How will he react if I tell my Aries fwb that I had oral sex with another guy?

This is pertaining to the Aries male fwb in my last post Ok, so this was not planned at all, and I planned on just not telling the Aries if we continue to mess around but I am a terrible liar and hate lying anyway. And I promised him that I would be honest and tell him if I have sex with anyone else. This Pisces guy that I had sex once with 1 month before I met my Aries FWB, has been quarantined from the virus in early March, he was very cautious and has not left the house since then. I have been working from home since early March and haven’t been going anywhere since this virus stuff got bad. The Pisces came over cause he’s been going through a lot of family issues and we both were lonely so I invited him over. We talked for awhile about stuff and long story short he performed oral on me, it was gonna escalate but we didn’t have condoms. If I tell my Aries fwb what reaction can I expect? Will he get mad or be upset? Look at me differently? I don’t want to be on bad terms, but I also don’t want to lie to him by not keeping my promise. I’m constantly horny and it’s been hard living by myself.

he doesnt need to know this. you're not lying by not telling him.

Posted by rabidtalker

he doesnt need to know this. you're not lying by not telling him.

I’m saying if he asks, I’m a terrible liar.

Posted by Clair_de_Lune

Why would it matter? There's no mutual agreement that you two are exclusive

I’m asking what reaction should I expect, I’m a terrible liar and he always asks so I’m gonna tell the truth.

too lazy to read your other threads but if its just fwb, not a huge deal IMO....if he has a competitive streak like every Aries, he'll probably just be all he can be next time he goes down on you....

Posted by Arielle83

Ya he’ll wonder whose spit he’s lapping up every time he thinks of going down on you.

You want him to be upset?

Or do you genuinely think he won’t be upset with you?



Did you suck the virus dick?

Aries will be wondering what you did to him.

No I’m not trying to get back at him or anything. I honestly didn’t plan on this happening. We shouldn’t have been drinking and we got tipsy and we were both emotional about all the crap that’s been going on in our state with the virus. I’m glad it didn’t go further. I honestly don’t want to tell him, nervous about his reaction.

Posted by Arielle83

Just read your other thread again. Guess this is your clever way of letting Aries know other guys are paying attention to your body

He already knows guys are always staring at my body when we go out. No I’m not trying to get back at him or anything. I honestly didn’t plan on this happening. We shouldn’t have been drinking and we got tipsy and we were both emotional about all the crap that’s been going on in our state with the virus. I’m glad it didn’t go further. I honestly don’t want to tell him, nervous about his reaction.

Posted by Metatron

too lazy to read your other threads but if its just fwb, not a huge deal IMO....if he has a competitive streak like every Aries, he'll probably just be all he can be next time he goes down on you....

The reason I’m nervous about him knowing is because when we first started this casual relationship he said that if I was with anyone else sexually that I had to end it cause he wants to be the only one I’m having sex with

Posted by Genznation

Posted by Metatron

too lazy to read your other threads but if its just fwb, not a huge deal IMO....if he has a competitive streak like every Aries, he'll probably just be all he can be next time he goes down on you....

The reason I’m nervous about him knowing is because when we first started this casual relationship he said that if I was with anyone else sexually that I had to end it cause he wants to be the only one I’m having sex with

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I lean towards a more Clintonesque definition of sexual relations so not sure I can be of much help....sounds like it was more of a one time thing, and I would just not mention it, but I've been called shady....maybe just go with your gut or something....

Posted by Genznation

Posted by Metatron

too lazy to read your other threads but if its just fwb, not a huge deal IMO....if he has a competitive streak like every Aries, he'll probably just be all he can be next time he goes down on you....

The reason I’m nervous about him knowing is because when we first started this casual relationship he said that if I was with anyone else sexually that I had to end it cause he wants to be the only one I’m having sex with

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".....that if I was with anyone else sexually that **I had to end it** cause he **wants to be the only one** I'm having sex with"

The fuckery continues. SMH

Hire me as your pimp and you will never have to worry about such things.

You are welcome.

Well, given the fact that he just sees you as a sidechick atm, this is what I wold do:

First i wold check out if you were lying, and so, the easiest way to check it out, is to simply ask how everything happen. From start to finish. In detail.

Thing is, if i sense that you are lying, i will not tell you. I will just give you more rope and have a laugh with it. So, make sure that you are not just trying to get an reaction out of him, because if you are, and it backfires, you loose.

And if I see that you might be actually speaking the truth, or that at least i see that you placed a lot of effort into that story lol I wold say..."Fine, seems that you had an amazing time. As long as your tight a****** still belongs only to me, we are fine ^^"

Or maybe nothing like that wold even happen, maybe i am just in one of those days that my level of fucks to give is just so low, that i wold just say "Ok ^^". Who knows lol Even i don't know lol

And you should most definitely assume that he has other options. I mean, this one is very obvious. Because first of all, he is not giving you attention, and if you are in doubt, do you think that a guy that fucked you like that isn't also a horny fuck like you, or worse ?...

As for why he says he wants you to be exclusive lol

First of all for health reasons, right ? For power. Because I want to see you adoring me. And because it makes you think that I care for you, when I probably don't. Notice how many threads you made just because he said that ? You think it didn't work ? You know, honestly and bluntly speaking to you, it's easier for women to do things for men, if feelings are involved (vice-versa also).

There are many reasons i could list here, and I only see winnings when saying something like that. (I gota virgo moon btw..lol). It is what it is. And what you should be asking instead is, why not say it ?

And btw....this is also a Test. I always say this every time. And I am checking out many things, all at the same time. We are Aries, and we are driven by action. Do you know what is the biggest act of love ?

It's actually very funny the reason why people actually fall in love for someone else. Not infatuation, or carnal desire. I mean Love.

Try not to see this post as a bash or anything of that sort. It is really not my intention with it. I am just telling how things are. And that's the best advice i can give you.

Cheers 🙂

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Posted by rabidtalker

he doesnt need to know this. you're not lying by not telling him.

It’s called a lie by omission.

Strange request by the FWB. He should have said he wanted to be exclusive FWB because I think that’s basically what he’s saying by wanting to know if the OP sleeps with someone else.

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yeah, she could just say he doesnt need to know and that she wont tell him.

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

How is everyone having sex and I’m over here crickets and cobwebs

Lmao

Posted by Genznation

Posted by Clair_de_Lune

Why would it matter? There's no mutual agreement that you two are exclusive

I’m asking what reaction should I expect, I’m a terrible liar and he always asks so I’m gonna tell the truth.

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The truth is it's none of his business and that is what you should tell him. You don't owe him any explanations, he's not your boyfriend. What's going on with the guy you said you're in love with? Is he the one that got the head?

Posted by Ram416

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

How is everyone having sex and I’m over here crickets and cobwebs

Lmao

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Because some don't give a fuck about the virus. They'd rather die than give up sex.

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Posted by rabidtalker

he doesnt need to know this. you're not lying by not telling him.

It’s called a lie by omission.

Strange request by the FWB. He should have said he wanted to be exclusive FWB because I think that’s basically what he’s saying by wanting to know if the OP sleeps with someone else.

I see it as him locking down pussy, and getting her to feel some pull to his needs.

Then he feels he’s the dominant and can come and go with his feelings until he replaces her with someone else to lock in.

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I see him doing this to protect his dick from disease. If he wanted to lock down pussy he'd make a commitment.

Basically he doesn't have other pussy so he's making sure u stay around. When he finds more pussy he'll dump u aside. Don't worry about his feelings 😘

Another fool, another day.......

😬

Posted by jezzyboo21

Another fool, another day.......

😂😂😂

Posted by Arielle83

I don’t get why he’s telling you you have to tell him who you’re with.

He’s not your boyfriend. He’s just your fwb.

If you use protection and birth control and are not committed to the Aries, your sex life isn’t his business.

I mean I’m sure you’re both honest about your sexual health and history, so why does he need to know what you were doing the other night and with who?

Him making you promise to tell him who or when you’re with someone, because he “wants to be the only one you have sex with,” seems to be where he feels he has some control.

It’s like he’s telling you to be his noncommittal fuck, but you have to be faithful to his needs and exclude others because of what he wants, which is not what you want. The thing is he will be upset because he thought he had you locked down.

He might react saying he can’t trust you etc. He might try to shame you or he might not care and just say “thanks for letting me know”.

And why should you feel glad that you stopped with the Pisces when you did? If you had a condom, you probably would of gone further, but then you’d beat yourself up over it. The Aries puts you in some weird limbo state of supposed sexual loyalty, but not exclusivity.

Do you want to know who he sleeps with? Do you care? Does it really affect the current fwb situation?

The parameters he’s setting sound like he’s trying to covet you on his terms. If you don’t mind that then I wouldn’t tell him.

But if you have to tell him, because you need more sexual freedom, and you consider oral some sort of betrayal to a fwb, then tell him you don’t need to tell him what you’re doing as long as you’re safe.

You shouldn’t feel guilty being single and hooking up with someone. It’s all these weird expectations the Aries has thats making you feel you aren’t sure if you want to be honest or avoid the drama.

Either way, Aries sounds lazy and too possessive for fwb. He’s probably jealous when he gets attached.

Teach! 💯

Posted by Chicadee

dxp needs a thread outlining what fwb is..and isn't. there have been so many of these..

the senselessness of it all..

Right! 😒