looking for genuine input

hello, same libra. short and sweet this time but w/ a disclaimer: my intentions were never malicious, i just genuinely kind of became infatuated with an aqua and i honestly just hate the discord this whole situation is creating. like i can give two turds about where we hang out (referring to the house), its the fact that its me and our mutual friends are hanging out as this group and hes just not there. like he says no to things he would usually tag along for. even our mutual friends ask "wheres aqua??" and scorpios just like "haha idk??" even though he knows aquas avoiding me, it makes me feel guilty because treetrunking that one night is the cause of this, but its dumb because it takes two to tango, so why am i the one feeling guilty... but also why doesnt aqua just act normal about it too...

at this point i dont even want to continue a sexual relationship with the aqua, and im pretty sure he does not want to either. please advise me on how to get the road back to just being friends, if that is even possible. i know i have to give him space, i am just wondering if "being straightforward and addressing the situation" is better than "letting him decide to come back and accept me as a friend again"

i just would like things to go to how they were before, when it would be a big group of us just hanging out as friends. thank you for your time.

Posted by hihello

Because you are the who is giving a fuck.

yeah maybe thats the problem i care too much about something i should just let go

The best way is to pretend that nothing has happened. Treat him like you used to as a friend and don’t talk about it.

Posted by pisceswoman123

The best way is to pretend that nothing has happened. Treat him like you used to as a friend and don’t talk about it.

thank you for reaffirming what i thought would be best, but i can only do that if he gives me a platform (decides to accept me as a friend). btw i appreciate the advice you've given me and others, you are a very kind person. thank you.

I think he's doing fine, this is a way of cutting/avoiding the issue by being disconnected.

I know you probably want to stay mutual and be friends still, but I think in his case he rather cut the tights and carry on with his life.

Posted by Snowx3

I think he's doing fine, this is a way of cutting/avoiding the issue by being disconnected.

I know you probably want to stay mutual and be friends still, but I think in his case he rather cut the tights and carry on with his life.

yeah, i guess thats just something i have to accept and im seeing that now. i think its more of a me thing like i just am uncomfortable making someone else uncomfortable yanno. i never wanna be the one someone avoids especially since its someone i do kind of care about. but you cant control the reactions of others, just your own.

thank you for taking the time to jot your thoughts

Posted by librasuncapmoon

Posted by Snowx3

I think he's doing fine, this is a way of cutting/avoiding the issue by being disconnected.

I know you probably want to stay mutual and be friends still, but I think in his case he rather cut the tights and carry on with his life.

yeah, i guess thats just something i have to accept and im seeing that now. i think its more of a me thing like i just am uncomfortable making someone else uncomfortable yanno. i never wanna be the one someone avoids especially since its someone i do kind of care about. but you cant control the reactions of others, just your own.

thank you for taking the time to jot your thoughts

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Yes, it will suck to feel this way.

You can only do so much, before you end up bringing yourself down too.

Just do you and if things meant to work out with your friendship it will in time.

Update: So after four months of avoiding me and ignoring me, the aqua finally came out of his hiding spot (probably because it was getting exhausting for him to constantly be avoiding someone). There was even one time where he left a restaurant because he heard I was going to be there.

The Scorpio ended up moving out of the house, and they are no longer roommates due to other issues they were having. He is still friends with the Scorpio and so am I. How it worked for the 4 months was the Aqua would just avoid going to group hangouts, but would still hang out with the Scorpio separately.

But he decided to come to one recently, I had to approach him first and just said a friendly hello and thats that. Per pisceswoman advice, I wont confront or even bring up that subject ever. It's not as bad for everyone else, which is what is important, but at first it was awkward for the both of us. We also were at another group hang out the following day, and that went better. We acknowledge each other but we aren't too comfortable like before, which is nice. I hope this leads to an arrangement where we can co-exist while we enjoy the company of our friends. Thank you Aqua forum for your help, even if it was frustrating to some of you at some point.

Sincerely,

a grateful Libra.

Posted by bumboklatt

wheres the resolution?

dang libras

The resolution is that he kinda realized I'm a permanent addition to the friend group and that he can't avoid me forever without missing the company of his friends. So, now we're coexisting with each other lol. He's acknowledging me again but we aren't getting too comfortable with each other because I don't think neither of us want that lol. I guess that's as much resolution you can get with two air signs.

Posted by librasuncapmoon

Update: So after four months of avoiding me and ignoring me, the aqua finally came out of his hiding spot (probably because it was getting exhausting for him to constantly be avoiding someone). There was even one time where he left a restaurant because he heard I was going to be there.

The Scorpio ended up moving out of the house, and they are no longer roommates due to other issues they were having. He is still friends with the Scorpio and so am I. How it worked for the 4 months was the Aqua would just avoid going to group hangouts, but would still hang out with the Scorpio separately.

But he decided to come to one recently, I had to approach him first and just said a friendly hello and thats that. Per pisceswoman advice, I wont confront or even bring up that subject ever. It's not as bad for everyone else, which is what is important, but at first it was awkward for the both of us. We also were at another group hang out the following day, and that went better. We acknowledge each other but we aren't too comfortable like before, which is nice. I hope this leads to an arrangement where we can co-exist while we enjoy the company of our friends. Thank you Aqua forum for your help, even if it was frustrating to some of you at some point.

Sincerely,

a grateful Libra.

lol@ exhausting with avoidance LOL too much lols

if he truly wanted to avoid you and not want anything to do with you, he'd get a new girlfriend and marry her and have babies and a family....

i guess he hasnt anyone ;p

um, i dont really understand the point of the topic.

did you want him back? cause the scorpio moved out? 😕

Posted by librasuncapmoon

Posted by bumboklatt

wheres the resolution?

dang libras

The resolution is that he kinda realized I'm a permanent addition to the friend group and that he can't avoid me forever without missing the company of his friends. So, now we're coexisting with each other lol. He's acknowledging me again but we aren't getting too comfortable with each other because I don't think neither of us want that lol. I guess that's as much resolution you can get with two air signs.

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aqua men probably need their "friend" group much more than female aquas. lol

i could give two fugs ;p

i will just be honest and say asta la vista baby! lol ;p



anyway um,

well it sounds like you got him back 😄

so i guess the topic was resolved.





and aqua men are more like, "I'll be back!" LOL ;p