Stubborn?

For the past two years I've seen my best aquarius friend give more than he should to work. Everyone of of his friends are concerned for his well being. Lately he's lost that cheerful aura about him, that trademark aquarius mischievous eyes and smile. I'm not sure if he's tired or whether he's just given up. I was always certain he had passion but I'm starting to think it's a bit of that stubbornness kicking in.

He also recently had a falling out with one of our saggie co workers and that's made a huge impact, for the past year they did everything together. He looked after her, helped her in ways to succeed at her role or tried to. I'm sure he took it to heart when one of the saggie's reason's to leave was because of him. Yet he kept reassuring us that he could see her point about always been stressed. Well of course he is stressed, he has been consistently doing two people's jobs and never taking any credit for it!

We're all asking if he's okay but no one's managed to get him to budge. He's working 7 days a week now to fix up so many mistakes and our head office doesn't even appreciate or help him in anyway. He's not stupid he knows he can easily find another role or choose not to do the work. He said one night after we went for some quiet drinks, and I'm paraphrasing "With the saggie, I helped her because I could, because she needed it, I thought we'd be able to address issues with head office if we worked together because two voices are better than one, help her manage and get her life back on track. Plus I like this job even if it tires me out to the point of exhaustion, it's the only way I know to show you guys that I care about you. I dictate the mood of our workplace and I believe it's my responsibility to you all".

I've seen him work back to back for 7 days straight, catching him sleeping just about anywhere when he gets a chance. Girls would flirt with him and he doesn't even flinch or acknowledge them, it's always work work work. I can't imagine the amount of stress he must go through but everyday he would be there, even with just half a smile these days like it doesn't bother him.

I'm really worried, all his friends are, how do we help you aquarius folks? Sometimes that wall is frustrating even when you guys loosen it a bit.

I'm an aries and I see that from the perspective of a man... The emotional and sensitive one... He knew that he can rage it all out about the relationship that ended, but he just prefer to put as much as he can on his shoulders to prove something... Maybe to the saggie, maby to you all... But MOSTLY to himself. I struggeled all my life with the idea of not beeing "good enough" and the fear of losing ppl and bringing them down because I dont do well enough...

What you can do for him is to just let him handle it in his way... Let him work until he cant take it, because, by doing that he just feels usefull and "enough". He is doing it for himself. Dont try to talk it about and if you want to make this struggle shorter try to show him very subtle clues of appreciation... In time if you are patient he will slow down and become the guy he was some time ago.

I have been trough a similar time, and all I can say is that if he chanells his energy of emotions in a good way, like work, he can do amazing things.
You are a good friend if you made time for asking this btw. 😄

He sounds a bit like me.

Is he a workaholic or do you think he is just stressing himself ever since the fallout with the saggie?

He's upset because that he felt that he's the main reason the Saggie girl left & took the blame. Aquas are very affectionate people, that must have created a huge emotional impact on him. Especially since he puts in so much effort for that sag friend, she must be someone dear to him.

Right now he just wishes to work her share too so that he feels less guilty. Its a very unhealthy period but aquas are very stubborn, you guys cant do anything about it but be there to support him until he gets over this. This company that you guys worked in is really not ideal. A company that does not care for the well being of their employees will never be a strong business organization.