Challenged an Aries now scared of what will happen

We dated for a year then he dumped me out of the blue, even tough everything was ok and we had a great relationship. I made sure he knew i was having fun /being independent of him... Because I knew that would trigger him...and it did. After a month he came back, constantly told me he had such a hard time still loved me blabla.. And I learned that he didn't really see it as a breakup! He had crushed my feelings just to "think". He told me he realized he could never let me go, was all over me...

I wanted to give him another chance but he told me he still needed time to decide to get back together! I told him to fight for me, I'm not going to do all the work here, I got very angry. I said he was just scared and that he had to fight for me now, and if he wouldn't fight he would just prove to be what a coward he was. Then I blocked him. That was 3 days ago and I haven't heard anything, granted I blocked him but he hasn't tried any other communication channels. I'm worried I've scared him away forever... What do I do? Just wait?

Posted by Attagirl
We dated for a year then he dumped me out of the blue, even tough everything was ok and we had a great relationship. I made sure he knew i was having fun /being independent of him... Because I knew that would trigger him...and it did. After a month he came back, constantly told me he had such a hard time still loved me blabla.. And I learned that he didn't really see it as a breakup! He had crushed my feelings just to "think". He told me he realized he could never let me go, was all over me...

I wanted to give him another chance but he told me he still needed time to decide to get back together! I told him to fight for me, I'm not going to do all the work here, I got very angry. I said he was just scared and that he had to fight for me now, and if he wouldn't fight he would just prove to be what a coward he was. Then I blocked him. That was 3 days ago and I haven't heard anything, granted I blocked him but he hasn't tried any other communication channels. I'm worried I've scared him away forever... What do I do? Just wait?

Daaaaamn! that was harsh. See my question to these kind of repsonses is, why do it if you arent prepared to follow through with it. You got the expected response from him. Why did you do it if you didnt really want it?

Scared him away? No.

It's called pride. If he likes you, he'll reach out after too much time passes and he's bored. As long as we're distracted, you'll be waiting forever.

You busted his balls. I like that.

But you have to follow through now. You put the onus on him and he's not stepping up yet. The ball is in his court. If he doesn't care enough to call or text or something, if he won't swallow his pride or that scared him or pissed him off, then you know where you sit on the totem pole.

Lol, if someone blocks me, I don't care what they said, I don't see it as a test, I see it for the most literal implication - you're done talking to me. And that's kind of a classic Aries naivety. We really do tend to take things for face value.

He'll be back, men don't like to be told what to do.

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Posted by mission
Lol, if someone blocks me, I don't care what they said, I don't see it as a test, I see it for the most literal implication - you're done talking to me. And that's kind of a classic Aries naivety. We really do tend to take things for face value.

This! For the life of me, I can't understand why anyone would block someone they want to be with. I see it all the time on here. Don't play mind games on him, that won't do any good.

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Sometimes a person will block just to get some breathing room to re-enter again.

I agree what the others say. thats not a challenge. people for get we like straight truth too. i think you should tell him the truth.

He really thinks u don't want to talk to him anymore since u blocked him.. he probably won't be trying to contact u in other ways that he can contact u .. don't play games with an Aries

Posted by Attagirl
We dated for a year then he dumped me out of the blue, even tough everything was ok and we had a great relationship. I made sure he knew i was having fun /being independent of him... Because I knew that would trigger him...and it did. After a month he came back, constantly told me he had such a hard time still loved me blabla.. And I learned that he didn't really see it as a breakup! He had crushed my feelings just to "think". He told me he realized he could never let me go, was all over me...

I wanted to give him another chance but he told me he still needed time to decide to get back together! I told him to fight for me, I'm not going to do all the work here, I got very angry. I said he was just scared and that he had to fight for me now, and if he wouldn't fight he would just prove to be what a coward he was. Then I blocked him. That was 3 days ago and I haven't heard anything, granted I blocked him but he hasn't tried any other communication channels. I'm worried I've scared him away forever... What do I do? Just wait?

Get a fidget spinner and see if that protects you.

I hope he leaves you, why mess about like this. I think you need to sort your issues out, you probably just like the attention.

You probably won't hear from him.

He said he still needed time to think about commitment to you. Dude isn't willing to fight for you