Pisces girl trying to understand a little!

A summer ago, I had a short fling go on with this Aquarius guy and we had several intimate moments during that summertime. So after the summer we talked it out and just became friends. He just kind of told me that he wasn't ready for anything serious and that he felt bad that he kind of used me as "comfort". I accepted how things were and moved on. So then afterwards we would see each other at friends parties and friends outings but never one on one. But one thing that has always kind of left me wondering is that even though I haven't seen him since December and we never hang out, he still texts me. It's at random moments but sometimes he'll be like "was on my break when I texted you" and "was playing game and heard song and thought of you" Our texts are pretty casual and laid back, probably because we don't have much to talk about except for one or two things really and most times they are text during the daytime or mid-morning.

I know aquariuses are loyal friends, and I'm not denying he isn't, and keep their friends for a long time but I assumed that we would just grow apart. His texts are the only thing that is keeping us "together" in a matter of speaking.

if someone asked me if I still liked him, I would admit that I still find him very attractive and I would like to get to know him better, but I've noticed he has a wall, the size of the freakin' wall of China! I don't push anything because it's his choice whether or not he wants to be open or not.

So am I missing something here or am I just over analyzing the crap out of this! 😛 haha

I agree with Metoo. He obviously thinks well of you and wants to be friend with you. So just build the friendship. Don't worry about whether he likes you or what it means, just get to know him. You never know what that will turn into. Possibly a loyal friend for life. Who wouldn't want that?

Start a conversation. Try a question of the day game where you take turns asking questions. Can be simple like what's your favorite ice cream flavor to deeper more thought provoking questions. Someone I met on DXP suggested that and its actually pretty fun.

Posted by Metoo
I thin it would be a nice gesture to reach out to him & make a little effort too.
I think your positive attitude is really mature, he probably really has respect for the way you handled things.

To get to know him, you have to ask questions. thoughtful ones like "do u have any dreams for your career"
just meaning dont conversation be so vague & surface all the time, but your doing great to keep it light.

Well, we've actually talked about goals in our lives and where we want to be in the near future-ish time. How I want to go to school. I'm not so sure career wise what he wants but travel wise we've talked about. But he takes forever to respond to texts and often times forget to text back because he has work or busy with something else. 😛 So I never really give anything a second thought because it's not really consistent 😛

To be honest, I've actually tried to ask more question about himself in general, nothing too probing really, but I feel like even innocent questions like that get him a little tense. I mean I can't see his face when sees my texts but that's what I feel 😛 Strange but what can I do! LoL, so that's why I say that his wall is as high as the wall of china! It's tough to get through to him on a personal level even friendship wise. However, I feel that he acts a little differently when it comes to me because of the whole fact that we have had intimate relations with each other before in the early days, so I feel he's being a little too sensitive, knowing that fact. 😛

You should decide how patient you want to be. Just keep living your life and you might find he's not worth the trouble. It shouldn't be this difficult, ya know.

Posted by truecap
You should decide how patient you want to be. Just keep living your life and you might find he's not worth the trouble. It shouldn't be this difficult, ya know.

Honestly, that's how I've been going about it! Living my life and just going out with friends and just going to ride it out and see what happens. But thank you for the advice! 🙂