toooo long, I know. need advice....;-)

yes ignore him , move on, why are you jumping for this man, when he doesn`t do the same for you, he knows that you will come running over to him when he wants you to...it`s just not fair for yourself at all.

Apology accepted but the paragraphs would've been appreciated too 😛

Not sure what to make of this. So some genuine questions for you.

1. Do you have feelings for this man disregarding trying to play it cool disregarding whether the feelings came before or after spending time together.

2. Is the only thing bothering you his ex and the lack if initiation on his part?

3. In what way did you open up apart from that one question.

Jessgoogoo, I KNOW! That's what I keep telling myself. Don'T run after men etc. I'm really trying. I feel like I am stuck, maybe that'S why I am here. He is not even an asshole. Why can'T he be? Well, so I don't have to take responsibility, probably....ARRG. Kind of mad about myself.

Okay, Aquasnoz. THANK YOU!

1. I do. It took me quite a long time to admit that to myself, though...😉 I know, I sound so stupid. I'm usually not this tiny, girly, dependend creature...😉

2. Bothering, or mostly leaving me insecure about what to think is his lack of initiation. About his ex: the only thing that's bothering me, is that I'm afraid he's still in love with her.

3. No other way.
I do not know what to do, say, try, always scared to embarrasse myself and so on. In the end I have to open up to people, I know that. Just can't seem to do it without getting anything from him...

Okies! Well tbh I understand why people feel the need to be guarded about their feelings because I'm actually one of those people. I just don't think you should feel embarrassed about opening up at all, there's nothing weak about feeling vulnerable.

So I might actually take jessgoogoo's side but just the ignore part. Being guarded about feeling and being less expressive doesn't mix well with over-analysing a situation because you're only speculating circumstances. I mean you are right to worry about everything you've said but it takes two to tango! If he's use to the communication in which you described then to be honest I don't think he's acting out of character so you may need to prod him a bit.

Other than that ignore it, keep living life, if a guy is genuinely interested in you, he'd make it known. My 2 cents.

"if a guy is genuinely interested in you, he'd make it known."
YAP. Easiest and hardest thing at the same time 😉

I know I am basically speculating.

So I keep ignoring him and just forget?


Love your answers, Aquasnoz 😉Thanks.