Rammy venting thread

This topic was created in the Aries forum by biosynthesis on Monday, August 3, 2015 and has 46 replies.

Understanding Aries Actions and Intentions

Aries individuals are often direct and straightforward, making their actions and intentions easier to read. Confusion may arise from miscommunication or differing perceptions. Recognizing Aries traits can help clarify their motives and reduce misunderstandings.

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@biosynthesis
11 Years1,000+ PostsAries

ok so....why are all these people confused about an aries actions or intentions? I don't get it...I thought we were easy to read. That and my butt hurts from doing a billion squats in ands' feral thread. whats on your mind sheeple

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@rockyroadicecream
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Because people in general are stupid assholes who want their egos stroked.

They're not too bright, live in an alternate reality, and instead of wanting factual information, they whine and complain when you don't coddle their distorted world view.

It's so rampant here on DXP with all the sob stories.

Ah, what happens when we raise a society based on attention whoredom...

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@xomelindabelle
11 Years1,000+ PostsAries

I made one post about a fellow Aries sun; his Pisces moon dictated the majority of his behavior. So it was very hard to read him. But I totally understand what you mean. Compare us to water signs and Aquas, it's difficult to see how people would find us confusing.

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@biosynthesis
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Posted by Rabbit
There's this Aries at work who bakes stuff but it's horrible. I went to culinary school so while I don't know everything, I do try to give her tips but she gets defensive and pissy and stuff.

How do I get her to at least CONSIDER what I'm saying without her getting so angry?

Threaten to bring airman to work with you. She will listen after that

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@biosynthesis
11 Years1,000+ PostsAries

Posted by Rabbit
Is that common?

The display of agressive defensiveness when confronted with something contrary to what they initially believe? Then to let it go and be back to normal in like 5 seconds?

She's Aries sun/moon/merc

no not really..we get defensive sure, but not over things like that. We can take bluntness

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Posted by Rabbit
Is that common?

The display of agressive defensiveness when confronted with something contrary to what they initially believe? Then to let it go and be back to normal in like 5 seconds?

She's Aries sun/moon/merc

...yes?

That's what Aries are notorious for. Getting pissed and then getting over it.

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@rockyroadicecream
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Posted by xomelindabelle
She sounds unevolved; most Aries who are secure don't get so defensive. Even though we've been given that rep.

This isn't unevolved behavior, it's a basic human thing. She made something that she's proud of and likes and someone comes along and goes "well this is how you can make it better!" Of course anyone would be offended.

Again, she's likely reacting out of defense and getting pissy, but getting over it just as quickly. She's taking what he's saying to mind. Just because an Aries is pissed off doesn't mean we aren't listening or not comprehending.

When all is said, and done, and calm, we're contemplating the things said.

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@xomelindabelle
11 Years1,000+ PostsAries

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by xomelindabelle
She sounds unevolved; most Aries who are secure don't get so defensive. Even though we've been given that rep.

This isn't unevolved behavior, it's a basic human thing. She made something that she's proud of and likes and someone comes along and goes "well this is how you can make it better!" Of course anyone would be offended.

Again, she's likely reacting out of defense and getting pissy, but getting over it just as quickly. She's taking what he's saying to mind. Just because an Aries is pissed off doesn't mean we aren't listening or not comprehending.

When all is said, and done, and calm, we're contemplating the things said.

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This is true. Thinking of the situation now, I can't say I wouldn't be offended. One has to consider the pride she could have in what she made. I have noticed that Aries can be demed 'pissy' or 'bitchy' if we don't like how someone approaches us, however the door swings both ways. We get a lot of flack for our impulsive reactions, but people forget how soon we'll let go of the issue; once I'm done being irritated, it really doesn't matter anymore. The irritation fades, and then I'll contemplate what was said.

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@Noreallynow
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It's because most people's actions don't match up with their words. Some people say one thing and then do another. That sends mixed signals. I feel like you can make your mouth say anything. But SHOW me that what you're telling me is real. For example you can't tell someone that you "hate" them but SHOW them how much you love them.

I know a situation where a guy was telling his friends that he did not like someone, but when he got around her or her friends he acted as if he was into her. So, she felt as if he really liked her, so did her friends, but you had everyone around her, telling her that he hated her. So, who should she believe? Should she go by the way that he treats her or go by what he tells his close friends and anyone that ask him about her?

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@Noreallynow
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That comment was made in general, not towards Aries.

I can't really say that for Aries, because not one Aries are exactly the same. You share similar traits, but you're different.

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Posted by AirMan

Posted by Noreallynow

Posted by AirMan
oh yeah that's right, i forgot you arians don't have jobs and aren't capable.

Why do you dislike Aries, so much? What have they done to you?

gosh. do i really have to keep answering this question? how many times i done answer this question? i'm really starting to get ill in the abdominal over this gemini/aries fiasco.

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I think you love them. That's why. You just don't want to admit it.

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@LadyYin
11 Years500+ Posts

i dont understand the confusion/hate on arians. they are like the best! they are my family and the truest best friends ever. maybe if people actually tried accepting them instead of faulting them or lumping them all together just because they met some bad ones, they would be able to see just how laid back and AWESOME aries are. i havent had any issues with them. and they keep me laughing.

off to hookah with an aries best friend. anyway, just came to give love to the aries born. never change, beautiful people.

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Posted by champranger

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by xomelindabelle
She sounds unevolved; most Aries who are secure don't get so defensive. Even though we've been given that rep.

This isn't unevolved behavior, it's a basic human thing. She made something that she's proud of and likes and someone comes along and goes "well this is how you can make it better!" Of course anyone would be offended.

Again, she's likely reacting out of defense and getting pissy, but getting over it just as quickly. She's taking what he's saying to mind. Just because an Aries is pissed off doesn't mean we aren't listening or not comprehending.

When all is said, and done, and calm, we're contemplating the things said.

Not gonna lie but I love those kind of criticisms (where it shows me how to improve).

Same here. It's like OMG LOOK WHAT I DID. WHAT DO YOU THINK??

And sure, sometimes if someone were to criticize and knock it down a few pegs, of course I'd get offended initially. But then I get over it and take the criticism to improve haha.

Posted by xomelindabelle

This is true. Thinking of the situation now, I can't say I wouldn't be offended. One has to consider the pride she could have in what she made. I have noticed that Aries can be demed 'pissy' or 'bitchy' if we don't like how someone approaches us, however the door swings both ways. We get a lot of flack for our impulsive reactions, but people forget how soon we'll let go of the issue; once I'm done being irritated, it really doesn't matter anymore. The irritation fades, and then I'll contemplate what was said.

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+1

Though I gotta say, he hasn't said what she does as a reaction, so how she reacts could definitely fall under the "unevolved" category, depending on what she does.

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Posted by Rabbit
Example:

She was talking about how she used shortening in her cookies (abhorrent!). I casually mentioned I found butter made a better cookie.

Next thing she's raging on about how "everyone raves about her cookies made with shortening" and really seemed offended. Then like 5 minutes later was totally back to normal.

And FWIW....she made a batch with butter last week and was going on about how good they were. I also actually heard her get compliments on them (which I never hear). I did not say anything even though I wanted to be all "told you so".

Dude, you negged her. No wonder she got annoyed. That was a dick statement that had a bit of a veiled insult. You probably could have worded it something like you PREFER to use butter when you bake cookies because of x,y,z reasons. Or, "Really? Never thought to use shortening. Butter is my go to when I make cookies."

But her baking another batch with butter? See? She was listening and took heed.

...however, I do agree. SHORTENING? What the hell? gag

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@Damnata
16 Years25,000+ PostsVirgo

Posted by Rambunctious76

Posted by feby
You're being hard on yourself....of course because it's a very trying time when you expect to feel so much but just feel numb. Grasping at seemingly fleeting emotions because you want to feel but they seem to just slip away. Like a waterfall. Give yourself a chance to sit with how you feel, with all of the emotions all around you and running through you. Dont rush it....everything will come to you naturally.

I even welcome trying times in my life because although I know I'm in for some heaviness, I also know through experience that when all is said and done I will be anew.

Try to take it easy my friend and day by day.

That's the thing - I don't think I'm feeling numb. I'm just not feeling anything at all.completely detached as if I'm on the outside looking in.

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That is actually the normal reaction for you. For others it's being histrionic.

That feeling of "something must be wrong with the way I process emotion" is a society expectation. If you don't cry and throw yourself on the ground, obviously you aren't feeling it. I've noticed this kind of bashing a lot in my life, because people need to feel they reacted correctly and others didn't.

Every major bad event in my life, I was cold as ice and incredibly rational. It's daily small shit that riles me up. Bigger issues I can tackle with no problem. My dad broke down emotionally during the divorce, I was on cloud nine that the insanity was coming to an end. It worried him that I was so casual about it, told me years afterwards that he monitored me closely without me knowing because he worried over me finding an outlet in drugs or promiscuous behavior.

Then there is my mother's side of the family who assume to this day I am a complete sociopath. When my grandfather died I was the only one not crying and making a scene. Meanwhile, the people who were crying and being hysterical..no pain at all for them. All of them were anxious and excited over the inheritance. Bunch of hypocrites.

When something hits me deeply, I can't even utter a word or shed a tear.