Confused Cappie (Again)

So I kinda sort of started hanging out with this new co worker at my job which was not what I thought would happen. He was super flirty and super friendly in a way I had not experienced before. I was suspicious of his mannerisms because he didn’t give a damn about who was around when we initially got to know each other he says what he feels. No f’s given. During this time I broke up with my boyfriend (relationship problems going on forever) and decided to try to get to understand why this man was giving me crazy looks or saying borderline inappropriate things. We ended up having lunch several times and I learned a lot about him, his family and goals.

Aries also had relationship drama which he didn’t admit at first but I suspected. In honesty I felt like he was trying to see where our interaction was headed before letting me in to his life. He recently broke up with his girlfriend too. The problem is that I’m not sure what the hell is going on?

Since meeting me he made it clear we would be friends but he has done things that are so contradictory I’m confused. He will flirt with me, stare at me constantly when he thinks I’m not looking, tell me things to get me jealous and be like an open book. I admittedly have done the same since I feel like he’s trying to get under my skin and I’m returning the favor.

In all honesty he’s very easy to talk to and I will admit I enjoy his company. He’ll talk about his future goals and even admitted that he wanted another kid but with a woman who would be his wife. 🤔🤔🤔 I’m like ok that’s nice but y do I need to know this info if we’re friends. Other times he will be a straight asshole or say some shit I don’t agree with. But he always make sure to ask me how my day is and seems somewhat protective towards me.

Lately though I feel some sort of irritation coming from him and I’m not sure why. He can be crazy intense and he’s good looking as well but I can be a challenge because I’m not chasing him like I’ve noticed other women will do. I made a comment about sometimes being so attracted to someone that you can imagine being intimate with them everywhere. Yeah I know... 😏he literally smiled and said he’s never seen that side of me which made me wonder why he would think I would show that full side to someone I’m not involved with.

I’m not sure if it bothered him or got to him because he brought it up again in a convo that had nothing to do with that. In all honesty I do find him attractive and he’s smart and is fun but I’m not willing to create drama at work just based off of attraction. I have also noticed he has a short fuse at times and hates when I ignore him but I don’t think it should be a big deal. So I guess I’m just wondering why act this way for a friend. I’ve also seen jealousy and he refuses to stay out of my conversations with other people that don’t involve him. Is this weird or should I run? I’ve already decided to decrease my lunch days with him but I didn’t say anything I’ve just been MIA.

Posted by Arielle83

You have lunch with men that say inappropriate things to you?!!

Then get all confused about everything?!

Hahhahah hahahahhaha

Right! This ish is out of control. SMH and LOL 😒😂

"I'm *not* chasing him like other women do."

Maybe so, but he *knows* that you want him like other women do. See?

So....all that flirting was a *test*. You failed. Thus the borderline inappropriate things, if there's such a thing 🤔

Btw, flirting, staring and *acting* jealous MEANS nothing special 🤦

Aries is hurting from the past relationship because Aries are romantics at heart but also hunters for attention/affection if it was lacking with their past relationship. Don't allow yourself to be used for a rebound, enjoy the attention when given if you like, but don't think much of it. An Aries man especially will never keep you guessing on how they feel once they are certain about you. If they aren't sure, don't wait for him (or anyone for that matter), life is short go out and have a good time for yourself and find out what you really want in life.

Yeah if he just got out of a relationship he isn't over her and is just having some fun. They flirt with every girl and they also will say inappropriate things for shock value, nothing more.

I agree with the majority of these comments. Guess it was just confusing since he was doing all this during his relationship.

Posted by Timon

He sounds like a typical aries. He likes you. 😉

😂😂😂😂right? Adorbs idiot...❤️

Posted by DonnaLibra

Yeah if he just got out of a relationship he isn't over her and is just having some fun. They flirt with every girl and they also will say inappropriate things for shock value, nothing more.

Yeah and the strangest thing is that that flirting with others doesn’t bother me personally.

And I am jealous af. Used to be anyway...🤷‍♀️

Posted by Arielle83

You have lunch with men that say inappropriate things to you?!!

Then get all confused about everything?!

Hahhahah hahahahhaha

Ok. Can’t rhink of a good example but here.

He would say ‘that woman I lived with threw in my face that she sucks my dick and I never told her I have a problem licking her pussy’...😂😂😂

🤷‍♀️

Posted by Arielle83

You have lunch with men that say inappropriate things to you?!!

Then get all confused about everything?!

Hahhahah hahahahhaha

I found this odd too. I usually slap men who say inappropriate things to me; not go to lunch with them to find out why.

@ Donna Libra I’m not going to slap someone who’s being a flirt that’s an over the top extreme reaction. Our lunch interaction was accidental and I wanted to understand why he was doing it. Obviously since he had no issues expressing himself i wanted answers.