Should I call it quits?

I met this Aquarius man about five months ago. We really connected and had a great time with each other and was very comfortable with each other immediately. Within a couple of weeks of hanging out with each other he went silent when we made plans and never showed up. He eventually showed up a week later, apologizing and said he freaked out because he’s not ready for a relationship. Over these months we have continued to see each other every 2-3 weeks and have been getting closer (I think) while remaining casual.

A few weeks ago, he contacted me and said he doesn’t think we should see each other anymore because we are going to eventually develop feelings for each other. We talked and I explained to him that I do really like him and I enjoy taking things slow but if he doesn’t feel the same way we should just stop seeing each other. He also revealed to me that he has been suffering from some depression and needs to focus on himself. I told him if he ever needed to talk that I was there for him and I wish the best for him but will leave him be to focus on himself.

The next day, he contacted me and invited me over to his house. We talked and had a great time together and really opened up. I am the only person he has told that he has been having a hard time lately and he’s usually very open with me lately. The next couple of days we talked a bit but the following day he completely stepped back. He told me that he needs to stop drinking and that he’s very jaded and needs to be alone this weekend to think about a lot of things. He was slightly mean and a bit agressive (picking a fight) but I wouldn’t bite. I told him goodnight and left it at that because I respect that he needs a lot of alone time.

I contacted him a few days later and apologized to him and told him I’m sorry if I offended him when he was arguing with me and he was very short, I told him to have a good weekend, and he then told me he wish I wouldn’t have contacted him since he told me he wanted to be alone. At that point I did not respond because I knew he would get upset if I kept going on. I left him to his thoughts and have not contacted him so he can have his time to think. Should I call it quits with him? He and I have a very strong connection but I will also not continue to pursue if he isn’t interested. There are many times that he goes silent for a couple of weeks but should I contact him if I don’t end up hearing from him? I want to respect his time that he needs but I also want to know if he still wants to hear from me.

Only quitter quits 😜

When he stood you up the first time that should've been your cue to move onto the next.

I would walk away... if someone really is into you they wouldn't stand you up or be hot and cold. Cut your losses and find someone better

Imagine future with man who is treating you like that...probably being drunk! Do you need THIS in your life?

Who knows if he will ever get out of depression for good? Do you want to deal with it? Walk girl...

Posted by ACsquarepluto

I would send him a kind message since he is important to you. Since it's meant well it shouldn't hurt. If he wants to keep an open line of communication with you he'll respond eventually

She needs to find ‘right’ time for message to arrive. Between his drinking...hard task! Or he will lashed out on her again.

She seem like a level headed smart woman. She doesn’t need to be told off by man with issues. Right? No?

@the_wit

Just saw he dissapeared many times for a few weeks in 5 months you’ve known each other?

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