leo and aqua friendship on the rocks-suggestns plz

Hello friends..have been coming to the Aquarius forum since many days. I would love the suggestions of you all.. I am a leo female, I have an aqua friend. actually he was my junior in college and is 2 years younger to me. I met him first in 2012. I always found him very sensible and matured person as compared to his other young class fellows, thus developed a soft corner for him from the beginning only. Although I used to treat him as a kid always. We didnt have that much interactions when we were in the college. but after he passed out from the college we used to chat occasionally and slowly and gradually shared a good bonding with each other. Basically he is a funny and pretty sarcastic person. Initially he used to test me,or rather tried to solve my puzzle. Thus used to bring loads of arguments on random subjects, and I always kept the conversations going. We used to have nice conversations about tv shows, movies, music and he suggested me many of them to watch or listen too.
Early this year, he came to my city for completing some pending work (he is from another city). We met and had a very heart-to-heart talk for the very first time. He was going through a rough time and he shared many things with me that day. I had never seen him that serious. I just listened whatever his problems were. He celebrated his birthday (Jan 20) with me and two of his other friends, saying many strange things. .( such as- I wished to say many things but then changed my mind, hey you think i m a kid don't u?) He was bit drunk.
Anyways, he went back and didnt contact me for around 1-2 weeks. I had messaged him but he didnt reply. Later he replied and we talked again. During these conversations, he once asked me about my choice of men. (what kind of men do you like) I replied lightly and just mentioned a few of my crushes to him. He didnt say anything. We continued our casual convos. then one day during one of the conversations, i casually said sometihng and he didnt reply further. I asked if anything is wrong, he said nothing. For the next 4-5 months, he ignored me and stopped any communication.
I was hurt, but then could'nt do anything about it. During this time, he got a job and shared his new contact number with a common friend,but not with me. Then one day, he posted something on my facebook wall, thus i got an opportunity to ask why he is not talking ? He was very defensive and said he forgot to share his contact with me. Then he gave me his number.

Sorry for the length of the post.. but the story continues..
Then we used to talk again, though the conversations didnt last longer as the previous ones. He was less argumentative and more serious now. The conversations were not regular. And 2 months ago, his father was unwell. We were not talking I got a random message from him at night, I replied to him next morning, saying have a nice day. He then told me that his father was critical. I offered support in case he needs a friend. He said thank you. I used to ask him about his father. two weeks later, his father got back from hospital and he got back to his work. we were not talking. Then one day, I just posted a boyzone track (Words) as my status on whatsapp. He replied saying this is his favrite track. I asked for some good music suggestions from him, as i used to ask earlier. He sent me whole lot of romantic songs.
During june, i got another random message from him. I replied by saying take care n all.. He told me his father went critical again. After a few days, he passed away. I had messaged him about his father's condition. He replied that he is no more. I was shocked and just couldnt get the courage to call him. but I messaged him offering my support as a friend whenever he wants. He replied thanku for ur support and we will talk after a few days. Then after one week or so, I tried to talk to him, saying some comforting words, but he rudely said its easy to say hard to do. I got it that he is still disturbed and thus couldnt say anything else. One month has passed and he is back to his work. I was hoping to get a call from him on my birthday and thought atleast i would now have a chance of talking to him. He didnt call, he messaged a day after saying belated happy birthday.. I replied by a thanku. Later that night I asked how was he? He didnt respond much, just a few things..

I really care for my friend and i think he wanted my company during his hard time. thats why he informed me both times. But when I offered my support to him in case he wishes to share something with me about his emotional state, he didnt respond. As a friend i m feeling guilty. Any suggestions on his behavior? And his on again off again mood swings?

Looks like he is going through a tough phase in life. Losing his father, he may have become a bit serious. But then, I may be wrong too.

Talking about mood swings, mine swings rapidly and that could be because of his current situation. Is he the more emotional type of a guy?

Posted by febaqua
Talking about mood swings, mine swings rapidly and that could be because of his current situation. Is he the more emotional type of a guy?

Yes he is an emotional guy, though he hides it very well under his cool, funny and talkative personality. The songs suggestions he used to send me showed how sensitive and emotional he is. ACtually my concern is his well being. How is he doing and since I know that he wont show his emotional side to anyone (being an aqua). As a friend, with whom he actually shared his problems one, I just want to be there for him. But then I cant understand how to avoid being clingy and try to help at the same time.