How to interpret this Aries response?

I am a Leo man and met this Aries women last year. We got along really well and hit it on fast. We became attached to each other and feelings got very intended. And both know we have (even now) that we have significant impact on each other. Recently I did something stupid that hurt this Aries' heart. She started to distant and withdraw herself. I managed to have a very open and honest talk with her last night about the mistake I made. She was being very open and told me how she was hurt by me and told me that her trust on me has been broken. The discussion was very open and good actually as she was being very honest and told me what I did wrong and how she was hurt. I also told her I was crushed to see her hurting because of me. I have apologized before right after that incident and I told her again last night that I did not and never will intent on hurting her. That was a stupid mistake. So at the end of our talk I asked her directly if our relationship and trust is restorable and she gave me a clear yes. She said "Yes, but it will take times". I was happy to here that knowing at least I still get a chance because I really don't want to lose her. The night ended well and she even texted me afterward telling me "it hurts to see me like that" (I was a bit emotional)
The next day when I saw her she was in her distant mode again. What should I do now? I was trying to talk to her to start rebuilding our relationship but she was kind of withdrawing..she is being hot and cold..how should I interpret her responses? When she said yes our relationship and trust is restorable she meant it?

Many thanks

Thanks for responding LillyBlossom. I'm not a native English speaker apology for the errors. Cheers

Her birthday is coming up. Originally i was planning to something over the top like send her flowers and take her out to dinner..but now I am afraid that might scare her off and give her even more pressure. I am thinking perhaps just to send her birthday card with some heartfelt msgs, just to show her she is on my mind and I still care a lot about her. Is it a good idea? Or l should just completely leave her alone and not do anything? I am torn..

Posted by LoveAries
Recently I did something stupid that hurt this Aries' heart.

What exactly did you do?

Yes I've done' this before too....Like mentioned earlier, Aries people think a lot, because mars rules the head. She is probably thinking of what caused the situation to occur in the first place, and often times we tend to blame ourselves as well-so maybe she is trying to figure out what she might have done to instigate you? Also, she could be a little insecure-I know when I am unsure of something, I will want to avoid that person so a reaction isn't triggered and I don't do/say something I will regret later.

Posted by LoveAries
Her birthday is coming up. Originally i was planning to something over the top like send her flowers and take her out to dinner..but now I am afraid that might scare her off and give her even more pressure. I am thinking perhaps just to send her birthday card with some heartfelt msgs, just to show her she is on my mind and I still care a lot about her. Is it a good idea? Or l should just completely leave her alone and not do anything? I am torn..

Don't leave her alone on her birthday. Send her flowers, she will appreciate it. As for dinner ask her a couple of days before as she might have plans.

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Yes I've done' this before too....Like mentioned earlier, Aries people think a lot, because mars rules the head. She is probably thinking of what caused the situation to occur in the first place, and often times we tend to blame ourselves as well-so maybe she is trying to figure out what she might have done to instigate you? Also, she could be a little insecure-I know when I am unsure of something, I will want to avoid that person so a reaction isn't triggered and I don't do/say something I will regret later.

I do the same thing when someone has hurt me. I tend to stay away until I've dealt with the feelings it has caused. I do this so that I don't lose my temper when confronting the situation with that person. I don't want to say anything in anger that will hurt that person that can't be taken back.

Damnata, she and I worked together. So what I did that hurt her was some work related emails about a project she was managing. I made some comments about the project and she took my comments very personally and thought I was criticizing her. She told me she felt betrayed..to me it's really minor and I really wasn't critizing her. I didn't know that'd be how she took those comments, if I knew I wouldn't made those comments..I apologized right away telling her no matter how innocents I thought my comments were of they came across to her as rude and disrepectful I apologized. And I told her repeatedly that I didn't and never will intent on hurting her.
The whole thing was pretty stupid I really don't want to lose her over this..sigh!

And I would also like to ask from Aries lady..in situation similar to this that your experienced before did you really come around and give the person who hurt your feelings a 2nd chance?

Thanks for the advice!!

Posted by LoveAries
Damnata, she and I worked together. So what I did that hurt her was some work related emails about a project she was managing. I made some comments about the project and she took my comments very personally and thought I was criticizing her. She told me she felt betrayed..to me it's really minor and I really wasn't critizing her. I didn't know that'd be how she took those comments, if I knew I wouldn't made those comments..I apologized right away telling her no matter how innocents I thought my comments were of they came across to her as rude and disrepectful I apologized. And I told her repeatedly that I didn't and never will intent on hurting her.
The whole thing was pretty stupid I really don't want to lose her over this..sigh!

Hmm yes we don't take criticism very well at all. Constructive criticism is more acceptable as we feel you're trying to help us improve our ideas.

If it's work related I would have thought she would get over it quicker than a personal situation.
I think the fact that you have 2 are involved outside of work is the reason she's taking it harder

Thank you for the insight MadMarchRam. Do you see a chance that my Aries will come around? If you feel the trust is broken would you give that person a 2nd chance? I'm at a lost now.. she said the relationship is restorable but I feel like I'm the only one working on restoring it...and I don't even know if I'm doing it right! I'm a Leo I' very eager and don't chase after someone unless they are very important..I weight her happiness more than my pride. That's how important she is to me..any advice from Aries ladies out there that have been through similar situations? Thanks a lot..

oh man, if she understood your comments as you not having faith in her..it's a wrap.

aries cannot stand their loved one to not have faith in what they are doing.

i'm an optimistic sag rising so let's hope for the best.

I would get over it as it's a wounded pride thing to do with work, not personal life.

I'm with the ladies above on this. Maybe back off a little bit and be optimistic that hopefully it'll work out.

Posted by Damnata
oh man, if she understood your comments as you not having faith in her..it's a wrap.

aries cannot stand their loved one to not have faith in what they are doing.

i'm an optimistic sag rising so let's hope for the best.

yeah exactly

Posted by LoveAries
Damnata, she and I worked together. So what I did that hurt her was some work related emails about a project she was managing. I made some comments about the project and she took my comments very personally and thought I was criticizing her. She told me she felt betrayed..to me it's really minor and I really wasn't critizing her. I didn't know that'd be how she took those comments, if I knew I wouldn't made those comments..I apologized right away telling her no matter how innocents I thought my comments were of they came across to her as rude and disrepectful I apologized. And I told her repeatedly that I didn't and never will intent on hurting her.
The whole thing was pretty stupid I really don't want to lose her over this..sigh!

Aries have a tough time with reading comprehension and listening skills. You were being honest as you should be at work and all she heard was sara cant do anything right. Da hell?

you are right. That shit is minor. I think theres more going on with her. Shes probably feeling insecure about her management abilities and she went way left on you.

Shit by your OP, and her reaction I thought you slept with her sister.

You should be free to speak your mind and not coddle her. Shes a big girl. Next time, neither one of you should eat where you shit.

Id send her some flowers and then put your damn foot down. She has to respect your honesty. Dont let her temper tantrum her way out of this. Dont let her guilt trip you for being honest.

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Posted by LoveAries
Damnata, she and I worked together. So what I did that hurt her was some work related emails about a project she was managing. I made some comments about the project and she took my comments very personally and thought I was criticizing her. She told me she felt betrayed..to me it's really minor and I really wasn't critizing her. I didn't know that'd be how she took those comments, if I knew I wouldn't made those comments..I apologized right away telling her no matter how innocents I thought my comments were of they came across to her as rude and disrepectful I apologized. And I told her repeatedly that I didn't and never will intent on hurting her.
The whole thing was pretty stupid I really don't want to lose her over this..sigh!

Aries have a tough time with reading comprehension and listening skills. You were being honest as you should be at work and all she heard was sara cant do anything right. Da hell?

you are right. That shit is minor. I think theres more going on with her. Shes probably feeling insecure about her management abilities and she went way left on you.

Shit by your OP, and her reaction I thought you slept with her sister.

You should be free to speak your mind and not coddle her. Shes a big girl. Next time, neither one of you should eat where you shit.

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reading comprehension-depends on the moon sign I think. Listening skills-yep we don't listen lol

^and to add on to what you said:
"you are right. That shit is minor. I think there's more going on with her. Shes probably feeling insecure about her management abilities and she went way left on you."
the concept might have been minor, but Aries are sensory triggered people, we react to tonality and overall energy. And as far as her being insecure about her management, no I don't think it's that... we harbor in our emotions like cancers, and actually like other cardinal signs. I think that was just residual anger and pain, and she was taking it out on him. Or maybe some more things were inadvertently done to irritate her, and she let it build up. We can have a hard time letting go as well, but we don't let on like we do.

Don't skip the birthday, if you did that I would think you didn't care. Just stay as you are and take small steps. I forgive people and give them second chances, it does just take time!

Thank you all for your advice! It's very helpful indeed. I agree with the comments esp. those about honesty and making sure I don't lose myself in all these. What I found most difficult to be in a relationship with this Aries is that she sees and comprehends a lot of things very differently from most people.

Like DMV pointed out I was being completely honest and trying to speak my mind but she saw it as me betraying her and even talking behind her back (as she weren't copied on all the emails which btw were far from blaming and backstabbing!). She sees some of my comments as being sarcastic (when I pointed out facts) to intentionally hurt her..
She sometimes sees my advice as me looking down on her. She once told me that sometimes my sharing of how to manage the project makes her feel "ignorant". While I appreciate her honesty for sharing her feeling with me I couldn't help but be shocked by how far away she can be from the truth? She also has twisted view of how others see her. When I told her she's special she would tell me no I'm not special I'm just an average person. I'm just doing what everyone else can do. When she worries about how others see her I told her everyone thinks and speaks highly of her (which is true as she is very smart and capable) but she herself doesn't see or believe that. She undermines all positive aspects of her but magnifies all negative things..

I know aries is famous for acting strong and tough outside when they are in fact very tender and soft inside but this Aries is more complicated..sometimes I feel like she has a distorted self image and low self esteem that she doesn't even know about..or maybe she is aware but disconnected with which also matches Aries' disconnection with deep feelings and emotions, even about themselves..
I agree it is more than just this work incidents she has a lot accumulated and she is used to putting up walls to protect herself. It takes a lot for her to open up to me and now she feels hurt and is going back to behind her barricade in order to feel safe..

ONce I get distant it just isn't a good sign. I get numb when I get distant and then poof its like it never happened( the whole relationship that it is)

she seems to be very hurt or whatever you said and whatever you did not betray her trust, so anything you do after this. Will more than likely upset her so I think is best if you take a step back and start from default settings because she's just going to continue to resent you if you don't really fix what was done to begin with! instead of trying to figure out what she needs from you ask her what she needs from you?

unfortunately we do tend to overthink things and not always know our worth! working together and being together in a romantic situation makes everything complicated and messy. I think you need to give her some space and let her cool off and be in her feelings and try to keep things light and funny because we do like to laugh and that is one of the things that we love about Leos! remind her of y she loves you I think she is in love with you. now I I am in the same situation with a Leo and now things are so bad between us that we are no longer together and things are tense and hostile at work! I think is both of us really put out egos aside when we met and was together and took time out to really understand each other things would have turned out differently! he betrayed me by messing with one of my coworkers and just being a womanizer and I became bitter and angry and things were never the same again! I really wish things would have been different because he never truly understood that he was everything to me and to this day I don't think he really understands that! good luck try and be forgiving and understanding if you really want her and make it work for as long as you can because she will really appreciate it if not end it now before it turns ugly!we tend to overthink things and be better childish sometimes but deep down we love hard it's just difficult for us to show that to people believe me you mean the world to her she just needs to chill out and you need to start to understand how her mind works because it's not like other people

I really wish my Leo love me as much as you love her and she will see it one day and come around because y'all are meant for each other! he didn't even want to commit to me_—

Thanks a lot Amorprohibido1980. Things are getting a bit better between us. I sent her flowers on her birthday and dropped her a text right on 12:01 with some sweet messages wishing her happy birthday and asked her to stay beautiful and amazing. I have been taking things very slow and taking many steps back and waiting for her to come around. I think she hasn't fully come around yet and I am continue to give her alot of space now I am at a point I am not sure what else to do. We don't see each other a lot these days and when I texted her she doesn't always respond. I think she is still withdrawing. But last weekend she dropped me a text and asked how was I doing. I have already set my ego aside since I met her I told her I dont want to argue with her as she means the world to me. And I told her I weight her happiness more important than my pride..but I have a feeling that she needs more assurance than that. How can I restore the trust and relationship between us? What would you want your leo man to do if it was you? I have a feeling that she misses me a lot and cares about me still but as Aries she doesn't share any of her feelings..what should I do to assure her that I still want her but not give her too much pressure to make her withdraw even more? (Yes she has a track record of withdrawing back to her cave when she doesn't know how to deal with feelings and vulnerability).

Posted by LoveAries
Thanks a lot Amorprohibido1980. Things are getting a bit better between us. I sent her flowers on her birthday and dropped her a text right on 12:01 with some sweet messages wishing her happy birthday and asked her to stay beautiful and amazing. I have been taking things very slow and taking many steps back and waiting for her to come around. I think she hasn't fully come around yet and I am continue to give her alot of space now I am at a point I am not sure what else to do. We don't see each other a lot these days and when I texted her she doesn't always respond. I think she is still withdrawing. But last weekend she dropped me a text and asked how was I doing. I have already set my ego aside since I met her I told her I dont want to argue with her as she means the world to me. And I told her I weight her happiness more important than my pride..but I have a feeling that she needs more assurance than that. How can I restore the trust and relationship between us? What would you want your leo man to do if it was you? I have a feeling that she misses me a lot and cares about me still but as Aries she doesn't share any of her feelings..what should I do to assure her that I still want her but not give her too much pressure to make her withdraw even more? (Yes she has a track record of withdrawing back to her cave when she doesn't know how to deal with feelings and vulnerability).

OMG, another Leo in problems with an aries.. lol Mate, welcome to the team. I am also a leo male with an aries woman (6 months). I wish you lots of luck because it will not going to be easy. It's good to read that you love her.. I love my aries too, but she is very selfish. If you hurt her, and if you know that she is mature go for it. Put all of your efforts in your girl. Just be a Leo, she will come to you. They can't resist us. My aries, im afraid is childish so I will not put many effort in this relation. We are in war now, but yes i love her 😉

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Posted by LoveAries
Thanks a lot Amorprohibido1980. Things are getting a bit better between us. I sent her flowers on her birthday and dropped her a text right on 12:01 with some sweet messages wishing her happy birthday and asked her to stay beautiful and amazing. I have been taking things very slow and taking many steps back and waiting for her to come around. I think she hasn't fully come around yet and I am continue to give her alot of space now I am at a point I am not sure what else to do. We don't see each other a lot these days and when I texted her she doesn't always respond. I think she is still withdrawing. But last weekend she dropped me a text and asked how was I doing. I have already set my ego aside since I met her I told her I dont want to argue with her as she means the world to me. And I told her I weight her happiness more important than my pride..but I have a feeling that she needs more assurance than that. How can I restore the trust and relationship between us? What would you want your leo man to do if it was you? I have a feeling that she misses me a lot and cares about me still but as Aries she doesn't share any of her feelings..what should I do to assure her that I still want her but not give her too much pressure to make her withdraw even more? (Yes she has a track record of withdrawing back to her cave when she doesn't know how to deal with feelings and vulnerability).

OMG, another Leo in problems with an aries.. lol Mate, welcome to the team. I am also a leo male with an aries woman (6 months). I wish you lots of luck because it will not going to be easy. It's good to read that you love her.. I love my aries too, but she is very selfish. If you hurt her, and if you know that she is mature go for it. Put all of your efforts in your girl. Just be a Leo, she will come to you. They can't resist us. My aries, im afraid is childish so I will not put many effort in this relation. We are in war now, but yes i love her 😉

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Thanks mate. I've read your story too..very similar situation indeed. My Aries is also very childish not in money matter but in dealing with her emotions and feelings. She is afraid of being too emotionally attached to anyone including me. She's been hurt badly in past relationships so I can understand why she with

She's been hurt badly in past relationships so I can understand why she withdraws and sets up walls in order to feel safe around people. I also know she has strong feelings for me and we've touched each others in a profound way. That's why I want to stick around to help her realize showing true feelings is not weak and being vulnerable is okay. Anyways she is a very complicated lady.
But yes I'm not going to lose myself in all these. I think she is attracted to me for who I am - bold, direct, positive, confident and enthusiastic about life, which are pretty much all leo traits! So I'm just going to chill and continue be who I am and live my life to the fullest. I have no problem giving her space but the problem is she doesn't even know if that's what she wants. Hope she will come around one day but yes I'm not going to be stressed over her. Thanks everyone and good luck to all Leos with their Aries!

That's when the possible turns impossible, the spark initially, to hot and cold,...sadly..And more so if Venus is Gemini or any air sign . Aries are good people, but just too opposite for some..always try to find the balance..

Lol. May be that's why she told me I was too good to be true and that she didn't deserve me? Anyways I am taking it very easy now. If it is meant to be it shouldn't be this hard.
But one thing with this Aries is that I will never get to know how she truly feels as she herself is also disconnected with her own feelings deep down. Maybe overtimes as she gets more mature she will learn how to deal with her inner self and learn that all emotions are beautiful. But right I will have to just take it as her not so into me now and continue to be who I am. Happiness is a choice after all.

No offense but I can tell you with all certainties that yes it totally contradicts with your impression of her. Her sharing was far from those shallow things others say to try to get rid of people. She was in tears when she said that. I haven't seen that emotional side of her that often she was being extremely open with her feelings so I treasured that particular night of her sharings a lot. But thanks for your comments I appreciate you took the time to actually respond with your thoughts. I think we are at a point where she and I just need to sort it all out. Cheers