Is this normal Aquarius behavior for an aquarius boyfriend..? Treating me like a friend?

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I guess this is how he is unless he has liquid courage but basically we said we would hangout last night and he said to meet him at his house, so I went to his house and he was just watching tv and I asked what he wanted to do and threw out a few suggestions and he just wanted to stay home and watch tv, which is fine I guess.

So we literally sat on 2 different couches for 4 hours watching family guy. I mean, he still talked to me and stuff but didn’t make any moves.

He offered me a beer when I’d been there for 3 hours but didn’t have one himself since his stomach hurt.

It seems like he needs to be a little buzzed in order to make a move. I understand since I’m the same way. I guess we are both shy although I’m not sure why since we have been hooking up since we were 18 but only recently started a relationship.

He just kept playing the next episode of family guy each time. I was kind of expecting him to say he was gonna go to bed (since he seemed tired and had a stomachache), but he never did so I didn’t know if he was trying to get the courage to make a move or something.

It was just disappointing I guess. Eventually he was falling asleep so I said I was gonna go and he got up and kind of walked me out and asked what I’m doing tomorrow... he still didn’t kiss me bye or anything though.

I’m kind of worried like does he think we should just be friends and didn’t tell me? Although if that were true why would he want to hangout with me? He also invited me out with his friends a few nights ago too so it would be weird if he decided to break up and didn’t tell me..

He can be really affectionate but that’s mostly while we are sleeping he will cuddle me super hard and during sex he is really passionate and kisses me a lot, but other than that he’s really not affectionate which I guess I’m not either but I still crave it.
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Have you considered initiating in order to get what you're "craving for"?

at least you will see where you stand from his reaction
I mean I usually just wait for him to do it and he usually does but maybe since he had a stomach ache and was tired didn’t.. but I also know he’s a little awkward and needs some courage to do it. One time a few years ago I was at his house and we sat on the same couch for 6 hours watching tv and we were right next to each other and he almost made a move, I could tell he wanted to, but then didn’t and I left at like 3am but the next night we had sex after he had some liquid courage. But that was a few years ago but just an example of how he is lol
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Have you considered initiating in order to get what you're "craving for"?

at least you will see where you stand from his reaction

I mean I usually just wait for him to do it and he usually does but maybe since he had a stomach ache and was tired didn’t.. but I also know he’s a little awkward and needs some courage to do it. One time a few years ago I was at his house and we sat on the same couch for 6 hours watching tv and we were right next to each other and he almost made a move, I could tell he wanted to, but then didn’t and I left at like 3am but the next night we had sex after he had some liquid courage. But that was a few years ago but just an example of how he is lol click to expand
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thats actually good (if he usually do it) still, why you need to wait? heck I didnt know I was a feminist LoL im just saying if you want to be close to him, even if only to be shoulder with shoulder, you should feel free to do it, if he say hes feeling way too sick thats ok, any girl will say so too anyway. My relationships are clearly more equal than that 😆

look, you might be one of the best friends he have, but most guys are not used to be touchy with their buds, guys like it, but theres a lot of factors to list and in the end, we end up being clueless in those kind of interactions, so is really nice when a girl is more relaxed and put it really easy for the man to make the move, like REALLY easy, so dont be there waiting hours without nothing, at least you could put his head on your shoulder and say, "there there" 😄 why the coldness with each other
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Not normal. Also is hangingout a code sign for sex or something? Whenever I briefly dated or had a fling with someone much younger than I was it seems to be "hey wanna hang". What's wrong with just saying hey let's bang instead. Did you guys think bang means hang.
Hm I mean we are the same age. No hanging out is not a code for sex. I asked him to hangout at 3pm and he immediately said yes and I went over once he got home from his parents’ house. I mean I wanted to hangout but also wanted him to want to bang me. I was on my period so we probably wouldn’t have but he didn’t know that so I’m not sure why he didn’t even try!!
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I just feel like I’m his friend only or something 😢 like he hasn’t included me in any of his family events or anything 😢 I mean I haven’t either so I guess it’s no big thing but I just don’t know if an Aquarius wanted to break up would they tell you or just start acting like your friend ? I mean he always acts that way unless he’s had a drink or so. Not drunk but just tipsy or buzzed
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Not normal. Also is hangingout a code sign for sex or something? Whenever I briefly dated or had a fling with someone much younger than I was it seems to be "hey wanna hang". What's wrong with just saying hey let's bang instead. Did you guys think bang means hang.

Hm I mean we are the same age. No hanging out is not a code for sex. I asked him to hangout at 3pm and he immediately said yes and I went over once he got home from his parents’ house. I mean I wanted to hangout but also wanted him to want to bang me. I was on my period so we probably wouldn’t have but he didn’t know that so I’m not sure why he didn’t even try!! click to expand
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haha look it doesn't hurt to be a bit direct but I think I know what you're wanting. Aquas can be trained and they generally do a good job of remembering. Maybe it's the way to told the story, also sometimes we just like your company so it doesn't sound all that bad, he obviously doesn't use you for just sex.

If it's like a thing ALL the time then seriously you need to train him when you feel a bit rowdy else he'll only initiate when he wants it.
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Not normal. Also is hangingout a code sign for sex or something? Whenever I briefly dated or had a fling with someone much younger than I was it seems to be "hey wanna hang". What's wrong with just saying hey let's bang instead. Did you guys think bang means hang.



Hm I mean we are the same age. No hanging out is not a code for sex. I asked him to hangout at 3pm and he immediately said yes and I went over once he got home from his parents’ house. I mean I wanted to hangout but also wanted him to want to bang me. I was on my period so we probably wouldn’t have but he didn’t know that so I’m not sure why he didn’t even try!! click to expand

haha look it doesn't hurt to be a bit direct but I think I know what you're wanting. Aquas can be trained and they generally do a good job of remembering. Maybe it's the way to told the story, also sometimes we just like your company so it doesn't sound all that bad, he obviously doesn't use you for just sex.

If it's like a thing ALL the time then seriously you need to train him when you feel a bit rowdy else he'll only initiate when he wants it. click to expand
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Hmm okay awesome thanks for your advice!
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Not normal. Also is hangingout a code sign for sex or something? Whenever I briefly dated or had a fling with someone much younger than I was it seems to be "hey wanna hang". What's wrong with just saying hey let's bang instead. Did you guys think bang means hang.



Hm I mean we are the same age. No hanging out is not a code for sex. I asked him to hangout at 3pm and he immediately said yes and I went over once he got home from his parents’ house. I mean I wanted to hangout but also wanted him to want to bang me. I was on my period so we probably wouldn’t have but he didn’t know that so I’m not sure why he didn’t even try!! click to expand



haha look it doesn't hurt to be a bit direct but I think I know what you're wanting. Aquas can be trained and they generally do a good job of remembering. Maybe it's the way to told the story, also sometimes we just like your company so it doesn't sound all that bad, he obviously doesn't use you for just sex.

If it's like a thing ALL the time then seriously you need to train him when you feel a bit rowdy else he'll only initiate when he wants it. click to expand

Hmm okay awesome thanks for your advice! click to expand
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I feel you I do! My ex who's also a Leeb said the same thing to me (this is a long time after we broke up) I waited a bit to long to let her know how I feel and at the time I had wished she told me a lot of things before it ended.
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Not normal. Also is hangingout a code sign for sex or something? Whenever I briefly dated or had a fling with someone much younger than I was it seems to be "hey wanna hang". What's wrong with just saying hey let's bang instead. Did you guys think bang means hang.



Hm I mean we are the same age. No hanging out is not a code for sex. I asked him to hangout at 3pm and he immediately said yes and I went over once he got home from his parents’ house. I mean I wanted to hangout but also wanted him to want to bang me. I was on my period so we probably wouldn’t have but he didn’t know that so I’m not sure why he didn’t even try!! click to expand



haha look it doesn't hurt to be a bit direct but I think I know what you're wanting. Aquas can be trained and they generally do a good job of remembering. Maybe it's the way to told the story, also sometimes we just like your company so it doesn't sound all that bad, he obviously doesn't use you for just sex.

If it's like a thing ALL the time then seriously you need to train him when you feel a bit rowdy else he'll only initiate when he wants it. click to expand



Hmm okay awesome thanks for your advice! click to expand

I feel you I do! My ex who's also a Leeb said the same thing to me (this is a long time after we broke up) I waited a bit to long to let her know how I feel and at the time I had wished she told me a lot of things before it ended. click to expand
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So your an aqua guy? I’m sorry to hear that 😢 what did she say? That she didn’t feel like you treated her as a girlfriend or were affectionate enough? Maybe I should just tell him that? I don’t want to scare him off or make him think I’m dramatic though.
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Not normal. Also is hangingout a code sign for sex or something? Whenever I briefly dated or had a fling with someone much younger than I was it seems to be "hey wanna hang". What's wrong with just saying hey let's bang instead. Did you guys think bang means hang.



Hm I mean we are the same age. No hanging out is not a code for sex. I asked him to hangout at 3pm and he immediately said yes and I went over once he got home from his parents’ house. I mean I wanted to hangout but also wanted him to want to bang me. I was on my period so we probably wouldn’t have but he didn’t know that so I’m not sure why he didn’t even try!! click to expand



haha look it doesn't hurt to be a bit direct but I think I know what you're wanting. Aquas can be trained and they generally do a good job of remembering. Maybe it's the way to told the story, also sometimes we just like your company so it doesn't sound all that bad, he obviously doesn't use you for just sex.

If it's like a thing ALL the time then seriously you need to train him when you feel a bit rowdy else he'll only initiate when he wants it. click to expand



Hmm okay awesome thanks for your advice! click to expand



I feel you I do! My ex who's also a Leeb said the same thing to me (this is a long time after we broke up) I waited a bit to long to let her know how I feel and at the time I had wished she told me a lot of things before it ended. click to expand

So your an aqua guy? I’m sorry to hear that what did she say? That she didn’t feel like you treated her as a girlfriend or were affectionate enough? Maybe I should just tell him that? I don’t want to scare him off or make him think I’m dramatic though. click to expand
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The friend part. I had always thought she knew even if I never forthright said it and looking back I can see why she would think that way. She wanted things to be a bit more intimate and more quality time with just the two of us. It's just she never really made it known to me so I thought she was okay with it but hey lesson learnt .
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Not normal. Also is hangingout a code sign for sex or something? Whenever I briefly dated or had a fling with someone much younger than I was it seems to be "hey wanna hang". What's wrong with just saying hey let's bang instead. Did you guys think bang means hang.



Hm I mean we are the same age. No hanging out is not a code for sex. I asked him to hangout at 3pm and he immediately said yes and I went over once he got home from his parents’ house. I mean I wanted to hangout but also wanted him to want to bang me. I was on my period so we probably wouldn’t have but he didn’t know that so I’m not sure why he didn’t even try!! click to expand



haha look it doesn't hurt to be a bit direct but I think I know what you're wanting. Aquas can be trained and they generally do a good job of remembering. Maybe it's the way to told the story, also sometimes we just like your company so it doesn't sound all that bad, he obviously doesn't use you for just sex.

If it's like a thing ALL the time then seriously you need to train him when you feel a bit rowdy else he'll only initiate when he wants it. click to expand



Hmm okay awesome thanks for your advice! click to expand



I feel you I do! My ex who's also a Leeb said the same thing to me (this is a long time after we broke up) I waited a bit to long to let her know how I feel and at the time I had wished she told me a lot of things before it ended. click to expand



So your an aqua guy? I’m sorry to hear that what did she say? That she didn’t feel like you treated her as a girlfriend or were affectionate enough? Maybe I should just tell him that? I don’t want to scare him off or make him think I’m dramatic though. click to expand

The friend part. I had always thought she knew even if I never forthright said it and looking back I can see why she would think that way. She wanted things to be a bit more intimate and more quality time with just the two of us. It's just she never really made it known to me so I thought she was okay with it but hey lesson learnt . click to expand
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The way your ex felt is exactly how I feel about mine... I’m not sure how to tell him without sounding needy though.. how would you have liked her to tell you?
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Not normal. Also is hangingout a code sign for sex or something? Whenever I briefly dated or had a fling with someone much younger than I was it seems to be "hey wanna hang". What's wrong with just saying hey let's bang instead. Did you guys think bang means hang.



Hm I mean we are the same age. No hanging out is not a code for sex. I asked him to hangout at 3pm and he immediately said yes and I went over once he got home from his parents’ house. I mean I wanted to hangout but also wanted him to want to bang me. I was on my period so we probably wouldn’t have but he didn’t know that so I’m not sure why he didn’t even try!! click to expand



haha look it doesn't hurt to be a bit direct but I think I know what you're wanting. Aquas can be trained and they generally do a good job of remembering. Maybe it's the way to told the story, also sometimes we just like your company so it doesn't sound all that bad, he obviously doesn't use you for just sex.

If it's like a thing ALL the time then seriously you need to train him when you feel a bit rowdy else he'll only initiate when he wants it. click to expand



Hmm okay awesome thanks for your advice! click to expand



I feel you I do! My ex who's also a Leeb said the same thing to me (this is a long time after we broke up) I waited a bit to long to let her know how I feel and at the time I had wished she told me a lot of things before it ended. click to expand



So your an aqua guy? I’m sorry to hear that what did she say? That she didn’t feel like you treated her as a girlfriend or were affectionate enough? Maybe I should just tell him that? I don’t want to scare him off or make him think I’m dramatic though. click to expand



The friend part. I had always thought she knew even if I never forthright said it and looking back I can see why she would think that way. She wanted things to be a bit more intimate and more quality time with just the two of us. It's just she never really made it known to me so I thought she was okay with it but hey lesson learnt . click to expand

This is such an aqua thing. Like treating their gf as a friend and I got used to it already. Lol for one, if im feeling emo and wants romance and cuddles, i just tell my aqua straight up. Then he explains like he didnt realize or he was being normal etc. click to expand
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I’m glad to hear it’s a normal aqua thing.. yeah this is exactly how I feel! I need to speak up
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Have you ever had sex with him?

Oh yeah probably thousands of times. We started having sex 7 years ago... long story but we officially got together a few months ago since it wasn’t long distance anymore and we weren’t at different colleges trying to graduate and stuff. Now we are both settled in our careers and live super close to each other click to expand
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Oh gotcha. Do you sense him pulling away a lot lately? You asked a question related to how aqua men end things. Mine didn’t use words. Pretty much just faded things out and then ghosted.
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Have you ever had sex with him?



Oh yeah probably thousands of times. We started having sex 7 years ago... long story but we officially got together a few months ago since it wasn’t long distance anymore and we weren’t at different colleges trying to graduate and stuff. Now we are both settled in our careers and live super close to each other click to expand

Oh gotcha. Do you sense him pulling away a lot lately? You asked a question related to how aqua men end things. Mine didn’t use words. Pretty much just faded things out and then ghosted. click to expand
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Hmm he was a bit but then came back - I think it was because we got into a small fight a few weeks ago (he was supposed to come to a party w me and didn’t show and then said he was sorry but he got too high... I told him it wasn’t cool). I think he knew I was pissed so he gave me space but then last week he was back to inviting me out with his friends.

I’m so sorry that happened to you, I can’t imagine how much it sucks. Were you officially together? Why do you think he ghosted you?
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Have you ever had sex with him?



Oh yeah probably thousands of times. We started having sex 7 years ago... long story but we officially got together a few months ago since it wasn’t long distance anymore and we weren’t at different colleges trying to graduate and stuff. Now we are both settled in our careers and live super close to each other click to expand



Oh gotcha. Do you sense him pulling away a lot lately? You asked a question related to how aqua men end things. Mine didn’t use words. Pretty much just faded things out and then ghosted. click to expand

Hmm he was a bit but then came back - I think it was because we got into a small fight a few weeks ago (he was supposed to come to a party w me and didn’t show and then said he was sorry but he got too high... I told him it wasn’t cool). I think he knew I was pissed so he gave me space but then last week he was back to inviting me out with his friends.

I’m so sorry that happened to you, I can’t imagine how much it sucks. Were you officially together? Why do you think he ghosted you? click to expand
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Hmm hopefully it’s just a little phase and will get better again!

Probably because I became too clingy and he opened 2 brand new businesses so he was insanely busy. He’s always kept me on the hook though... plus still online stalks me. Which is okay with me... Because it’s kept us connected except now it benefits me the most because I actually started to rebel this week. No longer giving him any validation that I’m still into him. Part of me is definitely trying to move on because I’m sick of this bs. The other part is probably because I watch too much bachelor and I’m playing dirty now....
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Not normal. Also is hangingout a code sign for sex or something? Whenever I briefly dated or had a fling with someone much younger than I was it seems to be "hey wanna hang". What's wrong with just saying hey let's bang instead. Did you guys think bang means hang.



Hm I mean we are the same age. No hanging out is not a code for sex. I asked him to hangout at 3pm and he immediately said yes and I went over once he got home from his parents’ house. I mean I wanted to hangout but also wanted him to want to bang me. I was on my period so we probably wouldn’t have but he didn’t know that so I’m not sure why he didn’t even try!! click to expand



haha look it doesn't hurt to be a bit direct but I think I know what you're wanting. Aquas can be trained and they generally do a good job of remembering. Maybe it's the way to told the story, also sometimes we just like your company so it doesn't sound all that bad, he obviously doesn't use you for just sex.

If it's like a thing ALL the time then seriously you need to train him when you feel a bit rowdy else he'll only initiate when he wants it. click to expand



Hmm okay awesome thanks for your advice! click to expand



I feel you I do! My ex who's also a Leeb said the same thing to me (this is a long time after we broke up) I waited a bit to long to let her know how I feel and at the time I had wished she told me a lot of things before it ended. click to expand



So your an aqua guy? I’m sorry to hear that what did she say? That she didn’t feel like you treated her as a girlfriend or were affectionate enough? Maybe I should just tell him that? I don’t want to scare him off or make him think I’m dramatic though. click to expand



The friend part. I had always thought she knew even if I never forthright said it and looking back I can see why she would think that way. She wanted things to be a bit more intimate and more quality time with just the two of us. It's just she never really made it known to me so I thought she was okay with it but hey lesson learnt . click to expand

The way your ex felt is exactly how I feel about mine... I’m not sure how to tell him without sounding needy though.. how would you have liked her to tell you? click to expand
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Just straight up tell him, don't overthink it.
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Have you ever had sex with him?



Oh yeah probably thousands of times. We started having sex 7 years ago... long story but we officially got together a few months ago since it wasn’t long distance anymore and we weren’t at different colleges trying to graduate and stuff. Now we are both settled in our careers and live super close to each other click to expand



Oh gotcha. Do you sense him pulling away a lot lately? You asked a question related to how aqua men end things. Mine didn’t use words. Pretty much just faded things out and then ghosted. click to expand



Hmm he was a bit but then came back - I think it was because we got into a small fight a few weeks ago (he was supposed to come to a party w me and didn’t show and then said he was sorry but he got too high... I told him it wasn’t cool). I think he knew I was pissed so he gave me space but then last week he was back to inviting me out with his friends.

I’m so sorry that happened to you, I can’t imagine how much it sucks. Were you officially together? Why do you think he ghosted you? click to expand

Hmm hopefully it’s just a little phase and will get better again!

Probably because I became too clingy and he opened 2 brand new businesses so he was insanely busy. He’s always kept me on the hook though... plus still online stalks me. Which is okay with me... Because it’s kept us connected except now it benefits me the most because I actually started to rebel this week. No longer giving him any validation that I’m still into him. Part of me is definitely trying to move on because I’m sick of this bs. The other part is probably because I watch too much bachelor and I’m playing dirty now.... click to expand
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Yeah I know what you mean about the online stalking keeping you connected thing. I purposely deleted all my social media so my bf can't stalk me.. so he has to talk to me to see what I'm up to, lol.

Good for you!! He will probably start to wonder what happened.

BUt I know the feeling of part of you wanting to move on and the other part not wanting to let him go. I change my mind like 3 times a day. Sometimes I feel like 'screw him he sucks!' and other times I feel like he's just a clueless guy and he probably doesn't know what he's doing. Lol

Good luck I hope you figure it out, whatever it is that you want!
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Have you ever had sex with him?



Oh yeah probably thousands of times. We started having sex 7 years ago... long story but we officially got together a few months ago since it wasn’t long distance anymore and we weren’t at different colleges trying to graduate and stuff. Now we are both settled in our careers and live super close to each other click to expand



Oh gotcha. Do you sense him pulling away a lot lately? You asked a question related to how aqua men end things. Mine didn’t use words. Pretty much just faded things out and then ghosted. click to expand



Hmm he was a bit but then came back - I think it was because we got into a small fight a few weeks ago (he was supposed to come to a party w me and didn’t show and then said he was sorry but he got too high... I told him it wasn’t cool). I think he knew I was pissed so he gave me space but then last week he was back to inviting me out with his friends.

I’m so sorry that happened to you, I can’t imagine how much it sucks. Were you officially together? Why do you think he ghosted you? click to expand



Hmm hopefully it’s just a little phase and will get better again!

Probably because I became too clingy and he opened 2 brand new businesses so he was insanely busy. He’s always kept me on the hook though... plus still online stalks me. Which is okay with me... Because it’s kept us connected except now it benefits me the most because I actually started to rebel this week. No longer giving him any validation that I’m still into him. Part of me is definitely trying to move on because I’m sick of this bs. The other part is probably because I watch too much bachelor and I’m playing dirty now.... click to expand

Yeah I know what you mean about the online stalking keeping you connected thing. I purposely deleted all my social media so my bf can't stalk me.. so he has to talk to me to see what I'm up to, lol.

Good for you!! He will probably start to wonder what happened.

BUt I know the feeling of part of you wanting to move on and the other part not wanting to let him go. I change my mind like 3 times a day. Sometimes I feel like 'screw him he sucks!' and other times I feel like he's just a clueless guy and he probably doesn't know what he's doing. Lol

Good luck I hope you figure it out, whatever it is that you want! click to expand
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That’s exactly what I’m going through. I change my mind a lot!! I even went on two dates with two different guys this week and they were not good- making me miss the aqua more.

Did you find that deleting him off social media made him chase you at all? For me, it’s 100% the opposite. He loves to stalk so I’ve made it beyond easy for him and that keeps him thinking about me all day.
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Have you ever had sex with him?



Oh yeah probably thousands of times. We started having sex 7 years ago... long story but we officially got together a few months ago since it wasn’t long distance anymore and we weren’t at different colleges trying to graduate and stuff. Now we are both settled in our careers and live super close to each other click to expand



Oh gotcha. Do you sense him pulling away a lot lately? You asked a question related to how aqua men end things. Mine didn’t use words. Pretty much just faded things out and then ghosted. click to expand



Hmm he was a bit but then came back - I think it was because we got into a small fight a few weeks ago (he was supposed to come to a party w me and didn’t show and then said he was sorry but he got too high... I told him it wasn’t cool). I think he knew I was pissed so he gave me space but then last week he was back to inviting me out with his friends.

I’m so sorry that happened to you, I can’t imagine how much it sucks. Were you officially together? Why do you think he ghosted you? click to expand



Hmm hopefully it’s just a little phase and will get better again!

Probably because I became too clingy and he opened 2 brand new businesses so he was insanely busy. He’s always kept me on the hook though... plus still online stalks me. Which is okay with me... Because it’s kept us connected except now it benefits me the most because I actually started to rebel this week. No longer giving him any validation that I’m still into him. Part of me is definitely trying to move on because I’m sick of this bs. The other part is probably because I watch too much bachelor and I’m playing dirty now.... click to expand



Yeah I know what you mean about the online stalking keeping you connected thing. I purposely deleted all my social media so my bf can't stalk me.. so he has to talk to me to see what I'm up to, lol.

Good for you!! He will probably start to wonder what happened.

BUt I know the feeling of part of you wanting to move on and the other part not wanting to let him go. I change my mind like 3 times a day. Sometimes I feel like 'screw him he sucks!' and other times I feel like he's just a clueless guy and he probably doesn't know what he's doing. Lol

Good luck I hope you figure it out, whatever it is that you want! click to expand

That’s exactly what I’m going through. I change my mind a lot!! I even went on two dates with two different guys this week and they were not good- making me miss the aqua more.

Did you find that deleting him off social media made him chase you at all? For me, it’s 100% the opposite. He loves to stalk so I’ve made it beyond easy for him and that keeps him thinking about me all day. click to expand
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Ugh yeah I tried going on a date with another guy before me and my aqua got together and I had thought we were done for good (a few months ago) and yeah it just made me miss the aqua more :\

Honestly, he doesn't use social media that much and even when I had it, I never posted anything so I don't think he really cares lol. But I didn't really notice any changes in him. Maybe you should delete yours though if your guy loves to stalk... maybe he would wonder what happened to you and see you as unpredictable and start chasing you
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Have you ever had sex with him?



Oh yeah probably thousands of times. We started having sex 7 years ago... long story but we officially got together a few months ago since it wasn’t long distance anymore and we weren’t at different colleges trying to graduate and stuff. Now we are both settled in our careers and live super close to each other click to expand



Oh gotcha. Do you sense him pulling away a lot lately? You asked a question related to how aqua men end things. Mine didn’t use words. Pretty much just faded things out and then ghosted. click to expand



Hmm he was a bit but then came back - I think it was because we got into a small fight a few weeks ago (he was supposed to come to a party w me and didn’t show and then said he was sorry but he got too high... I told him it wasn’t cool). I think he knew I was pissed so he gave me space but then last week he was back to inviting me out with his friends.

I’m so sorry that happened to you, I can’t imagine how much it sucks. Were you officially together? Why do you think he ghosted you? click to expand



Hmm hopefully it’s just a little phase and will get better again!

Probably because I became too clingy and he opened 2 brand new businesses so he was insanely busy. He’s always kept me on the hook though... plus still online stalks me. Which is okay with me... Because it’s kept us connected except now it benefits me the most because I actually started to rebel this week. No longer giving him any validation that I’m still into him. Part of me is definitely trying to move on because I’m sick of this bs. The other part is probably because I watch too much bachelor and I’m playing dirty now.... click to expand



Yeah I know what you mean about the online stalking keeping you connected thing. I purposely deleted all my social media so my bf can't stalk me.. so he has to talk to me to see what I'm up to, lol.

Good for you!! He will probably start to wonder what happened.

BUt I know the feeling of part of you wanting to move on and the other part not wanting to let him go. I change my mind like 3 times a day. Sometimes I feel like 'screw him he sucks!' and other times I feel like he's just a clueless guy and he probably doesn't know what he's doing. Lol

Good luck I hope you figure it out, whatever it is that you want! click to expand



That’s exactly what I’m going through. I change my mind a lot!! I even went on two dates with two different guys this week and they were not good- making me miss the aqua more.

Did you find that deleting him off social media made him chase you at all? For me, it’s 100% the opposite. He loves to stalk so I’ve made it beyond easy for him and that keeps him thinking about me all day. click to expand

Ugh yeah I tried going on a date with another guy before me and my aqua got together and I had thought we were done for good (a few months ago) and yeah it just made me miss the aqua more :\

Honestly, he doesn't use social media that much and even when I had it, I never posted anything so I don't think he really cares lol. But I didn't really notice any changes in him. Maybe you should delete yours though if your guy loves to stalk... maybe he would wonder what happened to you and see you as unpredictable and start chasing you click to expand
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How old is he? Surprised he doesn’t use social media much!! I went to a bar alone today and met two cute, funny, sweet, younger guys! So much fun although I’m not interested in either but at least it gives me hope!!!! Needed this.

I once deleted him off snap, and he still followed me and watched my public stories. I’m toooo addicted right now to the high I get when he checks my snaps. I know... It’s an issue! But I once ghosted him for 4 weeks last month hoping it would make a difference and I think it pushed him away more than ever. He won’t talk to me. I suspect a gf but honestly no proof and I’ve searched for it! But has checked every single snap, opens direct messages, doesn’t block me. I post mostly stories. All day. Now many are sexy ones!!! He used to be the only one to see. Now he’s not. I know... I’m kinda bad!!!!! He still looks though 😁 I also share my location so he knows what I’m up too and I believe he checks it a lot!