On hold

Hey Aquas. I'm in a rut. Would really appreciate some advice please.

I was seeing the most amazing man. He's an Aquarius stellium with a Leo moon, libra Mars. I was very happy with him. I still love him very much and want a future with him.

He decided to put our relationship on hold while he tended to a few things. He said he couldn't invest in our relationship at the moment, and didn't want to be unfair to me. He isn't seeing anyone else, as far as I know. It's been three months.

We have such a strong connection- we have the same thoughts and even say the same things. I'll think of something earlier in the day, and he'll bring it up in the evening. I have only seen this stuff happen in stories. I mentally stimulate him, make him laugh constantly, and get him thinking. Sexually were an incredible combination, where every time we are together, we evolve together. He always calls me "the teacher."

I know he loves me. I'm loveable. And I love him.

But placing our relationship on hold is taking a toll. I'm getting super lonely and sad. He still keeps in touch, but nothing like before. I have talked to him about my feelings of being confused, but all he says is "I know." I don't quite understand why he needed to place our relationship on hold. This problem he has is nothing to do with me.

He has promised me a future- but hasn't given a timeline of when he'll be ready to come back to me.

Aquas please help me understand a few things.

1. Am I hindering this process in any way by being understanding all the time, and patiently waiting? Should I be more aggressive, like an ultimatum or something? Should I date again?

2. Should i trust an Aqua with the promise of a future without any sort of solid action?

We have been seeing each other for two years.

I've been watching "War and Peace" recently. Prince Andrey proposed to Natasha, yet also asked her to wait for another year....in his absence. She wanted to wait, but at the end she didn't, and nobody could blame her for it.

Well, I've been dating an Aqua in 2013. After six months, his company moved him 100 miles away and he broke up with me. I didn't wait for him to come back. Yet he came for me, after almost one year. He wanted a proper relationship with me, since he couldn't get me out of his head. The problem was I was with someone else and Aqua was now 200 miles away...🙂. Then he waited for another year. We are now in a LDR but planning to live together in the near future.

Morale of the story: women should not be put on hold.

He didn't necessarily cut me off. Just won't give more.

Posted by pennystealing123
He didn't necessarily cut me off. Just won't give more.

I would say, do what's best for you, even if you end up being the Aqua's "One that got away". Is it healthy for you to be "on hold"? If not, then don't be, date when you feel ready, or take the time to do stuff for you.

I kind of think when someone wants to put something on hold, that's the equivalent of a break up. A break up in a nice way. It's the old "it's not you, it's me" excuse. It means he no longer wants to put any effort into this at at the very least he's only willing to put in the minimal. It's really not fair to put someone on hold.

For some men to lock it down, they need to feel like they can lose you.

I suppose it depends on what he needs/wants to work on. If you honestly feel he will come around, then there's nothing wrong with waiting, but it's really not fair to you.

He's given you his terms and it's up to you whether you want to take them or whether you want to reject them. If you want more, then you want more. If he's not willing to give more, then crumbs is all you will get. If you want more than he's willing to give, go meet someone else who will give you more.

Coincidentally, aqua and I met up Thursday and he said he wants our relationship to go back to the way it was. He said he wants me. He told me he never left mentally and has not stopped loving me,

Ok fine and good.

I was so happy but then we were at the same function Friday night, and he stayed so far away from me. I'm confused so much. Like, he didn't even tell me goodnight.

So, in your opinion what should I expect now? More detachment? Cause that's what I see.

I gave him the weekend to miss me. He posted something on FB that may be for me, but that's it.

Will we ever have our old relationship back, when he told me that I was everything to him...

You decide what you want. Do you really want a man like that? Why are you leaving it up to him to decide for you? Only you can take charge of your love life.

Tell him, that leaving without saying goodbye when you are both at the same party is bullshit. Aquas are guilty of spreading ourselves around at parties, but that's the Aqua way. However I don't know of any Aquas in a relationship, who just bail without saying something to their sweethearts, male or female.

What are those issues that he needs to tend to so much that he cannot be with you?? It sounds like he's playing mind games on you... Do you really want to be with someone like that?
I know that a man who isn't in the right place mentally will never be able to commit... But he did before right? And stopped. What made him change?