Not very assertive :/

So lately I've been feeling more like a lamb than a ram. Does anyone every feel like that??

Uggh, it bugs the hell out of me. It's just that I can't be assertive I just feel unsure of whether or not that being assertive at that moment is the best thing and I opt for the non-aggressive position. I have tried being aggressive, like making an assertive statement than being shot down and feeling discouraged. I realize it's an insecurity of mine and something I've been trying to overcome. It's like I'm trying to avoid my impulsive ram side but I don't want to at the same time.

LOL I know I can be quite aggressive on the boards sometimes but it's easier here in this forum. Has anyone every gone through a similar situation?

It's not that I'm not confident, I am so in certain things I'm sure about, but I guess not being a pushover— I dunno it's hard to explain. I'm not a complete pushover but there are a lot of things I let slide that I beat myself over after wards. I won't even be able to react quickly enough to a situation in the manner that I want and I always end up regretting it.

I dunno, maybe it has a lot to do with my Asian upbringing... :/

Awww well I think no matter what sign you are we all have our moments of wondering if we handled a situation the best way we could. Second guessing yourself could also be your analitical Virgo rising.
I think it's a question of maturity. There were times when I was younger that I'd blow up and I'd make sure everyone around me felt my wrath. I'd let it be KNOWN that I was mad. But now I let alot of things slide more due to figuring out which battles to fight and which ones aren't worth my time. Sometimes I think people try to provoke me knowing what I use to be like (hotheaded) just to try to get a cheap thrill. Nah... I'm not going to give them the satisfaction. Sorry types those people. No need to waste my time or energy just to get them off as sick as it is.

You know it's funny you said something about Aries lambs though. Changing the subject a little. I knew and dated a guy that was the "lamb" type of Aries and wanted for a while to ask you guys if you know any of these types of Aries.
He was in no way other to put it... a pussy about everything. He was scared to death of confrontation of any type, scared shitless of his mother... just a grade A sissy. I was totally shocked when I found out he was an Aries. He was NOTHING like any Aries I'd ever been around. I thought maybe it was a fluke.

BTW I don't think you are a "lamb" at all. 😉 You are way too fiesty and fun loving to be described as a lamb. I really do think it's the Virgo rising kicking in on you. You're analizing yourself 🙂

Christina,

Is it more of an issue of not reacting fast enough / not being able to come up with a quick, witty comeback, or are you actually inhibited?

VH-It's just the comebacks— I guess? Well I have no problems being witty when necessary but when someone catches me by surprised in a serious matter I feel like I'm lost for words and I kick myself right afterwards.
GS- You're right I think it is my Virgo rising kicking in... I've been feeling it a lot lately 😢.
OS- My natal Neptune wha...?? Lol

Heh its so not assertiveness that's your problem. You just need to learn how to talk 'smack'. THAT you can develop. Its kind of like old school guys learning how to throw "Yo mama" jokes back and forth. Just make some smart ass friends that will constantly give you shit. See, when it comes to good smack talk, you have about 3 seconds to come up with a good come back. 5 seconds TOPS. 8 seconds is well past the statute of limitations.

Lets practice...

YO MAMA SO FAT SHE FELL IN LOVE AND BROKE IT
(Hit me back and see how long it takes lol)

hey ardent! i'm with ginger on this one.
when you learn to choose your battles wisely, you're far more effective in winning those battles that truly are important to you.

Posted by VirgoHero

YO MAMA SO FAT SHE FELL IN LOVE AND BROKE IT
(Hit me back and see how long it takes lol)

ROFL!!!!!!!!!!! That was so lame that even put your mama to shame LOL 😛.

Posted by Ovi_Spring

The sun in it's actual position, opposes the position of neptune from your natal chart. For an aries a quick jog or a swim would do the job and bring the thunder back in your solar plexis.

Thanks I think I will do that 😄.

Posted by tamara
hey ardent! i'm with ginger on this one.
when you learn to choose your battles wisely, you're far more effective in winning those battles that truly are important to you.

LOL... yeah this whole thing started at work when I got into a little tiff with this guy at work. I am a hostess (training to be a server) and I sat people with him after we closed only because the manager told me to and he got pissed off. I don't know his sign but I believe he's a Leo... pffhh wouldn't be surprised 😛.

I like that you still call me ardent 😄.

Posted by xtina
I like that you still call me ardent 😄.

dollface, you are too fiery and passionate to be called anything but ardent 😄

Posted by xtina

Posted by VirgoHero

YO MAMA SO FAT SHE FELL IN LOVE AND BROKE IT
(Hit me back and see how long it takes lol)

ROFL!!!!!!!!!!! That was so lame that even put your mama to shame LOL 😛.

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See... you can be ascertive 🙂 Unleash the smack talker in you lol

ive been feeling the same, im an aries with rising cancer sign
recently i just got a new job and i cant help but feeling sheepish around my new environment
hope it will pass soon ;|

Posted by xtina
So lately I've been feeling more like a lamb than a ram. Does anyone every feel like that??

Uggh, it bugs the hell out of me. It's just that I can't be assertive I just feel unsure of whether or not that being assertive at that moment is the best thing and I opt for the non-aggressive position. I have tried being aggressive, like making an assertive statement than being shot down and feeling discouraged. I realize it's an insecurity of mine and something I've been trying to overcome. It's like I'm trying to avoid my impulsive ram side but I don't want to at the same time.

I dunno, maybe it has a lot to do with my Asian upbringing... :/

Give yourself three more years😛