One of the typical break-up lines?

"I really like you (or I love you too), but I don't know (I'm not sure) that I can give you what you want(need)"

I've heard this over and over across the board as a break-up aqua line. A girl just posted this today again. I have my own experience with my aqua girl during our first and only break-up. For what I've seen this line usually refers to not having enough time to hang out with someone you are dating...

Question for the you honest and brave ones:

1 - What has been your reasoning behind this line, if you ever did use it?

2 - What would make you re-considering this thought, in other words, what would make you know, after your thought this, that things could still work? (i.e. is it something your gf/bf must show or do? or rather a resonable logical solution they may come up with?)

3 - If you did get back with someone even after you thoguht this or broke up because of this...what helped you to not think that again or worry about that as much?

Any thoughts? I will thank you tons!

VLL

OMG, the Aqua I dated for what, 6 weeks, used that exact line on me!

The way he put it was "I don't think what I am ready to give is condusive to what you need"....some bullbutter like that.

I hear ya houstonpeach74, there are two new girls who just shared the end of relationship they had with aquas because of that, that's why it would great to hear from our aqua buddies here, because I have heard that line as a break-up line over and over again...so I'm curious.

I'm just wondering if there is anything we, non-aquas, could do to help solve things at that point or not.

Hope you are having a good week!

VLL

i once used something similar to that, and i didn't mean it in a negative way. i was really genuinely concerned for the relationship - for me, those kinds of lines are used more to initiate a dialogue than to end one.

if i really didn't want to tell somebody why i was breaking up with them, i'd just say i was concentrating on myself and that i had certain priorities in work, school, etc etc.

and if that didn't work, i'd just flat out say that my aunt or uncle died and i'm currently being a grievance counselor to my cousins. =)

i'm a scorp male, by the way.

Hey, thank you vanessa, primegen and scorpio wreck...i bet houston girl appreaciate your inputs too.

So maybe is not such a common thing for an aqua to say, but woah have I read that at least about 5 or 6 times here.

I'm surprise to hear that from aquas, because for what I knew you guys are pretty direct and honest with people...but maybe it is different when it comes to relationships?

I would rather think something like the scorpio guy said...but then again, vanessa was quiet honest with the reasons why she would say that.

It is still confusing, because even after my aqua girl said that, she and I told each other that we loved each other...and she was still very protective of me, and to this day is trying to reach me...so I don't know what to think.

I just wish she could know that if truly is about "not feeling able to make me happy" she and I could still work things out...is about compromising little by little...but right now I'm just taking some time to think about what I need as well...

Keep on bringing any thoughts...

VLL

Hi VLL -

I have only used that line if i was seeing someone briefly and decided that it wasn't going to work, i have never said that to someone that i love, admire and respect (which is what it sounds like you and aqua girl have) and was breaking up with.

i have never used that with a more involved relationship because if i did feel like i couldn't give them enough, i would try to work it out with them,
i think if you really want something to work and you feel like "you can't give the other person enough", you have to be able to talk to them about it and help each other through it (which i know you have been very patient and trying to help her as much as you can.....attentive virgo! lol)

I too have never said that line to anyone nor will I. Being an Aries - I share with them my true feelings of how I feel. Hopefully, we can continue to be friends and if not, I understand - so be it.

They mean it though...sometimes I (maybe all aquas)dont like to disappoint the ones that we care for, so its easier just to not get into the situation if its possible. Thats why we may act differently (better) to our friends,'the ones who dont give a shit' (qouting from someone else), bcuz there arent great expectations.