I have been "seeing" this guy for about a year and a half. Things seemed to be going really well. Our chemistry was crazy. Well one day we were having a conversation about commitment and what path our relationship was taking. He told me that he really cared about me and that any man would be lucky to call me his. He then told me that he was not saying if we were in a relationship he would cheat but new if he ever messed up I would never forgive him. He said I mean too much to him to take the risk of losing me. He said he had never been faithful in any of his relationships and always seemed to be in one. He wanted to be single for a while and we should just allow things to flow. At that point I decided to take caution. As months went by we continued to grow closer to each other. Feelings were gettting stronger. We were spending more time toegther. Not a day would go by that I would not hear from him. If it was something I didn't like he would refrain from doing it and vise versa. Things were great (at least that's what I thought). Now fast forward to today...I recently found out his ex who is in the military came back to the states and they are purchasing a house together. Of course my feelings were crushed. I cut him off and tried moving on. He of course tried contacting me on different occassions and eventually we spoke. He said it was never his intentions to hurt me. I asked why he wasn't just honest. He explained that he never thought things would be the way they were between us and once he caught feelings he did not know how to tell me and did not want to lose me. He explained that his ex was there for him when no one else was for years. He believed it was only right to be with her because of her loyalty. As he continued to explain I was getting more angry. He contiued to try to make sense out of the situation but everything sounded like excuses. Everything he told me about their relationship sounded like he is only with her because he felt obligated to be there and knows she will always forgive him. I told him I would never ask another question about his relationship if he could honestly tell me he was happy and was not with her just because his parents liked her and because he felt obligated to be there because she was there for him. He did not respond answering the question. He told me too many emotions were going on and that maybe we should just take a break from the conversation. Since then he has been trying to force a friendship knowing there's feelings on both ends. I think it's too soon to be his friend especially since we both have feelings for each other. I guess my question to you is where do you think I should go from here? If he chose who he wanted why have me there?
