Aries temper/anger

this question goes out to all aries men and women 🙂
how do you deal with anger ? how do you control your temper, if you can that is ? how would you like a loved one to deal with you when you're angry at him/her ?
recently, a loved one got angry with me over something very small, he became really frustrated, completely shut off and didn't want to communicate. the next day he was totally fine, he knew it over nothing but didn't want to admit that , so it's done and over with. in the moment, i just acted calm and left him alone. i'd like to know what's the best way to deal with an aries temper next time, what do you love and prefer ?

A calm reminder to either not bother an unworthy topic or come back with a calm demeanor to talk.
Just as easily as my fuse can be lit, it can be put out. My ex would walk into the next room when I explode over ANYTHING, count 20 seconds, walk back in and ask me if I am still mad. LMAO! I would say, 'why would I be mad? What for?' Hahaha I get a kick out of it everytime he points it out, makes me feel so silly to lose my composure that way.

DO NOT ADD FUEL TO OUR FIRE, if you don't want to be patient with what will occur.

We need to act on the emotion because obviously someone/something stupid or a total douchebag has done us wrong and we are LIVID.

Some people like to push buttons further, okay well, better duck soon, or close your ears.

Some people get all bent out of shape when they see us mad, and I am thinking, "oh really? you didn't want to soothe or help the matter, but you want to think bad of us now after the fact?"

Then we make peace with the event, and sometimes against reason, like say when someone had made a jackass argument and acted all high and mighty, when we know they will do something just as stupid in the future.

I guess when we make peace that is a good thing about us, because otherwise we would be too ready to level the playing field with all the disrespectful folk in this world.

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I like it when people let me get it out of my system. Cuz then its over, I go, phew, I needed that rant 😉

i like our way of doing things, it gets things out and done with and doesn't make a messy month, year, whatever. Would rather get it out now and move on!

I don't get mad easily. Irritated, yes, while driving or dumbasses who try to take advantage of a speedy check-out when they have more than 10 items. I'm trying to make things right again. You know, support justice in this world and be the voice of the downtrodden. 😛 Sit back and wait until the storm blows over is the best thing to do.

But if it's something real then you need to respond but make sense. Our bark tends to be worse than our bite. So don't be afraid to confuse us with logic. We may not appreciate it at the moment when we're knee-deep in emotion, but I tend to think about it later and will come hat in hand, ready for an apology.

Yeah we are rather chill folk, or at least I feel I am. I tend to take a step back usually. I have a lot of Sagittarius influences which might be why my temper can flare up more than most or not, but regardless yeah I can't see us getting mad often or over nothing at all. I tend to get passionate more than anything, anger I save for something important like people pushing others around etc.

I've never seen an Aries angry for long... they always seem to get over it real quickly and back to their jovial, popular selves.

I'm usually polite and will just tell you that you're pissing me off calmly, and that you should stop. If I think that that won't work, I go quiet in hopes that you'll run out of argument with no input from me. And when I go quiet, that means I'm an inch away from upping the ante. I could cause a huge scene and embarrass the hell out of you as the next stage, but usually it means I'm holding back from swinging, and am plotting on you at the same time. Luckily I only got physical once after getting sorta chewed out by a good friend. A couple weeks after the incident I just stood in front of him then clocked him (A Cancer/Leo) in the side of the jaw, hard enough for him to feel it, but not cause any damage or knockout, and it didn't cause us to fight any further. We haven't argued like that since, so it's all good.

I can get frustrated and angry when things get slow, not going my way... I can punch a table to release my frustration and anger, it's just throwing out the bad emotion. Aries has to dispose of an anger, a thought, or anything, never thinking of overloading him/herself with something not important or negative to him.

In doing a solo project I blow off steam; I paint or write. Normally people don't want to talk with you if you can be obviously busy.

If someone makes me angry I have to walk away and talk a few breathes. Sometimes I need a few weeks, months....years, but I do get over things eventually. I don't know why I have held things. I know it is not typical Aries, but I suppose I get back to happy quick, even if I am still thinking about it. 😄

it's no big deal. they only blow up and get mad for like 2 seconds. then it's over and they forget why they were pissed.

Posted by beachkisses
this question goes out to all aries men and women 🙂
how do you deal with anger ? how do you control your temper, if you can that is ? how would you like a loved one to deal with you when you're angry at him/her ?
recently, a loved one got angry with me over something very small, he became really frustrated, completely shut off and didn't want to communicate. the next day he was totally fine, he knew it over nothing but didn't want to admit that , so it's done and over with. in the moment, i just acted calm and left him alone. i'd like to know what's the best way to deal with an aries temper next time, what do you love and prefer ?

You did the best thing. Walk away 🙂

Yea, I just be quiet. In the case of my dad, I can't walk away if he's talking/yelling at me- that's disrespectful. So, instead I keep quiet until he's done. I respond by distancing myself for a bit. Then we're back cool again. We get along quite well actually, in comparison to other astro combos. Just can't be around each other for too long at one time. Must do it in intervals.


Aries will work your nerves, but for some reason I still seem to love them to little bitty pieces.

^^^Speaking of which, a particular Virgo friend of mine has the social finesse to know how to not piss me off, despite him being 6'5" weighing ~250 lbs, me only being 5'11" 190-200 lbs. Tried to make himself useful as well, and that's what I like best about Virgs. Cool as hell, when they aren't bugging out about small stuff at least. My Scorpio brother gets annoyed by him rather easily though, which is odd that he does and I don't. I guess it's my Taurus Rising.

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Yea, I just be quiet. In the case of my dad, I can't walk away if he's talking/yelling at me- that's disrespectful. So, instead I keep quiet until he's done. I respond by distancing myself for a bit. Then we're back cool again. We get along quite well actually, in comparison to other astro combos. Just can't be around each other for too long at one time. Must do it in intervals.


Aries will work your nerves, but for some reason I still seem to love them to little bitty pieces.

Sounds like me and my brother dead on, except he argues with me more than I him usually, and I'm the one who just shuts up after I state my point, but that's prob. his Sag. Rising.

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Posted by beachkisses
this question goes out to all aries men and women 🙂
how do you deal with anger ? how do you control your temper, if you can that is ? how would you like a loved one to deal with you when you're angry at him/her ?
recently, a loved one got angry with me over something very small, he became really frustrated, completely shut off and didn't want to communicate. the next day he was totally fine, he knew it over nothing but didn't want to admit that , so it's done and over with. in the moment, i just acted calm and left him alone. i'd like to know what's the best way to deal with an aries temper next time, what do you love and prefer ?

You did the best thing. Walk away 🙂

walk away? you must be kidding!!! try and yell or shout at me and see where your head will go. i'll through you from the window

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Noice. Lol.

Posted by tall dark and aries
^^^Speaking of which, a particular Virgo friend of mine has the social finesse to know how to not piss me off, despite him being 6'5" weighing ~250 lbs, me only being 5'11" 190-200 lbs. Tried to make himself useful as well, and that's what I like best about Virgs. Cool as hell, when they aren't bugging out about small stuff at least. My Scorpio brother gets annoyed by him rather easily though, which is odd that he does and I don't. I guess it's my Taurus Rising.

i'm a libra. super short fuse. i usually keep a cool exterior, but i can blow up something fierce. then i usually chill out again pretty fast, after i get it out. but my dislike will continue to simmer against a person.

anyways, my first cue that someone might be a virgo is that they just don't piss me off. like they can even do things that would piss me off if somebody else did them, and i just don't care. it's actually a little weird. and the things they do that piss off or annoy other people, i find endearing. snarky comment? oh, you're so cute, virgo. gets all high strung about some ocd neat freak thing? how adorable.

i think it's because they tend to be very sincere and genuine and lacking in bullshit.

Posted by beachkisses
this question goes out to all aries men and women 🙂
how do you deal with anger ? how do you control your temper, if you can that is ? how would you like a loved one to deal with you when you're angry at him/her ?
recently, a loved one got angry with me over something very small, he became really frustrated, completely shut off and didn't want to communicate. the next day he was totally fine, he knew it over nothing but didn't want to admit that , so it's done and over with. in the moment, i just acted calm and left him alone. i'd like to know what's the best way to deal with an aries temper next time, what do you love and prefer ?

someone else probaly alread said this, but a calm and reasonable aproach i would say.
my dad has a terrible temper. very very scary.
so do i at times, but i deal with it internally

I have yet to meet a Virgo that wasn't an insecure, hypocritical, closed-minded prick. Every Virgo I've come across has tried to bully me in some capacity or another, which doesn't end well, because they're too stupid to know when to quit, and I usually end up having no choice but, to completely humiliate them, or rip them a new asshole. They also love guilt-tripping, calling everything a person does that they don't approve of "rude", (regardless of whether or not it even has anything to do with manners), and have a strong bullying streak, especially toward other Aries, I've noticed.

Even in the Greek myths, Athena was a bitch in disguise, constantly foiling Ares' plans every time she got the chance, never fought fair, and always had to use underminded tactics to beat him, such as throwing a boulder at him, or having the other gods come with, because she was incapable of overpowering or besting him in a fight.

I do agree that Sagittarius doesn't know when to shut their big mouths though, but, I have Sagittarius as my decante, so I can't really get too harsh. I have a couple Sagittarius friends, who I've strangled, and punched in the shoulder/arms hard enough to get the point across. And, sadly, as much as I don't like hurting my friends, it really is one of the only ways to get a Sagittarius to stop talking. You don't have to give them a black eye, or anything, just a good firm punch on the shoulder, or pretend that you're going to hurt them really badly.

^LOL! You're awesome.

Usually I just vent and explode. If in a place where I can't, I just mentally punch the face of who's ticking me off into hamburger.

Gets better and better over the years.

Dont loose my cool so often now, but when I do - and usually it is if someone is being unfair - I give you a speech full of drama and no matter what you say I will be determined to speak louder and prove how right I am. Even if I am not.

And just like sending a drunk text, I usually regret the rant afterwards. But it is a necessary evil. I have to let it out of my chest. Once done, Im back to my chill self 😄

If you dont answer me back, it will piss me even more. Dont ignore me.

If you answer me back, unless it is to say Im right, it will just ignite more fire.

What I find to work really well is when the other person just hugs me in the middle of my rant. 🙂 the physical contact calms me down.

Since Aries are people pleasers (dont like to rock the boat too much) show them that you have been hurt/upset by their outburst in a calm/rational manner-since mines is particularly rsponsive to energy he usually also picks this up in me which in turn cools the fire a little 🙂 Its very easy for me to handle/accept because its usually just reactive to some situation that he isnt in control of and I can see it coming before it happens-anyway I much prefer his straightforward emotional approach. I have much trouble dealing with the opposite-passiveness/indirectness etc.

Posted by beachkisses
this question goes out to all aries men and women 🙂
how do you deal with anger ? how do you control your temper, if you can that is ? how would you like a loved one to deal with you when you're angry at him/her ?
recently, a loved one got angry with me over something very small, he became really frustrated, completely shut off and didn't want to communicate. the next day he was totally fine, he knew it over nothing but didn't want to admit that , so it's done and over with. in the moment, i just acted calm and left him alone. i'd like to know what's the best way to deal with an aries temper next time, what do you love and prefer ?

Ah the famous Aries way of seeing red and fire-rage like the bull when you either push our buttons or get us really really mad.

Personally, since I was a child I've learned to count to 10, give you a fair warning to leave me be or face the consequences- of which I won't be responsible for - and turn my back and walk away very, very slowly. Your worst mistake would be to touch me at that point. Reaction will be swift and sure. So it's better to just leave me be.

Counting to 10 slowly helps me calm down. I possess "blind passion" so much so, I do not care if the individual is older than me, stronger than me or whatever. I've come close to literally killing two individuals much older than I was at that time, only to be stopped by the mother or one and total strangers in the other case. Both times I was unaware of what I was about to do.

So when it comes to those I love, I have learn to walk away and I will tell them upfront, don't follow me, don't have anything to say to me and don't make the situation worst. It's much better than way, and don't hit me - especially men. Because I hit back, and I hit hard, fast and furious. One person learned that lesson the hard way and nearly lost his sight from a single punch.

So yep, we fare better shutting down, than hurting those we love. Just remember for some Aries, you really have to push us to the point to lose our cool. We will give you the silent treatment and that hurts more than words trust me.

I get super angry blow up and 20 minutes later I'm over It, I already said everything I needed to. I'm done with it.

As a Gemini who likes to talk back and debate this has been a real issue with the Aries lady in my life. I've been in the end of some pointless well in my eyes rants. Like Friday just gone. Asked if she'd be free, she said she'd let me know, didn't, so I asked before the day I asked to see her and she forgot and made plans, being a little annoyed and her not telling me she forgot I sent her a text informing she could've told me she made other plans. She then kicks off saying I should've reminded her. Tells me how I was when was together, tries to force me to apologise. I like a debate so pick on the small things she says but then she accuses me of pushing buttons lol!

Her temper is mad but crazy short but very stubborn headed!!

Posted by LibraLovesHim
Since Aries are people pleasers (dont like to rock the boat too much) show them that you have been hurt/upset by their outburst in a calm/rational manner-since mines is particularly rsponsive to energy he usually also picks this up in me which in turn cools the fire a little 🙂 Its very easy for me to handle/accept because its usually just reactive to some situation that he isnt in control of and I can see it coming before it happens-anyway I much prefer his straightforward emotional approach. I have much trouble dealing with the opposite-passiveness/indirectness etc.

Aries are people pleasers? Don't rock the boat? You're referring to our opposite libra right? That's not an Aries trait.

I find we're the exact opposite of what you described.

I have been resorting the the silent treatment as of late. I don't have the energy to tell people why I'm not fucking with them anymore. Oh well

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Posted by LibraLovesHim
Since Aries are people pleasers (dont like to rock the boat too much) show them that you have been hurt/upset by their outburst in a calm/rational manner-since mines is particularly rsponsive to energy he usually also picks this up in me which in turn cools the fire a little 🙂 Its very easy for me to handle/accept because its usually just reactive to some situation that he isnt in control of and I can see it coming before it happens-anyway I much prefer his straightforward emotional approach. I have much trouble dealing with the opposite-passiveness/indirectness etc.

Aries are people pleasers? Don't rock the boat? You're referring to our opposite libra right? That's not an Aries trait.

I find we're the exact opposite of what you described.

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Maybe there are negative connotations with how you read the term people pleaser-I read it exactly how it is. Yes I find Aries very much aim to please. They like/need praise.

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Posted by LibraLovesHim
Since Aries are people pleasers (dont like to rock the boat too much) show them that you have been hurt/upset by their outburst in a calm/rational manner-since mines is particularly rsponsive to energy he usually also picks this up in me which in turn cools the fire a little 🙂 Its very easy for me to handle/accept because its usually just reactive to some situation that he isnt in control of and I can see it coming before it happens-anyway I much prefer his straightforward emotional approach. I have much trouble dealing with the opposite-passiveness/indirectness etc.

Aries are people pleasers? Don't rock the boat? You're referring to our opposite libra right? That's not an Aries trait.

I find we're the exact opposite of what you described.

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Libra is more selfish. SELF-ish. And yes it is true we don't like confrontation.

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Posted by bkbella86

Posted by LibraLovesHim
Since Aries are people pleasers (dont like to rock the boat too much) show them that you have been hurt/upset by their outburst in a calm/rational manner-since mines is particularly rsponsive to energy he usually also picks this up in me which in turn cools the fire a little 🙂 Its very easy for me to handle/accept because its usually just reactive to some situation that he isnt in control of and I can see it coming before it happens-anyway I much prefer his straightforward emotional approach. I have much trouble dealing with the opposite-passiveness/indirectness etc.

Aries are people pleasers? Don't rock the boat? You're referring to our opposite libra right? That's not an Aries trait.

I find we're the exact opposite of what you described.

Maybe there are negative connotations with how you read the term people pleaser-I read it exactly how it is. Yes I find Aries very much aim to please. They like/need praise.

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Negative.

I feel like this is the only time when Virgos chillness would be appreciated by an Aries

Aries: *angry and wild af*

Virgo:

But either way. They're all bark, no bite. They just yell blah yell blah blah yell for like 2 seconds and then they're done.

I actually like their anger. It's short and sweet and surprisingly, if they love you and it's their fault or even not, they'll be back and the first ones to say sorry.

Posted by beachkisses
this question goes out to all aries men and women 🙂
how do you deal with anger ? how do you control your temper, if you can that is ? how would you like a loved one to deal with you when you're angry at him/her ?

You come to DXP...enough said! ?

When angered by my ex I would blow up from frustration. I would raise my voice, get emotional whilst repeating myself or talking in circles, OR give him the most intense silent treatment as if to say: "I am clearly not pleased." heavy sighing, irritated 'done' expression, and arms totally crossed.

Then about an hour would pass and he would nudge me and say 'hey' again and I pretty much let whatever happened go. But that's not the best approach for me.

The best way to handle me like that is to just apologize PROFUSELY right away. Show deep remorse for hurting me. It loosens me back up and diffuses the situation immediately. And like many other commenters have already said, be EXTREMELY patient and cool-headed.

Ignoring me/'giving me space' sometimes works, but most of the time it makes me feel like the person doesnt care and causes me to simmer even more.