Can i get back with my aries female?? please help

Sorry for my bad english.

I am an aqua male 23 and she is aries female 24
We've been dating for 14 months. But yesterday, she officially ended the relationship.

When we first met, she was the one who chased me. Even though I was playing really hard to get, she still aggressively chase me.
During our relationship, she always says all the nice things like I am the love of her life; she is the happiest with me and often starts conversations about marriage.
We also fight a lot (I demand a lot).

We had a huge fight (about my demands) 6 days ago, we were in a car and we yelled and she said wanted to end the relationship. I got angry, etc, and she got out from the car, grab a cab and i drove away.
The next day, I apologize for my mistakes and she said she needed time to think about the relationship and asked me to do the same thing.

Then, yesterday she asked me for dinner. I start the dinner with my apology, I promise that I will not make anymore demands and accepting for who she is, i said i was immature, etc. But then she cried and said she couldn't take it anymore, she said she has had enough of my demands and won't give me another chance. She said she ran out of chances to give. She wants us to be friends. Then i begged her to give me another chance. But she said she couldn't. She said this is the hardest thing she ever do. (we both cried so hard (yes i did cry, no shame in my game))

However, she also said that she still love me, after dinner we still held hands and we kissed, and she also said she will always care about me.

The next day, I still begged for another chance. But she said she couldn't. Then, I asked if we will ever get back together. She said, right now its most likely a no, but there's no telling of the future. She said she's still wounded and she said that if i love and care for her, i would let her heal.

I want to know my chances of getting back together. I'm quite confused about letting her heal. I really love her. I know my mistakes and I'm determined to right my wrongs (I've said this to her many times).
What should I do next?

and whats the possible outcome from it?

Posted by Aquaqua
She said she ran out of chances to give.

= she ran out of fucks to give.

Update:

For two weeks after we break up, we still see and contact each other. We talked about our relationship. Still kiss and hug. She said she still love me and care about me but hasn't make the decision yet (whether she can or can't be with me). She said that her heart still wants me but her brain tells her otherwise.

Then yesterday, i said i couldn't be like this (contact her while let her heal and think), i said i couldn't contact her anymore because it was too hard for me. I said i will give her time and space to think whether she still wants to be with me. I also asked for a deadline.
She asked me to give her 2 weeks.

What are my chances here? Please help.

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Posted by Aquaqua
She said she ran out of chances to give.

= she ran out of fucks to give.

I agree i think shes using this as an excuse to break up with you, in my opinion i think shes lost interest.

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If she lost interest why would she still say that she care about me and kiss and hug me?

Oh btw, we still contact each other after the break up because she wants to. She asked me to still contact her because she said it shows that i still care for her.

Sorry, but i cant find edit button.

So yesterday i told her that i cant contact her. And today, well, i miss her and i asked her to meet me. But she refused and told me that we should honor the agreement that we made (which is not to meet and contact each other for 2 weeks)

Please help. What are my chances.

You need to stick to what you agreed. Make space and time away from each other. She needs time and space to process whether she has enough energy left to give you yet another chance..

Look what happened to you when she told you she thought things were over? You start to pull out all the stops, apologising, being sweet and touching. In other words you panic that she might be serious and be gone forever.

We are the same - you need to stick to the fact that you are going to pull away and give her space. Then do not contact her - if you are "there" but "not there" that is confusing n she will not take you seriously and possibly take advantage.

Once you pull away and stop the pressure she will have time to realise what she wants - she will either panic and realise she doesn't want to lose you, or she will feel relief that she is out of the relationship.

It's promising that she says that things may happen in the future but once she makes up her mind and tells you, you need to respect that coz we don't change our minds.

Thank you very much for your opinion.

When that 2 weeks time finally come, should i be the one who contact her or wait for her to contact me?

Posted by Aquaqua
Thank you very much for your opinion.

When that 2 weeks time finally come, should i be the one who contact her or wait for her to contact me?

Yes maybe 3 or 4 days over the 2 week deadline, then contact her asking to meet and to discuss her decision

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Posted by Aquaqua
Thank you very much for your opinion.

When that 2 weeks time finally come, should i be the one who contact her or wait for her to contact me?

Yes maybe 3 or 4 days over the 2 week deadline, then contact her asking to meet and to discuss her decision

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Thank you so much.
Over means after 2 weeks? So i should contact her after around 18 days unless she contact me first??

And if she ask me to make a speech, what kind of speech should i say to her? Apologies etc?

Why? 😢

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Posted by AriesGirl74

Posted by Aquaqua
Thank you very much for your opinion.

When that 2 weeks time finally come, should i be the one who contact her or wait for her to contact me?

Yes maybe 3 or 4 days over the 2 week deadline, then contact her asking to meet and to discuss her decision

Thank you so much.
Over means after 2 weeks? So i should contact her after around 18 days unless she contact me first??

And if she ask me to make a speech, what kind of speech should i say to her? Apologies etc?

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Yes, apologize and ask if you two can remain friends.

But i dont want to be just friends. Hmm??

Shes looking for a sincere apology and some assurances that you are going to change your behaviour. even after that you will still be "on trial" for a while and it will almost be like having to start over with her like at the beginning of your relationship. So back to courting, dates, romance etc in order to build back her trust. so back up your words with actions that match.

If she is ready to give things another go, then she should want to make this work with you. If she makes it hard work for you, or she acts suspicious and un-trusting, then deep down she is not committed to giving it another try. Look out for those signs.

Please ensure though that it is no-contact for these 14-18 days like you have both agreed.

Thank you so much for your opinion. Btw, she ask me to meet her today! To discuss her decision.

Any thoughts of whats going to happen? Why does she use only 3 days out of the 2 weeks.

Meet at for a coffee. Not dinner or lunch.

ok, well that could mean one of two things really..

1. She realises that she misses you and she wants to get back on track

2. She is sure that the relationship is over.


If she wants the give the relationship another go - great!! take things slow and change your previous behaviour to make it work

If she is meeting you for a coffee but skirts around the issue of her decision, don't let her waste your time and friendzone you; get her to tell you what she wants; she called the meet after all. If she says she is still undecided tell her to call you when she has, then leave!

If she says that she doesn't want the relationship; don't beg her to change her mind; she may be expecting that. Aries will just walk over men who beg. Just accept her decision and walk away. That will be hard for you but it will show her that you are not going to give her more attention if she does not give you any.

Good luck!!!

Thanks alot!!

Btw, what do u think is the more likely event? The first one or the second one?

Awe.. no one can answer that! Could go either way - you will find out soon enough. I know you will be nervous but have both possibilities in your head, and you will know what to expect.

So we met and She said no 😢😢😢
I didnt beg or cry or anything.
I said thank you for trying and i understand your decision and i respect it. I said thank you for everything etc. she seemed fine and didnt cry as well. She said she's grateful that this went smooth.


Is there anything i can do to win her back? Please help.