aries female and gem male

Need some input on this one before I hit the floor running. I met a gemini male about 2 months ago on-line. Our intellectual conversations as well as views where on target. We really clicked from the stimulation of our conversations. During the conversations, he was polite, understanding and quite charming. We never talked about intimacy nor was he disrespectful in anyway. The only catch with this was, I had given him my phone number about a month into us getting aquainted on-line. He seems as though, he took forever to use it which made me ponding about it. He finally called, after telling me that his best friend had been killed in a automobile accident a week before christmas. He had to travel to New Orleans where he is actually from but lives in Maryland. I received a text message during the christmas holiday and wholla, I finally got his number. I called him instantly but he did not answer. He finally called me later that day to tell me what he was up to and his whereabout. Hell he wouldn't let me get a word in. He was feeling really bad and he was so thankful for me listening. Anyway, he would text me during the whole christmas holiday, and I would text him back with some humor. He was so thankful for me listening to him as well as making him laugh. He then told me that he was driving to ATL to take his cousin home. He text me the whole time, letting me know what and where he was. I then decided that I wanted to see him and would he want to see me. He said yes. On new years eve, I had plans with friends, but new year day would be great. He agreeded. About 4:00 a.m that morning, he called and we talked for 2 hours. He was very detailed as to where he was and whom he was with and why. His cousin(male) sitting in the car. He was a little intox, but was really open to what he was feeling and had wished he was with me during that time. On new years day, he arrived about 7:00 pm. He took me out to dinner and then we returned to my house.
We had a few nite caps and then went to bed. Of course we enjoyed the candle light. He was so into me as well as me being into him. He lefted around 2:00 that after noon. While he was on the road, he texted me saying that he was glad that I was being myself. DUH? what was that all about. Anyway, he didn't call me when he got home? ok then, I got pretty busy myself. That Wed. he called me at work to tell me to have a nice day and he was thinking about me. To make it short, I had to step up to the plate and warn him that he was messing with fire. Actually, I did it in nice way, I didn't chew him up and spit him out. I deleted his number for my own good and I told him so. I told him there was no need in having the number if he couldn't talk. Anyway, we talk very little on-line now and the conversation are at a min. If I speak to him, he will respond. My question? I love the chase, but he is starting to bore me. I am hoping that we can see each other again because the distance is perfect for me. So is it me with my patience or him whom now seems to be so fickled? I am looking for the same stimulation that got him in the door in the first place. He has yet to text me again to get his number. I am not a phone junkie, just like to touch bases. He does know that I am not a text message fan as long as there was a conversation prior to the on-going text. Let me say this, he is a very successful fine as man. I am a very successfull fine as woman. We got out shet together and we look good together. So what is Mr. Gem problem? sorry for being long winded :-)

Hi Leaper4012 - me thinks that you gave up the goods too soon without you each exploring one another before the "act." If your desire is to build a lasting relationship with a man the sex needs to come later if on the other hand you desire to just have sex for the "sex of it" then this is what your relationship will become. It is difficult I believe for any two people to establish a good foundation when sex comes before discovering who the person is - just my thoughts.

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Good luck with your adventures and welcome to the boards 🙂

Freebird I totally again with you. I haven't had sex in over 2years. I had gotten divorced back in DEC'03 and had only been with my husband in the past ten years. During our conversation after he had arrived at my house, I had explained to him that he was actually the first man that I had felt comfortable with to allow even in my front door. I am not a fronter nor am I a booty caller. When I agreed to allow him to come see me and he lives 4 hours away, we did state that we where gonna be ourselfs. Before we had gotten intimate, I did talk with him first indicating that I was not giving him a booty call. I told him I knew I was taking a chance period with him. He talked as if he completely understood. So it wasnt like I just seduced him and bam, it was a rap. I told him that I start off trusting someone from the door because I am not on a negative vibe, I am just not wired that way. I feel at this point, he is playing with his own mind because I had already told him that I can't relate to trival pursuit. I must mention though, he just had gotten out of a relationship around about the same time that I had. He was engaged, and his girl woke up one morning and told him that she was not in love with him anymore. Girlfriend ran off with the 5 karats as well. Also, the picture he displays on-line isn't what I got in person. I say he had put on about 30lbs. He still cute but just a little chubby which is really not my taste. But I was excepting the person that he was prior to us seeing each other. On the other hand, my picture of me was what he got! His first response was, damn you are fine. Another thing, he has arthritis in one leg that causes him to limp, he had high blood pressure and cholesterol. I had excepted him with all his problems. I guess now maybe he is just damaged. Forget the twin thang and look at the fact that maybe his is just insecured with himself. On that note, I am not and being insecured is something I can't handle. I am ready to get into a more meaningful relationship and trust me, I am not at that stage of being desperate.

Ditto with what Aprilbaby sez....😉

Aprilbaby,

You maybe right but then again, it wasn't a bad experience, just a cautious lesson when dealing with a Gem. He has yet to be disrespectful towards me. He is just not saying much. A little chat here and a little chat there! just asking what I am doing that's all. I have just decided not to chat with him anymore, it's boring. I don't think he is strong enought for the fiery fly, so be it! I would date another Gem in a heart beat because they don't try to add fire to the fuel, they just try and keep things cool which bores me as well. A little to fickel if I must say. Hopefully, I may come across one who may have Mars in his birth chart. A little fighting would do me just fine if we can go at for the hell of it, forget about it and move on to the next stages of the relationship. Wishful thinking huh?....Aries people are great people!!!

I would date another Gem, just this one is boring me!!!! He is not talking to the head!!! He got it because our conversations where so stimulating. We talked about so many things(intellectually speaking of course) We have or should I say had the same views about life, people places and things. He just stopped talking as if he can't. One thing that I do remember, when he was just about close to my house, he called and ask if I was nervous, I said a little. He then stated that he was nervous too. When we where getting ready for bed, he just broke out and said that he was nervous as to which I didn't pay any mind. I think or at least I am sure that I may have intimidated him. What ever the case maybe, I am just bored with him because he is know longing trying to keep me interested in him. If he is playing the mind thing, well he just lost..lol.....I would date another because we do get along and I do love them because we do understand each others independent and the need for space...Do u feel me on this one?