Anyone else annoyed

by freaking people pleasers?

I think that next to full blown assholes, they're the bigger asshole of the two, tbh.

I just feel like you cannot trust individuals like this. Sooo much wtfery to be had.

I know of one, who, while very nice, has a tendency to say and do stupid shit for the sake of the crowd. Lo and behold, she now has problems with those she tried to fit in with by doing such dumb shit. Why? They took advantage of her easygoing nature/people pleasing tendencies and now she's unhappy. What a shocker...

Another one who I know of is also incredibly passive, but screws over/flakes out on others for people he bitches about/claims he wants space from. "They push me into these things and I don't really want to go." ...so don't go. But because he doesn't want to be seen in any bad light, he goes along with it. ...all while texting me about how much he doesn't want to be there. Nevermind that he plasters all over social media how much he loves them and prioritizes them in his life. ...but he bitches about them pressuring him into stuff and wanting a life away from them.

It just makes me face palm.

While I'm generally okay with both, I couldn't trust either as far as I could throw them, tbh. What is wrong with people that they have to resort to such measures? Being a push over in regard to certain things happens sometimes, but to have your entire existence revolve around making sure everyone likes you? MUST be exhausting and miserable.

You suck, that post was a bunch o'bitching and no one cares.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
by freaking people pleasers?

I think that next to full blown assholes, they're the bigger asshole of the two, tbh.

I just feel like you cannot trust individuals like this. Sooo much wtfery to be had.

I know of one, who, while very nice, has a tendency to say and do stupid shit for the sake of the crowd. Lo and behold, she now has problems with those she tried to fit in with by doing such dumb shit. Why? They took advantage of her easygoing nature/people pleasing tendencies and now she's unhappy. What a shocker...

Another one who I know of is also incredibly passive, but screws over/flakes out on others for people he bitches about/claims he wants space from. "They push me into these things and I don't really want to go." ...so don't go. But because he doesn't want to be seen in any bad light, he goes along with it. ...all while texting me about how much he doesn't want to be there. Nevermind that he plasters all over social media how much he loves them and prioritizes them in his life. ...but he bitches about them pressuring him into stuff and wanting a life away from them.

It just makes me face palm.

While I'm generally okay with both, I couldn't trust either as far as I could throw them, tbh. What is wrong with people that they have to resort to such measures? Being a push over in regard to certain things happens sometimes, but to have your entire existence revolve around making sure everyone likes you? MUST be exhausting and miserable.

Option 2.. UGH!
Ladies this is the passive aggressive cookiemonster your chasing after who does little in return and it never gets better. He'll be texting all his buddies (and other ladies) about how he feels forced and pushed instead of manning up taking charge and doing anything about it without whining and talking behind the other party's back.
No Thanks and NEXT!

And the truth shall set you free!"

Posted by Bigapetree123
You suck, that post was a bunch o'bitching and no one cares.

Apparently you cared enough to write a response.

Nice try precious.

Posted by Arielle83
Drop them.

That's the plan.

Sometimes I wonder if the state and mindest of society currently is what encourages bs like this. The chick I gotta give credit to, at least she can admit if she's done something stupid/wrong when she has these moments. The dude? Pfft. ZERO accountability. But they were just examples to illustrate my point. I'm sure we've all met people like this, but I can't be the only one who finds people like this just... not people to be trusted, regardless of how "nice" they are.

You gotta wonder if it's just sheer madness when people cannot even grasp the difference between good/bad behavior. It absolutely astounds me that some go through life doing shit like this with zero awareness of the negative outcomes.

I just didn't wanna be a people pleaser, thanks for being cool about it. 😉

Yeah, we all grow and change. Some people just don't do so very well. I have a friend who's found that he just cannot relate to a friend of his who he's had since high school. He doesn't dislike the guy, but the last few times he's seen him, he can't help but wonder "wtf, this isn't high school anymore. It's time to grow up, dude..." They're both in their mid to late thirties.

Be gone you lame bitch.

No I just became more introverted and it solved all issues with people. Focusing on me and family as well as people who have same life goals now helped me get away from PPs

Posted by BlackNova
rockyroad, u whine a lot
u must be really annoying to live with,
do u live on yr own?
LOL

Do you know how to write without looking like some grade school drop out? It's really annoying. I bet listening to you talk is really annoying. Do you have anyone that actually listens to you?

Posted by Flavia
No I just became more introverted and it solved all issues with people. Focusing on me and family as well as people who have same life goals now helped me get away from PPs

That's where I've been heading, tbh. People's bs burns me out. :/

With everything that I've been going through in the last month, I've just hit this "fuck it" point. Going through all this stuff has just proven to me who's who.

This post came to be because I saw a known people pleaser post some bs on social media and it just freaking amazes me how crazy they come across. It's so sad, yet so maddening to see because it's like wow, do you not see how much you contradict yourself and how it makes you look like a total insecure nutter? Jesus.

Posted by Vegetta91
Oh yes, especially when they try to be smart and they fail
I know one personally and he would lick any teacher's butt to get a good grades, and he does
Ah but karma is a bitch
I never liked them for 2 reasons: He is as fake and he would do anything to get a good remark from somebody

This is why I have a hard time fully trusting individuals like this- they're so obsessed with what everyone else thinks of them/wanting to be seen in a good light by others, it makes you wonder the extent that they'll go to to keep this image. Lying, deceit, backstabbing, etc.

Seems exhausting. Why not just go through life actually being a decent person instead of faking the persona? When you do so out of genuine intent, it comes far easier than faking it. I'd think at some point, you'd start to lose track of who you really are...

I've noticed that. I think that's why we see such a wave of passivity in dating too... amongst other reasons.

I'm an Aries.

And yes, a lot of Libras really are. I see so many so unhappy with a lot of things in life because they're prone to rolling on over so people will like them.

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Posted by AirMan
aren't you a libra? from my understanding, libras are people pleasers.

Not all.

Some Libras (especially the more mature ones who just happen to have water moons) won't take any BS from anyone and they won't hesitate to cut off anyone who tries to impose themselves on them.

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yes i would have to agree. my brother in law has dated drug addicts and people who abuse him, or have abused him. but now he is wth my sister and they are both very happy.
i dont see him being the type at all being persuaded by his ex even if it came to their child who she abandoned at a very young age, a baby.

ironically enough she had more children. dont know her sign though. but my sister works in the government so if her file comes up, she remembers.

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Posted by AirMan
aren't you a libra? from my understanding, libras are people pleasers.

Not all.

Some Libras (especially the more mature ones who just happen to have water moons) won't take any BS from anyone and they won't hesitate to cut off anyone who tries to impose themselves on them.

yes i would have to agree. my brother in law has dated drug addicts and people who abuse him, or have abused him. but now he is wth my sister and they are both very happy.
i dont see him being the type at all being persuaded by his ex even if it came to their child who she abandoned at a very young age, a baby.

ironically enough she had more children. dont know her sign though. but my sister works in the government so if her file comes up, she remembers.

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Your example makes no sense.

The fact he dated drug addicts and people who abused him is the epitome of someone who's sticking around for all the wrong reasons/being a pushover. The fact he's a Libra and was in those situations does not surprise me at all. Libra dudes can be notorious for being in shitty relationships for too long/not leaving when they should.

Just because he can't be swayed by some crazy nut job from the past now doesn't mean he's one of the ones she's referring to. :/ Sounds like he learned his lesson and found someone after digging through all the bad apples- like most people should in life.

Posted by rockyroadicecream

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Posted by Rambunctious76

Posted by AirMan
aren't you a libra? from my understanding, libras are people pleasers.

Not all.

Some Libras (especially the more mature ones who just happen to have water moons) won't take any BS from anyone and they won't hesitate to cut off anyone who tries to impose themselves on them.

yes i would have to agree. my brother in law has dated drug addicts and people who abuse him, or have abused him. but now he is wth my sister and they are both very happy.
i dont see him being the type at all being persuaded by his ex even if it came to their child who she abandoned at a very young age, a baby.

ironically enough she had more children. dont know her sign though. but my sister works in the government so if her file comes up, she remembers.

Your example makes no sense.

The fact he dated drug addicts and people who abused him is the epitome of someone who's sticking around for all the wrong reasons/being a pushover. The fact he's a Libra and was in those situations does not surprise me at all. Libra dudes can be notorious for being in shitty relationships for too long/not leaving when they should.

Just because he can't be swayed by some crazy nut job from the past now doesn't mean he's one of the ones she's referring to. :/ Sounds like he learned his lesson and found someone after digging through all the bad apples- like most people should in life.

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that's true. according to them both, the drug addict ex also cheated alot, and was pregnant with another baby while they were still together. She abandoned her baby to him, and he was left raising the baby with his parents cause he cna't do it alone while still young. It sounded like a lot of drama. And yeah it sounds like he didnt want to be alone despite the abuse and misuse. Usually enough is enough. I'm glad there are people who learn their lesson and not repeat their mistakes.

or maybe he really loved her and was trying to "fix" and "save" her?? He does have Venus in virgo (the fixer upper) and pisces moon (the saviour) and cancer mars -- can't let go. Lots of stuff.

He could have. I know of several examples who stuck around/are sticking around for God knows why. Definitely that whole "white knight" fixer upper bs, though. Not sure if the Venus had anything to do with it since I know at least one didn't have it in Virgo but in Scorpio.

What I don't understand is why he's raising a kid that isn't his. If he's doing it so the kid wouldn't be stuck in the foster system, kudos to him. But if he felt he had some obligation because he was screwing her, that's just kinda sad. Regardless, as long as everything is working out for him, hooray for him.

I always find it sad when Libra dudes get themselves stuck in stupid situations like that and just keep going back like some beaten wife. They have a whole hell of a lot to offer when they aren't in that crazy asshole stage in life and it's a shame it's wasted on some crazy ho.

But at the same time, it speaks a bit of their selfishness- so fixated on "relationship" that they can't manage to be single and choose to stick around until something else "better" comes along. :/

Posted by rockyroadicecream
He could have. I know of several examples who stuck around/are sticking around for God knows why. Definitely that whole "white knight" fixer upper bs, though. Not sure if the Venus had anything to do with it since I know at least one didn't have it in Virgo but in Scorpio.

What I don't understand is why he's raising a kid that isn't his. If he's doing it so the kid wouldn't be stuck in the foster system, kudos to him. But if he felt he had some obligation because he was screwing her, that's just kinda sad. Regardless, as long as everything is working out for him, hooray for him.

I always find it sad when Libra dudes get themselves stuck in stupid situations like that and just keep going back like some beaten wife. They have a whole hell of a lot to offer when they aren't in that crazy asshole stage in life and it's a shame it's wasted on some crazy ho.

But at the same time, it speaks a bit of their selfishness- so fixated on "relationship" that they can't manage to be single and choose to stick around until something else "better" comes along. :/

actually.... it's his baby. My sister helped raise his baby too, well after his parents and himself, then met my sister and she helped raise him. that's also a huge reason why his parents love her so much. she's very generous and loving, and Always say how Lucky he is. Because most women wouldn't do that.

the 2nd baby from her she kept, which is not his, but the guy she did it with, is gone. Hope that clears it up. it sounds like a hollywood drama, but that's what happened from my understanding.