aries disappearing..

why do you do this? days pass and you're about to put out a missing persons, is it just that I'm not important?

1. You ignore yr Aries and he/she think that you dont want him/her. Then, he/she decides to move on. And the first thing is disappearing
2. He/she isn't interested in you
3. He/she is dead

pretty sure he's not dead: basically, have intense displays of affection one day, very sweet and lots of attention then don't hear from him for two, just when I'm about to give up he's back! I try to give him his space and let him get on with it but also don't want to fall into the trap of just always being AVAILABLE...

are you guys in an exclusive relationship...? how long does he usually disappear for...?
maybe he's the type that doesn't need to see his girlfriend every single day. a lot of guys (doesn't matter what sign they are) are totally okay with just seeing their girlfriend 2 or 3 times a week instead of every single day.
but if you guys are in an exclusive relationship, it wouldn't hurt him to at least call or text you every single day to let you know he's still alive and cares about you. he needs to show some basic decency. it's kinda rude to just disappear on your girlfriend and not contact her for days and weeks....i wouldn't do something like that. i would at least call.

my crush doesn't disappear on me. he always returns my calls and emails wherever he is.
i think it depends on the guy. maybe your man isn't that talkative. some guys are really bad at keeping in touch and stuff. that shouldn't be an excuse to constantly go AWOL but i'm just saying.

Are you in a love-relationship with each other? Post his chart if you can 🙂

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Posted by tatbubba
pretty sure he's not dead: basically, have intense displays of affection one day, very sweet and lots of attention then don't hear from him for two, just when I'm about to give up he's back! I try to give him his space and let him get on with it but also don't want to fall into the trap of just always being AVAILABLE...

if it's just a day or two he's gone it might be that you're having unrealistic expectations. or... you haven't told him that you're someone that needs contact every single day. no man, aries or otherwise, is a mind reader. have you tried talking to him about what your expectations are for the relationship?

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THIS.

But then again, scorched -- if more people (esp women!) did this open communication thing and clearly outlined their wants and expectations, instead of just expecting the other person to "just know" or think/act a certain way, or the same way THEY would... well, there wouldn't be much need for our forums and they'd be like ghost towns, wouldn't you say? lol

Posted by tatbubba
pretty sure he's not dead: basically, have intense displays of affection one day, very sweet and lots of attention then don't hear from him for two, just when I'm about to give up he's back! I try to give him his space and let him get on with it but also don't want to fall into the trap of just always being AVAILABLE...

WE'RE BOREDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD.

THE. END.


Unless,
you're playing a game,
we'll checkmate you
every chance we get.

Posted by jdugan


WE'RE BOREDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD.

THE. END.


Unless,
you're playing a game,
we'll checkmate you
every chance we get.

Sure honey, but when I stop talking to you and act like I don't care, you always, always reappear...

Sure honey, but when I stop talking to you and act like I don't care, you always, always reappear...



Of course we always reappear, because it's a change in the banality of life. Essentially, we hide in turtle shells to protect ourselves from the disappointingly nature and boredom of life, we always peek out when intruded upon. ARIES love to chase. So, if you're chasing them, they will run. We like to set the pace of how most of everything will go.

Jdugan you are like the 100th person i've seen that have said that about aries. Ugh...i think i waited too late tho. He's chased me since we were kids and up until 6th months ago i had full control, but man have the tables turned, and sadly i feel i'm too late to turn the tables back.

Posted by ALibra
Jdugan you are like the 100th person i've seen that have said that about aries. Ugh...i think i waited too late tho. He's chased me since we were kids and up until 6th months ago i had full control, but man have the tables turned, and sadly i feel i'm too late to turn the tables back.

No, no, no. Blindside him. It's a sure way to get back into his daily life. How long has it been since you last spoken? And who was the last to initiate conversation/end it?

If an Aries disappears, He's bored or busy.
If an Aries is very interested in you, it is very obvious!
Plain and simple.

IF you disappear on an Aries, it is a blow to the ego... therefore it will spark the interest of the Aries once again.
If you are always around... the Aries will need some space.
I am aware of how retarded this is but it is the truth.

These are the beginning stages of the relationship. Once an Aries is committed to someone with no doubt in their mind that they want to be with you, these games no longer exist...

Well at first it had been about 3 days since we last spoke because I was upset with him. I sent a text to ease the tension on Monday, and he responded today at about 5:00am this morning. Might I add this his text was like 6 messages long. I thought it was nice how he specifically really tried to bring things down for me in the messages.

@AriesBabie: I agree. At first my Aries always wanted to be around me, but at the time he had A LOT of free time I didn't so he could never get me to sit still. He'd call and text, but I was just super busy and on a mission but I still let it be known that I really liked him. After a while he became busy w/his new job and then I had time, and I wanted the attention I was getting from him since I was about 7. (Yes he had been chasing me since childhood, but It didn't bother him because I always let him know I liked him back) He openly admitted that with me he was always so shy and didn't know what to do or say because I was older.

Anyway long story short, now he's super busy and always on the go and I often feel left out or behind, he knows I love him and care about him, he says he feels strongly for me and he definitely cares and when its all said and done im the only one he wants, but I wont beg or force myself onto someone to be in their world. I just don't feel I should have to. However as soon as he finds that im upset and contemplating on calling this whole thing off he springs into action. Texting and calling and the whole thing starts all over again. UGH!! Before you ask, no we are not official yet (he's not ready, but says he will be very soon always says, we have time we have time theres no rush)

Posted by ariesbabie
If an Aries disappears, He's bored or busy.
If an Aries is very interested in you, it is very obvious!
Plain and simple.

IF you disappear on an Aries, it is a blow to the ego... therefore it will spark the interest of the Aries once again.
If you are always around... the Aries will need some space.
I am aware of how retarded this is but it is the truth.

These are the beginning stages of the relationship. Once an Aries is committed to someone with no doubt in their mind that they want to be with you, these games no longer exist...

This is so true, I've had a lot of guys chase me and I was not interested in ANY of them. Now I am interested in a Leo, and he seems a bit elusive and it's driving me INSANE. We've spent some pretty amazing nights together and I just want more and more of him, and the more he is elusive, the more I want him.
Although I do want him to chase me, because, I don't know if it's all aries, but I personally am rarely attracted to/really really like someone and want to be involved with them. I just went through a long period of wanting to be alone, thought I was going to be free forever until he came along. Now everything's changed.

Once you find the person who sparks your interest, we don't play any games. I am relentless in my approach without hopefully being TOO aggressive. I just can't help it, I want it, and I want it NOW! I have a lot of aries in my chart as well as my significant sign.

Posted by SyntheticAnesthetic

Posted by ariesbabie
If an Aries disappears, He's bored or busy.
If an Aries is very interested in you, it is very obvious!
Plain and simple.

IF you disappear on an Aries, it is a blow to the ego... therefore it will spark the interest of the Aries once again.
If you are always around... the Aries will need some space.
I am aware of how retarded this is but it is the truth.

These are the beginning stages of the relationship. Once an Aries is committed to someone with no doubt in their mind that they want to be with you, these games no longer exist...

This is so true, I've had a lot of guys chase me and I was not interested in ANY of them. Now I am interested in a Leo, and he seems a bit elusive and it's driving me INSANE. We've spent some pretty amazing nights together and I just want more and more of him, and the more he is elusive, the more I want him.
Although I do want him to chase me, because, I don't know if it's all aries, but I personally am rarely attracted to/really really like someone and want to be involved with them. I just went through a long period of wanting to be alone, thought I was going to be free forever until he came along. Now everything's changed.

Once you find the person who sparks your interest, we don't play any games. I am relentless in my approach without hopefully being TOO aggressive. I just can't help it, I want it, and I want it NOW! I have a lot of aries in my chart as well as my significant sign.

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+1 on ALL of this.

Hi! Stereotypical Aries here with Sun, Mercury, and Venus in Aries as my credentials.

If I "disappear," it's because I'm a) busy, but even then I will think of you important enough to inform, even through a simple text. Or b) I have no use for you because you did something morally wrong, and you've thus been iced out. If I really liked you and you ask me what's wrong I might tell you when I want to but as I get older I find explanations are a waste of time and energy.

Posted by untitled28
Ok let me ask this about my aries love interest

he disappears on me and sometimes will go a month without speaking to me...it hurts i get angry i want to scream and throw a fit but i never do....

what can i do to keep it interesting but still also command respect from this aries man...i don't want to be a doormat but i also understand his need to have space and time to do as he pleases and i don't want to hinder that because it's his nature and he cannot change this...i just don't want him thinking I'm his personal doormat.

also he has not claimed me and i want to know is it a mistake to act as a freely single and available woman considering that even though i would gladly be with JUST him if he were to choose me or should keep my interests in other available men quiet? i know he has a horrible quick temper and gets extremely jealous easily and i don't want to make it seem as though I'm not interested in him but i also don't want him thinking that I'm going to sit home hands in my lap waiting for him....

any advice is helpful!

He disappeared for a month? The only advice I can give you is move on. No woman I don't care what sign the man is should be waiting for a min or a month. He'll naw that's crazy.

Posted by untitled28
Ok let me ask this about my aries love interest

he disappears on me and sometimes will go a month without speaking to me...it hurts i get angry i want to scream and throw a fit but i never do....

what can i do to keep it interesting but still also command respect from this aries man...i don't want to be a doormat but i also understand his need to have space and time to do as he pleases and i don't want to hinder that because it's his nature and he cannot change this...i just don't want him thinking I'm his personal doormat.

also he has not claimed me and i want to know is it a mistake to act as a freely single and available woman considering that even though i would gladly be with JUST him if he were to choose me or should keep my interests in other available men quiet? i know he has a horrible quick temper and gets extremely jealous easily and i don't want to make it seem as though I'm not interested in him but i also don't want him thinking that I'm going to sit home hands in my lap waiting for him....

any advice is helpful!

If I ignore you for weeks and has shown no sign of claiming you means there is no interest I have towards you.
We have no interest towards people who do nothing other than chasing behind us. We like someone who is uniques in her own way. Mostly aliens. If she is alone fighting the odds and the world, there is nothing more charming than that. you will easily win our attention, care and love then.

And if we are starting to totally blunt towards you , then it is the sign that we see you close to us. We will expect the same from you. Mind games will be a big turn off then.

And. we value time. We don't wait and we don't let others wait. This is also a reason why we are upto the point and honest.

So if there is anting, we will tell and expect you to tell.

Posted by tatbubba

Posted by jdugan


WE'RE BOREDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD.

THE. END.


Unless,
you're playing a game,
we'll checkmate you
every chance we get.

Sure honey, but when I stop talking to you and act like I don't care, you always, always reappear...

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Yeah monotonous. He disappears to feel the thrill of it and comes back when you're ignoring. Play this for a while until oneday he opens up.