizing when she's in one of her happier states. Charming, brilliant, kind, and funny in an understated way. Just plain fun to be around.
I think weāre very particular with people. Also, itās the need for space issue. For me, if I donāt like you itās pretty obvious and I never try to fake it for the sake of being nice. Most people canāt take the brutal honesty. But thatās me. IDGAF! If I really want to get to know someone though, you wonāt find someone more witty, lovable and as funny as us. š
It's just a weird situation. I mean she's the one who invited my friend to move in with her saying she isn't comfortable with complete strangers being roommates. She also talked about how she would rather have a friend as a roommate than live alone because she likes to have someone around she can talk to about the little thing. Then when my friend moves in, she can go days saying nothing to him. If he tries to initiate conversation she gives the shortest possible reply. But if I'm around they seem to converse just fine.
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You guys can't expect people to be "on" in every circumstance. She was in her own home and wanted to be comfortable in her own damn space. Why would she need to entertain a roommate cause he wanted some attention. It's her house, does she need to go hide in her room to get quiet time?
People can be happy or sad or in different. It's called moods for a reason. Everyone has boundaries and needs to respect people choice for privacy. When she wants to entertain, she does. This is the reason why I can't keep female friends either. I don't reach out, and I don't care about losing people. I'm selfish and if I tell you I'm not the type to reach out, then by all means feel free to reach out to me.
I don't have many friends at all cause I don't keep in contact well but that doesn't mean I'm a psycho path just cause I don't want to smile in your face all the damn time.
This is not an "Aqua" trait, it's a human personality trait and if you can't accept the person for who she is, then she really doesn't need you in her life to begin with.
you tell em girl *high five* honestly im quite the same i dont always smile but i do to greet people but after that im in the clouds again,its face wrecking to smile all the time it hurts,i socialize and laugh and joke with people but there comes a time when i need to recharge its draining to be bubbly all the time,it pains me when people think im superficial just because i need a time out,they judged me even before they knew me,i lose friends all the time too im not good with reaching out either but then thats when i see who my true friends are because they dont want to lose me so they reach out from time to time when im too busy with everything that i hardly have time to hang out with someone,only those true remain
Posted by wherearewenowOh boy...Posted by saggurl88I definitely hear the selfish type. You've made many assumptions, jumped to the extremes, and ignored so much of what I wrote. Perfectly normal not to want to talk all the time. Not normal to not talk much at all to your new roommate in the course of a full week. Nobody said anything about needing you to smile all the time. That's just where you brought it.
You guys can't expect people to be "on" in every circumstance. She was in her own home and wanted to be comfortable in her own damn space. Why would she need to entertain a roommate cause he wanted some attention. It's her house, does she need to go hide in her room to get quiet time?
People can be happy or sad or in different. It's called moods for a reason. Everyone has boundaries and needs to respect people choice for privacy. When she wants to entertain, she does. This is the reason why I can't keep female friends either. I don't reach out, and I don't care about losing people. I'm selfish and if I tell you I'm not the type to reach out, then by all means feel free to reach out to me.
I don't have many friends at all cause I don't keep in contact well but that doesn't mean I'm a psycho path just cause I don't want to smile in your face all the damn time.
This is not an "Aqua" trait, it's a human personality trait and if you can't accept the person for who she is, then she really doesn't need you in her life to begin with.
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I can see where she is coming from!
That other guy is a roommate - why does she need to be talking much to him? Is he there to rent a room or to make new friends?
If there is a friendship then it's nice to have to some extent but us aquas value privacy a lot and having a roomie craving our attention although we are not even friends is just annoying! So yes, her not talking that much is normal if all she wanted was a new roommate and not a new friend.
I can also understand why she cuts many ties, after we get to know people we are free to decide if we want them in our life or not. If they don't fit into our need for comfort, privacy or down time then there is no need to hold up fake conversations just to stay in touch.
Why are people so fucking needy?!
Posted by Wineaux15Yeh we sense that shit and keep toxic people like them out of our eyesight! Just eewwwPosted by bittercupcakePosted by Wineaux15What I highlighted rang the most true. If we were cool and I become distant with you, cold or aloof. Itās for a reason. Iāve had this happen a few times with a Cancer sun/Sag moon. I would grow distant with her because I was tired of her BS and drama. Sheās purposely try to provoke me to get a reaction out of me or talk shit because I wouldnāt react emotionally to situations where sheās have no control over her emotions.
Right.... she said what I was thinking. I truly donāt see the issue. I get like this at times. There was a Gem girl that I once got really close to, needless to say she wanted to start hooking up with me but Iām not into girls. She got mad and talked about me behind my back. She didnāt think the people she told would tell me, and I didnāt tell her they did. I began to act differently with her. Iād speak, but i wasnāt going to stick around and talk because she showed me that she couldnāt be trusted. Later she text me saying Im fake and acting different. Does that make the Aqua weird or the other person weird for not trying to understand why sheās behaving that way... because itās for a reason. I think people get too butthurt if someone decides you two no longer vibe and find excuses and make up shit to say about you. But instead of trying to diagnose the Aqua diagnose why itās such an issue for you? If you donāt like her actions just move on. Sounds like she did.
And as you said, they donāt take it well. They make it into a bigger thing and talk shit about you etc. I just keep quiet because Iāve moved passed it. But a lot of people donāt understand that and assume youāre a mute or donāt have a case. A smart Aqua always store information to be used in a ājust in caseā scenario and will sit back and watch you hang yourself.
Exactly! Like how OP made a thread about it and itās obvious theyāve discussed it with friends... seriously Iām sure Aqua knows theyāre talking ish about her behind her back. But sheās a sociopathš¤·š½āāļø.
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