WHY DO AQUARIUS MEN SEEM SELFISH

I've been with my Aquarius for over four years. I've been through the disappearing, aloofness, detachment and even seen some selfish tendencies as well. I use to be clingy, wanted the attention 24/7, when I didn't hear from him my mind went crazy... after a period of time I just got use to his ways if I didn't hear from him I wouldn't even bother him I would just live my life and do me and once I started doing that I would hear from him more often and things were good. I moved about 40 mins away and I started to feel the disconnect...I tried to keep the communication going and I felt like he just wasn't making an attempt anymore even after he told me we were going to be okay. I started to hear from him less and he would text me whenever he wanted. I spent thanksgiving with him and talked to him asking what was going on and he said that " I became inaccessible" after that I made the attempt to try and spend more time and again I felt he wasn't trying. He started being distant texting me when he wanted and I just got fed up so I just became distant as well. His birthday passed and I made the decision not to bother because I felt that I shouldn't since he didn't give a shit to contact me to even see how I'm doing. since I didn't contact him on his birthday he texted me four days after asking if he should be saying " F*** YOU TOO" I was confused because I don't understand how someone could be so selfish demanding a birthday celebration from you but can't even contact you. I asked him to give me a reason why he felt he deserved anything and I would apologize....lol I didn't get a response. Later that night I messaged him and told him how I tried my all but he was to selfish to even notice it. It's been a month and I've been trying to push forward and I'm not going to lie at times he cross my mind because this was someone I loved and did share good times with for over four years... I JUST WONDER DO AQUARIUS KNOW AND WILL EVER ADMIT WHEN THEY'RE WRONG OR BEING SELFISH?

It's not just an aquarius man a guy who does that doesn't value you. You were just a convenience for him and you spoiled him with giving your all while he did nothing. He is doing what most men who isn't interested in commitment do. You are better off without him anyway.

Thanks. I felt that as well he just wasn't that serious about me.

I have been with my Aqua for 6 years (long distance) and i think i've been through a very similar situation with mine. However, i don't have to doubt his love for me as i know he does love me. He has proposed, wants kids, introduced me to his entire family and he is very close to my family in his country. Whenever we are together in the flesh, he showers me with all the love, affection,things i like and he becomes the clingy one 😛

I was slightly clingy at the beginning but with time he rubbed off on me and i decided to "get a life" just like him. When i would argue with him about lack of contact he would simply tell me he likes to make time for everyone. I was so pissed off with that explanation but it's simply the truth. He's an extrovert and quite the humanitarian.
Some points:

* Sometimes they like to play mind games.

*They don't like to deal with clingy people AT ALL.

*Sometimes they use detachment to protect their emotions.

*They can be unapologetic and quite stubborn too as you mentioned.

*He has disappeared on me twice because he lost his phones both times. I would get very annoyed with him because i'm like even if he lost his phone he could find some other way to let me know rather than have me wait for weeks til he got a new one! Sometimes i just have to wonder how they think.

*They don't like being told how to act/love

* Miserable people = NO NO .

From experience, selfishness is a trait for sure but it mightn't seem that way to them!

I think from your post that he does care about you because if he didn't he would definitely not give a damn if you told him happy birthday or not. My advice to you would be to be more observant not only about communication but in other areas. If you get red flags in other areas, then you might have a problem, if you don't get any more red flags then you might just have the typical Aquarius to deal with! Find other things to do with your life so that the relationship doesn't consume you.

Secondly, when he talks about his future, listen carefully as if he is serious you will be in it when he speaks about it. I would say ignore him but he probably wont notice as he might just think you are busy and/or taking some space, which is usually very fine with them unfortunately.

Overall, if time keeps going by and you feel unappreciated and the cons outweigh the pros then i think you should think things over. Have a very serious conversation and ask him what his motives are.

Aren't we all selfish to some extent? Isn't that human nature?

Posted by BeautyNBrains23
I've been with my Aquarius for over four years. I've been through the disappearing, aloofness, detachment and even seen some selfish tendencies as well. I use to be clingy, wanted the attention 24/7, when I didn't hear from him my mind went crazy... after a period of time I just got use to his ways if I didn't hear from him I wouldn't even bother him I would just live my life and do me and once I started doing that I would hear from him more often and things were good. I moved about 40 mins away and I started to feel the disconnect...I tried to keep the communication going and I felt like he just wasn't making an attempt anymore even after he told me we were going to be okay. I started to hear from him less and he would text me whenever he wanted. I spent thanksgiving with him and talked to him asking what was going on and he said that " I became inaccessible" after that I made the attempt to try and spend more time and again I felt he wasn't trying. He started being distant texting me when he wanted and I just got fed up so I just became distant as well. His birthday passed and I made the decision not to bother because I felt that I shouldn't since he didn't give a shit to contact me to even see how I'm doing. since I didn't contact him on his birthday he texted me four days after asking if he should be saying " F*** YOU TOO" I was confused because I don't understand how someone could be so selfish demanding a birthday celebration from you but can't even contact you. I asked him to give me a reason why he felt he deserved anything and I would apologize....lol I didn't get a response. Later that night I messaged him and told him how I tried my all but he was to selfish to even notice it. It's been a month and I've been trying to push forward and I'm not going to lie at times he cross my mind because this was someone I loved and did share good times with for over four years... I JUST WONDER DO AQUARIUS KNOW AND WILL EVER ADMIT WHEN THEY'RE WRONG OR BEING SELFISH?

Maybe he's just lazy, just like me because I couldn't bother reading all of your post except the last part.

Jokes aside, why waste time wondering and not go on with your life? If it's of any help, I do admit I'm wrong when I realize I'm wrong. That usually takes some time and I don't apologize often. You seem young from your style of writting, so you're better off going your

*own way Imo.

It's been I while since I last posted here. Forgot about the fucking character limit... 😡