Unrequited Love

It's a bummer isn't it? For both parties concerned; the ones who are lusting after and ones being lusted after but trying to reject the advances. I've been in both positions before and they both pretty much sucked.

It's a terribly frustrating and angst ridden time when you feel such strong attractions and emotions to someone who doesn't and can't feel the same way for you. And you end up feeling lonely and degraded that you will want to reach out to this person to face the indignity of them trying politely or not so politely to turn you down and not return your affections.

Then there's the other side of the coin where you are only too aware that a certain person has deeper feelings than they will admit for you and even though you will try in various different ways to tell them that you don't feel the same for them and regard them as a purely platonic friend, they will nonetheless oppress you with guilt trips and dirty looks and hurt expressions if you do anything that might upset the myth that they have perpetuated that you and he/she are actually an item; a myth that quite often you must acknowledge as if it is almost real in order to keep them happy and keep them as your friend. Or else shatter the myth and terminate the friendship.

But like I said, either way, unrequited love sucks like sour milk. Sometimes one might ask why would Mother Nature create these one way attractions among human beings, that one can see the mate of their desires in one person while (s)he can return no such strong and noble sentiment but just mild irritation and exasperation.

Nah. What I'm referring to is not the same as chasing or playing hard to get. I mean when one person is lusting after another but he/she ain't interested and there's no amount of co-ercion or persuasion that will change their mind or make them "see" the person the way their persuer would wish them to.

good advice, say it twice?

'one might ask why would Mother Nature create these one way attractions among human beings'

I often think about this. You would have thought that it would be impossible for us to love someone who could not love us back, and that we would have an instinct built into us and automatically not be attracted to them. I put it down to being a lesson that probably everybody has to learn and go through, and its purpose is to prepare us and make us stronger.

Yeah I guess that's just the empathy coming out. But even if you'd never been turned down you'd still find it unpleasant doing it to someone else for less aggro if nothing else.

"if all plan fails, then that's when you buy a bucket of ice-cream and dig in.. find some peace in your heart."

Good policy indeed. At least ice cream makes you feel nice!

Nicely put Mellow Dee.....one of life's strange paradoxes or questions to which there are a myriad of possible theories, feelings, reactions - but there is nothing worse as the "uuugh feeling" of being rejected, that's for sure - stomach-sickner indeed.

At 40 years of age, the one thing in life I have learnt is that human beings always want what they cannot have - it's a natural law and I have used and abused this law probably lots of times.......I always know that you cannot force a person to love or fall in love with you if they haven't got the "hots" for you...the more you chase, the more you run. So to remain ultimately attractive, you must remain elusive, mysterious and available when it suits you......and you must tell the othe person that yes, they have the choice and freedom to choose whatever and whoever they wish to be with......funnily enough when you give them their freedom and choice, the tide turns and it's you they want.....but hey you know my story too well......

Anyway, on a lighter note, you got your stunt-driver from Hollywood chasin you:-) and I have a "look alike" Edward Burns (yeah just checked him out on the Net and you're right, there defo. is a similarity).....so I guess it ain't all a bed of black roses:-)

For anyone interessted, Mellow Dee has got herself a nice real-life "stunt rider" car guy (was in Pulp Fiction etc. etc.) - now how's that for one hot lady!!!!!

Talk later my pal.

A x

"So to remain ultimately attractive, you must remain elusive, mysterious and available when it suits you......and you must tell the othe person that yes, they have the choice and freedom to choose whatever and whoever they wish to be with......funnily enough when you give them their freedom and choice, the tide turns and it's you they want....."

Exactly!

Hehe!! awww thanks Alana that's sweet! I dunno about the stunt sriver bit, although he could have been pulling few other stunts there 😉

"human beings always want what they cannot have - it's a natural law.......

So to remain ultimately attractive, you must remain elusive, mysterious and available when it suits you......and you must tell the othe person that yes, they have the choice and freedom to choose whatever and whoever they wish to be with......funnily enough when you give them their freedom and choice, the tide turns and it's you they want.....but hey you know my story too well"

And you certainly work it well Mizz Alana that's for sure 🙂

*stunt driver!!!!!!!!!!


argh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah...she really does has a stunt driver guy from Hollywood - we partied all nite at his last Saturday....I'd say he did a few "wheelies" for Her Geminilover:-)


A x

Yes we partied till the early hours, sipping on Stella Artois and nibbling on Hungarian truffles....

GL, yep Alana and I were doing our aquarian duty and painting the town amethyst last saturday night.

"that doesn't happen often ....sometimes..they're just not INTERESTED.."

I don't believe in just not interested. 😛

Blushes of passion satisfiecd MD!!!!😉
Well Mellow Dee sipped Stella Artois all nite ...me on the nice vino:-)

Plus they made us a nice breakfast next day....gentlemen...who knows.....me aquarian, myn guy aquarian, Mellow Dee's an aquarian,he's a leo - her stunt driver:-) - let's not go to the photo shoots:-)

A x

Yes well ahem....they put on a good spread I'll give them that!

Hmm. Well, of course you can't make everyone like you. But that's why it's important to be adaptable. I think it's possibly to make pretty much anyone like you if you play on what you know they like.

I think it may be because they dislike the way you are so mad about them. It can be off putting to see someone be "crazy" about you. It's like suspect or something.

possibly=possible

"I agree, for the most part. But there almost always has to be some physical attraction."

Definitely. However, if a woman exudes confidence and sexuality, who's to say she can't spark a physical attraction that otherwise would not have existed? 😉

Even physical attraction is somewhat psychological 😛

A man can do the same thing, imo. I have met men, and not been physically attracted to them, but their attitude somehow made them attractive.

"Definitely. However, if a woman exudes confidence and sexuality, who's to say she can't spark a physical attraction that otherwise would not have existed? "

Yes you have a point here for sure. I think this is connected up with elusiveness as well. Both qualities - being elusive and being bold and confident - are attractive and so attract people.

Neither being confident nor elusive is "playing on what they want". It's the opposite actually.

In a way, it is playing on what they want. Most people will agree that confidence will make them want someone more, and that if someone has "other options" (whether they really do or they are being elusive), they are more likely to pursue or be interested.

Tanya "MD you posted on the wrong thread."

How so?

"and you must tell the othe person that yes, they have the choice and freedom to choose whatever and whoever they wish to be with......funnily enough when you give them their freedom and choice, the tide turns and it's you they want.....but hey you know my story too well......"


-soooo true...

hey moonchild did you see my thing about Aquarius moon?

yes i did wheels, thank you!