If an Aries woman says never, is it actually never ....

OK, I posted a couple of stories on here about this Aries girl.

A lot has gone on with us, I won't bore anyone, they're searchable. I've since found out she is "dating" someone. She's always wanted to remain friends. I've found it hard, tried to give it go. For me to fully move on (from her in dating sense) I needed to know if she was dating.

I really believe this girl is the one, I changed over a period of time due to circumstances. I since have taken a look and realised that I wasn't treating her as I should when all she was doing was helping. My behaviour was inconsistent and erratic. We matched each other for everything until my brothers death.

She said she never want's anything from me in that sense. But she wanted so badly to remain friends. She treats me differently to how she treats friends, I know this. She equally wants to spend time with me, then switched it to make it seem like I wanted to monoplise her time. I've accepted that for now, nothing will change. I'm going to carry on and go out dating, but as Aries women, and please be honest, is there a slight chance?! I'm too optimistic at times.

She is incredibly strong willed, heard headed and single minded at times!!!!!!!!!

I feel I should just walk away from her, but shes got me hook line and sinker. Some one posted what keeps them interested, and someone posted a very soppy post, which was almost us to a T!! We've been through lot and I have emotional ties to her! I don't need her, I want her, how can I portray this .. Without showing a lack of respect for her and her wishes. I want to be the guy she wants to share things with, I want to gain her trust, her respect, I want her to know she is the single most important women, well outside of my mum and sister 😉.

I do NOT want to come across as anything but strong to her which of course I am, me Gemini and man haha

Just let it die, man. Stop flipping the corpse.

Never about what ?

Would you care to give a grown up reply, or just be silly? I've never not wanted her, I have always. During my darkest time I didn't treat her as I was before. I didn't do it knowingly. But the problem is I never took responsibility for it.

Thank you. Though I'm not looking to go back to what was happening. I'm looking to go forward addressing the issues. I get entirely what you mean though.

Posted by doublesidedGem
Thank you. Though I'm not looking to go back to what was happening. I'm looking to go forward addressing the issues. I get entirely what you mean though.

Aries goes forward with new people, when old people are full of bs in Aries' eyes. Ahe went forward by herself, in her own interests. She does not need you there, in her future.

You can address all the issues you want, but the chancez that you'll get her back on board are miniscule.

Let it die.

Posted by RamOfPeace

Posted by doublesidedGem
Thank you. Though I'm not looking to go back to what was happening. I'm looking to go forward addressing the issues. I get entirely what you mean though.

Aries goes forward with new people, when old people are full of bs in Aries' eyes. Ahe went forward by herself, in her own interests. She does not need you there, in her future.

You can address all the issues you want, but the chancez that you'll get her back on board are miniscule.

Let it die.

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I know I should, it's not that easy when I know what she is saying the person I am came about during me grieving. Before that things never came up. Ever. I'm not chasing her every damn day. I believe she was the one, something happened during our time which was out of control.

I thank you for brutal honesty though.

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Posted by RamOfPeace

Posted by doublesidedGem
Thank you. Though I'm not looking to go back to what was happening. I'm looking to go forward addressing the issues. I get entirely what you mean though.

Aries goes forward with new people, when old people are full of bs in Aries' eyes. Ahe went forward by herself, in her own interests. She does not need you there, in her future.

You can address all the issues you want, but the chancez that you'll get her back on board are miniscule.

Let it die.

I know I should, it's not that easy when I know what she is saying the person I am came about during me grieving. Before that things never came up. Ever. I'm not chasing her every damn day. I believe she was the one, something happened during our time which was out of control.

I thank you for brutal honesty though.

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It doesn't but I guess one should realise when it isn't reciprocated that it's the end.

Posted by AriesLove
Gemini men not my favorite characters. Very indecisive, unstable and erratic.

She probably wants to keep you around because you are an easy person to communicate with and be FRIENDS. That's all I ever see in Gemini men. Their behavior is unsettling and I would not want to get emotionally involved with one.

The way you've acted in the past has definitely hurt you now and probably in the future with her. I doubt she will trust you in a relationship or view you as a love interest. I would just continue to be a really good friend, earn her respect and trust, and let time do its thing. Constantly bringing up your feelings to her and how you've changed is not the way to go though. Bunch of jibber jabber in her ear.

Thank you. Just so you're aware and others my brother died in December. Hit by a train. I changed undoubtedly. Did I do it on purpose, no, am I regretful it happened yes. I never just decided to treat her that way. I misplaced and misdirected my anger and chose not to address as I thought nothing was changing. How we are now is because of me not dealing with the grief or even addressing issues, I'm not using that as an excuse, but it's the cause of it. Again, thank know you for your opinion.

We were prior to this in a very very good relationship. Sometimes just look outside for someone's star sign. I'm sorry your particular experience caused you to think like that.

Thank you. She did that, very well. I don't why I did, I honestly don't. I didn't know how to deal with it, and I guess I thought she'd be trying to change me. Without realising she was helping. I also got quite defensive at times when she would pull me up on it and use what happened as a reason to what I'm going through. Rather than acknowledge I was doing it ...

I'm going to heed the advice and leave it be, maybe time will tell, and I guess if it was mean to be it will be. I just know had not what happened happened, I doubt we'd be in or I'd be in this situation.

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Posted by AriesLove
Gemini men not my favorite characters. Very indecisive, unstable and erratic.

She probably wants to keep you around because you are an easy person to communicate with and be FRIENDS. That's all I ever see in Gemini men. Their behavior is unsettling and I would not want to get emotionally involved with one.

The way you've acted in the past has definitely hurt you now and probably in the future with her. I doubt she will trust you in a relationship or view you as a love interest. I would just continue to be a really good friend, earn her respect and trust, and let time do its thing. Constantly bringing up your feelings to her and how you've changed is not the way to go though. Bunch of jibber jabber in her ear.

Thank you. Just so you're aware and others my brother died in December. Hit by a train. I changed undoubtedly. Did I do it on purpose, no, am I regretful it happened yes. I never just decided to treat her that way. I misplaced and misdirected my anger and chose not to address as I thought nothing was changing. How we are now is because of me not dealing with the grief or even addressing issues, I'm not using that as an excuse, but it's the cause of it. Again, thank know you for your opinion.

We were prior to this in a very very good relationship. Sometimes just look outside for someone's star sign. I'm sorry your particular experience caused you to think like that.

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Unfortunately, the way you handled your grief, as you well know, has turned her off.

But, what you don't understand is that she can make an assaessment about whether she could be in a relationship with you from your behavior. Think about... Do I want to be in a relationship with someone who takes out his pain, grief, stress, on his partner? Unfortunately for you, fortunately for her, she was able to make this assessment before entering into a relationship. She was already resistant to a relationship with you before your loss.

I agree completely. On the first line.

We were together for 11 months when we ended. What happened was 7 months in. I know I'm to blame.

There is nothing I can do now even though I am speaking to professional people my grieving.