Cancer Rising Aries dating problems

This combination makes you either too bold or too shy, picky, moody af and introvert and extrovert at the same time. Combine this with an Aries moon and the tendency to develop emotional connections in a very short time and you get the perfect mix for failure in dating as a guy.

I've always been picky, and not as a choice... I would have sex with like 50 - 60% of girls I know of my age, but I feel like spending time with less than 5% of them (even less than 5% if I think about it). As a conclusion I can't date someone just to get laid. I've tried and it always seems forced, I lose interest fast and it ends up either in something cringey and forced or I just give up. Giving up was the best solution, I would always set my mindset to 'there are plenty of fish in the sea' and move on. But this approach have it's downsides, because beside a brief one week in a summer camp I've never been in a relationship and I'm 19 yo.

All my friends respect me as a leader, I was told I have charisma, I'm good looking and I really know how to have a good conversation on topics like history, books, politics, economy, philosopy, architecture (my future profession) but I'm not good at all at small talks. On the surface I'm quite shiny and confident, but on the inside I'm really alone because I don't find people like me and insecure because of my lack of experience in relationships.

Until now I had like 2-3 girls that I felt I could really talk with and seemed to like me back and every time I blowed things up because I've rushed something.. I mean imagine beeing alone (as a human beeing not only as a relationship status)for so long, then finally finding someone to talk with... I was like a storm, and I attached pretty fast on each of them and got rejected. These 2-3 experiences ended so badly that gave me the worst times of my life: usually 2-3 months of heavy depression followed by another 2-3 months without any desire for social interaction.

Now I don't really know what to do, because all this failure and time spent alone really damaged my confidence, and the only thing keeping me going is the success on other aspects of life (like school, money, the relationship with my family and friends, all of them are really good).

My parents are starting to be worried about my relationship status and I have to make my love life a mistery formy friends, because elseway it would hurt my image.

I talked with many aries and some of them have similar problems, so I hope it might be someone here that could give me some good advice. Thanks ?

I'm a Aries sun and moon female. I find it hard to just get with anyone. I can't even kiss someone unless there's something I really like about them. While some of my friends are with people they don't even see a future with just so they are not lonely. What's the point in that? I'm hoping the right person will come along when they are meant too and I wish the same for you!

Posted by ariesfire82
I'm a Aries sun and moon female. I find it hard to just get with anyone. I can't even kiss someone unless there's something I really like about them. While some of my friends are with people they don't even see a future with just so they are not lonely. What's the point in that? I'm hoping the right person will come along when they are meant too and I wish the same for you!

Glad to know I'm not alone ? Good luck!

I had the same experience when i was young.

The one thing I can recommend to you is try to be friends first and slow down the "dating" process so that you get to know them better before you put your feelings out there.

I understand you when you say you went full force on those 2-3 that you liked but you need to look at the other way around.. would you be still interested if someone was acting the same way with you? Probably not. You wouldnt be that interested cause no Aries i know likes clingy unless they have low confidence.

Relationships need time to properly develop and pushin things will never work.

You're very young so no worries you will not end up alone.. but use this time to learn more about yourself and put effort in hobbies/activities and bettering yourself.

The right one is just around the corner and you need to be ready when she shows up so that you dont mess it up.