Playing hard to get

OK, today my girlfriends and I were discussing the topic of playing hard to get. Do you think people really do this? My thoughts were that if you really liked someone, you wouldn't risk them walking off frustrated cause you played it just a little too hard. Do some people say things they don't mean, show they are not interested when they really are, just want to be friends when they don't. Would someone who is a little insecure about themselves play more hard to get so that if rejection they get, they can kinda prtotect themselves from it? Would a man sleep with a girl, still stay in touch with her regulary but play 'hard to get' on the relationship side? Why would he bother to stay in touch with a girl he's already conquered if he don't really want nothing to do with her relationship wise? Are guys different to girls, some signs different to others? Hhhmmmmmmm, I kinda reckon it's crap, if you like someone it should come kinda natural, why all the games ladies and gentlemen and what are your experiences?

Cause people are stupid,insecure,etc.Yanoo,its one thing to be attracted to someone but not be looking at them seriously until you know them better but the intentional stuff is dumb.Think its normal to be more blaenced in this department,not really "needing" to have sex,be in some type of relationship,etc. almost as soon as you meet them while you just think they're "cute" or whatever.Then on the flipside playing hard to get is dishonesty,little psychotic also(if your actually "worried" about hurt feelings that soon),etc.So I guess my post is useless since naturally is my opinion of the best way to go about it also lol.

I dont think its so much about playing hard to get, just showing that you have a life outside of spending time with them, although its human nature isn;t it, trying to catch what u can have. Im like that, although i can accept "no" and not take it personally, I dont take it as a rejection as a personal assult on my inner child, or at least i try to have that attitude😉 Men see hard to get as something worth catching for severel reasons, it show the women has some value in the outcome, but shes not so attached to it either, i guess, u can play hard to get skillfully without mind benders, but i think its really tricky, im not good at it-
I think men are attracted to bitches,(theres that book, i must read!) as they are good at it, because its in their nature, and the men just shut their eyes to the other negatives, because there are some attractive qualitys these women seem to have, like being selfish, and the man cant control her, Im going to be a bitch😉 a nice one

"trying to catch what u cant have"

Anyone in a crap mood these last days? just me? or an aqua time

You know what. People play to many games in general. It is quite aggravating. It's all about being an adult or at least mature. Folks still don't know how to do that. Sometimes the "thrill" of the chase is tiresome and I don't play that game because guess what if you run from me. You might as well continue because I Do Not Chase People! Period.

yes but if somebody gives you everything easily,(early stages) its boring, is it not? People confuse game playing , I dont want a player, however I find a man more attractive, if theres something to look for

elly...are you still broken up with your aqua? are you two still talking?

elly: "I dont think its so much about playing hard to get"

Exactly. I think that this is just a way to REALLY get to know the person and to know that this isn't just lust, because taking it slow will reveal if this person is the real deal or not. I mean, If she really wants to be with me, she would respect me and enjoy taking things slowly...right? I personally like the exitement of meeting crushes, so I'd like to savor the moment, like slowly opening a christmas present and you have a good feeling that this is the gift you've been waiting to open all your life. If there's no exitement...it's hard for me to stay.

Me no understand the concept 😛

hey moonchild, he contacted today, but im trying so hard to mooooooove on! and am doing ok, throwing myself into work ect, then he sends me a message. I have not responded, I want my mind else where, anywhere, because I know the message is just out of his curiosity, as to why hes not heard from me.

I agree with aquaagi...if it seems to look like im playing hard to get, its just me being confused, if we stay in contact, then you have a really good chance. If I dont like you I will tell you in the nicest manner possible...unless you get on my nerves about it.

Thats what I ment by its not" playing hard to get exactly."Some people naturally do it for whatever reason they have, their behaviour is unpredictable, and everyone likes that, at the star at least.

"start"

whats up aquaj?

OOOOOO NOOOOO!!!! Nope nope nope, no way! Playing hard to get is just as bad as playing with someone's mind 😢 Games are stupid and only for people who enjoy seeing others stress over THEM.

Sorry, but if I don't like a guy nor do I have intimate feelings for him, I'm very upfront about it. UGH! Now whether or not they actually listen is a totally different subject 😢

im not talking about game playing, im taliking about being alittle unpredictable.people confuse the two. You can play nicely too.If all your intimate feelings are upfront, It can kill the interest, whether your two or 19 months into it, u have to keep something burning. its not about games

If all your feelings ate upfront ... it can kill the interest — Hmmmmm, I guess so if the relationship is superficial to begin with 🙂

Anything you have grab someone's attention when they are suppose to be "into you", means that there something wrong with an area in the relationship.

Hey cappy

I understand what your saying Elly, but unpredictable and hard to get are totally different after awhile in a relationship. I agree cappy if your still acting "hard to get" after 6 months of actual dating (relationship status confirmed)your relationship is superficial.

Hi Lady M 🙂 What's going on —?

Ready for the new semester! I'm not completely ready but I'm as ready as I'm going to be 😄 Summer just went by so quickly!!!

Cappy

I know, summer did go a bit quickly in the end...I had so much time on my hands, now I wish I could get it back. My schedules okay though, but i'm already tired. I guess we're never really ready for anything, so I just deal with it. Are you on overload this semester? I dropped a class, it would be too much and take away from my party/alone time.🙂

I will be busy too, I'll still bw working but my hours are cut because of my courseload ... very little money to work with, but that's doable with strict budgeting 😛

I wantedt to tak 17 credits but I changed my mind ... I'm doing 13 instead. Party time—? OOOOO what's that 🙂 It would be nice to dance around in a G-String and feathered boa sometimes 😄 but I don't have the time for it 😉 J/K!!!!

Hahaha, I feel that I have to "take" my alone time before someone takes it 😉

that's a hard one to answer because if someone is like that with ME, I immediately think the worse & move on, but yet when the tables are turned & someone wants to get to know ME I want them to dig some stuff up for theirselves. I'm not the kind of person to say "Ok, I'm blank, blank, blank & I'm not blank, blank, yadda yadda" No- find out for yourself what I'm like. So I think it's looked at as playing hard to get a lot of the time.

Maybe sometimes we ARE hard to get. I'd like to think they love us enough to understand & keep chasing.