Just when things were going great! Aries drama

The Aries I have been seeing for the almost two months really laid one on me today.

His ex-fiance called him to tell him she was almost 3 months pregnant. We were supposed to have a wonderful evening together and on top of that my b-day is Friday and he was going to do something nice for me.

All is sht to hell now 😢 I am very disappointed. He when I asked what time we were going out this evening he told me about the call and said he didn't know if she was telling the truth or not. I wa shocked, speechless, couldn't say a word. I told him I had to go. Too much to process at once.

He doesn't have any children and has always wanted some (as of late) his ex-fiance called him early in the morning which he seemed baffled about one night I was at his place he said they hadn't really talked at all in a couple months and since they broke up. He said that she must have saw my car outside his house or something and shrugged it off. I asked why that would matter to her, he said there shouldn't be a reason this was a couple weeks ago.

Something is fishy. Too much drama. It sucks though. It really does for me. I am really disappointed and have extremely mixed feelings about the whole thing he is shocked and realy confused. Who knows what will happen?

Never beenin a situation like this before any insight? Just when things were going great. I couldn't keep plans with him it would be too awkward for me and I am sure he isn't in a state of mind to do anything but come to terms of this possibility. I don't know what to say or do, just let it play out and see what happens. 😢 Happy single birthday to me yet another year 😢

LOL Here we go!
Aries - just one drama after another !!

He called and yes he is shocked as they were engaged and after 2 years she never got pregnant and all of a sudden after an encounter after they broke up 5 months ago she is pregnant and why did she wait until she was 10 weeks.

He is very shocked and a little angry at the fact that she waited this long to tell him and he was suspicious that all of a sudden she was pregnant.

Also he told me that the text she sent when I was at his house was saying that she new he had moved on and started seeing someone else that is why he really didn't want to talk to her and was distant when they ran into eachother.

I told him I didn't know what to say and he would have to see what happens. She clearly isn't thinking of not having the baby at 10 weeks. He is questioning if it is his as they were broken up the last encounter they had, he said she could have been seeing someone else at the time but she end up hanging up on him because she accused him of trying to trap him and lying. He said he had to ask and know.

He said he always wanted a child but not in this situation. I asked if she was pregnant would he consider trying to work it out and see if they can be together and raise their child? He said that was the farthest thing from his mind. He is still trying to wrap his head around the fact that she is pregnant with his child. He asked her to see the doctor's paper work etc.

I said he might need some space to figure out what he is going to do. He said he doesn't know what to do or think yet but he didn't want me to go anywhere. I was silent. ——

Yes, a time out between relationships is very key. It did stand out that they had only been broken up 5 months on the record but clearly more like 3 months.

QS, the good thing about this is that he told you as soon as he found out...he will need some space to sort out stuff and Aries generally won't be involved with too many intimacies at the same time - they're one-on-one...

It's up to you at your discretion to do what is best for you but eitherway you won't have his full attention now so yup, drama central if you stick around. Even if you stick around as a friend, it may be misinterpreted...

Again, in general, Aries cannot multitask intimacies.

Dogsbody, it's obvious you're still in love with Aries - sort it out !!! slobbering over the Arieses is getting embarrassing now !!! 😛

Im "Quite" chilled enough , thank you :-)

I am grateful for all the responses here.

We talked briefly while I was at work he called. General stuff then I asked if he needed time to sort things out and see what is REALLY going on... I don't know this girl so I have no idea if she is really pregers and if the baby is his. He still isn't sure if she is or if it is his either, his thing is he can't think past these two facts,so he hasn't put any thaught into any future senarios as it relates to her and the situation.

He did say he really liked me and I was growing on him, but that he couldn't even begin to answer my question without knowing how I felt. He said it would be unfair for him to decide that I would need to tell him what I wanted to do because I am the only one that isn't "in it" and I have the choice to leave or stay either way it goes.

He says he would have to accept whatever I decide. It would be easy for him to say, "yeah I still want to see you and want you in my life" without knowing for sure what the future may hold. He says all he knows is right now if the baby was his they would have to decide how to split parenting because that wouldn't be a reason he would reunite with her. He also said as we cannot predict the future he can not vow to me and promise me that if it is his and once he gets more involved with the baby that he won't want to try to make a family and things might change. It is all too soon and he doesn't even know if it is a reality.

I told him I needed to think. I just don't know. If I stay and the later happens that would be fucked up. If I leave and whether the baby is his or not (or if there even is a baby)he still might not get back together with her and I might have missed out on a great partner. I have to think this over... Any other advise would be great. Thanks again!

He just called and I told him I wanted to keep seeing him and see what happens. He seemed happy. I thanked him for being honest and putting me first and being unselfish with me in this situation. I told him we will see what happens together. There was silence and then he said, no thank you. I am going to bed now and we shall see what happens!!!!

He is of great charactor and it is hard to find someone like that these days or lately in my experience so I am going to keep seeing him, however, I am going to give him a little space too, I think he needs that.

^^^ good idea on the space thing - this is prob a good idea until he firmly establishes his role in the kid's life...then you can see if there's room for you. Also, the ex's actions could be the deciding factor.

I told him we will see what happens together.
this is good too if you're in the picture. It will be good if he kept you in the loop about how he feels on the situation as time goes by.

You're nice to stick around though 🙂

Yeah, well it has only been 3 days since the incicent and he has been very open honest and trying not to be selfish about the situation. I am going to a party later for my bday a ton of my friends are meeting me there. I invited him to joing us if he feels up to it (Mind you, before the incident he and I had plans for this evening) I just don't think it is good to keep those plans. He called to wish me a happy birthday and said he had something for me. He also talked to me about his day and where he stands on the situation right now.

He explained that he cannot promise me what the future will look like without knowing exactly what is going on. I understood and told him it would probably best to take a little time to himself and figure this out. If he needed me I was here.

So off to plan b for y bday! I love that I have friends who love me and will join me at the last minute to celebrate my bday! I hope he can stop by, if not I understand.

Thanks for all your advice. All we can do is wait and see what happens.

Oops I have been posting episodes that should have been on this thread on my other thread "Aries man and scorp woman"

I don't see things changing in our favor. I believe the child is his and if it is, then he is going to get caught up in the fact that he wants a child and this is a woman he was with for 5 years and still loves to some extent so.... He isn't emotionally available. Although he calls everyday. Stated we should go out he wants to make it up to me that he couldn't take me out a week ago after he asked, something came up with his mother (family issue) which I clearly understood.

I miss him and I hate pushing these emotions aside. He is such a great person. A little selfish, stuborn and strong willed but in a sexy way. We scorp girls love a Manly man 🙂

Thanks Archer. I have tons of friends who love and adore me and they threw me a huge surprise party, even the Aries showed up. I got so drunk and had a blast. I am lucky to have great friends.

The officially broke up but still messed around until a few weeks before we met. Says he, which would be pretty accurate, but either way it is a mess. It sucks cause things were going well with us and I am not naive enough to beleive he can walk completely away now that she is pregnant. Now that he has told me some other things this really seems like a plan, set up on her behalf. As they weren't using protection when they were engaged or for the year prior and she never was on the pill and never got pregnant (used the rythm method) but the one time they hooked up after the break up and wham!!! he says she could have planned it and he was stupid for doing it or sometimes things happen but his first question was if it was his because she could have been involved with someone else too.

I think it is his. He is talking paternity test etc. she isn't stupid enough to lead him on knowing how he is I don't think...

Hi QS!

I think you are doing the right thing. It is messy and it sucks ?cause it has nothing to do with you and him but stuff that was done before you ever came along.

The only thing you can do is gracefully float away, offering support when needed. ('Cause this has got to be VERY stressful on everyone involved.) I think he needs to be in the clear to follow his conscious on what to do about his ex and their baby.

(((QS))))

LOL! Thanks LS, you are right. He needs the time to figure it all out. I still have a life to live. However, IT HAS NOT STOPPED HIM FROM CALLING ME ALL DAY EVERYDAY... Even on Thanksgiving (4 times) mostly with not much to say at all which eventually became annoying to be honest. 😢

Classic, he is calling now, speaking of the devil. Call number 3 today. I just wish I had an idea of what his intensions are.