When the Aqua man finally says I love you

I am new to this site... I find it so amazing that there are many aquas's giving out free advice and you guys are 10000% on the bulls eye. I guess it's a humanitarian effort. I have my own little aqua issue... lol...I am a Leo and he is on the cusp of cap and aqua. I have known him for about 10 months. Recently he said to me that I was more than a friend to him and in an email he wrote the 3 words every woman wants to hear ( we all want them to say it first) ... "I love you". He said it was easier for him to express it in words that to actually say it. Which I totally respect. I reciprocated and wrote back and said how I feel which was the same way. I think I went about a more passionate route than he did and didn't make it so boring. I love him a lot... but I reserve and hold those feelings. I don't want to make him nervous or afraid. I act cool and then he started acting cold towards me. I know he has feelings for me but he does not call that much. We talked all the time ...everyday...and communication was important to both of us. Now it's like this person evolved into something else. He texts now and it's hard to even get a response from him. He said he needed some space and to be by himself. I respect that but it's not fair. It feels like he just abandoned me in the rain and ran away with the umbrella. I have a cold and it won't go away and the only thing that can make it better is his warmth because I continue to shiver form the cold. My question: in this dynamic scenario ... is he afraid of what he feels because he can't handle his emotions or is he regretful of expressing this and can't deal with his guilt so he runs towards the top of the Himalayas far from anyone's view ? Before this moment i felt our relationship was so perfect... almost a fantasy and now it's like a nightmare... what's ur opinions.. ?? Thanx

Revision : What are your opinions ?

Thanks aguaaqi .... i appreciate your comments. 🙂

leokitten...glad to hear you are doing well and moving on from your aqua! good luck to you...

my longest relationship so far has been with a leo girl.although i am sure this record is going to be broken soon.

you don't sound so infringing to me.but yeah i also have my off days.when i don't want to pick up the phone,and i cut away from the rest of the world.talking to anyone seems like a burden.it is a like an attack.haahaa
solitude feels nice during this time.and hence i don't take any calls,often turn my cell off and move away.
when i was with the leo,she would constantly prod me on this habit.she would send n number of sms's,and demand replies,which i did not feel like doing.its not that did not tell her that i needed some time off to relax,an that i cannot be her constant mills and boons guy.there are times when i cannot say sweet nothings,because i cannot feel like saying those things 24/7.she wanted the romance all the time,which was not my thing.i do romance,but hell i am not a puppet,i do it when i feel like it.
on the other hand,all she did was to sit like a queen and listen to the endearment.it made me feel foolish,and used.she did nothing to reciprocate.it was a huge task to get her to listen to me once in a while.i felt irritated as the relationship progressed.
i did like her mind,the thing that attracted me to her,but her demanding nature was a bit too much to take,i felt caged.to be honest.
i need my space,thats a must,and if i don't get it,i get nasty.

i am sure you are a better example of a leo,let him be in the solitude for some time,give him the space if he says so,wait out.i am sure he will come back,if he really cares for you,and when he does,he may look more relaxed and refreshed than before.
its a kind of detox for me,and when i return from my quiet spells,i feel much better.

very well said DTN...hopefully all the females dealing with aqua men (including myself) will listen to what you had to say and take it into consideration!!!

i hope it cleared the air a little.🙂
although every individual is different,but still,i gave my part of the story.

graciouslioness...to sort of answer your question, i think some of these aqua boys run away out of fear...you have to just accept it and either give him his space, or move on. as everyone has said before, it takes a lot of time and patience with an aqua. and 10 months is NOT very long...

as i said before,if he really cares for you,he will be back.
you don't have to read too much into it,just be patient.

patient,yeah right,i should be telling myself that.

Devil's the name... well i like your game.. of " THINKING"... your response is valid... holds plenty of truth. Patience is the key i learned ..but his unpredictability drives me wild.... I love the challange of taming him... because it's very hard. Guess that's what keeps me patient... the fact that one day...i will have victory.. 🙂

I have read your message and I am also new at this site. I would say that he really took his time to tell you how he feels, and he did it in a way that he felt most comfortable. I think that you should tell him that you appreciated so much what he told you, but that you understand that he needs his space. In the meantime, distract yourself while you wait for him to come back to you. When he does, tell him what yu have been doing. He will see that you are not dependent on him to live your life.

When he finally gives you some of his precious time, take it like it is you last chance, then let him go; you'll see, he will come back to you. Give him his space.

I love the challange of taming him... because it's very hard. Guess that's what keeps me patient... the fact that one day...i will have victory..

for starters,an aquarius will never be tamed,just like a leo,so you should stop taking it as a challenge.
what you can do is that be as wild as him,and run along.as i said,if he cares,he will slower the pace,and run with you,but won't stop.
or else if he does not run along you eventually,you can run in another direction🙂

I was Tamed! but I met a fellow aqua-I still think aquas should be with aquas

aqua+aqua=🙂

you think you were,think again,isn't it really your decision?😛

u mean to be tamed?

i find other aquarians a little whcaky sometimes,especially the chicks
*hides from ladyM*
😛

u mean to be tamed?

yes

there was this chick in my class in college,who's bday was one day before mine,she was crap at studies,and often did not attend the classes.
i used to help her a lot,because she asked me to,although her looks were the factor that kept me interested😛

Lady M will get you!!!!

yes I suppose so... In A way he did tame me, small things like holding his hand, and silly suff i'd never do, so in some sense he did...

i used to help her a lot,because she asked me to,although her looks were the factor that kept me interested-is that why you call yourself the devil??

There's this aqua girl in my office, she's argumentative, and loud, and gossips alot. I never came across one like that before...

haahaa
i have many reasons to call myself devil😛
that one can be one of them too.heehee

that girl was loud too,and gossiped a lot,so it did not work out eventually,there is a limit till the looks can work,but beyond a certain point,you want something more than looks in woman.

but i found my match later,much later,in a beautiful intelligent virgo,with an aquarius moon.
i think it matched my virgo moon perfectly.
heady combination😛

Of course...looks die eventually anyway...

I Didnt think Aqua and virgo were a great match, maybe your moons help....? I had a relationship with a virgo, didnt work out at all, but we stayed friends, and still get on to this day..

That's not uncommon. She needs a project to keep her occupied or a man"

Yes she needs a man, shes made that clear, and is trying to set up her own company which is not really working out,...

That's not uncommon. She needs a project to keep her occupied or a man"

Yes she needs a man, shes made that clear, and is trying to set up her own company which is not really working out,...