Aries how to let him stop doing something

So he's an Arie and i'm a scorpio, we have been dating for almost a year now, everything was wonderful at the beginning of our relationship he's so kind considerate and he loves me to death and i do too. he recently moved to london to complete his BH degree as he stopped for a while because he was in a professional soccer team and he owned a business so he never actually completed he's studies. right after he meet me i was an encouragement for him to keep on going with hid degree as he thinks that he wants to have it if we are planning for smoething in the future he wants to earn my father and my families respect with him having a good education. long story short what we have became a long distance relationship. it was fine in the beginning, i'm the type of girlfriends that doesn't mind him going out socializing with other people, going and partying nothing would bother me it's fine that who he is and i don't like to change anything about him. slowly we started arguing about stupid thing and it became messy. but the thing that made me explode was that one day he was out with his friends and they decided to stay the night in one of their friend's house(female) i don't know the girl she a friend of a friend and i really don't think it necessary or right for a person in a relationship to do that. wen i brought it up he said what he did wasn't wrong. on top of that he said that the way i'm arguing with him and the problems that we had reminded him of the last time he was in london and how i'm making him go through what his ex made him go through with all the problems and the arguments that happened every time we talk.
we stopped talking to each other now as we both are not ready and the timing is bad for both of us. but we agreed to talk deeply about the situation later.

my Q is how to make him stop thinking it's right to do what he did and how can i make sure he doesn't do it again? should i ignore it until he let go of that idea by himself or insist that it's wrong
another Q is how to make him stop compering our relationship which what he had in the past he says that he's both comparing and he's not saying that to make me feel like shit, but because he actually think that what his going through is some kinda of dejavue

So he's an Arie and i'm a scorpio, we have been dating for almost a year now, everything was wonderful at the beginning of our relationship he's so kind considerate and he loves me to death and i do too. he recently moved to london to complete his BH degree as he stopped for a while because he was in a professional soccer team and he owned a business so he never actually completed he's studies. right after he meet me i was an encouragement for him to keep on going with hid degree as he thinks that he wants to have it if we are planning for smoothing in the future he wants to earn my father and my families respect with him having a good education. long story short what we have became a long distance relationship. it was fine in the beginning, i'm the type of girlfriends that doesn't mind him going out socializing with other people, going and partying nothing would bother me it's fine that who he is and i son't like to change anything about him. slowly we started arguing about stupid thing and it became messy. but the thing that made me explode was that one day he was out with his friends and they decided to stay the night in one of their friend's house(female) i don't know the girl she a friend of a friend and i really don't think it necessary or right for a person in a relationship to do that. wen i brought it up he said what he did wasn't wrong. on top of that he said that the way i'm arguing with him and the problems that we had reminded him of the last time he was in london and how i'm making him go through what his ex made him go through with all the problems and the arguments that happened every time we talk.
we stopped talking to each other now as we both are not ready and the timing is bad for both of us. but we agreed to talk deeply about the situation later.

my Q is how to make him stop thinking it's right to do what he did and how can i make sure he doesn't do it again? should i ignore it until he let go of that idea by himself or insist that it's wrong
another Q is how to make him stop compering our relationship which what he had in the past he says that he's both comparing and he's not saying that to make me feel like shit, but because he actually think that what his going through is some kinda of dejavue

We Aries can be oblivious to a lot of things but power play we are not. Good like trying to make him think of feel a certain way. People are humans not machines where you press a magic button and they feel the way you want to. Thats not how it works. Treat us like humans and maybe you will get a human response like open-mindedness. Be real. Sheesh.

Did you feel this way before you two were in a long distance relationship? It's easier from the outside for us to see you as controlling or him as uncaring due to wording, but is the relationship really suffering from time apart?

Look at the total changes the two of you have had. He could have hidden that he stayed their if he had something to hide, but in his mind I think he felt he was sharing.

You can not reshape mentality of people, you can explain and move on because as an Aries at times we forget things the very next day if we got our feelings out but as a Scorpio it could be months for you, even years

It makes us seem insensitive and you feel taken advantage of when really we just do not always 'get it' from your view point (save those with placements that make us great matches with Scorpios in family and relationships)

What makes it so hard for people to include an "S" on the end of "Aries?"

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Also, you should get the hell over yourself, fricken control freak. You Scorps need to learn that it's not all about you and what you want.

This coming from an Aries should make you think twice about your retarded logic. You don't want a relationship, you just want to control someone because you have nothing going for you, apparently.