Winning back an Aquarius after he dumped me.

He's not interested. Get your stuff from him (if you want it) and move on.

yep, out of luck

I dunno, I actually feel he feels something for you or he wouldn't have dumped you so suddenly, with that being said the ONLY way to get things rolling again is to let him go, do not initiate anymore contact with him not even for your things, DON'T MOVE TOWARDS HIM AT ALL, we Aqua's can appear cold but we also need space to allow our real feelings to catch up with us, I can't speak for all Aqua's but I can speak for myself because I've been in your situation.

I'm not saying hang on, I do suggest you move on as in put him behind you and get back into your own routine, get back into dating, go have fun and put Aqua on the back burner, give him 6 weeks, HE'LL BE BACK, if you do nothing, if you do not initiate contact he'll find his way back to you because here's the thing about not contacting a man that you think you may love and/or can see yourself in love with, if you initiate then it's like pushing your wants onto him which can create BAD FEELINGS, feelings that he'll associate with you which doesn't help you at all, if you can show him you respect his choice to move on you're actually HELPING your situation because allowing him to go is ATTRACTIVE, he associates those attractive feelings with you but contacting him because you need him and/or need to say what's on your mind breathes of desperation, I'm sure you're not desperate but it's your actions that can actually say something that's not true about you so in order for that to not happen DO NOTHING/SAY NOTHING.

He's already said up front he's no longer going to go further, ALL MEN SAY THAT but not all men mean it, if you want know if he meant what he said, DO NOTHING, don't email him, don't text him, don't move towards him, DO NOTHING, if he had a lot of fun with you and if he felt he had to be all in and he abruptly chose to move on well I have a gut instinct he's not gone for good and IMHO the best way to help a guy make up his mind is to let him go.

Give him 6 to 8 weeks, if he doesn't come back, IT'S OVER but I have a feeling if you don't take the friend route which is really the low value route which is NOT attractive and doesn't help you at all and if you don't initiate contact of any kind he'll contact you and then it'll be on again, you'll have an opportunity to rebuild the relationship up with him again.

He will be back when he thinks you are over it. Seems to me he wants to be friends, at least for now.

If you want some kind of commitment from him, I suggest you look elsewhere.

Fabulous Tikki! 🙂

No! Absolutely not! I will not let you do this to yourself.


*grabs you by the shoulders and shakes you*


That should do it. Hope that helped.

I agree with the comments of "out of luck", "not interested" and shake you out of your madness.. kind of thing.
these guys (not all), like many men out there,
are PLAYBOYS! If he's just got done with a divorce and not looking for anything but a feel good sex thing,
you better not invest your love into him or you'll be one of the many crying and crying in your pillow.
this is NO TIME to start "HOPING" and dreaming and dreaming. Unless that is what you want in your life. Then go ahead.
A man will want you when he is already planning your engagement ring or a place for you two to live together. Then that's when the next step is achieved.

LOL @ the choice of song


Awesome

I'm wondering how the chances of him going on other dates with new people would impact his feelings towards me? I am going to maintain no contact, and I know that he will contact me again in the future, but would having him meet new people help or hurt my case?

I'm just curious?

Sunshine-Google Aqua men. Check out the multiple articles from Linda Goodman-she has alot of details in her books on all of the sun signs.
You will need a lot more knowledge of these types and then you can answer your questions.

It takes a very long time for an Aqua man to commit and I hate to say but 3 months is not that long. They love their freedom and that includes meeting and befriending all walks of life, including woman. They are the types to date/sleep with other woman to try to get over you, but if they have a real and true connection with you non of them will compare to you.
They will need to connect with your mind first and foremost and once they establish that (THEY BELIVE THAT TO BE TRUE) then they will become hooked! Also, if your Aqua is mature the decision to start a journey with you will be quicker and not take too much time, but still an ample amount of time. If he is immature it could take years!

I do not want to discourage you from dating other men, bcus if you do that will help him to connect to you faster, as in it will keep him on his toes and guessing! You see, he has you all figured out already!!! You sent him an email saying your goodbye and he knows damn well that is not what you want! So now, the ball is in his court.

Take care of yourself in the mean time while he plays his own head game. Hang out witht the girls, go to dinner with a male friend or hell, go on a date! Read a book, dance, play with your nieces and nephews, sing a song at the top of your lungs to a song on the radio, go to a beach, write in your journal, have a glass of wine, but most of all be comfortable in your skin. BE YOU! And the rest will fall in line.....

🙂

Bump....

courious to know if Sunshine has heard from the aqua?

One thing is true is aquas are honest and confusing as hell! lol!! You really didn't let him talk about the break up, so no telling what he wanted to say about it. I would play it by ear and wait for him to contact you next.